You know how I love Evan Marc Katz – I also know how challenging he is – he’s so “in-your-face” – and that’s what I LOVE about him. He’s just a man. A regular man. With all the issues men come with – and he’s just so forthright about it all, he doesn’t hold back, he tells his truth – and you may think his truth is NOT the truth of most men – but it IS, it really is.
It’s sort of getting to hear what a man – nearly ANY man is feeling and thinking behind whatever they’re acting like they’re feeling and thinking.
Here’s a piece of an article he wrote that’s just so true, and so Evan’s style:
You Don’t Attract the Wrong Men. You ACCEPT The Wrong Men
What happens when you find yourself incredibly attracted to a man? Well, there’s the feeling of chemistry and everything that comes along with it – the obsessive highs that come with wanting to be with him, the joy of feeling incredibly connected, and, what you may forget, the willful blindness that allows you to overlook his flaws.
That’s one of the most miraculous things about chemistry: it allows you to focus only on the good and ignore all the bad.
Which is why you can have incredible chemistry and end up in a TERRIBLE relationship, where he doesn’t call you, doesn’t sleep with you, doesn’t compliment
you, doesn’t make you feel safe, and doesn’t commit to you.
But you stick around because of how strong your rare FEELINGS are. You’ve now discovered the real secret to why you’re in dead end relationships:
You don’t attract the wrong men, you accept the wrong men.
If you consistently find yourself in relationships with liars, cheaters, addicts, leeches, or commitmentphobes, your job isn’t to get them to stop lying, cheating,
drinking, mooching or flaking. Your job is to leave.
You’ll never stop attracting the wrong men, but starting now, you can stop ACCEPTING their bad behavior… and save yourself years of heartbreak and pain.
I know Evan – and I know he’s on our side…and he’s really a sweetheart. (Even at a dinner table in the middle of a long, sometimes boring networking meeting, he’s fun, funny, sweet, and he keeps on telling his refreshing truth…)
Evan isn’t just putting his own, unique take on everything about relationships – he’s got experience knowing and talking with other men, experience talking with women, with his clients (tons of them) who he’s shepherded through the dating gauntlet starting from having no love to having total, forever love. So – whether you like it or not – he knows what he’s talking about.
Even what he says about his wife and how he came to know he loved her and wanted to marry her, and how happy he is being married and WHY he’s so happy being married sometimes draws upset and offense from his readers – though his wife guest posts for him and loves him completely. He’s pretty fearless about wanting to help women – even if we don’t always like what he says.
His book – Why He Disappeared – is no exception. It’s straight-talking, shoot-from-the-hip, tough-love and truth from his very experienced (and very smart and insightful) perspective.
The book is going to launch on August 17th (today!) – and you may see a lot of newsletters directing you to it – I just wanted to let you know I have the book, I’ve read it, and it’s very helpful. So – if you’d like to take a look at it…here’s a link (non-affiliate, so I have no stake in this – I just like Evan personally and professionally, and I like the book), and—oh my, I just went to the link – and there’s my recommendation of the book in a big box…so… oh – and I also see there are a bunch of bonuses attached – if you don’t want that package (some pretty good stuff, though, I’m seeing…), there’s a pop up for just the book…well, look for yourself and let me know:
If you get it, let me know how it works for you, and I’ll have Evan show up here and field all your questions and challenges – even if you don’t like what he says, he keeps right on trying to help…and I know what he says is the truth – because MOST men are looking for something that’s really NOT what they want…(just like us…) it’s just an inner pressure…and so, Evan knows this big time in himself, and so it’s just helpful to hear him talk about it and what you can do about it – and what you can’t do about it…