Comments on: Dancing With Your Boy and Girl Energy http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/masculine-energy/dancing-with-your-boy-and-girl-energy/ Marriage & Relationship Advice From Rori Raye Sat, 31 Jul 2010 00:37:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4983 By: Ingrid http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/masculine-energy/dancing-with-your-boy-and-girl-energy/comment-page-3/#comment-34171 Ingrid Tue, 06 Apr 2010 15:58:28 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=945#comment-34171 Hi Rori: I love your site just sooooo much. I am learning so much. It is like a God-send to me, in moving forward with the rest of my life and re-learning new patterns. This boy/girl energy thing really is intriguing to me. I naturally have more "boy energy" than girl energy, but I wish it wasn't so. I can change this. I was/am always the one to organize everything, make the plans, take charge, be efficient. I have felt if I am not, nothing would ever get done. I realize now this is not true. I would love nothing more than to just "be". I am learning how to slowly but surely. For example, this past Easter weekend, family was visiting. What did I do? I planned the whole weekend, where we would eat, what we would do, etc. Everything was wonderful and went just according to plan. However, how did I feel? I felt anxious, nervous and strung out the whole weekend. Voila. The result. I look forward to learning more about this boy/girl energy thing. I love to watch French and Italian films as the women in them are so feminine yet strong. They don't seem to "take charge" half as much as American women, for some reason. Maybe this is cultural, maybe not. I think it is. Look forward to any more comments/insights, etc. ~Ingrid~ Hi Rori:

I love your site just sooooo much. I am learning so much. It is like a God-send to me, in moving forward with the rest of my life and re-learning new patterns. This boy/girl energy thing really is intriguing to me. I naturally have more “boy energy” than girl energy, but I wish it wasn’t so. I can change this. I was/am always the one to organize everything, make the plans, take charge, be efficient. I have felt if I am not, nothing would ever get done. I realize now this is not true. I would love nothing more than to just “be”. I am learning how to slowly but surely. For example, this past Easter weekend, family was visiting. What did I do? I planned the whole weekend, where we would eat, what we would do, etc. Everything was wonderful and went just according to plan. However, how did I feel? I felt anxious, nervous and strung out the whole weekend. Voila. The result. I look forward to learning more about this boy/girl energy thing. I love to watch French and Italian films as the women in them are so feminine yet strong. They don’t seem to “take charge” half as much as American women, for some reason. Maybe this is cultural, maybe not. I think it is.
Look forward to any more comments/insights, etc.
~Ingrid~

]]> By: Rori Raye http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/masculine-energy/dancing-with-your-boy-and-girl-energy/comment-page-3/#comment-29731 Rori Raye Mon, 15 Feb 2010 16:59:51 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=945#comment-29731 Jane - Being any kind of "worker" still requires boy energy. The experience of working with someone, and tapping into your intuitional self can make good use of your feminine energy and feel really good for you...you'll have to experiment around all of this...Love, Rori Jane – Being any kind of “worker” still requires boy energy. The experience of working with someone, and tapping into your intuitional self can make good use of your feminine energy and feel really good for you…you’ll have to experiment around all of this…Love, Rori

]]> By: Jane http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/masculine-energy/dancing-with-your-boy-and-girl-energy/comment-page-3/#comment-29716 Jane Mon, 15 Feb 2010 07:27:26 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=945#comment-29716 Rori- thank you for your insight. Could you elaborate on the part where you you say "think of it more as a flow"? And would being a pyschic or energy worker be a more in the feminine energy? I really appreciate your advice. Thank you, Jane Rori-
thank you for your insight. Could you elaborate on the part where you you say “think of it more as a flow”? And would being a pyschic or energy worker be a more in the feminine energy?

I really appreciate your advice. Thank you,

Jane

]]> By: Rori Raye http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/masculine-energy/dancing-with-your-boy-and-girl-energy/comment-page-3/#comment-29538 Rori Raye Sat, 13 Feb 2010 09:39:25 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=945#comment-29538 Jane, Welcome - and ALL work and career requires boy energy. You have to be in your masculine energy to do business - and anything entrepreneurial - where you have to create a "practice" involves masculine energy - and as you mentioned - counseling is masculine. So - Modeling and acting and dancing and art could be considered more 'feminine" in the doing - but in the actual creating of a career and handling the business side - it's all sales and marketing. So - what you want to do is find out what you LIKE to do. What your skills and personality work for...there are tests you can take online for those - enneagram and myers-briggs, and lots of books around career (good aisle to be in in the bookstore...). The feminine part is where you get to listen and use your intuition - and you can do that in almost ALL work. If you want to give - then find someplace to give - teaching, social work, therapist, body therapy....do some research and experiment...(This is actually one of my husband's specialties, finding your career path and experimenting while you're finding it...and I've done so many different things over my life - from bookkeeper to garden designer to music teacher to actress to director to writer...to this wonderful work now...think of it as more a flow...good luck, Love, Rori Jane, Welcome – and ALL work and career requires boy energy. You have to be in your masculine energy to do business – and anything entrepreneurial – where you have to create a “practice” involves masculine energy – and as you mentioned – counseling is masculine. So – Modeling and acting and dancing and art could be considered more ‘feminine” in the doing – but in the actual creating of a career and handling the business side – it’s all sales and marketing. So – what you want to do is find out what you LIKE to do. What your skills and personality work for…there are tests you can take online for those – enneagram and myers-briggs, and lots of books around career (good aisle to be in in the bookstore…). The feminine part is where you get to listen and use your intuition – and you can do that in almost ALL work. If you want to give – then find someplace to give – teaching, social work, therapist, body therapy….do some research and experiment…(This is actually one of my husband’s specialties, finding your career path and experimenting while you’re finding it…and I’ve done so many different things over my life – from bookkeeper to garden designer to music teacher to actress to director to writer…to this wonderful work now…think of it as more a flow…good luck, Love, Rori

]]> By: Jane http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/masculine-energy/dancing-with-your-boy-and-girl-energy/comment-page-3/#comment-29528 Jane Sat, 13 Feb 2010 03:48:06 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=945#comment-29528 Me again... i thought being a matchmaker might be fun as I am highly intuitive and able to read peoples energy. But maybe you have some ideas of jobs that use intutitiveness and that feminine "being" i havent thought of? Me again… i thought being a matchmaker might be fun as I am highly intuitive and able to read peoples energy. But maybe you have some ideas of jobs that use intutitiveness and that feminine “being” i havent thought of?

]]> By: Jane http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/masculine-energy/dancing-with-your-boy-and-girl-energy/comment-page-3/#comment-29527 Jane Sat, 13 Feb 2010 03:45:33 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=945#comment-29527 Rori- I just watched your Targeting Mr. Right program. Powerful stuff! I have a very important question to ask you for me. See I have been told that I came to this earth with a highly evolved feminine energy. And your program was so helpful in helping me to understand that it is my boy energy that can help protect that feminine. The examples of boy energy I had in my life- father, stepdad- didnt protect that feminine energy and I have had loosey examples of boy energy. So you are saying to develop your own. The most important part of my question is that from your knowledge of the feminine energy..what careers really are more in the feminine energy realm? If you have any concrete examples it would be so helpful!! I need help bad! I have felt so uncomfortable in the workplace and it is essential for my wellbeing to feel in that feminine energy. Its where I feel natural. (FYI many of the women in my family are in their masculine- "fix it, effort it" and very out of touch with their feelings) SO I'm asking you for a bit of career counseling really. I'm real creative but cant seem to "organize" a plan. Also I love the kind of stuff you do and some people think i should be a counselor of some sort. my brother says that I always get stuck in the therapist role when I start dating a guy....Then I'm more in the giving role right. Not good. I'm burned out on giving and being the supportive one in my relationships. I think your work is brilliant and so honest. Thank you! Jane Rori-

I just watched your Targeting Mr. Right program. Powerful stuff!

I have a very important question to ask you for me. See I have been told that I came to this earth with a highly evolved feminine energy. And your program was so helpful in helping me to understand that it is my boy energy that can help protect that feminine. The examples of boy energy I had in my life- father, stepdad- didnt protect that feminine energy and I have had loosey examples of boy energy. So you are saying to develop your own.

The most important part of my question is that from your knowledge of the feminine energy..what careers really are more in the feminine energy realm? If you have any concrete examples it would be so helpful!! I need help bad!

I have felt so uncomfortable in the workplace and it is essential for my wellbeing to feel in that feminine energy. Its where I feel natural. (FYI many of the women in my family are in their masculine- “fix it, effort it” and very out of touch with their feelings)

SO I’m asking you for a bit of career counseling really. I’m real creative but cant seem to “organize” a plan. Also I love the kind of stuff you do and some people think i should be a counselor of some sort. my brother says that I always get stuck in the therapist role when I start dating a guy….Then I’m more in the giving role right. Not good. I’m burned out on giving and being the supportive one in my relationships. I think your work is brilliant and so honest. Thank you!

Jane

]]> By: Rori Raye http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/masculine-energy/dancing-with-your-boy-and-girl-energy/comment-page-3/#comment-23559 Rori Raye Tue, 15 Dec 2009 09:34:36 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=945#comment-23559 Welcome, Loys, and thank you for your wonderful perspective...and it's so okay for you to be however you are and however you feel...Love, Rori Welcome, Loys, and thank you for your wonderful perspective…and it’s so okay for you to be however you are and however you feel…Love, Rori

]]> By: Loys bat Shobai http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/masculine-energy/dancing-with-your-boy-and-girl-energy/comment-page-3/#comment-23505 Loys bat Shobai Tue, 15 Dec 2009 07:34:01 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=945#comment-23505 In regard to Dorothea's comment - I just can't relate to a man who is not deeply masculine - it just seems totally unnatural to me, to try to relate to a man who is queenie, to use the British phrase. Call me gynoid but I just can't - possibly because android (masculine) female behaviour is so discouraged in Jewish culture. I'm getting to the age where I feel its ok for me to be like this, even if its not politically correct in countries like the States.... In regard to Dorothea’s comment – I just can’t relate to a man who is not deeply masculine – it just seems totally unnatural to me, to try to relate to a man who is queenie, to use the British phrase. Call me gynoid but I just can’t – possibly because android (masculine) female behaviour is so discouraged in Jewish culture. I’m getting to the age where I feel its ok for me to be like this, even if its not politically correct in countries like the States….

]]> By: Dorothea http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/masculine-energy/dancing-with-your-boy-and-girl-energy/comment-page-3/#comment-21451 Dorothea Tue, 24 Nov 2009 20:18:14 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=945#comment-21451 alias girl, mr. who makes me feel PISSED OFF. seems totally full of himself. i get the feeling that we have a broad generation of men who have been conditioned to be male princesses because of the blurring of gender roles and the new standard of women chasing men. i guess i am just feeling angry at society. alias girl, mr. who makes me feel PISSED OFF. seems totally full of himself. i get the feeling that we have a broad generation of men who have been conditioned to be male princesses because of the blurring of gender roles and the new standard of women chasing men.

i guess i am just feeling angry at society.

]]> By: Rori Raye http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/masculine-energy/dancing-with-your-boy-and-girl-energy/comment-page-3/#comment-21374 Rori Raye Tue, 24 Nov 2009 00:12:50 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=945#comment-21374 Wow, Im - Welcome and thank you for this. Love, Rori (Please keep in touch here and let me know how this goes...) Wow, Im – Welcome and thank you for this. Love, Rori (Please keep in touch here and let me know how this goes…)

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