Comments on: Twilight and Making Your Greatest Romantic Fantasy Come True

By: Loys bat Shobai

Loys bat Shobai — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 07:26:02 +0000

apropos feminine and male energy: – I am seeing a gorgous Maltese guy at present, who is oh so masculine and I find just being with him arouses my feminine energy – it creates more bracelets and beautiful jewellery, more feminine body language and a greatly heightened awareness of his masculinity – a masculinity which I am coming to realise is a quite beautiful and precious thing.

By: Trisha

Trisha — Mon, 11 May 2009 22:07:05 +0000

Dear Ann, i really appreciate what you wrote about 2 people shouting at each other when they are mad. Another problem i’ve experienced is when the horrible curse words and names start… wow how i hate that! i’m so glad i have Rori’s tools now so this hasn’t happened from me since last year.
i have a question for ANYONE…i’ve been reading these posts and practicing tools for over a year now. Rori on many occassions says when we make these changes in ourselves, men will be tracking us to our front doors! How there will be SO many men wanting to be with us…tell me…has anyone found this to be true for themselves?
i broke off the “girlfriend-boyfriend exclusivity” a year ago so i could be free to “circular date”. i’ve met 2 men (through dating sites) and neither one was a keeper for me.
i’m still seeing my man of 5 years, still love and want to be with him yet, there hasn’t been any further talk of marriage so i am so willing to keep seeing other men, even though my heart is still bonded to Mr. 5 years!
So, how many of you have men beating down your doors for a date?
Peace to everyone.
Trisha

By: Carenza

Carenza — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 20:32:35 +0000

I put this on my blog today, but I thought I would post it here too as it is so inspirational!

I truly have only one friend who I believe is experiencing true love. Her and her husband fell in love at first sight, moved in that night married weeks later and had their first child within a year, they never argue and as far as I can tell it really is a true love relationship!

oh and I realised that she went for how she felt with him, over what they had in common, seemed to have worked for her…

This is what she wrote recently:

“The last words I hear in my waking day are whispered across the pillow: “I love you, sweetheart”. I’ve heard this phrase every morning and night for fourteen years (next month) and have never tired of it; the sentiment is oxygen to my soul”

I love reading Rori’s posts and all your amazing comments and sharings – my heart feels so warm being here.

http://carenza2009.wordpress.com/

By: Linda G

Linda G — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 12:34:41 +0000

So I decided to put my fantasy man, that I have been emailing, on the back of my horse. It just feels so good to have someone so romantic and sensuos to be there to sooth me and help me feel all goddess-y. His last email was distant, expressing frustration with the logistics of our trying to get together, I answered in feeling messages and prose that I am still open, still feeling the attraction he is feeling.
Any way, I told my girlfriend about this and now I feel furious! She insisted on deciphering him as someone who was playing me, insincere and just trying to get out of the whole exchange. It makes me think of Rori’s program, the one where she says you may have friends who are happier when you are down on yourself, or when you are alone. my girlfriend said she was just protecting me, but I feel so upset about this! Like she has deliberately thrown my knight off my horse!
I know our exchange is imaginary, I know I became too invested in the idea of him, but I want to have that feeling around me that someday i will achieve that connection with a guy that shows up. Even my mom thinks it’s wonderful I have this romantic penpal. Yes, I told my mom. Am I an idiot? I don’t want to be mad at my friend, she’s teh only one I speak about this stuff with, but I also remember her encuraging me to chase after my ex, which was my natural inclination, and of course I shoved him way out of the boat.
I feel mad. I feel devastated. I feel betrayed by everybody! I feel weak and I feel lost. I love that I am mad, I love that I can try to turn my weakness into a tool. I feel I should riff about this, but I’m not ready. I wanna talk.

By: Flipper

Flipper — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 23:05:48 +0000

I feel all smiley and tickled seeing your yaes! for me Alias Girl, and happy to see you peddling along with your ‘meddling’ in the other threads. I often feel how brave you are, and feel grateful for your courage to share.

By: alias girl

alias girl — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 01:19:23 +0000

FLIPPER! i feel good to see you back!

I feel happy for your expressed success in using more feeling messages and walking away if necessary! yae!

and yae also for being in the Now rather than imaginary/fantasyland of wishful thinking!

By: Flipper

Flipper — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 22:34:55 +0000

Hi Daria, I loved your soda no-go, too, (I bet everyone picked up on it – it just felt like such a perfect, natural illustration – doubts, non-instanteous, good-surpise result and all) and also painting yourself in the guy’s presence.

About the driving and 50/50 stuff: I generally feel the same way as you about it, and I feel your feeling statements were clear and sufficient for such early days, before even meeting or only just after. If the guy were coming back at me to set out a contract in stone, I would feel pressured having to specify such details in advance. So I would want to say a feeling message about feeling uncomfortable locking everybody down to something before even laying eyes on them!

As for 50/50, of course that’s what we want, but don’t get me wrong. Our problem has mostly been automatically bestowing 80 or more right off the bat, by adding on to the 50 that’s just already there in accepting to share a bit of our emotionally-rewarding selves with them, by “matching” his driving with our driving, his invites with “paying our part” or cooking for him, calling him, making him excuses, etc. Because fair-share doesn’t mean exchanging tit for tit – there’s hardly any point in giving someone something if they’re just going to give back the exact same thing. Our TLC – tender loving Caring (NOT ‘care’ as in services, logistics, duty-sex, accommodating cluelessness) is our part of the deal. So I feel I could agree – yes, a real relationship means equally shared responsibility for it, and I don’t want to feel like I’m taking care of a lot of stuff that it doesn’t feel right to do. I’m sure you can find a better way of putting it that reflects your own exact feelings (in the short, simple way Alias Girl reminds us will get the message accross).

AG – I feel you’ve pulled a good message from your event-messenger. Can you see how to tweak your leaning forward and ‘frigid’ responses according to your own very good ‘Ms. Meddling’ recommendations? (out with the ‘you’s, and did you Really feel like wishing him a good night?)

As for me, I certainly am grateful for all the encouragements, great examples, and creative efforts (Carenza’s and Linmayu’s lovely poems, to name only 2) we give each other. I am more aware of what I am feeling, using the feeling messages more often and actually Walking Away instead of pretending or freezing up. And it’s working – I can feel good with what’s actually happening instead of having to endlessly figure it out or wishful-think it into conformity with my hopes.

By: Carenza

Carenza — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 16:07:51 +0000

I just thought I would share that I have started blogging about this new adventure if it is not appropriate to let people know about this here Rori then I am very sorry and of course just delete this comment – just thought it would be fun to connect with other women…

http://carenza2009.wordpress.com/

Carenza

By: Carenza

Carenza — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 22:08:05 +0000

Just been reading through everyones posts – they are all so fascinating!!

There is so much material to get through!!

Thank you – so many words of inspiration and truth.

By: alias girl

alias girl — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 21:43:47 +0000

yes maria. you’re welcome. i noticed your post yesterday but it was in middle of my self absorbed triggering crisis and i was at event. it wasn’t til i was rereading the blog today i realized your psot was there again. i really feel encouraging towards you because i had so many fear and was so easily triggered and i can see how it is becoming less so just by exposing myself to situations and using all of rori’s tools.