I’m going to use voting as a Tool to feel more powerful – so let’s look at it from the personal perspective of your entire life – not just your love life.
Let’s say that voting isn’t about politics – it’s about empowerment. It’s about believing that you count. Just you, one person, one woman.
We get so caught up in feeling like part of a “group” – where we have little influence on others, and yet the “culture” of the group infuences US.
And then we narrow that down even further, and:
*We feel a man has influence over us, but we have none over him.
*We feel an environment has control over us
*We feel a boss, a co-worker, a client, a customer, money has control over us and we’re nearly powerless before them.
Every minute, we start to feel more and more helpless – more and more like an “effect” of what happens, rather than “at cause.”
We start to feel like a vapor instead of solid.
With a man – Just the fact and the feeling that we love him or desire him makes us feel weak.
And then we react to that in different ways.
We can react to feeling weakened by our desire by running away from him.
And if running away doesn’t work, because he feels actually even more inspired to chase us – then we push him away.
We push him away by closing our hearts, by treating him as if he’s an irresponsible, unworthy child who needs our guidance, and by unleashing all our stored up anger and fear on him.
Not registering to vote, and not showing up to vote for ANYTHING are the same – on a huger scale.
We feel powerless. We feel unimportant.
It’s so easy to quote statistics to PROVE we’re powerless in the world, just as we can easily quote statistics to prove there are no good men out there and that most marriages fail.
We can talk ourselves out of power.
Let’s REVERSE THIS!!!
Let’s talk ourselves INTO Power. Into believing we HAVE Power.
To feel empowered with a man:
*We have to believe in our own desires – that they are WORTHY, that they are GOOD.
*That, just because we’re a woman, we DESERVE and are entitled to HAVE our desires.
*And from there – when a man shows up who actually wants to help us have what we want in love and life – we can agree with him!
*We can RECEIVE the love he has to offer. We can TAKE what he gives. We can feel our power to influence HIS life – without even trying.
In the world, in our work – to feel empowered:
We need to feel we not only have choices, but that we can be “okay” – even “good” – no matter WHAT happens.
That we can make lemonade from lemons, paths to “happy” from garbage heaps, and get directions from inside ourselves instead of hoping they’ll show up in big letters on a wall in front of us.
We’d all like to be told: Turn left here->
And yet – we can’t ever be satisfied and happy that way. We’ll grow resentment and anger, and feel even more helpless by the minute if we’re always looking for road signs out there to follow.
So start with small things to begin believing that you make a difference in your world.
See how when you water a plant and take care of it, it grows. See how – instead of following tragedy and pain in the news, you read about and watch things that inspire you, make you feel creative, and make you want to take ACTION for yourself (I love home-decorating shows because of this).
See how when you love an animal or a child, just from the overflowing radiance of your heart, and not from a desire to GET love back, it blossoms.
See how when you give love to YOURSELF, you bloom. And see how when YOU bloom, everyone around you blooms, too.
Your man blooms, your boss blooms, your work blossoms, your connections increase. And as they bloom and increase – their feelings for YOU bloom and increase. The begin to show love to you more.
So, register in your heart, your home, your circle of friends, your surroundings at work, your desk, your building, your man’s face, your wardrobe…everything – to vote!!!! And vote for YOU!!!
Make a decision that you count, no matter what anyone has ever said to you.
I know that decision-making is a challenge for so many of us. We’re riddled with “What-ifs” and looking for a clear answer.
The truth is – there’s hardly ever a clear answer. We can’t know the outcome of anything we decide. It’s not all clean and neat like that.
What we have to do is decide anyway. We have to VOTE. And we have to learn how to feel if that vote is being cast for US – or for someone else.
For someone else’s dreams and wants and needs instead of our own.
For someone else’s momentary pleasure and a moment of a lessening of fear for us.
Voting is not about fear – it’s about POWER. It’s not about doubt – it’s about going with your gut.
It’s about “casting” your vote for YOU – Throwing it directly at the target that is yourself.
Vote for yourself ALWAYS! As if your vote would be the deciding vote – because it is..
Knowing what’s going to actually SERVE you best is how you gather the information you need to make decisions and cast your vote for yourself in all kinds of situations.
Some of these decision-making experiences involve “technical” knowledge. How to set things up. How to move things around. How to organize and number.
And ALL of these decisions rely on your feminine energy to feel organic and true for you. To feel the impulse coming from your Inner Girl, instead of from the head of your Inner Boy.
To learn how to access BOTH your Boy energy and your Girl energy so you can get your boy busy acing the technical, mechanical aspects of your life – and do that based on the intuition and instincts of your girl energy – check out my new Have It All teleclass membership program. We begin on Tuesday, March 10th at 5:30pm PDT.
Follow this link to learn more about how to Have It All:
There are already five “Have It All” studio recordings in the program now – you can download them instantly. They’ll kick-start your “Having It All,” and set us up for the interactive work we’ll be doing together in the live teleclass calls.
Come join me, get your “Have It All” questions answered – AND your BUSINESS questions answered, too – everything from website design and function to asking for promotions, to promoting your own, entrepreneurial business with good marketing strategy and Tools…anything.
Hear me talk live about being a Modern Siren in an EXPANDED way – as a Business Siren who “Has It All.”
Don’t give up on ANYTHING. Keep your dreams of love alive, vote for yourself, and I’ll keep giving you Tools to make it all happen.