Have The Relationship You Want

In this age of internet and long-distance dating – this letter from Vickie struck me as powerful:

“Hello Rori,
Your dating advice has been AWESOME–so awesome that I’ve met someone who has all of the qualities I look for in a man. And the wonderful thing is that I’ve used your Circular Dating technique to help myself from falling head-over-heals and falling into the “instant relationship” mode, which was my past behavior. He is actually doing the pursuing, and I’m just sitting back and letting him! I’m amazed at how relaxed and carefree I’ve been in our “getting-to-know-each other” phase of the relationship. Now, however, I need your advice.

I’ve been chatting with him online now for about a month. He lives about 1000 miles away, and we will be meeting face-to-face for the first time More…

Here are some words of wisdom from Jake, the Bachelor:

To Corrie, who he obviously liked but couldn’t get close to….”I’ll pursue you, open up for me....”

To Gia, after he didn’t give her a rose and walked her to the waiting limo. He said their relationship had a lot of “stops and starts,” and Gia said that she was slow to “open up” – and here’s what he said to her that knocked me out, hearing it straight from a man:  “...That next guy…set your bar SO high, because you’re an amazing girl…Make him work for you…“

Jake is no brilliant philosopher – he’s just a regular sort of man – but sometimes he seems pretty deep because he’s such a straight-shooter.  He almost seems unable to not tell the truth.

I thought these two bits were powerful enough for a whole post…

Make him work for you.

Love, Rori

My wonderful husband sent this to me…knowing I cry at any picture of any animal, and this just wowed me…

“Lions, Tigers and Bears…oh my…”

This is quite a trio
December 2009

They make an unlikely trio, but Baloo the bear, Leo the lion and Shere Khan the tiger have forged an unusually strong bond. Considering that they would be mortal enemies if they ever were to meet in the wild, it is stunning to see their unique and genuine friendship in these intimate pictures. Rescued eight years ago during a police drugs raid in Atlanta , Georgia , the three friends were only cubs at the time at barely two months old.

They had been kept as status symbol pets by the drug barons.

Delivered to the Noah’s Ark Animal Rescue Centre in Locust Grove , Georgia , the decision was made to More…

Valentine’s Day aftermath:

“Oh dear what an awful day I had in valentines day.

My man had not flowers for me. He said maybe he’d make cookies. He woke up angry with a book, sitting and reading in the chair. Waiting for me to make breakfast.

I did not paid attention. I went out to skiing then restaurant and dated myself, ate dinner. When I came back he was so angry – why I had eaten alone without caring about him sitting at home with no food? Then he made some cookies but just for himself. He did not say hello to my girlfriend when she came to me to visit me with flowers.

Here’s my answer:

Sometimes – things are about…things. About what happens, about logistics, More…