This year – I’m giving the discussion of “The Bachelor” to “Liquid Light” from the blog community. Liquid Light – the floor is yours (here’s your first comment):
“Thoughts on the Bachelor and red flags.
The two finalist this season, Claire and Nikki, were both shown red flags by the bachelor Juan Pablo during the show. And they both chose to ignore them. (For those of you who haven’t sent the show, this season’s bachelor is reviled for being selfish and insensitive, careless etc.).
Claire seemed to be shocked and devastated when JP rejected her and chose Nikki. However, she was shown plenty of red flags along the way (most egregious to me was him shaming her after their interlude in the ocean, and him insulting her off camera on their last date).
And yet, she ignored these things and was devastated when he didn’t pick her.
She woke up though and gave him a piece of her mind, which I think everyone enjoyed watching. Hahaha! Then Nikki, though she was the chosen one, now has a very non-committal man who seems like he is stringing her along and is making no promises to her.
So interesting how we as women so often ignore the red flags in front of us and proceed forward anyway.
I know I did this with my ex again and again.
I see it now, but at the time, I just didn’t want to see the red flags and so I stuck my head in the sand and pretended they weren’t there.
It seems so obvious now looking back though. Sigh.
I really don’t want to do that again, and this time around I’m determined to see any red flags clearly and move on sooner rather than later.
I know its not easy sometimes but I’m determined that this won’t happen to me again. I just can’t and won’t go through that again. It was absolutely awful. Liquid Light”
Thank you, Liquid Light – and I look forward to reading any more “aha moment” comments from all of you that can give us a “take-away” from this show.