So many of us think of Girl Speak as “hard” – and often, my clients, readers and Love Forever Teleclass members start our conversations by beating themselves up about how hard they’re finding Feeling Messages and Poetry.
Here’s what I said to one of my clients, Darlene (after making sure she “Slathered Herself With Love” whenever she found herself “beating herself up…”:
We’ve ALL started like that!!!
It takes practice and practice to get good at something – and the language of the “head” is what EVERY woman is taught to speak.
Else – where would Rori Raye be as a teacher?
Hardly ANY women know how to speak in this new way we’re working on – so please, just consider it like learning a new instrument after a lifetime of training on another.
It’s like speaking English your whole life, and then realizing all men actually speak some “idiom” that no one’s every taught you – and then learning this new language “on the job…” (while every other woman continues to speak English!)
Your training (like ALL the rest of us) is to go into your head, and use those words.
We’re working on the “inside the head stuff” – but focusing on the WORDS because that will get everything moving the most quickly.
It’s why you NOTICE the difference between your head, your heart, your words….it’s like chewing gum and rubbing your stomach at the same time, or learning acrobatics…it takes coordination and PRACTICE.
Please don’t look for the “why” – that will NOT help you.
As one of my brilliant Certified Coaches, Jenn Jolie, says: “You can’t fix the Why.”
Just practice the Tools.
It’s like trying to calm your mind, etc by “thinking about meditating” and the WHY of “why it’s so hard to meditate” – when all that needs to happen is for you to sit down and MEDITATE!
The meditating does the job. The discussion of it does nothing.
Singing, walking, dancing, doing art – all those things help….
- Be kind to yourself. Gentle. Loving.
- Practice, write down and learn your “Speeches”
- Imagine great love coming to you – Shift your perspective and attitude with your imagination…and…
- …STOP the self-punishment whenever it shows up.