Comments on: Shredding The Originals And Starting This Moment http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/vulnerability/shredding-the-originals-and-starting-this-moment/ Marriage & Relationship Advice From Rori Raye Sat, 31 Jul 2010 00:37:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=8467 By: Uschi http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/vulnerability/shredding-the-originals-and-starting-this-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-15562 Uschi Wed, 09 Sep 2009 20:38:57 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=349#comment-15562 Do we really want to shred it all? Some things are worth not shredding, nice memories, childhood (if it was good) things we learned. The only thing I want to shred are the negative things I learned from my former husbands and yet even there were lessons that make me the person that I am today. Without that there would be a lot of things I would see or do differently and possibly in a negative way. Do we really want to shred it all? Some things are worth not shredding, nice memories, childhood (if it was good) things we learned. The only thing I want to shred are the negative things I learned from my former husbands and yet even there were lessons that make me the person that I am today. Without that there would be a lot of things I would see or do differently and possibly in a negative way.

]]> By: Ann http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/vulnerability/shredding-the-originals-and-starting-this-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-7010 Ann Sat, 14 Mar 2009 05:14:06 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=349#comment-7010 I finally created the drawing of a leopard on Siren Island. You can see it here. http://lovinglifeasme.blogspot.com/ I finally created the drawing of a leopard on Siren Island. You can see it here.

http://lovinglifeasme.blogspot.com/

]]> By: Ann http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/vulnerability/shredding-the-originals-and-starting-this-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-6860 Ann Tue, 10 Mar 2009 00:02:21 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=349#comment-6860 Anyone ever hate computers lol? Mind has been nuts the past few days. Anyway Reshi sounds like you're doing great at handling your feelings through your divorce. I feel good for you that you are there for you. Anyone ever hate computers lol? Mind has been nuts the past few days.

Anyway Reshi sounds like you’re doing great at handling your feelings through your divorce. I feel good for you that you are there for you.

]]> By: Linmayu http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/vulnerability/shredding-the-originals-and-starting-this-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-6851 Linmayu Mon, 09 Mar 2009 15:58:12 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=349#comment-6851 Yeah, my husband and the mediator pretty much just stuck to business. But she did tell me I did a good job managing my emotions, I suppose that is worth something. :) Yeah, my husband and the mediator pretty much just stuck to business. But she did tell me I did a good job managing my emotions, I suppose that is worth something. :)

]]> By: alias girl http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/vulnerability/shredding-the-originals-and-starting-this-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-6849 alias girl Mon, 09 Mar 2009 07:17:37 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=349#comment-6849 yae linmayu! congrats on staying in touch with your feelings during that. i feel really happy and excited reading that. i appreciate your million feeling messages. :) but i know what you're saying. the people in your presence. eh hem. ie your husband. yae linmayu! congrats on staying in touch with your feelings during that. i feel really happy and excited reading that. i appreciate your million feeling messages. :) but i know what you’re saying. the people in your presence. eh hem. ie your husband.

]]> By: Linmayu http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/vulnerability/shredding-the-originals-and-starting-this-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-6846 Linmayu Mon, 09 Mar 2009 05:30:04 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=349#comment-6846 It's funny, Ann, I get no shortage of compliments from the ladies. But the men are generally keeping mum. I remember reading an earlier post of Rori's about emotional intensity, of the draining kind, and I think that's almost certainly what I have going on that keeps them leaning away from me. I'd been wondering how the hell I'm getting through this divorce with so little angst and so few tears, but it is because it's all so deeply embedded and locked up in my cells, and everyone who sees me can feel it. I can feel it when I look in the mirror or at a picture. I saw him today, we had our first mediation session. It went as well as I could have hoped. I don't think anyone really appreciated my million feeling messages, but I felt proud of myself for being able to say them without attacking. Though I did say "you" or "he" a couple times. D: Really, just to be able to sit there and get down to business, while keeping in touch with all that was going on inside me, felt like an accomplishment. It’s funny, Ann, I get no shortage of compliments from the ladies. But the men are generally keeping mum.

I remember reading an earlier post of Rori’s about emotional intensity, of the draining kind, and I think that’s almost certainly what I have going on that keeps them leaning away from me. I’d been wondering how the hell I’m getting through this divorce with so little angst and so few tears, but it is because it’s all so deeply embedded and locked up in my cells, and everyone who sees me can feel it. I can feel it when I look in the mirror or at a picture.

I saw him today, we had our first mediation session. It went as well as I could have hoped. I don’t think anyone really appreciated my million feeling messages, but I felt proud of myself for being able to say them without attacking. Though I did say “you” or “he” a couple times. D:

Really, just to be able to sit there and get down to business, while keeping in touch with all that was going on inside me, felt like an accomplishment.

]]> By: Ann http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/vulnerability/shredding-the-originals-and-starting-this-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-6839 Ann Sun, 08 Mar 2009 22:07:35 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=349#comment-6839 I hpoe my computer will let me post it is being a MAJOR PITA today. I wanted to thank all you ladies for your kind compliments. I love getting compliments from men but to me it means as much or more to get a compliment from a lady. Because I feel females don't often compliment other females so when they do they really mean it. Katja glad you enjoyed mixing your lotions. Sounds like you had a wonderful bath. I hpoe my computer will let me post it is being a MAJOR PITA today.

I wanted to thank all you ladies for your kind compliments. I love getting compliments from men but to me it means as much or more to get a compliment from a lady. Because I feel females don’t often compliment other females so when they do they really mean it.

Katja glad you enjoyed mixing your lotions. Sounds like you had a wonderful bath.

]]> By: Maria http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/vulnerability/shredding-the-originals-and-starting-this-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-6837 Maria Sun, 08 Mar 2009 20:10:15 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=349#comment-6837 Reshi, l loved the way you described your "new contract" that makes total sense. Have you heared of Silva method? l havent tried it myself, but the idea is to put down all what you woudl like to have in your life and manifesting it into your life. Soon you become to act toward it. And by doing the baby steps, you feel better and better every day. God, l think our baby steps here has been progressing into toddler steps:) Reshi, l loved the way you described your “new contract” that makes total sense. Have you heared of Silva method? l havent tried it myself, but the idea is to put down all what you woudl like to have in your life and manifesting it into your life. Soon you become to act toward it. And by doing the baby steps, you feel better and better every day.
God, l think our baby steps here has been progressing into toddler steps:)

]]> By: Katja http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/vulnerability/shredding-the-originals-and-starting-this-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-6833 Katja Sun, 08 Mar 2009 17:28:35 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=349#comment-6833 Ann-combining the two scents of those body lotions was a great idea and I love it now. The scent that occured is kind of mysterious,warm and fruity. I wear it today and I am feeling great :) Btw I tried today to look at things like I have never seen them before,like they don't remind me about something. I tried this while taking a bath and relaxing-I looked around in my bathroom as if I was a guest at my home and as if I had never seen it before and that felt absolutely great and fantastic! By looking around I thought, wow this has to be the bathroom of an incredibly interesting and fascinating woman. Then "I came back" and realized that this is MY bathroom and that I am this interesting woman. That felt absolutely amazing! Wow... Ann-combining the two scents of those body lotions was a great idea and I love it now. The scent that occured is kind of mysterious,warm and fruity. I wear it today and I am feeling great :)

Btw I tried today to look at things like I have never seen them before,like they don’t remind me about something. I tried this while taking a bath and relaxing-I looked around in my bathroom as if I was a guest at my home and as if I had never seen it before and that felt absolutely great and fantastic! By looking around I thought, wow this has to be the bathroom of an incredibly interesting and fascinating woman. Then “I came back” and realized that this is MY bathroom and that I am this interesting woman. That felt absolutely amazing! Wow…

]]> By: Katja http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/vulnerability/shredding-the-originals-and-starting-this-moment/comment-page-1/#comment-6826 Katja Sun, 08 Mar 2009 08:41:37 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=349#comment-6826 Ann-Thank you for sharing your blog and your photos. I feel like I have seen you somewhere,like I know you from somewhere. I also like your eyes and I am sure that you have a fabulous smile :) But if you don't like it,ok. Ann-Thank you for sharing your blog and your photos. I feel like I have seen you somewhere,like I know you from somewhere. I also like your eyes and I am sure that you have a fabulous smile :) But if you don’t like it,ok.

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