How To Access Your Dark Feminine (In Love And Business!) – VIDEO

By Rori Raye

An angry man is a powerful man. An angry woman is somebody you want to stay away from.” True or not true?

We spend our lives as women trying not to be angry women, and so we’ve completely demolished this anger, violence, all those feelings that we have rage, which we are entitled to! – based upon the way we have existed on this planet since the beginning.

This videocast will open up the powerful energy you have (and are likely trying to stuff down, all the time…) and give you so many new ways to access your “Dark Feminine Energy” (I talk a bit about what that actually “is”!) so you can get everything you want!
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Love, Rori

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Embracing Oneness: The Key to Overcoming Anger and Separation

By Rori Raye

When we recognize that we are all interconnected, it becomes easier to care about yourself, and more automatically see others with compassion (even when they don’t behave the way we want).

The Illusion of Separation

Often, we go through life seeing others as separate from us.

This sense of separation creates fear, resentment, and anger.

We view others as competitors or threats, leading to conflict and isolation.

For me, though – this separation is an illusion.

In reality, we are all part of the same fabric of existence.

Embracing Oneness

Embracing the concept of oneness means recognizing that we are all interconnected.

What affects one person affects us all.

This awareness fosters empathy and reduces negative emotions like anger and resentment.

When we see others as part of ourselves, treating them with kindness and compassion becomes natural.

The Redwood Metaphor

Consider the Redwood trees, which are all connected through their root systems.

Despite being individual trees, they form a single organism, sharing resources and support.

For me, humans are interconnected in the same way – and actually interconnected with the Redwoods, chipmunks, everything and everyone – and our actions and emotions affect the whole.

Practical Steps to Embrace Oneness

1. Practice Empathy: Put yourself in others’ shoes and try understanding their experiences and emotions. This practice deepens your sense of connection.

2. Mindfulness: Stay present and observe your thoughts and feelings without judgment. This awareness helps you see the interconnectedness of all things.

3. Compassion Meditation: For me, meditation isn’t a “thing”, the way we’ve all come to think of “meditation”.

It doesn’t mean sitting down and “meditating” – it also sort of changes the meaning and “action” of “focusing” – that’s shifts it from a masculine energy “efforting” concept to a Feminine feeling idea – simply about where you choose to “pay attention” – and that generates compassion for yourself and others.

4. Community Engagement: Get involved in community activities that promote unity and collaboration. Working together for a common cause strengthens the sense of oneness.

5.  Judgments: Catch yourself when you’re judging others. It just means you’re judging YOU!.

You and everyone else is on their own unique journey, and we all have no idea what the “end result” is supposed to be – we’re just doing our best in the moment.

The more skills you get about feeling your feelings and speaking in ways that reflect your commitment to love instead of a commitment to fear and anger – the better you’re going to feel.

Transforming Anger

Anger often comes up from a sense of separation and injustice.

By embracing oneness, you can transform this anger into compassion and understanding.

When you recognize that others’ actions stem from their own pain and struggles, responding with empathy rather than anger becomes easier.

Embracing oneness is a powerful way to overcome anger and feelings of separation.

Recognizing our interconnectedness can cultivate empathy, compassion, and a more harmonious existence.

We’re all part of the same fabric of life, and treating others with kindness and understanding benefits us all.

Love, Rori

Healing and Grief Powerful Strategies for Emotional Recovery Part 1

By Rori Raye

Grief is a big emotional territory that doesn’t often get the space that it needs.

People find themselves needing to take time off from work – but beating themselves up for needing the space.

How do we give ourselves that space?.

Maybe it’s from a breakup, and having some internal space for yourself to compassionately hold this part of you because all change, any change in your life, whether that’s going into a new relationship, coming out of a relationship, moving from one, moving from different stages of your own life – you’re going to touch the grief.

Grief of who you used to be, of who you think you should be, of who you’ve been told you should be, and… Read more and leave a comment or question for Rori »

The Power of Perception: How Your View of Life Shapes Your Reality

By Rori Raye

How you perceive life has a profound impact on your reality.

Is life a friend, a foe, or a neutral presence?

This perception shapes your emotional responses and overall well-being.

So let’s dive into the power of perception and how choosing a loving outlook can transform your world experience.

Three Perspectives on Life:

1.Life as an Enemy: If you see life as something to be conquered, you’re likely in constant battle. This perspective creates a cycle of stress and frustration as you view every challenge as an obstacle to overcome.

2.Life as Neutral: Viewing life as neutral leads to indifference. You may feel detached and unmotivated without any inherent meaning or support from life.

3.Life as Loving: Seeing life as a loving force opens you up to receiving and giving love. This perspective encourages a positive and hopeful outlook, where challenges are growth opportunities.

Choosing Your Perspective

Your perspective is not fixed; it’s a choice you make daily. Shifting from a view of life as an enemy or neutral entity to one of love can profoundly impact your mental and emotional health. It requires conscious effort and self-reflection but leads to a more fulfilling and harmonious life.

The Impact of Separation

A significant barrier to a loving perspective is the idea of separation. When we see others as separate from us, it creates fear, resentment, and anger. However, embracing the concept that we are all interconnected can dissolve these negative emotions and foster a sense of unity and empathy.

Practical Steps to Shift Your Perspective

1.Self-Reflection: Take time to reflect on your current perspective of life. How does it influence your emotions and actions?

2.Gratitude Practice: Regularly acknowledge and appreciate the positive aspects of your life. This practice can shift your focus towards love and abundance.

3.Mindfulness Meditation: Mindfulness helps you stay present and observe your thoughts without judgment. It can create space for more positive perspectives to emerge.

4.Empathy Exercises: Practice seeing the world from others’ viewpoints. This exercise enhances your sense of connection and reduces feelings of separation.

5.Affirmations: Use positive affirmations to reinforce a loving perspective. Remind yourself that life is supportive and full of opportunities.

The Benefits of a Loving Perspective

When you see life as loving, it changes how you interact with the world. You become more open, compassionate, and resilient.

Challenges become growth opportunities, and your relationships improve as you approach them with empathy and understanding.

Your perception of life significantly influences your reality.

By choosing a loving perspective, you can transform your experience and create a more positive and fulfilling existence.

Remember, life is what you make of it, and choosing love can paint your world with vibrant and beautiful colors.

Love, Rori



How To Use A Chair To Bring Him Closer! – Video

By Rori Raye

Note: To get to the How To Get The Commitment You Want Live Masterclass/Workshop on Sunday the 23rd – go here:

I wanted to actually show you how to do this – so here’s a video!

And here’s the Transcript in words!:

I’ve got a big, comfy chair here. This is my office chair.  You might have a dining room chair, or a favorite chair.

Use a favorite chair, but it has to have a back, and the back has to be high enough to go at least up to your neck, up to the top of your back, so you can feel it, and it has to feel steady.

Okay, now, I want you to imagine that your man’s right in front of you there, he’s really in front of you. Okay?

So he’s starting something that’s making you feel tense, right?

So now I want you to lean, push your upper body back into this chair.  Just lean away from him with all your might. Just  lean away, pull away from him.

And, Lean back into this chair. Feel the chair. Feel its awesomeness. Feel the strength. Feel the support of it. Feel the love of it.

And just lean back into the chair and practice starting to talk.

Say, Hi, the day feels so awesome. Oh, I’m feeling cranky. Oh, I need to go sit down. I can feel myself getting faint…I can feel I don’t want to talk. I feel a fight coming on. I don’t want to fight…

Whatever you want to say, it doesn’t matter at this point. Let’s not worry about words.

But as you’re saying it to the man in front of you, I want you just to find yourself pulling back into this chair as deep as you can.

The concept is that you’re creating space with him.

He doesn’t have to create space by starting a fight anymore.

You’re creating the space, and you’re not doing it out of anger. You’re just pulling back, and as you pull back, you will automatically begin to pull him toward you.

You’ll begin to see him following you around the room!

Why Do Guys Shut Down?

By Rori Raye

I just got this in my email from my husband, Jeffrey Mark Levine, and it’s pretty heart-piercing stuff…with some serious answers.

If you’d like to get Jeffrey’s free advice newsletters and blog posts like this for yourself, you can get them here->

From Jeffrey:

“I’ll start with why I used to shut down.

It’s only with years of working on myself, and practicing new habits that I can speak about it with some clarity. So, here’s my current understanding of “old me.”

All I’m feeling is anger and I’m afraid to dig underneath to figure out why.

I’m scared of my anger because in my family of origin, I saw no examples of anger being expressed healthily.

I could use my silence as a weapon, to keep my partner unsure of what was going on with me.

I really had no clue what was going on internally. I just knew I needed to isolate.

I was depressed, and when I was faced with difficult feelings that I didn’t understand, shutting down seemed like the best option – which would lead to a cycle of depression-shutting down-depression, etc.

I didn’t feel safe to express what was going on with me, even when I had an inkling of what the problem was

Once I was able to speak, it would often come out as blame, sarcasm, defensiveness, deflection, avoidance or attack.

Why am I telling you this?

Because in my practice, I recognize this behavior in my clients.

Guys are worse, for sure, than women, at navigating tough feelings.

And I’m going to venture a guess, if you’re reading this (and you’re on my email list), it’s because some of this rings true – either for you, or for your partner.

Before I was married (and even early in my marriage), these situations would snowball. Because my partners weren’t skilled either.

What is the skill I’m talking about? Reconnection. After disconnection.

There was so much ego involved. We want to be seen as “right.”

Completely forgetting about the other person, over there who is also going through something difficult.

Completely forgetting about the relationship and what it takes to nurture closeness and connection.

So, what happened with me?

A lot of things – too many to go into in a reasonable amount of time here. (Though if you have specific questions, please write to me and I’ll go into more detail.)

The skill needed to reconnect after a disconnection is one you’ve probably heard of, “Holding Space.”

Here’s a clear definition of Holding Space: “Creating a supportive and non-judgmental environment for the other person to express themselves.”

The opposite of Holding Space is defending and explaining. (I’ll go deeper on “defending and explaining” in a future newsletter.)

So, how do you create a supportive and non-judgmental environment?

With your words.

By saying things like: “I care about what you’re going through.”

“Feel free to share as much or as little as you’re comfortable with.”

And things like: “I’m here to support you in any way you need. I’m not going anywhere.”

And then stopping. Don’t say anything else afterwards. Let those words hang in the air and sink in.

Invariably I get the question: “Why should I do that if he won’t do that for me?”

Fair question. And I can’t answer that for everyone reading this, for every situation.

However, I know this: changed behavior has to come from somewhere in order to create the change in the relationship.

Since you’re reading this, I know that you’re interested and willing to figure out how to shift things.

For sure, this won’t fix everything. It’s a door in. A step forward.

By choosing to handle things differently, you’re saying the status quo is no longer an option.

At the end of every newsletter I invite you to reach out, tell me your story, ask me your questions. Not a lot of people do that. But the offer still stands.

Until next time,


P.S. If you have a topic or question you’d like me to cover, please tell me about it. I’m committed to making these emails valuable for you.


And when you’re ready, here are some ways I can help you >>

If you’re in pain and frustrated and not sure what to do next, I offer Urgent Care coaching – I can usually meet with you within 24-48 hours. Book an appointment now.

Some couples are ready to jump in and begin the healing together. If that’s you (and your partner), book a Free Discovery Call and let’s create a custom coaching program, tailored to your specific needs.

Riding the Love Train: Transforming Anger into Compassion

By Rori Raye

In our chaotic world, anger and frustration make it easy to feel overwhelmed.

However, a powerful approach can help transform these negative emotions into something far more beneficial—compassion.

We can cultivate a more harmonious existence by viewing life through the lens of love.

So let’s get on the “Love Train” and stay there ! – turning anger into compassion.

The Love Train Metaphor

Imagine love as paint that covers everything around you.

Just as paint transforms the appearance of a surface, love can transform your perspective on life.

When we stay present with ourselves and paint our experiences with love, we shift our energy towards positivity and openness.

This simple metaphor can be a guiding principle in our daily lives.

Life’s Perspective: Friend, Foe, or Neutral?

A fundamental question to ask yourself is how you perceive life>

Do you see it as a friend, a neutral entity, or an enemy?

This overarching philosophy significantly impacts how we navigate our emotions.

If you believe life is your enemy, you constantly battle, trying to conquer and overcome obstacles.

Seeing life as neutral may leave you feeling indifferent and detached. 

However, viewing life as loving—where energy and opportunities flow towards you—creates a foundation for positivity and growth.

Understanding Separation

One major barrier to experiencing love and compassion is the idea of separation.

Often, we see others as separate from us, leading to fear and insularity.

This sense of separation fuels anger and resentment. 

However, embracing that we are all interconnected, part of the same fabric of existence, can dissolve these negative feelings.

By acknowledging our shared humanity and common struggles, we open ourselves to greater empathy and compassion.

The Role of Anger

Anger is a natural emotion, often arising from a sense of injustice or frustration.

However, how we handle and express this anger determines its impact on our lives.

When we see others as enemies, anger becomes a destructive force. 

Instead, suppose we channel our anger towards constructive activism and self-advocacy.

In that case, it can become a powerful catalyst for positive change.

Activism for the Self

Being an activist for yourself means using your anger and passion to advocate for your own needs and well-being.

When done with love and compassion, this self-advocacy extends beyond personal gain, contributing to the greater good.

It creates a ripple effect, where taking care of oneself ultimately benefits everyone around you.

Practical Steps to Transform Anger

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings: Recognize and validate your anger without judgment. Understand that it’s a natural response to certain situations.

2. Choose Your Perspective: Shift your view of life towards one that is loving and supportive. This mindset change can profoundly affect your emotional responses.

3. Embrace Connection: Remind yourself of the interconnectedness of all beings. This awareness fosters empathy and reduces feelings of separation.

4. Express Constructively: Find healthy outlets for your anger, such as journaling, physical activity, or creative expression. Avoid lashing out at others.

5. Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself. Understand that everyone makes mistakes and is part of the human experience.

6. Advocate with Love: Use your anger as motivation to advocate for yourself and others, but always from a place of love and compassion.

Staying on the Love Train and transforming anger into compassion requires conscious effort and a shift in perspective.

By embracing love as a guiding principle, we can better navigate life’s challenges and contribute to a more compassionate world.

Remember, love paints everything, and we must keep our brushstrokes steady and filled with kindness.

Love, Rori





What To Do If You’re Feeling Disappointed In Love (Or Business!) – Video

By Rori Raye

At some point, we all run into disappointment.

Disappointments in love – and because I’m so deep into and concerned about how we access and use our Feminine Energy in Business and the Workplace: disappointment in work and business too:

So, disappointment about anything – Obviously has to do with expectations, right?

I expect this to happen. I hope this will happen.

So when this doesn’t happen, my dream, my imagination, my vision board – I feel a sense of letdown.

So, if you recognize all of these disappointments personally, please write me in the comments, or send me a message here on the blog (contact boxes everywhere!) about how you experience disappointment and ‘let down’ and how that affects you…and I’ll get back to you!

Also: on Siren Island, my dedicated team of brilliant coaches are ready to work with you closely, offering personalized support and solutions to navigate through life’s challenges here->

– so wanting to get more of the gloriousness of how you can go to work, run a business, practically run the world completely from feminine energy. And navigate disappointment.

As we all know, disappointment happens at work.

So with love, here’s a specific, a more specific scenario:

When you are in the dating scene, when you are connecting, where you’re making new connections, first contacts. The honeymoon period of love.

This great connection where you feel the excitement, you see the interest, you feel that connection and you’re communicating quite a lot.

There’s a lot of communication happening.

And then somewhere in that period, it doesn’t feel as good.

We were excited. And then it’s like the dopamine isn’t there anymore.

I mean, that’s one way to explain it. And yet – how do you deal with that disappointment where you’re not, or when do you go into sharing with a new connection that the communication doesn’t feel so good to you?

There are so many answers in the video, and I’d love to hear from you about your own unique situation.

Love, Rori

How To Reconnect With Your Body After Being In Your Head – Video

By Rori Raye

How do we go back into our body after we’ve been in our head?

Remember when I said when I go out for a walk and then I all of a sudden realize that I’ve missed the whole last hundred yards that I’ve walked?

I stop, and my first feeling is of loss – I lost that time where I wasn’t aware, and the second I feel that, I can feel the difference…

I can distinguish in my head.

Thinking about things, future things, going over things in the past, and the reality of the grass and the snow that’s blanketing everything right now and each individual leaf, the leaves that are still on trees.

All of that fascinates me!

And I am well aware if I’m in a sad frame of mind, right now I’m in a very sad frame of mind… I’ve noticed I’m wearing my dog’s collar on my wrist.

I just said goodbye to him last week and I never know when I’m going to be overcome by major ugly crying, major beautiful crying, major let go of feelings.

Feeling your feelings and getting familiar with how they cycle through you, and what thoughts come up with them – and how you react or respond with them – this incredible knowledge of yourself automatically leads to amazing things!

You’ll suddenly, without any affirmations or input, start to appreciate and love yourself more!

You’ll start to take a breath before you react.

And, SO important, you’ll start to realize, and feel all the awesomeness of finally knowing what you WANT, and how to express that to a man – and to ANYONE! – so you can finally, really get what you want.

To get a super shortcut to this, get the Feminine WANT Course – it will change everything for you within weeks!: 

Your Internal Engine Of Love (What’s It Doing?)

By Rori Raye

How To Know If You're His Woman - Or His Delivery Girl...

by Rori Raye  March 1, 2017

When was the last time you felt completely at ease with a man?

Where you felt totally secure in the knowledge that he loves you, totally sure he appreciates you, and feeling that cozy warmth inside because all your needs for love and romance are being met by him?

Or does that seem like a dream? A fantasy?

Here's a way to help that dream turn real - a way of looking at everything that shows up, no matter how your first reaction is to it:

The "It's Not About Me" Tool"

Julia wrote me:

"Dear Rori - when my boyfriend asks me to do stuff for him, I just feel so resentful. I (read more here...)