… but I know Natalie, and she does an amazing job as an interviewer…she literally let me go on and on and on – and what I talk about are things you may have never even heard me say!
I also know most of the 40 great women on the summit, and follow and read many of them, so I know you’ll get a lot out of this (especially for free!)
Just follow the link and sign up – you’ll get emails every day of the Summit so you can get a link to each new interview…I’m scheduled for September 30th (with the great Pat Allen! – who’s my heroine, the woman who really started talking about feminine energy in a big way in her hugely bestselling books, and literally got me started talking as Rori Raye – putting Tools, steps, actual ways to shift your love life to the concepts of feminine and masculine energy…).
The idea of this summit is that it’s for women over 40 – yet, it isn’t.
Everything I say and everything everyone else on the Summit says is for ALL women, no matter your age – with a bit of emphasis on the different situations and different focus we may find ourselves in after 40….
Here’s the general letter that gives you the info on what’s on offer at the Summit:
Are you ready to get your mojo back?
Then join the over 40 world-renowned experts – (from Rori: this Summit actually has a lot of huge names!) for the Extraordinary Life After 40 Summit so you can learn simple, powerful, practical tools to balance your hormones, feel confident, radiant, successful and fully alive and to create your life to be better than anything you have imagined!
The sessions are on topics most critical for women over forty (or fifty or sixty), including how to:
*Balance your hormones naturally through dietary and lifestyle changes as well as with bio-identical hormone replacement therapy.
*Bring the spark back into your relationship and reconnect with your partner even if you haven’t felt it in years.
*Consciously uncouple to minimize resentment and maximize forgiveness if your relationship has run its course.
*Gain confidence and know-how to create a style true to your personality.
*Uncover your life purpose so you can build your legacy.
*Use your money personality to maximize abundance so you can have freedom to do whatever you want.
*Love yourself, increase your happiness set-point and manifest all that you want in your life.
And so much more!
It’s truly a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to receive tools and wisdom from world-renowned experts – NY Times best-selling authors, transformational teachers, visionaries, doctors, coaches and healers – all for free!
See you virtually on September 30th!
From Rori: Debra is a Lead Coach on Siren Island, and the frustration of being in a relationship that makes you feel sad, hurt, angry, disappointed and unloved as often as it makes you feel hopeful and happy – can be never-ending.
Things never get better, yet you can feel elated, often – just because it doesn’t get worse!
If you feel curious about how you’d get coached on the Siren Island Facebook group membership, here’s just a smidgen of how we begin the hugely transformative process that is “The Modern Siren” methodology, in writing only, on Siren Island.
In order to keep things totally private there, I’m only publishing here Debra Darlen’s wisdom – an idea for you of how your situation might be addressed, and how you might learn an entirely new way to be in a relationship, a marriage, a dating situation – from the ground up.
The situation here is that the man is up and down, angry often, things go sideways often, the Islander walks on eggshells, and yet is in love.
He is not a “bad man.”
He’s deeply emotional, passionate about the world and work, and wants to talk about serious things.
This is often the kind of man we are attracted to – passionate about things, the glow of a “activist,” even if he does nothing but talk on social media about his opinions and righteous anger and frustration.
It’s electric and sexy.
The problem here, is – just as with a man who’s bound up in his work, his family situation – so many things – he has absolutely minuscule energy for the relationship he shares with the Siren Islander.
The man who’s so attractive has no energy for the relationship, you, etc?
And, if you’re dating, the man who DOES have serious energy for you, actually considers you and your feelings, wants and needs before his own interests – does he feel boring? Or not attractive?
Here’s where Debra begins:
Okay Love, and thank you for sharing…this ..
You are not the only woman who can relate to this…so…
Let me explain a new way of approaching this for you.
We are going to leave behind ‘old ways’ of trying to ‘change him for his own good’.
That never works, and always creates distance if not complete disconnection.
So, we begin with getting in touch with your emotions as they arise…moment by moment.
We are emotional creatures, and every action taken arises from our ‘emotional state’ at the time.
Most women, when they come to Siren Island, have been repressing their emotions on one of three ways:
1. They analyze the why and think about them as opposed to ‘feel them’. They believe they can ‘reason’ away emotions they do not ‘believe they like’, or that they think are ‘bad’.
2. They blame others, the man, the job, the situation they are in for their emotions. They try to solve for emotions by changing the situation and or the job.
3. They buffer in multiple ways: move from man to man, over-drink, over-work, constantly seeking and never finding.
So the first thing is to notice IF you are doing any of that (even in your mind’s eye…).
Then stop doing it….
This means do not even consider changing him, telling him he needs to change, and how he is in pain because of …anything.
What you can change is ‘yourself’ and your reaction.
You ask in your post for help in knowing how to react… so…
I ask you:- how do you react now?
Let’s focus on that..
How do you react, when you believe he is immature, angry, negative, and neglects you?
How do you react each morning when “this thought and that thinking” – that you’ve now done the step of noticing – is running through your mind, as he’s talking to you about whatever topic he’s talking about?
Let’s begin there…
How do you ‘feel’?
I am here…and if you tag me..I will continue this thread with you …love!
From Rori: Debra’s last line – that Debra will “continue this thread…”- is the core of Siren Island.
Once you become a Siren Island member, even a “trial” member, and post a question (a general one, or about your specific, urgent situation…) – the coaches will find your post, come to you and coach you in the comments of your post. AND – as you continue the conversation with “replies’ – the coaches will continue to work with you.
This continues, as long as you continue to post.
All of the brilliant Siren Island coaches will get to know you, I will get to know you, and you will find yourself moving from one Modern Siren step to another, learning, growing – and beginning to SOLVE your situation, without “thinking your way through it”.
From Rori: Debra is one of Siren School’s most beloved and brilliant coaches – helping women in amazing ways day in and day out on Siren Island.
We’ve recently been talking about classic “Assertiveness Training For Women” – and how to withstand pressure “like a girl” – totally from feminine energy, with so much less stress than trying to “defend” or “explain,” even if you’re feeling terrified.
We exchanged lots of personal stories, and I found this one from Debra, from the time when she was a powerhouse lawyer (before she became a powerhouse coach), to be SO helpful!!!
from Debra Darlen
“I remember shaking in my boots when I had a series of lawyers being aggressive with me over my client, a high ranking female officer. I’d filed a sex discrimination suit … Read more and leave a comment or question for Rori »
Let’s say you’re with a man, a friend, a potential client, a boss, a coworker – and in this very moment you feel totally torn and totally conflicted.
Two sides of you are trying to gain control of your mind and your actions.
Something is happening that does not feel good.
It could be this person asking you to do something or go somewhere that you just don’t feel like doing are going.
Or it could be something he does — roll his eyes or dismiss you in words, comment about another woman’s attractiveness right in front of you, comment on another person’s talents, gifts, skills and results… ick…
Part of you wants to smash him (or her) in the face.
Wants to grab him by his jacket or his shirt and shake him and toss him until he behaves. Another part of you is terrified that if you even question for a moment what he’s done or asked for… you will be labeled as needy, complaining, insecure, a drama queen, and he will move away from you and maybe even leave you.
This is what I call walking on eggshells.
And you’d be surprised how many of us are caught in this loop. We either blurt out everything we want changed and stick to our guns and air our opinions and requests for change and then feel terrible and frightened and angrier afterward… or we sit on stuff, telling ourselves that we are poised, we are confident, we are together, we don’t have to get all upset about this “thing,” we have a sense of humor, we can talk about this reasonably.
And sometimes that voice is right! Sometimes what you’re all bent out of shape about is hardly worth even a moment of your brainpower.
Sometimes you’re just looking in the wrong place, hearing the wrong thing, focusing on the wrong part of what’s going on around you.
So what’s the Warrior in you to do? What exactly do you champion? How do you champion yourself here, when you don’t know which “yourself” to listen to?
Let’s start with a definition: A Siren, in the Siren world, is a woman of gravity. We embody gravity. We gravitate to ourselves.
- We allow the parts of us in touch with the power of Chaos, the parts allowing the utter organicness of universal feminine energy to move through us, to – without “trying” – draw in the universe of matter, people, things.
To get the basics of the Rori Raye “Business Siren Protocols” and a whole NEW way of looking at, being with, and acting in the world, your work, your love life and yourself, here’s The Business Siren’s Handbook to help you turn everything around:
Along with this gravitational pull we all have, each of us individually and automatically – as women, as the Origin, as Chaos bringing inspiration to life, comes a way to DEAL with all of this energy coming at us – and to square that with all the other parts of ourselves living our regular, day-to-day lives!
We can call this “sense” anything we want – so, today, if you like the name, the idea, the concept of “Warrior Woman,” here’s an idea of how to use it for yourself:
Let’s say your inner “Warrior” is simply gazing at all the open “doors” inside you. She’s not “patrolling” – she’s simply there to add her heft to keeping the doors OPEN – no matter what – and helping you believe that you’re just fine without closing a door to something you don’t like.
- In other words – she’s not the “gatekeeper” in the sense of being in charge of who and what gets “let in” – she’s there to assure you that whatever comes in is good, is right, is usable, is information…and that whatever isn’t good and right for you in that moment will simply not come to the door.
- That her very presence at the doors speaks for you in the universe – so that you can go about being as creative, magical, open, big and in love with yourself and life as you can imagine.
Your Warrior doesn’t have to fight.
She’s there to remind you that the doors are open. She’s there to help you feel brave. To make choices.
To stay in the present moment, to stay in your heart and creative juices instead of in your head asking questions from the parts of you who’re afraid.
Your inner Warrior just allows that archetype of spears and weapons and physical power to lend energy when needed.
Online Dating was NEVER “easy.”
Constantly meeting new men online meant constantly dealing with the emotions we LEAST want to experience.
And now, with COVID coloring everything we do, there are new ways to do things, new things to consider….
And, yet, online is still the very BEST way to do ANY kind of “dating” – especially my “Circular Dating” – and the absolute BEST way to find the great man for you, while helping your Modern Siren skills grow quickly, creating incredible confidence and real happiness!
I want you to take a look at coach Jeanie Wilder’s terrific and affordable program “Tear It Up On Tinder” – YES, TINDER!!! (Jeanie is a brilliant Siren School coach, and fast becoming a superstar coach in her own right – the internet is lighting up with her program, while SO many women’s thoughts about Tinder are doing a 180 after working with Jeanie.)
Jeanie’s created her own new life using this method, and now she’s sharing it with the rest of us. Here’s … Read more and leave a comment or question for Rori »
Has your man pulled away …or left altogether?
Are you experiencing heartbreak?
I know how painful that can feel and how devastated you are.
When faced with a painful situation with a man, which way do you tend to go:
Do you go towards the onion or the pearl?
*The onion has layers and layers that can be peeled back, revealing more and more stinky layers underneath….
I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to keep going down into all … Read more and leave a comment or question for Rori »
Feeling and sensing whether you crave “control” because you WANT something – OR, because you’re afraid of something…can make all the difference in your life…
Because Control not only kills love...it stops cold the magnetic pull of everything you want in life toward you…and ends up pushing everything you want away.
In this new world – a world where we women still have only one model for success: the masculine model – it’s hard to even imagine how you might run a company, keep children alive, well and happy, and feel good most of the time without keeping everything in order.
Without controlling everything.
Yet, controlling everything just makes us feel squished, tight, and unhappy.
And, it doesn’t help to actually get anything done!
Here are the videos!:
(If you’d like to know when new videos get uploaded to my Siren TV youtube channel (I’m putting up a new one every week or so!) just hit the “Subscribe” button on any of the videos as you’re … Read more and leave a comment or question for Rori »
Rori, Will you please be more explicit with your examples.. about what’s the true feminine way & what’s passive aggression?
– I know this cannot possibly feel clear for every situation – because each situation might require a completely different “Script” for you to use!
This is because it’s all about your “vibe,” and what’s underneath your words, that counts! Sometimes, … Read more and leave a comment or question for Rori »
Note from Rori: Courtney Schand is an awesome coach – and this is one of the best, most helpful articles I’ve ever read…!
“I was speaking with a friend, who is also a coach, the other day.
She mentioned that the challenges in life are the sand in the oyster that create the pearl.
It made me realize, how often I’ve heard our life experiences are like revealing the layers of an onion.
I was the queen of the onions, wanting to cut through all of the layers of every onion.
It felt like that, a smelly job- layers and layers of dirty work.
Truthfully it felt so tiring and I was weary of looking for the core of this smelly onion.
If you find yourself in a similar situation, you may be able to relate.
I want to offer a flip that has been really powerful for me.
What if I were a pearl instead of an onion.
What if I saw each layer that was added as a beautiful, shimmery feature… increasing my value as it … Read more and leave a comment or question for Rori »