When You’re In Anguish Over Him – Bethany 5

Bethany is in the middle of a crisis.  The crisis began when she started dating Carl, and it goes on day after day, because, as much as she loves him, she feels awful with him, too: “Dear Rori, I’m feeling jealous right now. I got a text from Carl not understanding why this girl is…

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Your Logo For Love

Here’s a great idea from Clara, and I’m turning it into a Tool: “Dear Rori, An Idea I had – it is a bit silly but who knows you might like it… Why not make yourself a LOGO, or a Trade Mark Symbol in the Figure of a Siren or a Goddess or Mermaid ?…

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Speed Dating Tips For Free Therapy

Here’s a quick tip for a specific situation.  See if you can use this the next time you go to a party – perhaps your office Holiday party – or anywhere where there are men: “Hey Rori, I’m going to a speed dating event tomorrow night – Any last minute tips????? I’m really nervous and…

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What To Do If You Can’t Get Over Him

What is it about getting over a man?  Letting go?  Leaving it be, even without “Closure”? Here’s part of a comment from Clare – the whole comment is right here->: “Rori, Is it possible to not be able to get over your first love? It has been 4 years and still I can’t get over…

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Is He Really Claiming You For Ever After?

So – what do you do when it seems he’s “claimed” you – and then he’s gone? This is a jump-off from Jon’s comment/post (find it here) and a comment from Linda about what Jon said – and, to me, this is one of the most frustrating and common situations I hear about (and, yes,…

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The Truth From A Man

So what does a MAN think about all these Tools, and everything we’re saying here? Pretty much exactly what I say – and it sounds so clear (and pretty harsh, too) coming from a man – it sort of wipes all the cobwebs off the table, dissolves the confusions, the misconceptions. The only thing is…

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Celebrate Everything – Even HIM

I really liked this article: http://theoldoakswing.blogspot.com/2008/11/my-marriage-part-2-Celebrate.html – but it doesn’t exist anymore! I’ll try to get in touch with her and see if I can get it back… Basically, the article is about Celebrating marriage, Celebrating life – Celebrating yourself, him, sharing time, thinking up ways to Celebrate everything. Okay – the article clearly refers…

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Romance Yourself And Bring Him IN

Romance is a skill and a talent – and it requires effort – so Romance is a “boy” thing.  That’s why it feels so awful to us when it’s not coming at us, and we’re left to try to think of how to do romance ourselves. So – try this – write out and imagine…

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