How To Thank Yourself For You…

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Getting our needs met.

This, to me, is what romantic relationship and meaningful work is all about, what we yearn for, what we feel depressed about, what we feel hopeless about or exhilarated about.

Our needs are met.  Or they’re not.

And – it’s not just ANY needs that we need to be met – it’s the ones that heighten our awareness and experience of everything else that’s good.

There’s just nothing like love, romance, affection, attention, sex, appreciation of our work, appreciation at our work, and a nice paycheck…

It’s not good enough to have a roof over our head.  Oh…we’re grateful for it, we’re happy we’re not out in the cold – and, there are so many who are, and so many of us who’re AFRAID we MIGHT be out in the cold except for Grace – but it just doesn’t “float our boat” to be happy about having a roof over our head.

We take the “everyday” for granted when we’re missing the big ticket items like love, romance, affection, partnership, a soulfull reason to get up in the morning and earn a living.

And on a holiday where we’re supposed to be “thankful” – it’s really, really hard to be “thankful” when we feel like there’s a big hole (perhaps many big holes) in our lives.

So – what to do?

It’s really easy to focus on “gratitude.”  Easy in a good, fun, easy way – and too easy in the “it’s easy to SAY way.”

For me…I go about this a few different ways, and I try to go about it every day in some way.

1. “The Three Blessings.”  Every night (or when I want to, or think of it…) I write down in a journal three things I’m grateful for – that I feel are blessings in my life.  Once I sit down to write these things…it’s sort of amazing how many things – sometimes really SMALL things – come up for me.  Try it.

2. Look in the mirror.  Who do you see?  You see the one person in this entire world you possess.  The one person in this entire world you can totally trust, totally count on to be on your side.  The one person you can put makeup on, dress up, order around, pet, moon over, sing to…a million little things…without checking with anyone else first.  You are your treasure.

There’s no real way to argue with this!  No matter how crappy things might be at this moment, or perhaps you’re starting to feel like things might actually be changing for you for the better (they are, if you’re doing the Modern Siren Tools and working with me and Rori Raye coaches on Siren Island)…you still have YOU.

>> Go reach out your hand and pet your image in the mirror.

>> Now run your hand down your other arm – slowly and sweetly, and watch yourself in the mirror.  There’s no limit to how long and how lovingly you can do this…so you can never get bored or run out of parts of you to pet.

3. Say Thank You to the you in the mirror.  In fact – say “I love you.  Thank you.”

If you want to really try something, say “I love you.  I forgive you.  Thank you.”  If you want to try the whole thing…and speak to all those parts inside you with different needs and experiences, say “I love you.  I’m sorry.  I forgive you.  Thank you.”

That about covers any emotion you could be having – from beating yourself up over something, to getting all excited about yourself (good for you!!!)

Okay, yes, you can be thankful for the roof over your head, and that some of the needs onyour needs scale are being met, and you can be thankful that you’re on track to get all the most fabulous of your needs met by the most fabulous man and fabulous work…but only if it feels good.  Only if it’s true.

If you’re actually angry as anything about something…go ahead and be thankful for that!  I mean – a good bit of fire in your belly, no matter where it came from or where it’s aimed is pretty grand, isn’t it?

If you’re actually feeling tearful and sorry for yourself – be thankful for that – because then you get to back and do numbers 1 through 3 here!

4. Imagine a fabulous life standing there – right in front of you and all around you – all the time – and that LIFE is saying Thank You.  To YOU.

If you’re missing something in love  – and you’d like to work with me and brilliant Rori Raye coaches in a great, 24/7, affordable way…check out Siren Island (you can try-it-out for a full 7 days for only $1…):

I say Thank You to you.  You just are….so wonderful.  I’m so glad to have you in my life.

Love, Rori

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  1.  #1mary on November 27, 2017 at 2:46 pm

    hello Rori!

    And I say thank you to YOU!

    Oh, the many, many times I was heartbroken and I tuned in to the blog and just read and read, and your words were comforting, full of good information, uplifting and inspiring. Thank you for the wisdom you shared with us!

    And thank you to the community of sirens, wherever you are, whether you read this or not! Thank you for being there with me during those times…

    I’m not on Facebook on Siren Island… it’s just too traceable for my comfort level, even though I know the group is closed…

    Oh my goodness, and those trying, broken-hearted times are not over for me. I’m although I’m single, and have been since 2006, and married is the station that really suits me… I’m still saying thank you about that, just because… I’m learning things, I’m in a growth pattern, I’m happy most days, I love myself, I love my family, my family loves me, and although life is Just Plain Difficult right now, and I would love to have a man to love, there are always things that are bright and wonderful, and it’s just good to be alive.

    I met a guy online and liked him SO much. Then I met him and still liked him. I went out with him twice and THEN found out that he’s living with a woman. He says it’s a platonic roommate situation, and they have separate bedrooms, and that she’s not the one, etc., etc., but that SHE loves HIM, and wants him to be the one for her, and I said okay… that I didn’t want to be part of a breakup of two people, no matter how they were involved, and that maybe he should call me when he’s down the road a ways, and has some things figured out, and is on his own… and he said fine, he was planning to move out as soon as the lease was up…

    So I’m thankful I have grown to a point to be able to say all that.

    Maybe soon…

    But for now I’m thankful for God, life, health, family, and beautiful friends and gorgeous sunsets.

    And I’m thankful for you, Rori!

    Thank you so much…



  2.  #2Femininewoman on November 29, 2017 at 10:38 am

    I love you, thank you

  3.  #3Krystalkisses on December 3, 2017 at 12:47 am

    Thank you Rori! Your work has changed my life. I never knew I could be this happy inside and I only want to go higher in my growth, ambitions and self knowledge.