A Helpful Interview

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I did an interview for BraveHeartWomen.com that’s showing today—it might be helpful to you. It’s a community of women, kind of cool…I did it because Mariel Hemingway is on the interviewing panel, and I loved her movie “Personal Best” – and of course “Manhattan” – so it was a thrill for me to meet her.  And then I got very excited about the whole thing, though I haven’t had time to look around and play the videos much.    Here’s the link:

Rori on BraveHeartWomen

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  1.  #1tinque on June 17, 2009 at 5:05 pm

    awesome xxOO

  2.  #2alias girl on June 17, 2009 at 7:38 pm

    omg. i felt so excited to watch this! i love my life and myself and my relationship possibilites so much more since practicing rori’s tools.

    i am a magnet! i feel love and gratitude.

    and relief from my old ways of being.

    i feel deep deep appreciation and love for rori. aw. i feel teary.

    yae rori! that is so fabulous!

  3.  #3Nikita on June 17, 2009 at 8:12 pm

    I felt very relaxed and drawn in watching Rori, I felt huffy watching the other woman in masculine energy. I felt Rori’s patience, and firmness. I felt calm when she was speaking, I felt anxious listening to the other women. I could feel Rori’s centeredness, radience. I felt relieved when she was communicating. I felt as though I could breathe. I feel like Rori, led my example. I could feel it! Wow. I felt the trying energy from one woman. I felt as a man, I’d pick Rori; because her energy felt secure/comforting. I felt she was most capable of love. I felt no fight from her. Just firmness. Real love. I learned A LOT just observing her with other women. They were all nice ladies but just based on energy Rori really was the most attractive in a quantum physics way……..I just really felt drawn in, almost pulled and wanting more. Incredible. I could feel how a man would totally feel safe giving his heart to Rori! Her vibe feels responsible/trustworthy.solid and soft. Resilient. I can’t find the right word !!!!!!! I feel blank! It wasn’t a verb! LOL ! Siren ( yeah, that feels right) :). Yayy Rori, fantastic job! Kudos. They should be begging you to come back :).

    Thank you, Rori
    You are so good at this !

  4.  #4Nikita on June 17, 2009 at 8:22 pm

    Rori led by example and that taught me a lot. Please forgive my grammatical errors, I’m still using my cell phone keyboard. I’m going to spank it later 🙂

    But thanks Rori, when I got your book my feelings in my relationship improved drastically. The four rules really did wonders all by themselves.

  5.  #5alias girl on June 17, 2009 at 8:55 pm

    mmmm yes nikita. rori did have a delicious vibe.

  6.  #6Chanel on June 18, 2009 at 1:23 pm

    I feel like I want to watch this very badly… and I’m stuck at work, lol!


  7.  #7M.J. on June 18, 2009 at 2:38 pm

    I have been subscribing to Rori for a while now, but have never left a comment. I loved watching Rori on this show- it was a great example of the vibe she is trying to teach us about. I thought Mariel Hemingway picked up on Rori’s ideas right away. Would like to see more!

  8.  #8ann on June 18, 2009 at 4:33 pm

    hope to see this when i get back to my computer.

  9.  #9Daria on June 19, 2009 at 3:06 am

    I’m driven to connect with human beings all day long… and I feel lonely when I’m alone… I feel like laughing and reachign out so often… that’s why i read this blog compulsively… i love living surrounded by people… but right now it feels like i live alone… i live with my parents and i feel rejected by them i feel angry at them… rejected is not even the right word… i feel like held in contempt… i feel scared of the world …

  10.  #10Daria on June 19, 2009 at 3:21 am

    I love myself I am so freakin interesting. I feel all glowy about myself right now after that last message. I feel so judged writing it… hehe… the secret mass judge will judge me… the world of public opinion… on the ungrateful daughter… oh what a spoiled brat … trash… icky junky i feel amused thank you for trying to help me judging voice i love you even though i feel stabbed in the back with literal throbbing in my shoulder like a knife stab… ouch… i feel so scared of that feeling… sometimes when i feel scared my lower back hurts and i feel scared to do scary things like move out on my own because im afraid my back will hurt… and i dont want my back to hurt and I D?O want to be able to live on my own no problemm… and i feel scared to DEAT?H i have no family other than this family and i feel unsure of my friends right now… i wanted to have friends family and now i feel scared i dont trust people i feel alone and suspicious apprehensive always feeling like this person is taking advantage of me or looking out for it and not feeling satisfied ufffffff.f… feeling weird… not having anywhere to stay sucks… my girl just got stuck out with me right now because she doesnt have a place to stay really… she found somewhere in the end tho…
    that would suck… it would feel cold and my back would hurt i dont want my back to hurt AAGH… i feel grateful my back will feel healthy no matter how cold it is outside thank you thannk you thank you… weird i didnt feel that before writing it but writing it made it feel like it must be true so i am grateful… good… who i feel interested in this process

    so i write it down and it becomes true… about my feelings… so if i write down right now…

    I feel really good

    I woud suddenly feel really… good … and who… i feel moved… i feel teary eyes and squeezing hard on myu arm… whoa… feels weird… maybe that’s how i feel when i feel really good… more squeezes… ouch… i feel achy joints in my back, side and knee… i wnat flexible fele good joints… i feel great… my joints feel flexible… my joints feel good… my back and ribs feel good… i feel so flexible… so in shape… so calita… romanian word there haha… ok…

    i feel embarassed and that feels like all those squeezes too.. i feel tortured by squeezes… i feel pain in joints again… um what did i say…?? the back of my neck feels good… oh
    my spine feels so alive and flexible…
    i love feeling alive
    its so easy for me to sit crosslegged!
    it feels like i could always do it
    like its natural
    i feel like my hips are flexible
    its a miracle
    it feels great
    i feel like i am sitting in the position that is best for my body at any given time
    that is amazing!
    i feel moved again
    i feel smily and moved
    i feel so good
    my body feels good
    much can be said about the benefits of mj
    like helping you help yourself
    with mind trance
    i feel like im bending back now
    i feel like i crash landed off my feel good high

    i feel bad
    i feel like i ruined the party
    i feel embarassed
    hiding in the shell peeking out sideways
    i feel my nose runnign and that feels really uncomfortable
    its cuz my eyes had got teary
    i feel bad
    i feel a tear coming down the side of my eye
    on the inside
    i feel like i must look relaly beautiful with this tear
    i feel shallow and conceited and that gives me a guilty thrill
    ifeel um
    pure with the tear on my eye
    anyways as i was saying i have plenty reasons to be sad
    and i feel proud of that
    cuz im so Cool dude
    i feel weird
    i dont know whos talking
    but i kinda respect him/her
    i feel very interested in their perspective
    i feel afraid
    and amused
    and weird
    like in a funhouse
    like a killer clown
    i feel afraid of the killer clown
    why is he dressed like a gangster
    i feel scared of the gangster clown with a gun attacking me
    it feels weird… it feels ‘doomy” ifeel worried and now i feel too scared to go on so i will switch subjects


    i feel interested in my new lime fascination
    limes taste good to me now
    by themselves
    i dont know if they taste so good but i eat them and enjoy it
    theyre so sour

  11.  #11Daria on June 19, 2009 at 3:24 am

    I liked the show and I liked All the women very much. I wanna be on a show like that and havea cool job like that that also didn’t make me wake up at times i didnt want to because I FEEL ACHY just thinking about waking up at times i dont want to and i feel AAAAAAAAAAANGRY at the world for having jobs and stuff work like that at this time in the world and i absolutely do not want to conform i will live in prehistoric time and wake up when i dam want to for real

  12.  #12Daria on June 19, 2009 at 3:45 am

    I like this part of myself. It’s very “gangstery” and assertive.. I feel proud to be me… I also feel very judged… this feels very inappropriate… it does not sound ladylike… it sounds threatening… i feel like snobby people will reject it and therefore we/I will reject it to lookin like ugh i feel triggered

    I feel triggeered… off for a spin… in memory trigger land… of ppl bein afraid of snobby peoople judgina and me feeling angry and i feel so angry at snobby people and ppl who freakin want to care about what snobby people fukin think i feel maddddddddddd


    i feel annoyed that freakin teenagers dont want to fukin do math when they have to pass the fuckin test and its so fuckin easy… well to at least work with the tutor… maybe it seems hopeless…. maybe ima sucky tutor…. i dont have it alll laid out…. im a disappointment…. im disappointing myself and my students by not being organized… planned ahead… laying it all out… but meeee im an artist i can wing it… no shuttup.. lay it all out…. it does make it better …. but it makes it so much harder… fuck fuc fuck… booooooring… i dont want to do that… i feel conflicted…. i feel inner conflict between wanting to lay out a plan for “stuff” (including business plan, exam prep time, curriculum) and wanting to “wing” it magically out of thin air (like a superhero superstar don’t need nothing vadabingvadaboom… tadaaa… its done… thank me later… todollooo… ) i feel watery eyes… i feel so weird writing this out…. this is me.. and my private conversation with myself and i didnt evne know it could write out in words on a virtual paper… i feel tingly liikkeee… in some low chakra… either one or 2… has to be one of those…

    i noticed i had some kinks in my posture… so i discovered T-tapp basicall is a way of adapting the body to the Rori Raye dance position… which feels weird because i also ssee elements of bellydancing… and in t-tapp yoga… so its cool that everything is intertwined…

    im trusting God that my bills will be paid on time this month… and i feel so scared writing that like it’s profane to ask God for help with this… ok well thank you God I love you I will ask the Angels for help… God is for the heartfelt things… the bills are just um trifles i guess… but these trifles can be hard to deal with… Angels can u please help me with these trifles bills that they are paid on time painlessly and feel goodlly and funly? thanks… thank you angels…

    i fele moved pinching one side of nose, one side under arm. and watery eyes… this happens when i try to be a comedian… i feel punished for trying to make jokes and i LIKE my jokes i feel embarassed and i feel rebellious and seems like angry i feel shcoked confused misunderstood i feel icky rejected awful HUMILIATEd i feel bad bad bad… I Feel dejected get away get your hand away from me i will pout with my arms crossed upset dammit and no you cant make me feel better i feel freakin fuckin mad… and upset yes very upset i feel angry angry angry angry

    I feel so interested and proud of my thought process I want to make a book out of it.. i know i will fuckin wanna read that book… i feel worried other mother fuckers wont… whoa i am in my cussing dialect…

    I feel afraid of being judged… i feel guilty… ifeel exposed… i feel and hear judgement… like i must have stunned some people with that language… like oh my how could she … ohhhhh… i feel scaredness of those people judging me… i see them in a big fancy ballroom… i feel inferior… i feel scared… i feel judging of them too… as being snobby and not heartfelt… i feel isolated alieanated… powerless and bad…

    it feels bad… no one like you and all of them looking at you like a scarba… it feels bad and ill never get over it because i am proud i lived it… and i feel frantic and desperate and probably traumatized… and i love my trauma and my unwillingness to let go and i feel so much amusement compassion and love towards myself like a little devil running around throwing tantrums of ill never let go…

    umm i feel gross and like running somewhere to throw up in my imagination…
    cuz i dont want to throw up for real…

    i feel so weird and vulnerable writing this stuff i feel tense in my back… i feel VULNERABLE… i feel like someone could come up and stab me in my huge open palpitating heart in the back open for anyone to touch it and they could jsut stab riht through it and it feels scared like omgod ah ah anyone could come rushign at any time and it feels so freaking scary like they could just stick their finger in your huge heart and freakin stab it its just gooey heartness as big as your back just open and pulsing…

    umm i feel interested… i feel proud of my creativity… i feel squeezed and moved… i feel annoyed

  13.  #13Aggy on June 20, 2009 at 2:28 am

    Rori thanks a lot for your insights
    I want to order for your e-book end of this month
    the modern siren is expensive for me at the moment
    am able to afford for the e-book only, when ordering there is the interview with the expert part which I want to opt out coz I cannot afford it.
    advise me on how to go about it
    thanxxxxxxxx, God bless.


  14.  #14alias girl on June 20, 2009 at 8:19 am

    aggy i feel delighted you are going to get rori’s e book. !! 🙂

    the statements:
    i feel
    i don’t want
    have rocked my world.

  15.  #15alias girl on June 20, 2009 at 8:21 am

    you know, i feel inclined to re read the ebook. there is so much good stuff in it i can probably absorb and utilize even more.

  16.  #16gina on June 20, 2009 at 11:45 am

    Daria, I so feel you on the don’t-wanna-conform-to-boring-oppressive-society-that-is-falling-apart-anyway-so-what-do-they-really-know blues. It’s like, damn. I’d rather lay in the grass and watch the clouds and look at and love flowers, pet a cat and sing to myself. BUT I am reminding myself that I don’t have to worry about society, but God and my life purpose. If I trust my feelings, take action, and look for signs that I am on track, then I know I will experience the invisible hand of God helping me on my way, and THAT is the fulfillment I want. The flowers and the clouds are so appealing cause they are the works of God, and I adore their beauty. But if I’m tuned in, then I experience my own life as a work of God, and it FEELS SO GOOD. Miracles every day. Wildest Dreams coming true. Beyond my wildest dreams, even. Glorious Goodness. I’ve experienced it and I know it’s possible. Experiencing it didn’t keep me from going into the pits pretty shortly after, though. But I don’t think that the point is to avoid suffering – but just to trust that the suffering is their for a reason, and to look for the lesson. I have a lot to be proud of because of the suffering I dealt with in the past. I’ve learned the most from the difficult times. The only thing that I sense could have been different is that I didn’t have to feel alone. And I’ve learned that it isn’t enough to Will, I have to Do. I just though of it like a math problem. Like 2+2=4. But 2+0=2 And WILL+ACTION=RESULTS. But WILL+0=WILL
    I feel a little manly with my math equation there. But I also feel reassured by it. Thank you to my rational inner man that likes to make sense of the universe for me. But, deeper, I feel triggered by Daria’s post. Cause I can relate to the thoughts and the feelings expressed. And it makes me angry at the thoughts that I have which lead to the feelings of impotence and unworthiness that she described. My inner man is saying to me: “You have to earn your self esteem. And you can’t expect the universe to do more for you than you are willing to do for yourself.” But that feels empowering for me right now. Like, easy breezy. Just do stuff. Sometimes I judge myself in this crazy way: like I’m asking God whether I am a being worthy of love and success. And I hope that God will answer me by just giving it to me. It doesn’t work like that, cause then I would have been given what I don’t deserve, and I wouldn’t feel worthy, and what I want is the experience of worthiness. And I can experience Worthiness by offering something, and getting what I value in return (Love/Success). But, that’s not entirely true, because, as an instrument of God, I am inherently worthy. But until I EXPERIENCE myself as an instrument of God, I don’t know what I am or what I’m worth. I feel my heart buzzing and I feel good.

  17.  #17Nikita on June 20, 2009 at 1:34 pm

    Alias girl,

    I feel like rereading the book to. I’ve been feeling that for a week now. Thank you for bringing up that excellent idea, I feel in tune and more inspired to read it now 🙂
    Nikita xx

  18.  #18Daria on June 20, 2009 at 4:23 pm

    I am asking people for help with my business…

    I got a great idea to put out a craigslist add for business interns…

    then I can have the interns do my ads and business tasks
    I’m gonna do it now


    Thank you Angels and Goddesses

  19.  #19Rori Raye on June 20, 2009 at 9:31 pm

    Aggy – hi, and the book is the basis for everything, so yes, start with that, it will help you tremendously…and here’s how the Interview Series works…you can say “yes” when you get a program or the book, and then you get the great Christian Carter interview, and the interview for that month for free – but then, if you don’t want to keep getting them the next month and thereafter, you have to cancel – and I know it’s easy to forget to do that – so just read what the boxes say, and say “no” to the series…If you goof and let it go with the “yes” – you can always cancel within the month, no harm done…I wanted to make all this as easy for you as possible, to try things out, see what works for you, and not feel pressured – only helped and supported. I love the Interviews, they’re special because they only come out once and that’s it – no downloads or anything later…and when you want to try it out, know you can always change your mind. You’ll know what’s coming up because I’ll send you an eletter – and if the Expert I’m interviewing or the topic itself really sings to you, you can try it out that month. Love, Rori

  20.  #20Linda G on June 21, 2009 at 3:05 pm

    I haven’t been posting or redaing much since I was so triggered by the male entries on the other blog entries and their associations,
    Rori, I am so glad I happened on this, I loved watching the video, seeing each hosts physical responses and listening to their reactions was quite telling.

    I just watched a movie with Penelope Cruz called Woman on Top. she is a total magnetic siren and her vibe is visibly and magically represented.
    All the men in the film are completely captivated by her vibe, her lusciousness and passionate nature. you must check it out.

  21.  #21Daria on June 21, 2009 at 3:11 pm






  22.  #22Linda G on June 21, 2009 at 3:18 pm


    Didn’t you just love it when they had her sensuality just vaporized and intoxicating everyone?!
    Plus the mermaid theme……….

    what a gorgeous film!

  23.  #23Daria on June 21, 2009 at 3:19 pm

    Omg Linda… I Loved the magic feeling of it… I decided I want that magic in my life and I am going to move to Brasil

  24.  #24Chanel on June 21, 2009 at 4:56 pm

    Hi Rori,
    I just saw this interview, I had never seen you speak so that was a treat.

    I’m not sure how I felt watching those gorgeous women explain that they have the same problems with men than we do… on the one hand I felt like “wow, so this problem has nothing to do with looks”, on the other hand I felt sad, like “wow, so if that gorgeous woman can’t do it, what hope do I have?”.

  25.  #25alias girl on June 21, 2009 at 8:26 pm

    i feel love and swoon over penelope cruz. she is so sireney. i definitely want to see that movie now!

    i feeeeeelllll good when i watch penelope cruz.

  26.  #26Jennifer on September 9, 2009 at 11:38 am

    Just wanted to run my proposed card/note by you before I send it.

    “Hi, I know I called you the other day, but maybe you are not ready to talk. And I respect that. I know right now you must be very angry and frustrated with me and I can’t and don’t expect forgiveness. And this apology is actually somewhat selfish, in that I am doing this for me, so that I can put the past, where it belongs, in the past. I wanted to apologize for behaving so badly during our relationship and after. I felt insecure and so I was needy and clingy. I felt like my only redeeming qualities were my generosity and helpfulness and so I was controlling. I used guilt trips and tried to change you when things didn’t seem to be going well. And I made you feel bad when I wasn’t happy. You aren’t responsible for me feeling happy, I am. I feel badly that I didn’t let you know that I heard what you were saying. I know in the past you said that you thought I was creating my own problems sometimes. To be perfectly frank, I just wasn’t able to figure out how to change that until now. I spent so much time holding onto the past that I kept doing the same things over and over again. I finally realized that I needed to let go of the past so I won’t miss out on the future. There is much more to me than what I do for other people. The past is, just that, the past, I don’t regret it, the parts that were good, were wonderful, the parts that were bad, I’ve chalked up to experience.

  27.  #27Rori Raye on September 9, 2009 at 1:51 pm

    Jennifer, this is a lovely note – though very, very self-blaming and self-beating up — you have WAY more great qualities than the ones you describe as ‘redeeming.”
    This is okay to send if it makes you feel better about the ‘ending” — but absolutely don’t send it if there’s a shred of you that hopes he’ll read this and want to try again with you. If you can send this out and not expect anything…that’s fine. Otherwise, don’t send it. Love, Rori

  28.  #28Jennifer on September 9, 2009 at 2:03 pm

    Can you help me with something to want to try again with me?

  29.  #29Jennifer on September 10, 2009 at 7:32 am

    Can you help me with a letter to get him to want to try again with me? Right now I can’t even get him to look at me. He won’t take my calls. Though I only called once in the last two weeks and he wasn’t home but his parents were supposed to give him the message. I had given him some space after two months of driving him crazy with texts and calls none of which he responded to. Can’t say I blame him though, I appeared desperate in them in looking back. Every time he sees me he turns away and I really do love him, I am not sure how to reach him though. He broke up with me in April as I said I had been needy, clingy and pushy and worse yet he was suffering from depression at the time. He was acting angry towards me and I said to him if you want me to leave you alone for a couple of days, that’s okay. He told me he would have to think about it and then two days later he broke up with me. Now he is back to work and doing much better now and I really would like to get him back. I know I screwed up but I am not sure how to make him see that my intentions were well meaning.

  30.  #30Jennifer on September 11, 2009 at 11:06 am

    Jennifer says:
    Can you help me with a letter to get him to want to try again with me? Right now I can’t even get him to look at me. He won’t take my calls. Though I only called once in the last two weeks and he wasn’t home but his parents were supposed to give him the message. I had given him some space after two months of driving him crazy with texts and calls none of which he responded to. Can’t say I blame him though, I appeared desperate in them in looking back. Every time he sees me he turns away and I really do love him, I am not sure how to reach him though. He broke up with me in April as I said I had been needy, clingy and pushy and worse yet he was suffering from depression at the time. He was acting angry towards me and I said to him if you want me to leave you alone for a couple of days, that’s okay. He told me he would have to think about it and then two days later he broke up with me. Now he is back to work and doing much better now and I really would like to get him back. I know I screwed up but I am not sure how to make him see that my intentions were well meaning. I want him to see that I have changed, I am much more self-confident.

  31.  #31Rori Raye on September 11, 2009 at 11:56 am

    Jennifer…reaching out to him now will only make this worse. Please leave him alone and start dating other men. Calling and texting a man non-stop to try to get him to love you more is just about the worst thing you can do. It’s really just like “stalking,” and that’s exactly the way a man feels it. You cannot overturn that by doing it again. Even one letter would be doing it again. You can only change things by becoming independent and giving up that chasing behavior forever. Love, Rori

  32.  #32Jennifer on September 11, 2009 at 12:56 pm

    Well, I am a little bit bothered by your response. I haven’t been stalking him at all we broke up about 5 months ago. I texted and called him about every day for 1 and 1/2 weeks then I called and texted maybe 3 or 4 times total over the next 5 weeks. Although, not politically correct, I think this is a natural response after 20 + years. Then I sent him a text telling him I needed to work on myself and would contact him when I was ready and for the last three months haven’t texted or called or anything in fact, I even started taking a different route to work and to everywhere from my house so that we could both have some space so I could work on my own issues. He lives right around the corner! Periodically during that time, I would see him on a connecting street and if he noticed me he would turn away. Or I would run into him at the local Turkey Hill and I wouldn’t go in until he left and if he saw me he would turn away. I even switched grocery stores in order to give us both some space. I hardly call that stalking and now I am trying to reconnect with him. I made one call in the last three months when I was finally ready about 2 weeks ago and you think that is stalking? So how do you reconnect without contact? Are you saying you just don’t?

  33.  #33forrgettmenott on October 16, 2009 at 11:27 am

    Dear Rori,

    On behalf of all women, I want to say thank you for sharing your painful experiences with us and providing us the tools to help us have the relationships we want. What a wonderful world it would be if it had more people like you in it.
    It is sad how easy it is to destroy one’s self esteem and confindence in such a short period of time and yet how difficult it is to find someone that can help you rebuild it. The cost of a good therapist is not even an option in todays economy and for some of us it is impossible to rebuild it by ourselves. I have a large notebook with your ebook and all of your helpful articles that I use on a daily basis. I almost gave up on hope to find someone that was able and willing to help me and than I found you. It just seems like I cannot work fast enough. I have noticed some positive changes, but with so much damage, I am certain it is going to take some serious time and work before I even scratch the surface. I read about your other programs and I know they are probably filled with more inspiring tools, but like I said before, in todays economy that is not an option for me right now. So I remain thankful for what I have instead of complaining of what I have not and the rest I just wing it.
    I look forward everyday to your emails and how I may be able to apply it to my situation.
    Well I don’t want to take up much more of your time as I know you are extremely busy, plus my situation is not a healthy one of five years so it would take me a lot of time to be able to put into words all that I have been dealing with and who really wants to do that??? However, if you have any suggestions that might be helpful I would be forever thankful.
    And again, given my situation it was a blessing that I found your site and all that it has to offer.
    It is not everyday that we get the opportunity to meet people like you, but when we do, it makes the world a better place for each of us. Thank you for the difference you make and the hearts you have touched.

    Warm regards,

  34.  #34Rori Raye on October 16, 2009 at 10:11 pm

    Forrgettmenott, Welcome…and please, please take advantage of us all here and tell us everything you want to say. We are all about learning to be more focused on ourselves, and that requires trying on a bit of what might seem “selfish” to us, too…and then putting that together with curiousity and compassion, and all the qualities we LIKE in ourselves along with embracing all the parts of ourselves we find “ugly” and unpleasant. It’s all part of the journey, and you’ll move so much faster if you USE every opportunity to practice. That’s what we’re here for, so let us hear it ALL! Also…there’s so much in the book …if you really, really do the writing and practicing, you’ll see so much change for you. On this blog…look for the posts (start with the oldest one first)) in Power & Self Esteem so you can practice “riffing.” This will help you love yourself more and work through your trauma responses more quickly…Love, Rori

  35.  #35Joyelle on January 18, 2010 at 10:24 am

    What about men with alcohol addictions? My boyfriend is a recovering alcoholic and has been doing well with it, but he’s still an alcoholic. Is he off limits?

  36.  #36Rori Raye on January 18, 2010 at 11:23 am

    Joyelle, Welcome…and nearly everyone is a recovering something. If he’s truly recovered, disciplined, on the spiritual journey that AA is all about…he’s not off limits. Just watch for other addictions to show up in alcohol’s place…and again…no exclusivity. Circular Date! Love, Rori

  37.  #37Amanda on April 29, 2012 at 4:00 pm


    I wish I could meet you in person to give you a huge hug. I recognize your tools from cognitive behavioral therapy (the kind of theraphy I had for Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder as a teen.) Breathing techniques, mental imagery, etc. It really helps. I’m pretty sure the people using your techniques are lengthening their lives by cutting down on worry and fear and opening up to light and love.
    One of my problems before I started your program(s) was the fact I was “OCD”-ing about every guy I’d dated. Sleepless nights wondering what could possibly be goping on..if it was good, I’d worry it would stop, if it was bad, I’d go into insanity mode, and keep doing the same thing expecting different results. I sure am glad I found you. Now after the hard years of being a “crumb taker” I am going with the flow of life and boy does it feel good, I have many dates and a few crushes and the world just feels like my oyster 🙂
    One thing that has come up is I am unsure I am ready for a huge commitment which is bizarre because before I started your program I was all for it. I had something traumatic happen last year and am still healing from it so I am a little frightened of commitment. I am curious as to how the specifics of how healing through these methods works. Do we really have to skip being a girlfriend? I am still pretty confused about that part; so it’s like, the label thing is what confuses me. I want a label of closeness to him, but I’m not ready to be married quite yet. That’s usually girlfriend, but I don’t want to be at his mercy as you say. I’m pretty confused, if you could help me straighten that out a little I’d be ever grateful. Again, thank you dearly and I hope you and yours are well.

    much love

    Amanda S.

  38.  #38Rori Raye on May 1, 2012 at 9:16 am

    Amanda – if marriage isn’t something you want right now – girlfriend is great – as long as you’re not fooling yourself! Most of us say one thing, tell ourselves things, but don’t really feel, deep down, what we’re telling ourselves. Girlfriend is a huge commitment – only without the extra level of faith and security marriage gives you. It’s all about what feels good to YOU. Love, Rori