A Note From the Universe

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I know you’re likely getting these yourself now, but I just loved this Note from the Universe from wwwTut.com

“What if (put your name here…) the coolest person on the planet didn’t know they were the coolest person on the planet?

Just because of a few self doubts, a few trace fears, or the occasional twang of inadequacy.

Or because they somehow thought fame, or wealth, or popularity mattered. Or because they just didn’t know the effect they had on others.

It would be a pity, huh? An absolute travesty. And of course, telling them wouldn’t achieve much because they’d never believe you.


They’d be too modest to accept it.

Too naïve to believe it.

And too cool to think it mattered.

So… well… ah… let’s just leave it at that –

Please think as highly of yourself as you possibly can.

Because no matter how high that is you will still undershoot the truth… it’s just a time-space thing…

The Universe”

From Rori – So — let this percolate inside you a bit today…are you undershooting your magnificence? Are you letting your fear of the incredible new world of love and success and things beyond your imagination right now, and way beyond your control make you want to hide in the thought that you are somehow “small” and “not enough”?

I’ll be working on this alongside you today…

Love, Rori

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  1.  #1Wonder Woman on June 26, 2010 at 3:15 pm

    “What if “Wonder Woman” the coolest person on the planet didn’t know they were the coolest person on the planet?

    He he….well we can’t have that..!!

    Wonder Woman by name……Wonder Woman by nature. 🙂

  2.  #2sofie on June 26, 2010 at 7:14 pm

    Let them build elaborate nests, puff their chests and display their plumage …. dance before us to attract our favour. This is the way of Nature …. lean your magnificent selves back, Ladies! Be patient. Blend a margarita and relax.

  3.  #3Tina on June 26, 2010 at 10:15 pm

    Every day is a whoohoo day! 🙂

  4.  #4EternalOptimist on June 27, 2010 at 8:37 am

    Life is beautiful..
    I feel so blessed.
    I thank God everyday for..
    ..all of you sirens
    ..hearts that heal
    ..self esteem that’s rising
    ..meeting new men
    ..learning to love right
    ..growing confidence
    ..our feminine power and learning to use it
    ..healthy boundaries
    ..feeling desirable again
    ..stories that enlighten
    ..stories that empower
    ..stories that give hope
    ..stories that teach lessons
    ..knowing that I’ll never be thesame again.
    Truly, His grace is sufficient for me and for all who need it.
    Have a blessed Sunday to all.
    I appreciate you all.

  5.  #5Rori Raye on June 27, 2010 at 10:09 am

    sofie – this is a lovely image – makes it so much easier to appreciate a man no matter what he does to try to impress us – even if it doesn’t look impressive to us at first ..Love, Rori

  6.  #6Jennifer on June 27, 2010 at 4:22 pm

    I love the image of them building nests. This makes me happy.
    I have been tooling around all weekend listening to abraham -hicks.
    This also makes me happy.
    I won $20 in the lottery. Good. Bought fudge. Good. Saw a bear cub. Super cool.
    Dreamed I had sex with the judo instructor…hmmm…slightly concerning. Now I worry that I’ll be all blushing around him now. Tee heee tee heeee.
    Told B in that I wanted questions. He was good for two emails. then didn’t send another. I said I was dissapointed he said he was formulating another email cause it was hard to ask so many questions.
    I felt annoyed. Then decided not to be too preoccupied with things I don’t like.
    This makes me happy.

  7.  #7Jennifer on June 27, 2010 at 6:47 pm

    Hmmm……….maybe I’m doing the tools wrong.
    I had a date on Wed. I had a nice time. We talked over natchos..about our families, jobs etc.
    Half way through I thought…I would let this guy kiss me.
    We went to the parking lot after..I went to shake his hand..he drew me in for a hug..we got to cheek kiss. I was pretty happy about that..but could not seem to melt. I made the mistake of leaning forward. I emailed him at eharmony. I haven’t heard back. I said it felt good to meet face to face.
    I think maybe it didn’t go through on eharmony. I haven’t heard from him.
    And there are two more that seemed to have dried up as well.
    does this happen to anyone else?
    Does the river of men ebb and flow?
    Do they fade away?

  8.  #8joan on June 27, 2010 at 7:04 pm

    Holy Cannoli,

    Is Rori moonlighting for Tarot.com now? I just read my “love” horoscope for the coming week:

    Weekly Love Horoscope
    Capricorn (Dec 22 – Jan 19)

    For the Week of Jun 28th, 2010 — Spontaneity is the key to your success this weekend. The Moon’s entry into impulsive Aries could make you feel rushed, but slowing down is not an option if you want to stay in the game. Taking risks by showing feelings that you’ve kept to yourself could be a little embarrassing at first. However, the truth will not only set you free but also makes you more appealing and approachable.

    Hmmm … synchronicity … my note from the universe?

  9.  #9joan on June 27, 2010 at 7:25 pm

    Jennifer — Don’t really have any feedback for you on that River of Men. I feel curious, though, whether you do the Dance Position and Shoulder Softening as you are standing there. Could you feel comfortable to just wait for his initiative rather than extending your hand to shake his? If he makes no move, could you just Step Back and/or Turn Around and Walk Away without any physical contact?

    (Oh, for the days of the old movies … if you had extended your hand to shake his, a gallant leading man would have turned it over and kissed the back of it. )

  10.  #10Jennifer on June 27, 2010 at 7:48 pm

    are those in modern siren? I don’t have that program yet….
    Can you describe those?

  11.  #11mary on June 27, 2010 at 7:50 pm


    Just let them go. Yes, there is an ebb and a flow, just as there is in every aspect of life. And there will be a man who is Into You.

    You want a man who’s Into You to introduce to your family.

    You want a man who’s Into You to dress for every day.

    You want a man who’s Into You so you can feel free to share your innermost feelings.

    You want a man who’s Into You to brush your teeth with.

    You want a man who’s Into You to step in to the intimate details of your home life.

    You want a man who’s Into You to pillow talk with at night.

    You want a man who’s Into You to share your life with.

  12.  #12mary on June 27, 2010 at 7:52 pm

    It seems like this blog is all about trying to figure out how to get the men we’re into to be Into Us.

    And maybe Rori’s trying to tell us that that doesn’t work.

    We have to just keep on going, keep on putting ourselves out there and keep on living our fabulous lives and let those guys who’re Not Into Us go.

    Just let them go.

    That’s all there is to it.

    (I think…)

  13.  #13Jennifer on June 27, 2010 at 7:53 pm

    Hi Mary]
    Yes, yes I do.
    That and much more.
    I feel better to hear about the ebb and flow.
    I worry that I’m not “doing it right” all the time.
    Even in Judo…there are a thousand ways to defend. I keep asking if what I’m doing is right. The instructor says to stop second guessing myself.

  14.  #14Jennifer on June 27, 2010 at 7:56 pm

    Maybe that’s why I dreamed I slept with him. Maybe I’m not trying to get him into me…maybe I’m trying to get the philosophy into me.

  15.  #15joan on June 27, 2010 at 9:00 pm

    Jennifer – I don’t have any of Rori’s programs, not even the ebook, so I only know what I’ve read in the blogs/comments and eletters. As far as I’ve read, they are as follows:

    Dance Position – Stand with one foot behind the other and turned outward (about 45 degrees) for balance. Lean back slightly with more weight supported by the foot/leg in back than in front, but not so much as to be off balance. I’m guessing that the position probably has its roots in ballet. However, I visualize it best as the “pose” that most female spokesmodels and/or hosts/anchors use when standing (although that modeling pose also emphasizes turning your hips at a certain angle in relation to the camera, too). You can see it modeled by the female “anchors” on Entertainment Tonight, Access Hollywood, etc.

    I see it this way because my class was instructed in “the pose” at a local modeling school during a 7th grade field trip (1970-71) with our Home-Ec teacher. She took us to a modeling school and a medical school that day – both ends of the spectrum. But, I digress . . . .

    Shoulder Softening – With your arms down at your sides, take a deep breath, and as you exhale, let your shoulders rotate down and outward (do not pull them backward as in military attention). If you are doing it correctly, your palms will turn to face forward to some degree, but be sure that the movement is starting from your shoulders, not your arms/hands. It was also mentioned that you may begin to feel sensations in your abdomen or other body areas as you are no longer holding the tension in your shoulders. Over time, you will be able to know when your shoulders are in the softened position regardless of what your arms/hands are doing.

    That’s my take on what I’ve read. If I’ve represented it incorrectly, then hopefully someone with more info/experience will come along and tweak it.

    So far, my baby steps have been in doing the Shoulder Softening since I do tend to carry my shoulders scrunched up to my ears. Next step for me is the Dance Position. Feeling Messages and CDing (the married woman’s way) are still on the horizon . . . one baby step at a time.

  16.  #16joan on June 27, 2010 at 10:34 pm

    Mary – It seems that you are having overall successful results with the Tools, but I’ve also read some of the not-so-long ago comments about Island Man. We’re all taking the journey, and everyone is at a different place – some days we move forward, some days we stand still, and sadly, some days we move backward – but we all learn from each other’s progress and regress.

    As for my journey, am I trying to get the “man I’m into” to be (more) “into me” – YOU BETCHA!!! I’ve been married for 17 years, and my husband does step up in most ways. However, the years of his low sex drive and lack of concern for my needs in that area have been killing both my spirit and my ability to feel love for him. Yet, to literally “let him go” right now does not feel like my “next right thing” to do.

    I respect that any change I make in me will result in some kind of a change in him and that it may not be the change for which I was hoping. I’m working with these Tools to the degree with which I feel I can best manage myself through such changes. I choose to start with allowing my physical presence to influence my energetic/emotional presence. To that end, I’m starting with physically softening up myself (shoulders), and when ready, will move to physically opening up myself (dance position).

    I did do the Softening Shoulders in my therapy session last week, and my therapist noticed right away and asked me, “What just happened with you? I noticed your energy shifted just now.” Of course, he is highly trained, acutely observant, and extremely empathetic, so I wasn’t surprised that he noticed. Yet, it was still a moment of great positive reinforcement for me. I want more of those moments in order to feel confident to take the next step(s). For instance, it might initially feel safer for me to practice Feeling Messages with my therapist instead of my husband.

    Meanwhile, I am still trying to figure out how to comfortably CD “married woman style” because flirting was never my strong suit even when I was single. I also don’t trust my own Boundaries right now. I am feeling so starved for sexual attention that I fear I could baby step myself right of a high cliff.

    Ultimately, my journey is not anyone else’s. I get to map the course, and even take some wrong turns now and then.

    Visioning success for everyone on this journey,

  17.  #17joan on June 27, 2010 at 11:09 pm

    Oops, missed a typo … “right off a high cliff”

  18.  #18Tina on June 28, 2010 at 12:59 am

    Im not sure if “digging in your heels” is leaning back hehe. yeah i guess it kinda is. I feel that way, not digging in my heels in an attack way , just digging in my feminine heels 🙂 weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! hell on heels

  19.  #19Daria on June 28, 2010 at 2:53 am

    I’m using a great tool i put together from an e-letter…

    that is that a man will show he’s into me unless he’s purposely trying to “play it cool”

    so now when i’m walking toward a guy, or getting in and out of the car, a lil bit awkward feeling moments…

    i just assume he’s “playing it cool” right now, and that instantly i feel more relaxed cuz i know whats going on and i feel safe

  20.  #20Jilly on June 28, 2010 at 4:49 am

    I love that Daria..that feels much better than assuming something else

  21.  #21Jennifer on June 28, 2010 at 6:03 am

    Daria…….I love that!!
    I can assume that military communications guy is playing it cool not email me about our date on Thurs.
    This feels much better than feeling like he didn’t like me.

  22.  #22dorothea on June 28, 2010 at 6:38 am

    Oh Sirens, I had a rough weekend. I have terrible allergies and it turned into an asthma attack. I have never had asthma before and I think I have really been taking breathing for granted. On Saturday I was really suffering from allergies…it felt like I had the flu and I felt miserable, and when I took some benadryl and woke up a couple of hours later, I couldn’t breathe at all! My lungs felt like I had fiery bricks in them. My LI called and heard how awful I sounded and ran over to my house faster than a lightning bolt and took me to urgent care. I was feeling freaked out because I don’t have health insurance and urgent care costs 125 dollars just to get in there wth the doctor, but the doctor gave me a prescription for an inhaler and a steroid and I am starting to feel MUCH better but I feel worried that I am not going to be able to participate in two 5k races I signed up for.

    I love breathing. I have been taking my breathing for granted. I don’t really smoke cigarettes because I quit in February, but I smoke from time to time, and I’m not sure I will ever do that again. I love you, lungs!!

  23.  #23Jilly on June 28, 2010 at 8:22 am

    Sirens…I am feeling so many emotions…uggggh!!! I took the day off from work because I need to go get a new battery for my car…but I feel like my heart needs more fixing than my car…and nothing has really happened for me to be experiencing all these unpleasant overwhelming icky yucky emotions…I love my unpleasant overwhelming icky yucky emotions.

  24.  #24Jilly on June 28, 2010 at 8:24 am

    I feel like I’m drowning in my own soup of emotions…is that possible? what is that? I feel that I’m about to feel so much that I won’t be able to take it…not sure that I’ve ever felt that way before. I want to feel safe and secure and happy and right now I feel sad and super vulnerable

  25.  #25Jilly on June 28, 2010 at 8:44 am

    ok…I think I’ve figured it out…I’ve been reading through some older posts and one that really hit home with me was one about core sadness vs wounded sadness…and yesterday at work (I work with mostly males) I went on an errand with this male coworker and he started talking about how everything has changed and that you can’t be mean to people anymore, there’s no punishment; you can’t tell people the truth if it’s mean and i felt yucky. He wants to be able to punish people. I showed up late (I called though) because my car wouldn’t start and he said that everybody should have been doing push-ups until I got there. I felt icky hearing that. I feel that it’s barbaric …I didn’t know what to say to that. I feel sad that people want to be mean to other people.

  26.  #26mary on June 28, 2010 at 9:20 am

    Jilly, it sounds like you’re having a black day? I used to feel like that and I think it was all about hormones… could it be something biological like that?

  27.  #27mary on June 28, 2010 at 9:21 am

    Jilly and Dorothea!

    i hope you both feel better soon…

  28.  #28mary on June 28, 2010 at 9:24 am

    i want to explain myself to a guy that i went out with. i talked a lot about my past adventures that were high $ adventures, and he has had difficulty with finances for years… he’s just getting out of debt. it was insensitive on my part, but i thought he’d understand because they were music related, and he’s really into music and musicians… i want to contact him, but i’ll probably wait to see if he contacts me first.

    what if he was turned off and never contacts me again?

  29.  #29Jilly on June 28, 2010 at 9:39 am

    Thanks Mary…yes…I feel like it’s definitely hormone related too…it’s a black day.

    I would not contact him…I totally understand though. it’s tough when you think you might have said the wrong thing…I’m feeling that way myself actually right now about someone.

  30.  #30Mel on June 28, 2010 at 11:08 am

    Hi all, I’m wondering if someone here can help me. I am fairly new to these blogs and I’m not sure where to submit this to get comments. I’m sorry if I am off subject, but any advice would be welcome.

    I am in a 2 year relationship, I do love this man and there is no question that he loves me. However, I am not necessarily attracted or connected to him, he’s not bad looking or anything he’s just not stimulating or desirable TO ME (I don’t get that tingly feeling when I’m with him) it’s more comfort and stability in knowing he’s there for me no matter what. I feel in love with him for who he is and how well he treats me.

    When I think back about what my life was like in a 17 year bad marriage, I appreciate what this man has to offer. After my divorce, I knew I wanted someone that I connected to in many ways. I wanted companionship, compatibility, same interests, all the things we all want, but I feel like it’s a trade off. My marriage had a lot of desire (at least in the beginning) but we didn’t have everything else.

    Now I have everything else and not the attraction, desire, chemistry, passion or excitement and now I’m starting to question our relationship. I’ve just always thought that you should be able to have it all in order to be successful in a relationship. I know how hard it is to find someone that has all the wonderful qualities you want and also wants you. I’m afraid that I’m going to lose a great guy, but I’m also afraid if I stay I will eventually want to leave anyway. I just don’t feel that connection with him that I so strongly desire.

    So my questions are:
    1. Can you get that “intimate connection or passion” even if it was NEVER there? I thought that it would come with time.
    2. Am I being selfish, am I expecting too much?
    3. I risk losing a man who loves me and spend time searching for a man that has all the things I want, which I may never find?
    4. Am I settling if I stay?
    5. Is it fair to him or myself if I stay and I don’t feel it?

    I would appreciate any comments.

  31.  #31Daria on June 28, 2010 at 1:28 pm

    oh wow I feel surprised and happy that you guys like that tool – for me, it also brings out my compassion… i feel instantly compassionate for him like a human being with insecurities who isn’t always poised in those getting out the car moments either

    so i just feel good all around

    ive been “getting out there” circular dating, mostly due to my HUGE EFFORT to meet men, including driving to them.

    however this experiment is working kind of cool… i’ve decided its cool to go meet men especially if thers the opportunity to meet MORE Men… i really want to meet more PEOPLE in general and have a more active social life, so i’m going to do that, while checking out my feelings the whole way – i’m pretty good at that part,

    it’s not a lil bit tough to let go of – he “should’ve” bought me that – an experience with a certain man, and just check how i feel in general…

    weird stuff


    i told a man the other nite after he was pressuring me for sex and very rude –

    him text “get your mind right before you talk to me next time ” (referring to me inviting him and a friend to my girl’s house in the middle of the nite, and not having sex with him)

    me text: “me and you are 2 dif . give your friend my number”

    LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL!!!!!! i felt afraid to say this because in a way it was a diss but also i was serious because his friends, though also rude, seemed to havea possibility of being less rude, and they were all gawking at me the whole day – im pretty sure they would have known how to treat a woman

    so then i get the text

    ” he’s just going to do the same thing so”

    me “ok”

    him “you’re wack, im not giveing nobody any no number”

    me : “lol”

    him: “jus fuck off and delete my number you are too slow for me”

    me: “ok. lol.”


    when i get home, cuz i was using my girls phone

    theres a text

    “i like you . but you gotta make your mind up if you want to be my lady. let me know”


    so much for giving his patna my number

    anyway the next day i told him i liked him too and i watn to be his friend of the woman he wants but im not gonna let him treat me less than that. and taht im mad and i know if its going to change. and if hes not feeling me then let someone else.

    well hes texting me ok wel’ll see
    and whatsup

    but rite now i feel blah about it

    but im definitely going out and meeting people everyday

    ive bene going to the park, all the time, being out, smoking a lot – which is startin to make me sleepy, etc etc

    it feels nice to be out the house, i also feel kind of anxious in the morning

  32.  #32mary on June 28, 2010 at 1:43 pm


    I used to keep track and put those black days on my calendar so I’d know what was going on when suddenly everything, everywhere seemed hopeless. Just knowing helped so much! I’d know that my perspective was only temporary… !!!

  33.  #33Lizzie on June 28, 2010 at 2:57 pm

    oh I am feeling so sad and frustrated today as well – full moon – eclipse moon tonight?

    I have all these transitional issues going on in my life and am feeling so overwhelmed, powerless, discouraged, and even blazé. I am feeling sad that I played golf with a guy I met only to find out he is married – yuck. I haven’t heard from Family Guy in a while – he has hid himself again on POF and I don’t know if he is interested in me at all or if he has found someone else all the while I was reading such strong positive signals from him – well maybe he really is just so busy at work and he has his young children 50% of the time, school is just wrapping up and one child is severely disabled. My work projects aren’t progressing at the pace that I want them to progress, and this leaning back is so difficult – I feel like calling people and banging their heads together! These are such powerful feelings! These tighten up my belly and that travels up my shoulders and they sqrinch into my ears and I can feel it in my jaw. I can channel that energy into two projects for tomorrow….oh I love my powerful “do” energy! I can do and do and feel satisfied that I am ready for tomorrow – then I can just relax and knit later tonight…

  34.  #34dorothea on June 28, 2010 at 4:05 pm

    i feel so proud that through all my wheezing and shortness of breath i helped move my organization’s office up three levels to the new office space WITHOUT the help of my boss. yeah, take that, asthma!!!!

  35.  #35Jennifer on June 28, 2010 at 8:10 pm

    I am starting nights tonight. I feel nervous about that. The last time I did nights I Was sick.
    My dad is doing the drunken hover. I don’t mind the hover..it;s the drunken part that bothers me.
    I got an email from professional listener guy.
    He was away all weekend and went to a concert on Sun night.
    I feel kinda happy he emailed me. I was feeling bad about leaning forward. But he says he had a nice time too and would like to get together again.
    So I feel a bit smilie.
    Yeah for me!!!

  36.  #36Jilly on June 28, 2010 at 8:24 pm

    thanks mary…even when I know its hormones I still resist it…what did you decided to do about the guy? I’m interested…

    Lizzie…I’m right there too…I swear I get these strong “i like you feelings from the guy” and then seriously in like one second the whole energy changes…and I’m left with “huh?”

  37.  #37Mystyk on June 28, 2010 at 10:17 pm

    Lizzie – I knit too – I find that it really helps me process and cool down.

    Everyone: I have been really trying the leaning back thing with my LI but I keep goofing it up. I am very okay with using feeling messages, so no problems there. But it is the talking on the phone to my LI where I tend to really lean forward. Does anybody else have a problem with the phone? I feel I lean forward because I can’t read the face or body info, and get nervous when there is dead space. Any ideas that could help me with this?


  38.  #38Rori Raye on June 29, 2010 at 9:35 am

    Mel, Welcome – and this is an amazing question – I’m going to use it all in a post and go into detail with my answer. For now — you, based on the history you’re telling us – have no idea what intimacy is. Therefore, you’ve never experienced the liberation and sexual feelings that can be engendered by intimacy. So my guess is – you’re not allowing yourself to be EMOTIONALLY intimate with this man – because that’s where the sexual and sensual feelings come from – feeling KNOWN and SEEN. Please don’t give up on this until you’ve really discovered where you’re holding back emotionally and start to let your inner self come out more. If, after you’ve done all you can do with this (and it’s a lifetime project – I know this personally), you still feel nothing but friendship – the choice is yours about what kind of life you want. “Chemistry” is inextricably tied to our past, the training our bodies and hormones have had…and you will have to “right” what is not working for you there. Try not to worry about it for a bit – and just work on the vulnerability part. Love, Rori

  39.  #39Mel on June 29, 2010 at 10:17 am

    Well, Rori thank you for your comments. However, I now have another issue related to this. This weekend, before I wrote the comment above.

    I had a very emotional talk with my partner and I explained to him how I was feeling. As I said he is a wonderful man and we talked for most of the weekend as to if we should stay together or end it. He is willing to do anything to safe our relationship and last night he told me that we will need to do whatever it takes and he wants to marry me (not now) because we some other things to take care of first. This is really unrelated but just to let you know it relates to us each having a house and the market for selling is just not very good right now and I was recently laid-off. But anyway, back to my issue. I believe I know what intimacy is because I did feel it with one man in my life, which I actually wrote you about a couple weeks ago, (who is pursuing me again). However, I left him out of this comment because you told me that I need to focus on the man who loves me and who is THERE. So I feel like I know what intimacy is, but I have never felt it with my current partner. So now I have the dilemma of what to do about this man that is now talking about getting married. I know he must be afraid of losing me and now he is trying to “step up” but I just can’t get past not having this “connection” with him. Please help I don’t want to hurt this man and I don’t want to settle if it’s not right for me!

    Thank you for your time.

  40.  #40Brenda on June 29, 2010 at 10:52 am

    Hi Mel!

    I feel intriqued about what Rori is going to say when she goes into depth about this. It is a major question I’ve had now and then, too.

    Where I am at now in my growth is that I believe you will always long for what you know could have been. I mean, if you don’t feel a deep connection now, imagine how disappointed and bored with the relationship you will feel 10 years from now!

    I tried to “settle”, after several friends told me I’d never find my ideal. I am thankful I have a second chance. Because I know a deeper, more sensitive, more intellegent man will be more intriguing in a long term relationship than another man could ever be. That’s not to say anything against the other man.

    But we don’t have to marry every man we meet. And the rest of our lives is a long time to just settle!

  41.  #41Mel on June 29, 2010 at 11:09 am

    Hi Brenda,

    Thank you for your comment, I am also very anxious to hear what Rori has to say after my last comment. I feel the same way, I’m worried I will marry this man and again he is wonderful, but I am just so fearful I will look back in a few years and regret it or cheat on him, and I don’t want that kind of relationship. I don’t want to hurt anyone or myself.

    I feel I have a connection with this other man that I mentioned and if you’re interested in reading my original story it is under the blog heading “Don’t get hung up on him, even if you slept with him” #161.


  42.  #42Brenda on June 29, 2010 at 11:16 am


    Okay, I will have more time later to go back and read it. I met a community leader about 5 years ago, and, altho he was married, he forever changed the way I will look at men. He remains the best man I’ve ever met. I don’t mean any harm on his relationship. I just saw the whole package there. And once my eyes were opened to that (and my skin, ears, heart…no I never had an affair with him, but I could tell in the way he hugged me and spoke with me that he felt the same way!) I knew I could never settle for just any man again.

    So my ideals are right back in place, even stronger than before!

  43.  #43Mel on June 29, 2010 at 11:30 am


    Yeah I know what you mean, this other man had the very same affect on me and it’s hard to go back after you feel like that from someone. I just feel like I would be cheating not only myself but my current partner if I don’t feel that connection with him.

    I feel really confused about this situation. It does feel good to talk to someone who can understand.

    Thanks again,

  44.  #44Brenda on June 29, 2010 at 11:38 am


    I don’t mean this as an insult to any man. But the analogy I think of is of a loving dog. I love dogs! But their relationships are limited. They bump me clumsily, they accidentally scratch me now and then. They have gross eating habits, not to mention cleaning habits! 🙂 But they’re cute, soft, warm, furry, loveable, cuddly, and loyal. But that doesn’t mean they can offer enough to replace a marriage relationship.

  45.  #45Mel on June 29, 2010 at 12:27 pm


    Yeah I get what you mean.


  46.  #46stacey-lee on July 2, 2010 at 4:09 am

    going through some stuff and things i am sorting out with my relationships i was with my ex-boyfriend i was with him last for weeks and then i breaked him up and things got heated between us and now this happening with my last long-term relationship with my real boyfriend i have this powerful feelings for him and it’s been coming back to me i can feel it but it won’t stop ever whatsoever
    my real boyfriend is my last he’s my everything i love him and no body else i have stopped flirting with every boys i remember you told me rori about this last of kind of many times so it’s different now nothing won’t do such a thing like that

  47.  #47bra genie on September 8, 2011 at 12:48 pm

    so how about this weather?