A Personal Note To The Brilliant Blog Sirens

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Sirens – as you’ve already noticed, I’m not on here so much anymore because of so many other programs spreading me thin…

…right now, the place I’m focusing on is Siren Island on Facebook, it’s only $29/month, with your first month (for the next week) only $7 (after this week, there’ll be a 7 day try-out period…) and there’s so much happening there.

The big win for me right now is to get all of my coaches activated, working, and spread out among as many women as possible, through the new Siren School.

Because the Rori Raye method of coaching is so unusual, and works so fast, I want to make it available one way or another to as many women as I can…and to make it feasible for the coaches on Siren Island to be paid for their time on the Island.

Through Siren School, I hope to offer private coaching for all women, in several languages, with several specialties so you can find an amazing coach who fits you.

A coach who’s got what you want, and gone through what you’re going through.

And, it’s important to me to provide this level of personal coaching, supervised by me,  at the most affordable rates and in as many ways (private sessions, live online classes, groups…) I can put together…

Hope you’ll jump on the Island, there’s so much going on there that used to go on here…I want to make sure I take care of you, my regulars, the original Sirens!

Love, Rori

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12 Comments

  1.  #1Irka on October 20, 2017 at 2:14 pm

    Dear Rori,
    Thank you so much for the wonderful work you do. I have all your programs and have been practicing your tools. However, I feel I might need additional help with a coach. There is one particular area I seem to struggle with. Past boyfriends and currrent dates, friends and family have told me in various ways that I tend to treat my men like servants, that I am high maintenance, I expect too much, do not show appreciation and do not show affection. I know part of it is being unable to maintain a balance, being afraid of getting close and trully open and show my feelings. If you could please direct me to the right tools or a coach who would be a good fit, I would greatly appreciate it.



  2.  #2mary on October 22, 2017 at 3:51 pm

    Hi Rori,

    I go wayyyyyy back with the blog, and oh my goodness; I hate to see you switching your efforts over to your coaches, but how wonderful for them!

    One thing I wish I could understand more is circular dating. It just doesn’t seem to work for me in this day and age. When I join online dating sites and start working them, going out on dates, the guys watch to see if I’m online, and if I go online after I go out with them, they drop me! It’s a pretty consistent thing. It didn’t happen six or seven years ago, when I was online, but it’s happening now.

    It seems to me that guys are getting a little spoiled, especially as I get a little older, as women will give them whatever they want (sex; no real relationship) and if they don’t get what they want, they just say, “Next.”

    I’ve never had trouble getting a guy. And I’m looking great. (At least my friends, family and the guys I’ve met have said so…) So possibly I’m carrying it too far?

    It seems that the way dating works these days is this:

    Go online
    Get some dates
    Pick one guy
    When it seems like the right time, sleep with him (it seems to be a dealbreaker if you don’t do this)
    EXCLUSIVITY
    Girlfriend
    No commitment
    Wait
    Wait
    Wait
    Wait
    Wait
    for commitment
    which might never come…
    Break up if the waiting becomes unbearable
    (But some of us have long fuses and will wait too, too long!)

    I really like the idea of circular dating, and I see how it could work, if I could only get the guys to keep me in THEIR dating pools long enough. If I don’t become exclusive right away, or if I’m still dating other guys, two weeks into it, they drop me. I’ve had them ask me to be their girlfriend on the first date!

    Is there anyone else reading this? Is this your experience too?

    Or maybe it’s just me?

    I’d so love to know!

    Thank you.

    And Rori, thank you so much for the amazing friends I’ve met here! Dominique, Daria and more… !!! Thank you for all the good advice and for just being a new voice in a world of outdated dating rules! You have such wisdom and I have appreciated reading your blog for so many years.

    Thank you, from the bottom of my heart…

    Love you!

    Mary



  3.  #3IamHis on October 23, 2017 at 6:04 am

    Rori, I signed up for Siren Island and my login information does not work. I feel frustrated and disappointed. Could you please reach out to me to assist with the email address you have on file? I would really appreciate it. Thank you!



  4.  #4Rori Raye on October 23, 2017 at 8:15 pm

    Leah, This is Rori – I saw your comment on the blog, and I know that Melanie has gotten to you and sent you all the materials until we get your login email so we can figure out what went wrong there…also – I can’t find you on Facebook to get you into the group! Can you go to Rori Raye Siren island Membership on Facebook and request to join? You may need to “like” the group. I’ll go there and accept you ASAP – faster if you’ll email me that you’ve sent the request, so I can get there quicker. Love, Rori



  5.  #5IamHis on October 24, 2017 at 2:44 am

    Thank you, Rori. I appreciate it. I do feel a little nervous about privacy. I see that anyone can see who is in the group. Is there a way to make that private as well?



  6.  #6IamHis on October 24, 2017 at 3:04 am

    Does anyone else feel concerned about privacy? I kind of love that I’m really hard to find on Facebook. It makes me feel really safe. Rori, I looked it up, and there is a way for the admin to make it more private. It’s called “secret” groups. But that may not be as good for business. Or maybe it would? Would anyone else feel safer in a secret group as opposed to just a closed group?



  7.  #7IamHis on October 24, 2017 at 11:55 am

    I feel scared of going onto Siren Island unless it is a “secret” Facebook group. If people can see me on the closed group, they can simply google “Rori Raye’s Siren Island” and be taken here, where they can find out who I am. Well, maybe just my first name. But the way I write is so distinct. I paid for Siren Island and I’m still scared of going on there. I feel sad.



  8.  #8Indigo on October 24, 2017 at 9:50 pm

    IamHis & Rori,

    For what it’s worth, and perhaps that’s not much, I won’t be going on Siren Island on Facebook.

    I loved the blog here on the website in its heyday, and I think it’s sad that it’s been neglected and is dying out.

    As for Facebook, I’m not such a fan. I try to limit the amount of time I spend on Facebook because I don’t like its purpose or set up. My Facebook page is set up so that it’s simply a place I can share in an intimate way with people I know well about stuff that’s important to me. So the concept of a Siren Island on Facebook doesn’t appeal to me at all.

    Just my two cents.



  9.  #9IamHis on October 25, 2017 at 2:53 am

    Well, I joined and it feels good so far, but I do feel scared of being “found out.”

    I respect your decision, Indigo, & totally understand. I’m honestly not a huge fan of Facebook because of the lack of privacy.

    I feel sad that you won’t be there, but I don’t plan on neglecting the blog and hope to see you on here still.

    I feel kinda lonely and sad.



  10.  #10Daria on October 27, 2017 at 7:08 pm

    Mary – I would say, be more communicative about what you’re looking for. If a guy drops you without saying anything, he can’t be the kind of man who wants YOU no matter what for a lifetime. The guy is supposed to FEEL it for you and MOVE MOUNTAINS to be with you.

    And so you can say a lot about how you’re looking for forever, and how it feels more old-fashioned and romantic for you to be courted, and how exclusivity is not something you’re looking for until a guy is sure he wants a serious forever thing with you.

    It sounds like you may not be meeting enough men lately… all it takes is one who pursues for a little more than the others to have all these insecurities drop away…



  11.  #11Indigo on October 28, 2017 at 9:56 pm

    mary,

    I echo what Daria has said about being more communicative. I think there’s a terrible clamming up about our true feelings and desires which takes place in the early stages of dating… we feel afraid to rock the boat or that someone will run away, so we keep quiet about what we really want. Or at least I know I did in the past.

    I’ve committed to being more open and honest with guys. In a real way, in a gentle way, in a kind way. But speaking my truth, nonetheless.

    The other thing I would say, Mary, is, if it’s important to you to have a commitment and marriage-oriented man, pay attention to the signs and the little signals. There are a lot of men out there who would want to spend time with us, but a great many of them will not be suitable.

    Over time I’ve developed a whole repertoire of qualities and little signs that I look for which tell me whether or not a man is interested in proper commitment. Consistency and stability are HUGE in my opinion. If a man is prone to flaking or dropping and changing plans, that’s not good. If he communicates with you every day, even if it’s just a single text message, if he makes an effort on dates and to see you, if he’s even tempered, those are all good. Someone who talks about marriage of his own accord, unprompted, who seems to enjoy the idea of being committed, that’s good. Someone who is more focused on himself and his freedom, not so good.

    Evan Marc Katz says we don’t attract the wrong men, we accept the wrong men. I’ve seen so many of my friends try to turn uncommittable men into something they’re not.



  12.  #12Indigo on October 28, 2017 at 10:13 pm

    So I’ve started dating someone really lovely.

    And I wouldn’t say it’s bringing up my anxiety, because my anxiety can surface at any time, with any number of triggers, but it is causing me to look at my anxiety more closely. I’ve lived with anxiety for years, like an old friend, like an ache and pain that you get so used to you almost forget it’s there.

    Over the last couple of years, I’ve got the physical symptoms of my anxiety under control. It no longer takes over and sends me into a panic, I know I will survive and be fine. I’ve got good at following certain steps and knowing what actions to take when I feel anxious too. Making certain kinds of tea, calling certain people, doing exercise, etc. All of that has been immensely helpful, and I’m very proud of myself.

    But I want to go deeper with my anxiety. I want to do more than just control the physical symptoms. I would also like to get the underlying thoughts and feelings and motivations which drive my anxiety under control. I believe it will help me enormously with my relationships and with being kinder to myself. Anxiety causes you to feel and believe all kinds of things which you know are not true and accurate. I’d really like to be able to experience life at a slower pace, and not let my fears take over.

    I know this will help me to appreciate the wonderful man who is in front of me. I think he’s wonderful. It’s early days still, but I like what I see so far.

    For this week, my goal is just to feel and sit with an experience my feelings, no matter how uncomfortable they might be. And not go to my usual coping mechanisms of overthinking, trying to fix and solve things and trying to minimize and suppress my feelings. This week, my goal is just to let myself feel them, until I get comfortable with that. I’ve got so good at pretending things are fine and making them fine that I get totally out of touch with the situation I find myself in. I want to just *experience* moments and situations this week.