Avatar’s Impact: How To Train Like A Na’vi

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This is a post I found on EpicSelf.com by Amber Zuckswert (she’s very cool), and got permission to re-publish:

Toro sashimi dangled from my chopsticks as I sat gingerly on a bar stool gearing up for my much anticipated viewing of Avatar. Since it’s Christmas debut the futuristic Fern Gully has grossed close to $700 million dollars. In Australia there was a 3 month delay in movie releases so I had no idea this flick even existed. After hearing one spectacular review after another I knew I needed to see it in all it’s mind bending glory and spend the $20 bucks on the 3D iMax version. And though my butt lost all feeling at the 2 1/2 hour mark, flying through the rainforest on the back of a technicolor dragon bird pretty much made my week.

While the special effects and imagination behind the film are awe inspiring enough, what excited me the most was the vital ecological message that’s reaching millions. The fact that people from around the globe are beginning to see the significance of our connection to all organisms is incredible. Our ties to the planet and each other is an awareness I am constantly trying to build in myself and spread to others through my writing here on Epicself.

Cultivating mindfulness and awareness with our environment, each other and ourselves is the first seed to sprout mass change. This was the Na’vi’s advantage. Their deep awareness and sensory perception was what the blue humanoids had to teach the human. They had to teach him to see, to feel, to be present.

Here are some easy ways to start your own Na’vi awareness training today:

Awareness with nature:
-Take shoes off and feel the floor. Wiggle your toes in the carpet or brush your sole against the hardwood floor. Become a bare foot walker.
-Open the window and smell the crisp air.
-Go for a walk under trees and look up often.
-Drive by the ocean, lake or river and watch carefully.
-Run on trails, rock climb or go camping.
-Watch the sunrise or sunset.
-Give your pets true attention.

Awareness with others:
-Smile at every person you walk by today.
-Compliment someone and mean it.
-Give hugs and kisses away by the truck loads.
-Learn the art of listening.

Awareness with yourself:
-Take several breaths and just allow the mind to watch.
-Sit still and focus on a single point or object.
-Repeat a positive mantra.
-Try a new fun meditation.
-Do a body scan.
-Use imagery or touch to increase your flexibility.
-Shake it on the dance floor uninhibited until dawn.
-Add Pilates principles to your workout to increase intensity.

What impact did Avatar have on you? I personally walked out of the theater inspired more than ever to promote the benefits of mindfulness and it’s impact on our future. This morning I took a 5 minute shower and walked to the farmers market after a self yoga practice as part of my own “Na’vi” training.

Small steps…small steps.

Lovely post.  There’s no substitute for practice – and to practice all the time, we often need to be reminded.  We need a gentle pat on the shoulder, a little poke in the ribs.  This did it for me today. I’m taking off my shoes and holding my dog close – and then playing what SHE wants to play.

Love, Rori


  1.  #1Amber on March 3, 2010 at 9:09 pm

    thanks for the support Rori! Glad you liked my work 😀

  2.  #2heartbeat on March 4, 2010 at 1:26 am

    Beautiful! Today I shall be Crazy Woman Na’Vi of the Flowery Dress xx

  3.  #3Linda on March 4, 2010 at 6:07 am

    I saw Avitar a few weeks back.

    I cried at the end. I saw the incredible story of two people coming together. The power they both had was increased 100 fold when they joined hearts, souls and minds. Oh the power of two!

    I want a relationship with a man who embraces my power and strength, my wisdom, what I “know” etc to complete what is lacking in him and he in turn will freely gives himself and his power, strength, wisdom etc… to me so that when joined we can accomplish what neither one of us could do on their own.

    Neither one of those the main characters could have accomplished what they did if they had not first surrendered to one another, gained each others strengths. That is how I see relationship between two people being.


  4.  #4heartbeat on March 4, 2010 at 8:40 am

    Linda I feel inspired and curious to go and see the film now! And joyful I made you laugh on the last thread 🙂 xx

  5.  #5Robin on March 4, 2010 at 9:43 am

    I feel silly asking this, but whats a body scan? It is just the same as breathing into every part of our body?

    Got to go see avatar now!!!

  6.  #6Lucy on March 4, 2010 at 1:59 pm

    Robin — Click on the link epicself.com in Rori’s first sentence; it will take you to the original article which includes a link embedded on the term body scan.

    My kids and I saw Avatar over Christmas with seven other relatives — it was awesome!

    Great article — thanks, Amber and Rori!

  7.  #7Blanca on March 4, 2010 at 4:03 pm

    Hello Rori,

    It feels great to be writing this email to you. In August of last year I (29 yrs) met a guy who is 38 years old single and has never been married. When we met he had just got off a 2 year relationship… Knowing this i gave him his time and space and spoke only when he called. we have being dating for 5 months and within these months I noticed that he loves his single life, loves the freedom and he is selfish and tight with his money. As i got to know him i found out that he is not looking for a long term relationship. He would call one’s a week and i meet him on the weekend and spent the night at this house. I feel like a friend with benefit. So last weekend i spoke my mind and my heart and told him that i want to get to know him better and i would like to talk to him more often. To which he told me that he likes me but is not in love with me. What hurts me the most is i did stuff for him not even thinking about money and i always did stuff because it made me feel good . He even told me that I could read him like no one else. And in the end he tell me that he like me a lot but is not in love with and does feel the mental connection. He is the second guy i have fall for who has said this to me. It makes me feel i am worth nothing. He said he doesn’t see us long term…we don’t have common interests. As in he likes to talk about politics , finance and other “shallow stuff” (this is the word he used). I am so confused and not sure what to do to pull myself back together again. I haven’t spoke to him since then. neither has he called or messaged. Please help.

  8.  #8Tina on March 4, 2010 at 8:55 pm

    Heartbeat, I thought about what you said on my way to the gym, will I be happy once the dishes are done? then I will be happy or something like that. I”m just telling you about how your post made me think of you today 🙂

  9.  #9Tina on March 4, 2010 at 8:59 pm

    Hehe, while I was at the gym, I thought to myself, I”m juicy, I feel juicy ,give me all your attentions, your honoring my juiciness 🙂 I also thought while I was laying down on the ab mats, my honey is spilling out my pours, it was sweat but what the hell 🙂

  10.  #10Daria on March 4, 2010 at 9:41 pm

    ive been dealing with men dragging on me the past 2 days.

    heres what one who was dragging to begin with but i gave him the chance to meet me yesterday said right now

    youre not gonna text me back
    youre never gonna call me
    youre never gonna drive to me
    and i have to pay for everything?

    and im like

    and he hung up

    i feel relieved but a lil sad and annoyed. BETTER universe better. yes he was handsome and well dresssed and even a lot of practice but i want BETTER.

    Thank you.

    OH and he came to me! ha! yes thats a success. hehe


    he was totally ignoring when i told him i dont wanna text… hed text so u miss me/

    then he complained that i didnt text him back

    i said i dont like texting

    hes like so youre just gonna be stuck in your ways like this the whole time?

    im like (short fuse feeling already today) ummm well when isay i dont like something, i dont mean im gonna do it or keep doing it… i mean i Dont LIKE It.

    omgosh i feel like rolling my eyes


  11.  #11Daria on March 4, 2010 at 9:42 pm

    He like selected all my dating boundaries and grouped them and now i feel insecure about them…

    any thoughts?

  12.  #12Georgia on March 4, 2010 at 10:10 pm

    Hi Daria, this man looks like he’s trying to shake your boundaries. He sounds like a smart guy to me to noticed this. But You are Goddess 🙂 he doesn’t know that. You mean what You said.

    Love ya!

  13.  #13Daria on March 4, 2010 at 10:24 pm

    Thanks Georgia –

    yes I feel worn down because so many men have been “testing my boundaries” over the past two days.


    maybe a message is to cut them off earlier! before I feel this drained… it was sneaking up on me but now i find myself snapping at them



    i love me

  14.  #14Georgia on March 4, 2010 at 10:30 pm

    oh yeah Daria, soon he will found out who you are. And let see if he can handle you ,Gorgeous. He cant believe that this rule still exist in this world any more, Probably he hasn’t met one (Goddess) like you.

    Rori is Genius, all the best for her. The moment I found her blog i knew I am saved.
    ok I feel silly with post comment here, but i have a very big urge to even just to say hello here. its like i want to tell all off you I am here with you all. I am following, maybe from very behind. But i feel so happy that i am the part of this wonderful land.

  15.  #15Georgia on March 4, 2010 at 10:35 pm

    You are most welcome Daria 🙂

  16.  #16Daria on March 4, 2010 at 10:42 pm

    who did i talk to today (that i remember)

    i got a message from a man i had an intense emotional online convo with that ended with my giving him my number when i stepped away by closing my im box… and he came back to ask for it…
    a message from him giving me HIS number online and saying he’d hope i would use it

    I felt disappointed, resigned, amused, flattered

    a man who texted me a picture of himself who i texted a picture of me in my pjs who asked for a sexy body pic and becaue i felt lik eit i took some (not naked and sent them and put them up online) who said i looked good and can he get a more revealing on to whom i texted ” naw. the end”

    that felt fun and then annoying

    a man who pimps who thought i was a prostitute, then realized I was a Goddess and wanted to see me and date me on a man woman level but hung up when i told him i don’t drive to men

    that felt tightened up, intense, flattering and that felt not great that he hung up

    a man who wanted to take me to lunch because “he was in my area” and told me to skip my dance class because he was in my area now… i said no and i can in an hour, he said he’d call and didn’t

    that felt not good

    2 men online who ive talked to online who asked for naked pictures of me (i put up new pictures in my pjama pants with my shirt tied around my boobs so they’re a lil sexy but not naked)

    that felt flattering and annoying and draining

    a man who used to talk to tme in the past online who i feel drained by = who said he would want to help me market my business but dindt say anything more, i didnt want to tell him what to do cuz i dont really know him

    that felt weird and boring and i felt judgemental and i dont know that and also surprised and kinda glad to have a possible opening for help

    a man from my past who got me in a big ass problem and who i told he needs to send me about 6 thousand dollars (because i c him owing it to me at the least for big time making a huge chaos in my life and alos what i invested financially) for me to forgive him and who then said ok and then he said hed pay for a ticket for me to come there and i said i dont want to come there and this convo doesnt feel godo and got off facebook

    that felt weird angryfying disturbing not good

    an ex boyfriend of mine who is out of jail and who i feel really good talking to like our hearts love each other but who is now married and wants to see me and

    it felt great and happy and sad and i cried a lil after

    a man who i first met yesterday who texted me tho i told him i dont like texting (then finally called ) the man above, and hung up after recapping my dating boundaries

    that felt not good

    a man who makes me laugh a lot who kept inviting me to spend the nite at his house and discussing how i have a car and he doesnt have his license right now , who i got mad and he said do i want some time and i said yeah and he hung up and i did, but then we texted each other lols later

    that felt good not good good

    a message on my phone to call back a man whos number i dont have saved so i cant cuz it didnt show up

    that felt boring i felt a lil drained and also good to get a message left

    so here i am! seee!! i feel like rolling my eyes!

  17.  #17Daria on March 4, 2010 at 10:50 pm

    Georgia – i think this man has been smoked out and will be gone… but who knows… im open to be surprised.. but i dont want to be drained by him with annoying texts … so i wont answer them

  18.  #18Georgia on March 4, 2010 at 11:05 pm

    one word Daria, NEXT….. 😀

    I am going to pick my daughter up from school.
    Good night daria, sweet dreams….

  19.  #19gina on March 5, 2010 at 12:12 am

    wow Daria…that was very draining. But it feels reassuring to know that other women are dealing with this sort of ting. Sometimes I feel like maybe I’m doing something wrong since men aren’t stepping up. But hearing about other women’s situations, I can see clearly that it’s not you it’s them, and that is reassuring. I was beginning to consider “helping” a man date me, but reading about how you’re sticking to your guns is inspiring…

  20.  #20heartbeat on March 5, 2010 at 12:44 am

    Tina – love to you!! 🙂 xx

  21.  #21heartbeat on March 5, 2010 at 1:01 am

    Daria – my jaw just drops when I hear of men who behave like this, asking you for naked pics etc – what are they thinking of??!! It makes me feel irritated and at the same time I feel like laughing out loud at the sheer cheek of it! I would feel like flicking through them like pages in a magazine, be pleasant and, like Georgia, shout NEXT!! Well you certainly have plenty to practice on, it would feel like my practice team to me, or I might feel frustrated and pissed off too. Maybe it’s a numbers game 🙂 xx

  22.  #22heartbeat on March 5, 2010 at 1:13 am

    Hello Georgia – I’m curious to know where you are, we’re all on different time zones. Glad you’re posting. xx

    I’ve just finished breakfast after a pleasant lie-in. I feel calmer following my comments on Wednesday. I feel a little organised and motivated today.

    Which suddenly feels boring. OK I’m going to splash out and take my laundry for a service wash and my ironing to the helping hands. And I’ve cut a little fringe but it feels a little SAFE so this is a message to STICK TO MY VISION. Cheeky fringe – copper highlights. I’m a Na’Vi, remember Heartbeat.

    I bought another dress yesterday, short, linen, fun bell-shape. And I looked at Skyros and a few other options again last night.


    I feel nervous and excited.

  23.  #23Daria on March 5, 2010 at 1:18 am

    Heartbeat –

    they’re thinking (as they told me) “DRAT – I had to try! You’re hot!” theres a chance I’ll get super hot naked pics!!

    — lol. also my photos on the site are quite sexy and bold though not naked or topless or even naked booty, though hey people wear that in swimsuits all the time… so theres no knowing if i won’t feel like putting some up in the future …

    btw one time for whatever reason I found myself feeling good sex texting with a man across the country and sent him very naughty pics. IT was quite fun actually and I felt liberating.

    BUT most of the time it feels annoying and draining.

    My “vibe” felt a lil annoyed today too, I think im not eating enuf and often enough and that could be why, mostly cuz i feel unprepared to eat, i feel captivated by the computer and i’d have to go cook downstairs to eat, since for the week before and during my period im eating only cooked food as per my magic acupuncturist womans prescription so taht my period will regulate and flow well…

    now that im off of it i could go snak raw food more easily… tho i feel concerned that i may upset my tummy snacking randomly…

  24.  #24Daria on March 5, 2010 at 1:19 am

    Yay Heartbeat!

  25.  #25heartbeat on March 5, 2010 at 1:27 am

    Daria – LOL! the most daring photos I have are one of me in my wetsuit and another of me from behind climbing a rock (ok I’m in ski pants, but I have a nice ass, and it DOES get comps in real life so hey..!.). xx

  26.  #26heartbeat on March 5, 2010 at 1:31 am

    Subscribing – and off now to have my day <3 <3

  27.  #27Daria on March 5, 2010 at 1:48 am

    so the man who came to see me yesterday and who was the one who compiled my dating boundaries and hung up

    now he has messaged me

    “lol youre going to have to find another [man] to use”

    thats what he thought yesterday im trying to “use” him

    hmmm i don’t want to give off “use” vibe — mostly i’m not, but perhaps im feeling anxiety around my dating boundaries

    but hey

    its getting better

    men are actually driving to me now, even if some have been freaking out after

    slowly but surely

    were it all to get better all at once maybe it would not feel good and be too overwhelming

    this must be a good pace for me

    Thank you Universe

    PS – universe… its cool to send em for a second date and more… im ready

  28.  #28Daria on March 5, 2010 at 1:57 am

    so as my status i updated with a quote from my actual profile who would you like to meet section

    which is in pink writing

    “let me make this clear cuz it may be difficult to read my profile:

    I would feel lovely to meet handsome, confident, honest men who know how to treat a Goddess and who would take pleasure in pleasing her and romancing her, pickin her up, takin her out, showin her how he would protect and provide for her if she chooses to be his”

    there we go
    now its clear! right universe! and yes i feel angry universe ! i don’t want angry vibe… and I DO feel angry right now ok… i feel angry reading the message from that man…
    maybe i shall tell him

  29.  #29Daria on March 5, 2010 at 3:01 am

    Here’s a cool abe quote im doing right now:

    “As you get on a little bit of a rampage of appreciation, what happens is as you are appreciating them [successful people] for their success you can’t be beating up on yourself for not finding success at the same time.

    “The Universe does not know WHOSE success you’re focusing on!!!

    “It becomes YOUR vibration of success “

  30.  #30Daria on March 5, 2010 at 3:03 am

    this guy i feel attracted to just contacted me… i think he dated my friend just once or two times in the past…

    he only has one eye i think but he has a handsome “vibe” – strange huh? i feel curious what he looks like exctly

    also that one “big guy” has reclaimed his right to date me… hes like
    how about i take you out

    im like i feel unsure

    hes like why

    BIG LEAP OF FAITH: me: you seem insecure and i feel uncomfortabel

    him : im not insecure and why would you feel uncomfortable

    i want to take you out sunday

    me: (thinking wow he picks a date! i ilke this)

    him: i want to go to the movies

    me: ok


    yay for take charge

  31.  #31Linda on March 5, 2010 at 3:39 am

    Daria… I am finding out one way or another but always finding out that …. time is our friend. It reveals everything. THe good and the bad.

    Boundries are there for us to reside and live in. Mine may be different than yours but we all need them right? The are there so that we feel comfortable and a sense of well being. They offer us their protection and bring us liberty.

    So when a man or men come and try to side step them, or disreguard, even argue about you with them dont sweat it. Dont even let it bug you in the least. Investing thought or energy into it even. You know what you need to feel right about someone.

    There are many that will appear at the castle window. Some may seem to dress, say do the right things but after a while everything is measured by your boundries.

    In my case, my requirements were met, Boundries were not crossed, but after a while gross and blantant disreguard of them abounded. That was not a failure for me but a learning. I am glad that my boundries kept me protected even in the later stages, even when initially it all was good.

    Love your boundries (as I know you do). Frolick in them and dont give a second thought or feel bothered by those who cant or wont work for the goddess in them. Flick them off like the pesky fly they are.

    Hugs… Linda

  32.  #32Linda on March 5, 2010 at 3:41 am

    Silly men! Thinking that they can get a goddesses attention and actually keep it.

  33.  #33Linda on March 5, 2010 at 3:55 am

    We have choices!

    When a man does not make the cut, then he does not make the cut.

    Everybody knows that if you wanna make the team there are things you gotta do, and prove to be a part of it.

    This feels liberating to say. No more hoping that a certain man makes the team, secretly watching and hoping, or making special allowances. Oh how that robs the intergity of the whole thing. I need to remember that.


  34.  #34Georgia on March 5, 2010 at 5:50 am

    yay I feel happy Heartbeat mention my name 😀 I am located in Asia. xx

    Linda- Thanks for sharing your words,you inspired me 🙂

    I love Rori, I love Rori and Love you All. I wanted to solve my relationship problem and I found this Miracle blog and I didn’t know It cured my social phobia too. its like kill two birds with one stone. or more than two birds i think 😀
    now I understand what its mean of love yourself so You can love others. Only with my true self i will find my true soul mate. How A Baby Grows In The Mothers Womb really inspired me. Its the A pipe-shaped heart is formed and begins to beat first. God wants to let us know that its our heart who will guide us in our this wonderful journey of life. so We wont go wrong. This is a God’s gift to us. I feel guilty I once neglected this Powerful gift. not anymore.
    I was confused and kept looking for my shell. I didn’t know where did I left it. Thanks God, Rori brought me back to my shell. I feel so warm, safe, and strong now. I always feel Rori is God’s messenger. She brings us back to Garden of Eden:)
    Ok i believe my Adam is waiting for me somewhere. I believe one day I will divorced my husband once I am financially stable.

  35.  #35heartbeat on March 5, 2010 at 9:56 am

    I’ve DONE IT!!!!!!!!!!


    I’m staying in a bamboo hut in Atsitsa Bay in Skyros for a week in June

    Woohoo!!!!!!!!!! 🙂

    Oh and I bought ANOTHER dress today, and cut my fringe some more. My friend says I look very french. I have some colour for my copper highlights too.

    I’m LOVIN’ this!!!

  36.  #36heartbeat on March 5, 2010 at 10:02 am

    I feel so adventurous going to Greece on my own. I have a night in Athens at the start – I feel awestruck! I LOVE sleeping outdoors, so I’m bobbing around imagining that bamboo hut, and the trees and flowers, and the sea of course – swimming and windsurfing; and I’m taking part in a workshop called Your Soul Journey and another called Life-mapping or something like that.

    Sigh…. 🙂

    I’m changing my wardrobe.

    I’m getting rid of anything that feels DULL. Or that makes me feel NOT QUITE RIGHT. Whatever that means. It feels like a discovery.

    Oh my – !!!!!!!!! 🙂 🙂

  37.  #37heartbeat on March 5, 2010 at 10:05 am

    Georgia – I’ve been fantasising about Asia! Your story feels like it’s unfolding marvellously and miraculously. I too have felt the benefits in ALL relationships. xx

  38.  #38Daria on March 5, 2010 at 11:53 am


    you’re inspiring me to just go for my dream of going to BRazil!!!

    I can go to bars here by myself!!! i can in brazil too

  39.  #39Daria on March 5, 2010 at 11:57 am

    Linda thank you! you are so right!

    they gotta make the team!!

    I felt a huge disppointment when a man i liked seemed like not making the team last nite

    but i feel better now

    an icky man has attacked me and insulted me and ive removed his comment and now i feel FREED

    he was cramping my vibe and i feel so shocked at how instantly i felt the cloud lifting

  40.  #40Daria on March 5, 2010 at 11:58 am

    Georgia – Please tell me more aobut how you used the tools to cure your social phobia — I am doing this too!! and i want inspiration

  41.  #41heartbeat on March 5, 2010 at 12:24 pm

    Yay Daria! I’d love to go to Brazil too, I have a fantasy about Rio. Wow – I feel like telling you to just go for it if it’s in your heart’s desire. Cuz I want to hear all about it <3

    Linda – yes! – I love what you wrote, it feels so clear and straightforward – the team – and I feel strong reading that. Thank you.


  42.  #42heartbeat on March 5, 2010 at 12:26 pm

    I also want to go to California, and New York, and New England, and Japan and Thailand. And Cornwall. Though Cornwall is in my country, I feel exotic this year 🙂

  43.  #43Daria on March 5, 2010 at 1:20 pm

    the man that commented those awful things to me 9 including thatim disgusting weird and crazy


    yes i am hehe

    i love all of me

    well i deleted his comment, and felt the cloud lift

    guess what — hes back!

    now he says

    hello youre ignoring me now you’re amazingly rude



    im gonna leave that one up


    i feel amused at his obvious inability to stop being attracted to me

  44.  #44Simply Shannon on March 5, 2010 at 1:21 pm


  45.  #45Daria on March 5, 2010 at 1:28 pm

    I feel sooo much calmer and settled into my power after reading today’s e-letter

    If your voice sounds to you like a “complaint”
    or a “whine,” most likely you’re feeling that HE
    has the Power.


    3. Imagine that YOU have the Power.

    Imagine that he is only there in your life to
    make YOU HAPPY.

    Imagine that you are merely giving him an
    opportunity to make you happy.

    Imagine that YOU are his REWARD for making you
    happy, and that just your PRESENCE in his life is
    your amazing gift to him.

    4. As soon as you feel the switch in your
    feelings, your thoughts and energy, notice if the
    tone of your voice changes.

    Notice if you feel lighter.

    Notice if, instead of the sound of a
    “complaint” – your voice is the sound of a dog
    owner holding a delicious doggie treat and saying
    “Here, Boy….”

  46.  #46Lucy on March 5, 2010 at 3:11 pm

    “i feel amused at his obvious inability to stop being attracted to me”

    I feel amused at it too, Daria!! 🙂

  47.  #47Georgia on March 5, 2010 at 3:46 pm

    heartbeat- Thanks 🙂 yes you are right its miraculously. I love your bamboo hut, and the trees and flowers, and the sea swimming and windsurfing. Its on my mind too when I need a break 😀 your coming trip and wardrobe makes me feel excotic too 😀

    Daria- My social phobia started when my father passed away. I was 7 years old then. I felt a different kind of fear when i mixed around with one group of people .every step I makes my eyes and my mind keep getting blurry, I felt my heart beating so fast as if I can feel every beat of it. I was so scared the feeling is so surreal. and things get worsen in my teenage time. from social phobia ( starting to cured thanks to Rori ) , Bromidrophobia ( physically cured thanks to one website. but still working on the phobia sometimes but its wonderful improvement since i used Rori’s tool ) , snake phobia ( this one no need to be cured i think 😀 ) , height phobia ( still working on this this)
    I use this tool- Be present, Breathe from your belly (one of the Rori’s program with Ariella ), and the most important is “Love Myself” I keep telling myself that I love myself, my fears, every part of me. like Rori said accepting. yes “Self Accepting” . I was stucked in this “Theory” until I experimented it with people around me, i GOT it, I got what is Rori means step by step. yes baby step. When I started to learn to say “No” which is felt icky, guilty at first ( i always worried i may hurt someone’s feeling but ignored mine) I know I deserve to be treated well and as important as other people.
    I love “Be present” tool, I found this tool works. normally my mind will go somewhere else wondering around what people will look at me, smell at me, badmouth me from behind later etc.

    We all share the same air. I don’t care if he’s lawyer or any rich man, if he doesn’t respect me I’ll brush him off.
    And I have an Announcement…:D to anyone just joined this blog ” Don’t leave before you read all and experimented it, I guarantee you will gain something wonderful from here, you’ll get amazed”

    I am addicted to this blog (list to do everyday) 😀

    with love,

  48.  #48Georgia on March 5, 2010 at 3:47 pm

    oh yeah hearbeat i love your wardrobe makeover 🙂

  49.  #49Courtenay on March 5, 2010 at 5:02 pm

    Daria, I know what you’re talking about and have been through similar.

    Now when I meet someone at an online dating site, if they interest me, I ask them on a virtual date. It’s worked out great too.

    The site I’m referring to is http://www.weopia.com and it works with any dating site. You bring someone to weopia for your virtual date.

    It’s a 3D dating world – and you get your own avatar!

    Although it isn’t easy to explain, you’ll have to try for yourself.

    But I can tell you I’m getting better real dates. Hope you give it a try 🙂

  50.  #50Daria on March 5, 2010 at 7:57 pm

    Georgia – I love what you said about we all breathe the same air. When I’m in a crowd sometimes I feel all more tight, I feel anxious, I feel my stomach tight and my arms I feel not at ease

    I would feel concerned people are badmouthing me, etc, I feel like people can READ my thoughts, and well… I think they can in the vibe i gvie off, my body would tighten etc. This I noticed in social settings like clubs and bars…I would feel this particularly strongly when I have smoked some marijuana… which when I smoked regularly would be almost all the time… so that I didn’t actually want to get out of my car at gas stations, I was so acutely aware of everyperson around me and how they can read my vibe because I was a blasting vulnerable open vibe

    When I was younger I used to drink in a crowd a lot so that I could feel relaxed in order to socialize, otherwise i felt the stiffening feeling

    Now with Rori’s tools and all the healing I’m experiencing yes I am feeling much freer.

    I remember last year feeling jealous that my Godsister could walk through the hospital with her head held high, while I found that I felt punched in the stomach and my chin would FORCIBLY lower when other people looked at me…

    Then a few months ago somehow that healed because now I can walk with head high and people look at me and I NO LONGER Feel bent over in the middle when they do. Even when I have smoked.

    I do a lot of healing practices like EFT, and also I’ve done body tissue release stuff which I believe helped me mucho. I do stuff like this all the time now, and expressing myself here on the blog has totally opened me to accepting myself, when I feel afraid theres a part of me not able to be accepted I write out the thing as much as I can and I know once its out here basically public it’s being healed.

    When I was age 8 I moved to the US from Romania and I felt like I lost my footing in the world because the kids in school that I met were so different here and I was left out and ridiculed and I felt horrible and , (I feel judgemental of myself as being “weak and whiny” saying this) traumatized. Also my mom got depression really bad and the advice my parents gave me for dealing with the school kids didn’t work, so I felt helpless. I decided not to tell them my problems anymore because I didn’t think they could help me and also because I didn’t want my problems to upset them because we already had my mom being sick so I wanted to protect them.

    So I shut down my feelings and sharing them until I started Rori’s stuff I didn’t understand what feelings were.

  51.  #51Georgia on March 5, 2010 at 9:27 pm

    Daria i know exactly what u mean about tighteness,anxiousness, etc. I feel curious about body tissue release stuff 🙂

    after my father’s death, my mum went overseas to work. me and my small little brother stayed with my mom’s sis. I found that it was very hard to adapt with new lifestlye etc. and in school I felt isolated. I couldn’t talk in groups, I talked a lot when it was one on one talk. but when it comes to group i chosed to be quiet. the first year after my graduation. My mum forced me to married my husband now. I never love him, my guts was telling me he’s not the one. we didn’t even date. I met him and we were friends before when i visited my mum in overseas (here i stayed now) and studied for a year. Everything was horrible since then. I was choose to let my mum control my life, I was choose to get abused by my husband.
    I had postnatal depression after childbirth. I couldn’t find help from my mum because she had depression from her bad second marriage. it was terrible. in the middle of The terribleness of being alone I chosed to escape. I met a few guys behind his back. but I felt unworthy to this men, not even worth for a romatic dinner. It was traumatic. My husband suspected me of meeting someone outside but no evidence or proof, when i get home he will strangle me, or drag my hair once, or tried to chase me out from our house and I called police :D. I’ve been married for almost 8 years, I think about four to five times physical abuse and the rest was vocab abuse. it was about 2 years ago. Things change drasstically when I told him the truth that I never loved him. he’s lack of self acceptance too. looks like now he’s trying to prove that he’s worthy etc. but i don’t care anymore, I do what I want. I taking care of myself and my daughter, I feel so much improvement in myself. and I love myself so much and I get back to my cheerful confident girl that i used to be before my dad left me. last year my dad came to my dream and told me he has to leave me for reincarnation ( I am christian he was buddist) and he left a message to me that I have to be strong. and I still remembered the smile on his face. sob sob

  52.  #52Daria on March 5, 2010 at 9:45 pm

    Aww Georgia that is so sweet how your dad came! I believe we can talk to people after they die all I have to do is think it

    I feel confused are you still married and living with husband? Or you left 2 years ago?

    Good for you for taking care of yourself.

    I used to live with a man before when I was in love with him and he was crazy kind of also gifted. He imagined I was sleeping with other people and talked to himself and we used to fight almost every night and he choked me once too and I ran out the house and he would chase me with my car. At that time I thought fighting was fun before but then when we were fighting I did not and finally one day he left… I got really really sick after he left – before he left I felt really really small like maybe I was just a dot that was alive — but i saw things and imagined them and I believe they were real, like a little elf that was nice to me and helped me, I also saw angels and a dragon in this man, he said he had a demon in him, but I wanted to be his woman because I loved him, he was trying to protect me by getting away from me but then at the end he didnt leave until finally one day he did – I was maybe exhausted in my body the lymph glands in the back of my head swelled up really big and my left eye fell back into my head, I went to my mom’s and at the doctor they did an MRI so that I don’t have a tumor and it was the lymph glands swelled up huge and my head was hurting SOO bad…

    then the man taught me many things about God and spirits and it was my first love I still have caring for him but not in love with him

    but he was crazy

    really crazy like after he left me

    for years we would see him walking around the street with lint in his hair talking and laughing with himself

    — now more recently I heard he is better, he doesnt walk around talking to himself

  53.  #53Daria on March 5, 2010 at 9:55 pm

    Yes this man was crazy but I learned so many spiritual true things from him…

    he ws the first one who said that we are all both masculine and feminine like Rori says but I didn’t believe that for a long time and I felt ashamed that I had a masculine

    he said my boy was beating up my girl I didn’t find out until Rori that he was right

    but the craziness made him see things not true too,

    and then me wanting to fight and him too, I hit him first one time and then we were fighting almost everynight, our friends we knew fought each other too, but I was scared for my life often, I felt really closed off after he left, every person I saw on the street i was afraid was gonna rob me

    this was when i was 19

    I feel love for him and myself then I know I loved him he was my first love and he loved me, I feel glad he finally did leave when he saw me that I was too upset, he couldn’t stand to see me cry and I would before that in my life I thought it was not ok to cry, because of this I learned to cry

    I saw him later like a year later I still felt in love with him, we had sex and I think I had like 4 orgasms which I ddin’t know how to have and I still want to know how hehe and then after that I felt like my heart let him go now that I had seen him again

    I stilll have a dry rose he gave me on Holloween one time he was afraid i was going to go flirt with someone else, I was going out with my friend to a party. Somehow the rose dried perfectly and I have it — one day soon I am going to bury it in the garden to close old love and not hold on to past and sad patterns

    We only lived together for about 2 months but those 2 months felt like 10 years

  54.  #54Georgia on March 5, 2010 at 10:39 pm

    Thanks for sharing your story Daria :), I feel safe here.
    I know what u mean about caring but not love anymore.

    yes I am still married and living with him still. just he stopped the abuse. its been 2 years everything goes smoothly except the verbal abuse sometimes.
    Before i get here now i am ( I love where i am now, everthing feels like gift to me). I met one guy. we agreed just to be sex partner. but i felt like i want to have something more from him, then i started get overfunctioning etc. I found this blog. I feel so connected to Rori’s teaching. This is what i wanted for so long inside. but I didn’t know how to express it out. some of Rori’s tool i do sometimes in my daily life. but i didn’t know its a tool. Rori break the secret. omg i feel like i want to cry now. I set my boundaries, to cut the long story i still can feel his energy. I can feel we both inspired each other. I stopped contact with him. I dont want to escape anymore. my life, my passion brings me to my bright future. Rori’s teaching will be always in my mind, my heart forever. she is legend. her works will live forever from generation to generation.

    one of her words about ” we entitled to be happy” really inspired me.

  55.  #55Georgia on March 5, 2010 at 10:55 pm

    Daria this is lively love story of yours, I can feel the passionate, energitic, sweet, and sad.

  56.  #56Daria on March 5, 2010 at 11:02 pm

    Georgia – thank you yes it is a wonderful first love, dramatic enough for a movie, book, or story. I love my dramatic, passionate life!

    So many stories I have.

    I feel so good to have that story and also to feel GOOD about it and having had it. There is no longing, just peace! It’s so different than what I would expect… I’d think it would pull me forever… what if .. what if…

    but no after that one day I mentioned above my heart let go and there was just peace.

    Now the few times I saw this man after, I felt comfortable, not in love. I bought him a cheesburger. He held my hand and wanted to have sex. Lol. I said no – he was homeless and was in line for free food at the church, and he laughed to himself looking up to the left every now and then.

    I don’t miss him. I felt really glad to hear he’s doing better, like I would for an old friend!

  57.  #57Daria on March 5, 2010 at 11:05 pm

    Georgia – I feel amazed and inspired to hear that the abuse stopped ! That is that YOU stopped the abuse and still in the same house.

    That’s not something I’ve heard often (or almost never?) or even heard talked about happening, and to me it sounds miraculous and very very inspiring.

    this world is a miracle

  58.  #58Daria on March 5, 2010 at 11:08 pm

    I must admit that I thought about having sex lol that one time he asked me, but I didn’t feel safe (thinking he may have diseases and he probably was on hard drugs at that time) – plus I felt weird and not emotionally close after all that time

    not quite someone to have a “fling” with – your homeless crazy drugged out first love lol

  59.  #59Georgia on March 5, 2010 at 11:20 pm

    Thanks Daria you make my day 🙂 good things do come easily when i take things easily and be gentle to myself . like Rori said ” I am the first domino” and everything else fall into place 🙂
    You make me laugh Daria when u said ” I bought him a cheesburger. He held my hand and wanted to have sex” LOL

  60.  #60Georgia on March 5, 2010 at 11:30 pm

    LOL Daria. I feel curious what was his response when you said no to him.

  61.  #61Daria on March 6, 2010 at 12:28 am

    Georgia – I forgot his exact response but he understood. I did kiss him on the lips really quick. He smelled like a homeless guy. I told him I dont like to see him doing drugs like that because he used to be the one saying he wont.

  62.  #62Rori Raye on March 6, 2010 at 7:56 pm

    Courtenay, Thanks for the tip – I’ll go try this and let you know what I think…Rori

  63.  #63Rori Raye on March 6, 2010 at 8:12 pm

    Blanca, Welcome – and so sorry for your pain and confusion. Blanca – you have to get this really strongly in your head – you are doing TOO MUCH for a man!! You are overfunctioning, chasing, putting yourself out there, and then demonstrating the “feeling that I’m worth nothing” – which is just a turn off for any man. The work here is for you to do about YOU…to beef yourself up and fall in love with YOURSELF!! Read everything here, and we’ll help you. Love, Rori

  64.  #64Gina Cevola on March 8, 2010 at 4:45 pm

    Thank God there is a way to communicate with women who struggle like I have for years. I have NEVER have had a healthy, well functioning, or nurturing relationship with a man. I struggle like you all do. I am currently in a situation after 5 months where he all of a sudden is not calling everyday, but at least five times a week. He is doing some recording and told me recently that when he gets in “this mode” he doesn’t call as much. He did warn me that it may bring discomfort. I don’t really understand why he can’t just text me real quick, because my mind goes in the direction that he may be seeing someone behind my back. He seems to be a straight up guy to me. I haven’t caught him doing anything shifty so far. It does feel awful to wait for his calls that aren’t coming. I feel like I loose control emotionally. Yet I don’t pick up the phone to inquire where or what he is doing. I refuse because I believe it turns him off. When he does call he is always happy and wants to tell me everything that he has been doing and vice-versa. Do any of you have advice?
    I have enjoyed reading all your blogs. Daria you make me laugh. I can so relate to you. I love how you think!!! All you ladies are so inspiring. We are in the battle together it seems.

  65.  #65Rori Raye on March 8, 2010 at 8:00 pm

    Gina, Welcome – and here’s where we can help – stop WAITING for him to call. Go about your life as if he doesn’t exist, and you’ll be happy and soft when he DOES call. Meanwhile – Circular Date by flirting and dating yourself…we need to help you beef yourself up so you aren’t making him the center of the world. This is what my concept of “Bridging” is all about – you stay on your Bridge to your Happy Ever After no matter WHAT he does…Love, Rori

  66.  #66Daria on March 8, 2010 at 10:48 pm

    Gina C – ooh I feel so mucho special. Love you too girl!

    BTW I am done battling. at least hardcore. I am now ona magical forest adventure — yes wimpy i know… but ive already lived enuf battle — now im having happy loving life adventure… battling will be only small and kind — u know forest goddess style and stuff — everything gets loved and recycled into earthy green goodness

  67.  #67Neytiri on March 9, 2010 at 11:23 am

    WOW!! I feel so inspired!

    My avatar is on his way! 🙂

  68.  #68Rori Raye on March 9, 2010 at 3:13 pm

    Welcome Neytiri! Love, Rori