More Scripting – How To Set “Context”

Here’s a letter from Sara – with some basic questions and a frustrating situation… “Rori, When you’re talking about expressing yourself emotionally — then after you say how you feel, whatever he does or says is none of our business….for example say I’m frustrated and that’s all you say…and then drop it… My Question: What…

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He Betrayed You Long Ago – Now What?

The Question: “Hi Rori, I have hesitated a lot before writing to you directly again, probably because in a way I am feeling embarrassed. I haven’t gotten to the point yet where I want to ask him about how he feels about our relationship, but I just did something that is making me feel awful:…

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Is He Deliberately Hurting You?

The Question: “I’ve been exclusively dating a man for 2 years, we are both divorced and have children. We maintain separate residences and see each other twice or so a week. We’ve broken up several times in a year because he wanted to get married in 8 years after his child was out of school…

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Valentine’s Day Aftermath Solution

The  Question: Rori, my husband and I are just now smoothing over a really bad patch in our marriage.  it’s going well…Things are going better, he’s beginning to trust that I won’t break into the anger and arguments I used to regularly create (thank you for teaching me how to get off the “Anger Train!),…

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Romantic Partnership Without Distraction

A recent post was about “dealbreakers” in a relationship…About “partnership” – and the quality requirements a man has to have in order to be a good partner for you. One of the topics that came up was “smoking weed.” You can read my original post here-> And this is a brilliant reply to my post…

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The Best Way To Use This Blog

I want to make sure you’re getting the most out of your experience in the community by getting your own needs for safety and expression met (rather than simply being helpful to others in the community). I actually have a set of guidelines (over in the sidebar) that officially BANS ALL advice giving (except for…

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