What To Do When He’s Hard To Understand

The Question: Rori, first off I just want to thank you for all of the information you have put out there to help women. It means so much. I read your newsletter every week through email. With that said, I wanted your opinion on my situation seeing as you are very wise. Here is my…

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What To Do When He Seems Distant…

Jumping off a comment from “Z”: The Question: “Rori, So I love this. M and I have been seeing each other 4 months now. Before him, I’ve never trusted a man to have his space, his alone time, his time away. In the past, it would trigger my insecurities and I’d lean forward to try…

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Why We Overfunction for Love and How Change GETS You Love

I recently re-read Harriet Lerner’s book The Dance of Intimacy, and got her personal permission to give you some of the passages I found to be incredibly powerful for us. Here, Harriet is talking about overfunctioning, and she’s used several real-life situations women with their families and with the men in their relationships. This passage…

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How To Turn Sadness Around In Seconds

Have you ever felt like your heart was just – lumpy, heavy, small? Not depressed, not angry, not “down,” just more like an “ache”? When that happens to me, it’s like all I’m sewed up – like an embroidery or needlepoint. It feels like everything’s tight, nothing’s loose, and there’s an edge to every thought.…

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Why Ignoring Your Man Can Open Him Up

My husband once seemed like a mystery I couldn’t solve, like a puzzle with missing pieces, and with a brick wall where his heart should be. He seemed impossible to get to know – and more important – impossible for me to show my real, true self to. A minute ago, he walked by me…

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