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love adviceSo many of my friends are speaking on this fabulous “Love On Purpose Revolution” – and it’s all free!

Orna and Matthew Walters put this project together (you already know how much I respect and love their work, and just adore them as people  – kind, good, smart – truly great coaches), and I’m blown away by what they’ve accomplished in just a few short years.

They’ve figured out a way to bring together the best folks in the relationship “niche” to give you great, free interviews and talks, so you can get introduced to relationship and love coaches you may not know yet, and get new stuff from those you do.

My best friend Virginia Clark is in the program – make sure you hear her talk, she’s SO awesome! – (and she has a brand new program out called “From Lonely To Loved – 7 Steps To Finding The Love Of Your Life”). Virginia’s a great writer, a great speaker, a great coach, and a terrific friend.

Here’s the info on how to get hooked up to the Love On Purpose Revolution:

“It’s Time You Let go of the Myth that Love is Supposed to Happen by Accident”

Love On Purpose Revolution
25 Experts/25 Days
4th Incredible Year of LIVE sessions!

Starting March 17th learn first-hand from experts like:

Patti Stanger (Millionaire Matchmaker), John Gray (Mars Venus), Lauren Frances (Man Magnet), Keri Newell (Communication Magic), Ellen Eatough (Beyond Orgasm), Rhonda Britten (Fearless Living), Carol Allen (Love Is In the Stars), and more will share the tools and transformation you need to create love on purpose!

It’s absolutely FREE . . . and it’s happening right here—on your phone, tablet or computer!

This online global event is hosted by Orna and Matthew Walters, Master Relationship Coaches and the founders of Creating Love On Purpose.

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I know I’ll be reading lots of comments from you as the program goes on, and look forward to hearing how it feels to you….

Love, Rori

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  1.  #1Luzydel on March 9, 2014 at 7:33 am

    Loving myself is something a create, the same things as loving others; but finding someone to love me just happens. Yes I have to put myself out there and take risks, but a man either will love me or he wont and I cannot force that. it just happens. I just have to love myself enough to know that I will be fine and keep moving so a man who is ready to love me can find me.

    I do not have to do anything, just love me, be myself and be open.

  2.  #2April Rose on March 9, 2014 at 8:01 am

    I intend to create love on purpose. 🙂

  3.  #3Daria on March 9, 2014 at 9:07 am

    im feeling frustrated around sex and receiving

  4.  #4Daria on March 9, 2014 at 9:37 am

    leaning forward with a man turns me off, and draws my locus of control out of me…… more likely to bleam him or worry about the future with him

    and just wind up feeling not filled up

  5.  #5Daria on March 9, 2014 at 9:53 am

    now that i leaned forward a few times i feel all drawn out of myself and pulled to continue

  6.  #6Indigo on March 9, 2014 at 10:02 am


    I feel excited to share something with you.

    You know I said I’d been spending a bit of time with my ex, D – no big deal. I wrote about how different I feel – during our few months apart I did a tremendous amount of healing – falling in love with my own life, getting clear on what I want, dating other guys, forgiving and loving myself, feeling through my feelings, finding the things I love to do… so many things. I can feel how different I am when I’m around him now – I feel so much more powerful, so much more in control, so much more forgiving of him. I feel as if I can take responsibility for where I find myself – and with him, I feel able to do what feels good and caring for me, yet I’m also able to feel soft and empathetic towards him.

    Last night (Saturday) D messaged me and asked if I would like to come and watch the rugby with him. I nearly fell off my bed. He hasn’t done this in a very long time. I couldn’t go, as I already had other plans, but he asked me to text him when I was finished for the evening, he seemed to want to see me.

    So I went out with my girlfriends, and yes, I did feel like texting D, so I did. I went round there and he hugged me gently (I know, I am driving to his house… but it doesn’t feel bad to me at all. I feel powerful) then he invited me through to his bedroom to lie down with him. It wasn’t a sexual thing – he wrapped me in his arms and he put on some new TV series and we laughed and giggled and chatted. And we went to sleep in the same bed. For the whole night.

    Now, you may not remember, but D and I have not slept in the same bed in over 2 years. It became and point of resistance and fighting and honestly just broke my heart, and I didn’t think it would ever, ever come right again.

    And last night… he invited me into his bed. Not to have sex… just to be with him.

    I feel incredible today, I have to tell you.

  7.  #7Indigo on March 9, 2014 at 10:06 am

    Just so I’m clear… I am not running back to him by any means. I am still dating other guys and doing what I love and getting on with my life…

    But it is amazing to me to notice these things with him…

  8.  #8Daria on March 9, 2014 at 10:29 am

    i am getting more and more of what i want (sexually in the spot light at moment)

    i notice myself feeling scared and blocking what i want!

    im healing yay babysteps yay yay yay

  9.  #9Daria on March 9, 2014 at 10:32 am

    speaking of driving round to them and feeling good an powerful….

    i can see how its sucking the attraction and trust out of me for him and the relationship

    usually happens after the fact of it, and i am getting ahunch that its what stifled our sex too

    i feel more aware and powerful and will find other ways to fill myself up other than leaning forward in Any

    i DO want a relationshp i want

  10.  #10Daria on March 9, 2014 at 10:34 am

    its crazy how it can feel really good, and ‘no biggie’ and slide into ‘just slightly sad’ to ‘feel like running away’

    to ‘oh no who does he think he is ill show him and pull away NOW’

  11.  #11Luzydel on March 9, 2014 at 10:43 am

    My date with CuteCD got cancelled; he texted me last night to tell me a family member(Aunt) had an accident and was in ICU and that he will make it up to me.

    First when he cancelled I got this feeling of reacting harsh and pretend I didn’t care. But I felt disappointed he canceled. I felt that feeling and was able to accept that for whatever reason it wasn’t going to happen and to accept that with grace.

    I will be 40 on March 22nd and I was dreading that time since I turned 37. But I am turning in such a wonderful, peaceful, elegant woman! I am able to make better decisions, I am becoming more financially stable. I am becoming the woman I wanted to be when I was in my 20’s. My 40’s are going to be wonderful!

  12.  #12Hana on March 9, 2014 at 11:01 am

    🙁 Ladies, am so sad!

  13.  #13Liquid Light on March 9, 2014 at 12:04 pm

    Thanks for posting, Rori! I just signed up! I LOVE Lauren Frances and Millionaire Matchmaker!!! Should be fun! Woohhooo!!!!

  14.  #14Liquid Light on March 9, 2014 at 12:06 pm

    I wouldn’t sweat it Luzydel, things come up and emergencies happen. Also, turning 40 is awesome! I was dreading it too when it happened 8 yrs ago, now I wish I could go back because it is an awesome time of life. 40 is great! Enjoy it, girl!!!!

  15.  #15Cris on March 9, 2014 at 12:53 pm

    …being open and grateful needs some practise… just doing that because it’s true, no matter what the proposal by your man is, not because you, at the end, want to be nice…
    being really open and have no expectations, no preferred options… working on it 🙂

  16.  #16Tereana on March 9, 2014 at 1:05 pm

    Maybe I should sign up for this. I’ve always liked the LOPR. And I might need it…

    Ladies, I’ve been feeling stressed.

    There was time change this weekend. And he had his sister’s wedding. And then, we were having a pefectly good convo via text/msg, and suddenly he asks me if he can talk dirty. I mean, what??

    Oy, I felt so stressed by that. I mean, I appreciate that he asked, but it’s what he asked that stresses me out. And all day he was with his family, not texting me or anything. We are telling each other that we love each other. And then suddenly he just wants to talk dirty.

    It was enough to make me feel sick to my stomach and run away and say “this just isn’t working.” I’m not sure if that is just fear and panic (probably just fear and panic), or if it’s a legitimate red flag. Or, if his clueless question is enough to instill fear and panic and this “non-safety” feeling, is that enough of a red flag?

    I decided…I’ve got too much energy flowing toward him. I’ve taken the initiative and sent him some messages. I was making sure he felt supported during the wedding – not like I had to. Just that I knew he was going to be busy, as the brother of the bride.

    It just felt so cheap that, after all that, he wanted to “talk dirty.” I don’t even know where that came from..

    But, I think I have to watch myself. I think I might have made him wrong. I got pretty upset that he asked. And I told him I had a bad feeling and that I didn’t want to hear from him anymore. Probably overreacting.

    But what I really want is to talk. His question makes me feel separation and distance, and like I am this “object” not a person. But what i really want is…I want to talk about what’s going on in my life that is stressing me out (not him). I want to talk about sex, but in a real way, not like “talking dirty.” And I want to do it face to face. And I can’t do that for another week until he gets back.

    And now I’m afraid I might have freaked out too much and he won’t want to bother. But I’m kind of okay with that. No matter what happens, I will be okay.

    But I really do want connection. So…

    I am going to go take a yoga class. And sweat it out. And connect with myself…


  17.  #17LoveAlways on March 9, 2014 at 1:15 pm

    I have not been in the prettiest of feelings. In boy mode due to necessity, yet men have been trying to flirt, tease, talk, etc. I stop, turn, smile, say what I feel in response and then get back to business not engaging too much more. At least three were tripping over themselves to get my attention. I did good not to be annoyed, but instead realized they were just being interested guys, so my smile was genuine. Diva in a bad mood with a pleasant twist 🙂

  18.  #18LoveAlways on March 9, 2014 at 1:16 pm


  19.  #19Dominique on March 9, 2014 at 1:34 pm

    Indigo – 6 – 🙂

    Love to you.


  20.  #20Hana on March 9, 2014 at 4:03 pm

    Thanks so much for the hug sweetie, right back at you! I feel better, surrounded myself with good positive energy and my friend asked me out, gonna have a lovely relaxing evening! Every time I feel like that I say, ok! Enough of feeling bad! And soon enough I’m back to being my happy self! :). Goodnight all! Update you tomorrow!!


  21.  #21Tereana on March 9, 2014 at 7:58 pm

    LoveAlways: that sounds like fun ; )

  22.  #22Tereana on March 9, 2014 at 8:07 pm

    Am I a bad person or a good CDater?

    Today I was feeling so messy and stressed about M – maybe unnecessarily, but still. Those were my feelings – that I reached out to two other guys.

    But even before that, I had woken up from a very sensual dream, involving one of said other guys – a former CDate, who had never actually been my bf, but was sort of almost close, maybe. But not quite. Never quite there.

    Anyway, I told this V from the dream about what I had dreamed. I also told him that I was seeing someone, and he was supportive. We had a lovely little chat.

    I took a long walk. I went to yoga. I took a bath.

    After my walk, I felt this big urge to talk to S. So I called him and left a message.

    Is it bad that when I got his text back I felt so wonderful reading it? I felt like this gentle tenderness in my heart seeing his words. He said he’d been thinking about me and it was nice to hear my voice.

    I nearly broke up with M over his “dirty talk” comment. But I also realized that’s not really what I want. What I want is the chance to talk about it. What I want is a face-to-face conversation where we get on the same page about sex. And even then…even then I can’t be 100% sure he’ll be on my page. So I’m pulling back, I guess, a little.

    First I asked if we could Skype. Then he said he got side-tracked, having to talk to his dad and guests. This is of course 100% true. And he has other things to do today.

    So instead of getting into a tizzy, I just decided not to respond. It’s late. It’s my bed-time. He’ll make time for me at some other point. And then we will see where we are at.

    The reason I feel like a “bad person” is that it felt so nice to hear back from S. M is everything I want. And yet, S has made me feel so good…and he’s also broken my heart a few times. So I’m not breaking up with M. I still want to choose relationship over separation. I want to choose talking rather than running. I want to face my fears and stare them down and see what my life can be like without them.

    I feel so relaxed after my bath, that really, all I want to do is go to sleep.

    So here I go…

  23.  #23Tereana on March 9, 2014 at 9:02 pm

    Hi.. Not asleep yet. Sorry I keep spamming. Lol. But this is my “outlet…”

    So, M did call me tonight and we talked. That was nice.

    But then I still had this uneasy feeling. And then a cool thing happened. I thought about the uneasy feeling, and I felt it and I named it, and now it is a lot less.

    I don’t know. Our communication hasn’t been perfect lately. But hopefully we can get back to something more pleasant and flowing soon… In like a week. I don’t want to break up with him over this. It feels like the easy way out. We have stuff to talk about. I’ll be vulnerable. That’s hard.

    But it will make it all worthwhile. At least for good practice…

  24.  #24Emerson on March 9, 2014 at 9:12 pm



  25.  #25Emerson on March 9, 2014 at 9:17 pm

    Hi sirens, I’m realizing how much things always change. I’ve worked hard to get myself in a good position, now the pressure is on to maintain it with my new job. It’s good I am happy there but I have some tough days!! I’m being challenged and a lot of boy energy required.
    I’m making time to switch it off and just relax and change my scenery…
    There are days I miss having a special someone but I am so fed up with feeling frustrated maybe the right one is not on my radar yet!!!

    ExoticCD keeps asking me to his house to wath a movie which means watching a movie in bed. I do not want to. He does not ask me on dates. I feel turned off and bored with it. I feel disconnected. I don’t know how to reply but I feel pressured to. His ego is very delicate. Another turnoff.

    I want to be authentic bit not sure what words to use…

  26.  #26Emerson on March 9, 2014 at 9:29 pm

    I feel refreshed from the weekend it’s so nice when I do things to take care of me!
    I am such a nicer person when I do! I’ve been working on self love and smiling in the mirror! Even tho I feel my face looks puffy!
    I’m in the process of reinventing my schedule do I have time for yoga and long walks!! Yaay I have a great plan!!!

  27.  #27Turquoise on March 9, 2014 at 10:00 pm

    Hi Sirens,

    I had a date with that guy I’ve been talking to since August… still need a name for him. It was very nice. He invited me over for dinner and it was delicious. He’s a better cook than I am. We had mediterranean chicken with mushrooms and spinach over cous cous, a salad and breadsticks. He lit candles, dimmed the lights… had music on, served me and did all the cleanup. We were going to watch a movie, but ended up just talking for hours. Most of it was about his divorce, and I listened, shared a little of my own experiences, but it was a good mirror for me to see how the other person feels when you talk too much about your past. I would have preferred we actually watched the movies, but I was a good listener and maybe now that that’s all out of the way, we won’t really have to talk about it much. One thing he did that no guy since my husband has done, was he offered to go start my car for me, which I thought was sweet!

    I didn’t write back to Tom, his last text was asking if I wanted to go to his place today, which I feel… he expected to be a booty call. He lives about an hour, I’m not driving an hour unless it’s something special.

    Mr. Conversation has been very flirty, I’ve heard from him every day… he wanted a booty call too. and was surprised that I turned him down. It’s funny.. I swear he can sense that I said I don’t see him that way anymore.

    I still think about Piano man pretty often, wish I could go back and do a few things differently, but maybe he will show up in my life again and I’ll get that chance.

    Another guy called me, we haven’t met yet, but he seems very nice. I’d feel open to meeting him. We talked for awhile today, he seems like a good man.

    Pen pal has been texting a lot of negatives that are going on in his life, so I’ve pulled back a bit there. Feels draining.

    I met my sister for lunch today and took my girls shopping, to dinner and then colored their hair tonight. This time change is messing with me. It’s 1 AM, and I’m still not tired!

  28.  #28blue rose on March 9, 2014 at 10:19 pm

    Tereana thanks again for being supportive.

    And thanks to all the sirens (and Rori) who have been commenting on my messages over the past year (I think I’ve been on this site for a year now).

    Yesterday I saw the new guy I started dating. he helped me look at apartments. he drove me all over and came into each property with me. He was sweet and helpful.

    It was tough – because he seems feminine energy to me. And I was in a masculine energy place since I was trying to visit a bunch of properties I picked out. But I think I did okay. he would take over at times. Once he understood what I wanted, he took out a piece of paper and mapped what order we should go in. He drove. He always opened my car door for me.

    I couldn’t bring up not liking him spending time with his ex. But I was able to tell him that I don’t like him becoming facebook friends with my frenemy. I didn’t really use feeling messages (I realized that later) but I was able to tell him that I disliked this girl, because she hits on every guy that talks to me. And I asked him if he noticed this adn he did say yes. She basically ignored him until she saw him trying to hold my hand.

    We kissed goodnight, and he wrote me a couple of texts to make sure I got home okay and to say goodnight.

    Still miss my ex, but I’m working on being present and enjoying having this guy in my life.

  29.  #29Daria on March 9, 2014 at 11:29 pm

    omgosh im just from a meeting/date

    and i feel overwhelmed and id really like men to ask me “let me go down on u”

    i would like that and that attitude and…..

    i didnt answer that main guy i had been dating’s texts for half a day ……………

  30.  #30Daria on March 9, 2014 at 11:30 pm

    im feeling neverous both these guy will be mad if i dont give them exclusivity and

    i dont want to give it up

    im not that kinda girl, im not easy, it has to be earned by a man through his actions of showing me that he’s for the long term

  31.  #31Daria on March 9, 2014 at 11:32 pm

    even More leaning back… all the leaning back is bringing me awesomeness!

  32.  #32Daria on March 9, 2014 at 11:33 pm

    thank you Daria!

  33.  #33Millie on March 10, 2014 at 12:28 am

    If you give a man a compliment…. “I love when you do blank, it makes me feel inspired and happy when you do blank.” And he responds with showing you something he did that he thinks was dumb…..what does that mean???!!!

  34.  #34Millie on March 10, 2014 at 12:30 am

    Not only did he NOT accept my compliment, but he shared something that he felt less than about…..I feel like….he doesn’t want me to compliment him and in reality, he doesn’t think highly of himself. What do you think?

  35.  #35Millie on March 10, 2014 at 1:14 am

    Ok, reading Alex Carter’s “Make him desire you” book…(he’s a good salesman, what can I say) I read the most interesting thing! He said that men with severe commitment phobia, can’t commit, but they also can’t let you go because they don’t want to feel abandoned. This is SO true with my ex. I mean, it went on for about five years….he still talks to me! He STILL says he loves me…but his words don’t match his actions. He’s all over the place….but it makes perfect sense! He doesnt want to feel alone, yet he makes himself that way. So interesting!

  36.  #36Dominique on March 10, 2014 at 5:15 am

    Emerson – How about this – “I don’t feel comfortable watching a movie in your bedroom. It would feel SO good to………(whatever it is you would prefer to do, eg. go to dinner, go our for a movie, dancing, etc.). What do you think?


  37.  #37Dominique on March 10, 2014 at 5:25 am

    Millie – 33 – Maybe he simply has trouble receiving compliments like so many of us do. Most of us are unaccustomed, so it can feel weird/embarrassing/uncomfortable, yet good at the same time.

    I wouldn’t suggest thinking/fretting/worrying about it so much. It doesn’t seem so important. If it continues, we can talk more, maybe script something to say to him.


  38.  #38Andrea on March 10, 2014 at 6:04 am

    Millie # 34.. That just happened to me this weekend. A friend of a friend introduced himself to me and he said, “I’m known as the guy that gives THE BEST hugs.” And he swept me up into his big arms and pulled me close and gave me the most wonderful teddy bear hug.

    I said, “Wow, you DO give the best hugs. I feel so warm and safe and wonderful. You’re great.”

    Then right away he went into…”wait a sec, step back”
    mode. He said, “Well, that’s the only thing good about me, I mean, I’m pretty much a bundle of problems past that.”

    I told him, “Well, I completely believe you. I heard a quote once that said, If a man tells you that he’s not good enough for you…. believe him.”

    Then I gave him a peck on the cheek and walked very quickly away. That is definitely NOT the kind of energy I wanted to be around that night. But it was frustrating/interesting enough to stay on my mind days later.

  39.  #39Cris on March 10, 2014 at 6:55 am

    @Andrea you are “genial” (= great)!!

  40.  #40Kyla on March 10, 2014 at 7:28 am

    I had a deep feeling wkd and feel like I healed a bunch of layers that I can’t and don’t need to identify. I had a weird sort of argument/disagreement with Archer. He was triggered by something innocuous and his reaction surprised and really triggered me. And yet it wasn’t about us at all. More like we were both dealing with ghosts and letting each other act the ghosts part. I felt attacked, punished and blamed. I felt pushed and defensive.

    I let myself feel my mad right down to my toes and sit with it and let it swirl around in me and mingle with my sad and my fear and I didn’t do anything with it except feel it. I listened. I agreed. I spoke my truth and I didn’t beat myself up that it wasn’t perfect. I had no script and so I paused and I felt. And sometimes I had to catch myself mid sentence and start again. My tone and volume were good and I stayed with my authentic voice. I kept my body open. I remained warm. I held my boundaries.

    After a while I cried. I didn’t want to be that vulnerable and at first I tried to hide it, tried to stop the tears and tried to leave the room. I felt afraid and brave and stupid and fierce all at once. I felt the feelings flowing and my heart open. I felt his energy changing too and then the energy in the room started to change. And I just stayed with the feeling, not letting my thoughts take over but just feeling what I was feeling shift and move and flow and morph for a few minutes and then I hugged Archer and said thank you. Nothing was solved or fixed and yet everything was healed. Much later he apologised and thanked me too. We had the most wonderful wkd.

  41.  #41Kyla on March 10, 2014 at 7:37 am

    Andrea, I adore your scripting. I am always inspired and awed when you share. I feel humbled by your honesty. I feel coaxed and encouraged to baby step expressing my truth even more after I read your updates. Much love to you.

  42.  #42Kyla on March 10, 2014 at 7:53 am

    DrWho has resurfaced and I feel luke warm about responding. I feel bored actually. I don’t want a hot/cold man. I don’t want a man that hides in his cave for weeks at a time. I like space and am happy to encourage freedom but no contact is not acceptable to me. His greatest flaw is his ability to disappear. I don’t want an illusionist. I can be warm with him but I don’t want to, I think I am done now. He friend zoned himself and I’m not in the market for new man friends right now. Interesting. I feel the same about NewGuy. I am worthy of so much better. Thank you for the message.

  43.  #43Millie on March 10, 2014 at 8:30 am

    Andrea that’s an amazing response ! Haha, I love now you are able to say that with grace and ease!

    Dominique–yeah I’m not going to worry about it and I think your right. This is the second time he’s deflected a compliment from me. The first time I pointed it out. And teased him a little in a nice way. His reaction is not gonna stop me from giving out compliments.

    I had an amazing weekend ladies…driving to work right now but I’ll share later.

  44.  #44Femininewoman on March 10, 2014 at 9:07 am

    Kyla I have one like that too. Have called him houdini. He recently resurfaced after several months but I told him “no thank you”.

  45.  #45Liquid Light on March 10, 2014 at 9:48 am

    I had another date with architect yesterday and surprisingly it was really fun. We were both a little guarded at first since the last date didn’t work out but that quickly dissipated and we both relaxed. He’s very smart and talented. He showed me his portfolio which very impressive. And he asked me about my 4 month trip to Asia which I took several years ago. I went into a lot of detail about it, he wanted to know everywhere I went, and it was fun to talk about and be heard. I hadn’t talked about it in ages. He started getting more amorous as the dinner went on but not too bad. It helped that we were sitting across from each other not next to each other. hahahaha! Anyway, it was a surprisingly fun evening esp since I went into it with a lot of skepticism.

  46.  #46Dominique on March 10, 2014 at 9:55 am

    Kyla – 40 – AWESOME. This is so great. What a wonderful breakthrough.YAY you!!!

    Remember that you’re not necessarily looking for resolution or closure. The biggest thing you can do here is discover what you feel and express this in way which can be heard, i.e BE vulnerable, and this is what you did.


  47.  #47Indigo on March 10, 2014 at 10:16 am


    I would take it as a sign that he perhaps the self-confidence or self-love to just accept a compliment, but also that he may just be a bit young and immature.

    Like Dominique said, I *really* wouldn’t fret or pay too much attention to it, it’s not about you.

  48.  #48Indigo on March 10, 2014 at 10:16 am

    * he perhaps lacks

  49.  #49Dominique on March 10, 2014 at 10:56 am

    Indigo – Loving the song you posted on the other thread. 🙂


  50.  #50LoveAlways on March 10, 2014 at 10:58 am

    Tereana 21

    I guess it was fun in a siren kind of way, lol, once I felt that I was starting that old feeling of annoyance. I understand now that was a trigger for me, so in the end, I did relax into it. I’m learning.

  51.  #51LoveAlways on March 10, 2014 at 11:05 am

    I feel a little selfish.
    I have to come clean with this.
    I started a siren blog in order to do some riffing
    I feel selfish for using the name siren and not sharing it with everyone
    I am one of many 🙂
    It was indeed meant for us all
    It’s all about my experience as a siren
    and my using Rori’s tools
    and healing
    and power
    and this is what brings us all together here on siren island, and I don’t like this feeling of being selfish
    it is something we are all going through and experiencing.
    You sirens can riff there too!
    click on my avatar and you will get the link.
    You can post riff whatever
    ahhhh, it feels better to get that off my chest and out there now
    I feel better.

  52.  #52Kyla on March 10, 2014 at 11:17 am

    Yes FW, Houdini! I call DrWho beacuse of his real/profession and also his ability to disappear into thin air!

    Thanks Dominique! It felt magical and no resolution was necessary, exactly! I felt truly uplifted and recharged by the experience… So different from the usual sad, sorry and drained feelings I’ve experienced after an argument.

  53.  #53LoveAlways on March 10, 2014 at 11:54 am

    It feels good to be a feeling feminine powered woman even when I’m actually feel awful

  54.  #54LoveAlways on March 10, 2014 at 12:04 pm


  55.  #55Helena Hart on March 10, 2014 at 12:12 pm

    LoveAlways – 51 – I just checked out your siren blog, it’s beautiful! Great idea! 🙂

    Love, Helena

  56.  #56Femininewoman on March 10, 2014 at 12:58 pm

    Just saw this on FB:-

    Never get jealous when you see your ex with someone else, because our parents taught us to give our toys to the less fortunate.

  57.  #57Indigo on March 10, 2014 at 1:13 pm

    Ooh thank you Dominique 🙂 that brings a smile to my heart.

    She has such a beautiful voice and I love the feeling conveyed of just being.

  58.  #58Daria on March 10, 2014 at 1:42 pm

    I feel excited!

    I felt overwhelmed at yesterdays very long first date…

    and yet it really has kept me feeling good about myself today to have connected with a(nother) man

    I am no longer feeling as pulled to hang out/plan smthn/go to the other guy I was mainly dating….

    I know he missed me yesterday and wants to see me today (texts)

    but he hasn’t asked to Come see me or anything…


    I feel better leaning back! than feeling sad and piny

    yay me

    I feel brave

  59.  #59LoveAlways on March 10, 2014 at 1:48 pm

    Thank you Helena, I’m glad I shared it 🙂

    Feeling better now. Have to get moving, working on changing my vibe even more today. Time for some stress busting me time. I feel like I’ve been falling apart lately

  60.  #60Daria on March 10, 2014 at 1:48 pm


    hehe sounds a bit like my new cd, I wonder if he will ask me out on a date

    im gonna say

    “it would feel great to see you… I don’t feel good going on a date to a guy’s house though… I feel better when a man takes me out”

  61.  #61Liquid Light on March 10, 2014 at 2:47 pm

    I had another date yesterday for coffee. Inside the coffee place, I spotted someone I had been on a date with a few weeks ago. He was on a date with someone else. WE pretended that we didn’t notice each other but it was awkward! Then while I was sitting having coffee, I spotted someone from Match that I recognized and had communicated with. This was all while I was on my first date with someone else from Match. Dating is nerve wracking enough without all the run-ins. Sheesh! What a weird date! Is the universe trying to tell me something???

  62.  #62Daria on March 10, 2014 at 2:50 pm

    M-man wrte me to say itsh is birthday

    I wrote a praiseful message

    and he invited me to the party this wweeken

    I sked if I could brin someone and he said yeah

    hehe might feel interesting

  63.  #63Kyla on March 10, 2014 at 5:32 pm

    I’m mostly meeting men 9 – 16 years older: we have similar life experience, career levels, have traveled, divorced, have kids in similar age brackets and know we don’t want to have more. I married and had kids very young. The dates closer to my age are still partying or only considering buying homes, settling down and having kids now and we seem to be worlds apart in terms of where we are and what we want from life.

    I feel defensive when that’s commented on by friends as weird (even though my friends are 10 – 20 years older too!!!) or when I hear them make flippant remarks about age.

    It feels good to know that I’m getting clearer and clearer on what I want and am attracting men reading from my page. Yay for me and men of any age who want to make me happy!

  64.  #64Turquoise on March 10, 2014 at 6:17 pm

    Liquid light, wow… that is a lot of run ins in one place. 🙂

    So…. remember I said Mr. Conversation wanted a booty call this weekend? He texted me to say that he’s decided to MARRY the woman he’s been seeing off an on, since fall, because she’s his best bet. But here is the kicker, April 7th in Vegas, IF they can manage to not break up before then. They break up every 7-14 days. He said she’s cool with him and I still being BFF’ though. I seriously thought he was on drugs, and even asked him that. They each have 3 kids, not telling them, and not planning to live together, just go get married because she’s too insecure and thinks he’s on all these dating sites. Which, he is on a couple, and just wrote to a friend of mine a couple weeks ago. I told him I think it’s a disaster of an idea, and I’m not supportive. It’s not about me dating him before or jealousy or anything like that…. he makes her sound like a lunatic. But I’m questioning his judgement and wondering what he’s saying to her to make her act so crazy. I told him good luck, and he got kinda mad that I’m not being cool about it. I just don’t want to deal with all this drama. Big step back. Like soooo far back, I feel like blocking him. Ugh. And he thought a booty call 2 days ago was a good idea! I’m so glad I didn’t go!

  65.  #65LoveAlways on March 10, 2014 at 7:02 pm

    Had a good break, some helpful me time. Still feeling anxious and jumpy like a cold wet kitty

  66.  #66isa on March 10, 2014 at 7:10 pm

    @Turquiose #64 That’s a great call on your part! Go Girl!


    OK got all my NV’s and frustrations out on here and then talked to someone… who helped me get clear… before our date… so glad I did.

    “J” came on Friday night… and we had a nice dinner at a restaurant I hadn’t been to in long long while…

    In the car I mentioned it…. and he did get a little frustrated, I said I’m feeling confused… I’ve never had a man not show me… so he showed me… and I said, I’ll show you mine… I later told him why it was so important to me…. he was very understanding… I told him it wasn’t personal to him, all men I date…

    So, that was that…. and he had the STD… check and we got intimate and he just stopped and said so you need this in order to move forward in a sexual way… I stood on my bridge….. I said yes, I need …………… and I said what do you think? He said, I adore you, of course I will do that… and it was very nice… very nice… he spent the entire weekend with me here…. it went well …. and when we woke up the next morning… he reiterated that yes, he meant that he adored me…and is still wanting the commitment.

    We had one bump in the road……. and yet it really wasn’t a bump….b/c we communicate well and he doesn’t get upset or bothered easily…

    Went out Sat night… was fun and I was really focusing on leaning back some and watching the bubble… realizing he might need space after the commitment thing…. but he leaned forward with lots of kisses and attention….

    I didn’t think he really paid attention to my outfit that night I dressed up for him… sexy…. and then that night during love making he said you looked amazing tonight… that felt sooo good to wait on him to tell me when he wanted to instead of me feeling insecure needing validation, which I don’t….. I knew I looked amazing… and so it was so nice to get the compliment…..

    He opened up to me….. about a lot of things that had been going on with him last week…. fears and all….he barely called me… and of course I didn’t lean forward…and my NV’s came and went…glad I didn’t act on them…

    I don’t know where this is leading but I do know it feels so good to have a man that just lets me be me! and I let him be him and it feels easy…

    We stayed up all night singing songs together in bed and laughing so hard…. I’ve never had that before… it feels good….. and I slept so hard in his arms… I’ve never had that either…. that was priceless to me…


  67.  #67Liquid Light on March 10, 2014 at 7:30 pm

    I listened to the live session today with Orna and Matthew and it was great! Thanks a lot for that! Did anyone else listen to it? It was about the 7 main mistakes/blocks that we make that get in the way of a love relationship. Good stuff!

  68.  #68Liquid Light on March 10, 2014 at 7:34 pm

    yeah it was turquoise, it was really strange! wondering what the message was??? :O

  69.  #69Turquoise on March 10, 2014 at 7:37 pm

    I’ve been wondering that too LL… hmmm…. maybe that there are good possibilities around you…. and to keep your eyes open for someone familiar! 🙂

  70.  #70Indigo on March 10, 2014 at 9:36 pm

    Turquoise 64,

    Good heavens! What a lot of chaos and drama, and that’s only within that one relationship. I would feel very wary of a man like that and feel great compassion for his future wife.

    It made me think of people on the periphery of my life who seem to swirl in this kind of drama, and occasionally attempt to drag me in in some way. I can barely describe how awful it feels to see people hurting and being swept up in this kind of insecurity, chaos and intrigue – very exhausting too. I have had to construct quite firm boundaries around this to keep it at a distance.

  71.  #71Emerson on March 10, 2014 at 10:49 pm

    Thanks Dominique and Daria … I like both your scripts <3

  72.  #72Emerson on March 10, 2014 at 10:52 pm

    I actually feel totally unmotivated to reply to exoticCD at this point…
    I don’t feel the attraction because his energy is feminine and it’s a turnoff …
    I am adding to my vision board …
    I have 2 or 3 of them…
    When I looked at one the other day the picture have literally manifested in my life almost verbatim!!
    So be careful what I wish for! In a good way !

  73.  #73Emerson on March 10, 2014 at 10:54 pm

    I’m grabbing those free magazine from grocery stores and using magazines and even catalogs… I find lots of things to cut out and inspire me!
    Also I feel good about my letter to myself ….
    The financial part has been true so far, my finances have improved alot!!

  74.  #74Emerson on March 10, 2014 at 10:56 pm

    I still worry about the future a little. Bit somehow I know it will be ok.
    I intend to improve my eating habits.
    I have been about 50/50 with good and bad eating. I need some more discipline !!!

  75.  #75Millie on March 11, 2014 at 12:29 am

    Sometimes all this guy/relationship stuff feels like so much work. I’m reading Alex Carter’s ebook right now and I feel like…for someone that isn’t a game player…it feels a bit foreign. Also the way he writes is frustrating, he takes too many detours, I’m like, just get to the point already! He has good suggestions, but doesn’t go in depth enough on how to execute them, or good examples of executing them. I feel like I’m left hanging…with no game. Which makes me kinda want to get up and walk out of the game.

  76.  #76Syreena on March 11, 2014 at 2:23 am

    Men who want you to be their therapist, what is that all about? Who want to talk about their failed relationships and heartache with women. They are fun and witty some of the time and then this. All so little boyish..

    I quite like their fun company for a while until they start talking about how they can’t get a woman or keep one. And all of them like me would be quite happy to use my body. NO THANKS. All of them are ‘nice’ to women but are wanting something in exchange for being nice. It feels weird I listen, watch without getting fully involved. It looks like using to me. Like the women who they like who phone them up and ask them to do jobs for are using them. Then they want to use their bodies in return or get dinner made for them. The women don’t love them and they don’t love the women.

  77.  #77Syreena on March 11, 2014 at 2:29 am

    Would feel good to listen to the love blocks LL. Have you a link?

  78.  #78Syreena on March 11, 2014 at 2:42 am

    They all say the same think and ask the same question. I’m nice, I do nice things for them ” why do they abuse me and why won’t they sleep with me or make me dinner in return for being nice.
    It’s the same attitude and mentality of men who buy women dinner and then believe they are entitled to sex in return for buying them dinner.

  79.  #79T.Bradley on March 11, 2014 at 5:22 am

    Ive met two guys within the last month that are both older than I am. They are pretty settled and have great jobs. I too had my kids at a very young age and these guys have older kids and dont want anymore either. However I think thats a good thing but the guy that im going thru some things with now is 5 years younger and have no kids. We talked about marriage and having 2 kids together. That was a scare for me but i was willing to do it because of the love I have for him. Now that im learning more and more that his mind isnt stable I dont think me givcing him kids would be a good idea. We started back talking and now he’s mad again over something stupid. We agreed to be just friends but we was out and he seen me dancing with this guy from my home town. I asked him why was he upset and he couldnt answer. Keep in mind this is the same guy that wants his ex back!!! He said some very ugly things to me on yesterday that really hurt my feelings but i refuse this time to let that hold me down!! Its time to live!

  80.  #80Emerson on March 11, 2014 at 6:50 am

    Hi sirens it’s going to be a good day.
    I intend to practice listening at level 2 as waterwheeling!!!

  81.  #81Femininewoman on March 11, 2014 at 6:51 am

    Shared by a friend

    Make sure everyone in your “boat” is rowing and not drilling holes while you are not looking… Know your circle!!!

  82.  #82Kyla on March 11, 2014 at 7:25 am

    T.Bradley, I’m glad to hear that you’re CDing and you dropped that man from your rotation. I decided I don’t want to convert any CDs to friends for that reason. If we aren’t dating then I’m not available to him. He can pursue or move on.

    For me, it’s really important to know what I want and to be around others that know what they want. I’m finished having kids. I don’t date men who want to have kids, its dealbreaker and heartbreaker territory. I am not willing to sacrafice my own dreams to convenience anothers.

    The funny thing is that being crystal clear on this has not limited my options as I thought it would, I have more men contacting than ever and they are matching my ‘must haves’. I believe we are calling each other out 🙂

  83.  #83Emerson on March 11, 2014 at 7:32 am

    79 FW I like this!!!

  84.  #84LoveAlways on March 11, 2014 at 8:08 am

    Ahh, today is clearly another day in and out of the pits. I’m going to just BE and feel my way through it.

  85.  #85LoveAlways on March 11, 2014 at 8:09 am

    I’m getting much better at this, not like the drama queen I used to be (pre-siren)

  86.  #86T.Bradley on March 11, 2014 at 8:10 am

    I said I was done having kids being that mine are 18 and 13. I was willing to sacrifice for my husband but I dont even think I would do that now!!! But the older guys that are interested in me I dont think its gonna work because of their ages!

  87.  #87LoveAlways on March 11, 2014 at 8:11 am

    Syreena # 75

    I have learned that those type of men are actually toxic drama. They play the victim but that is merely a cover in my opinion.

  88.  #88LoveAlways on March 11, 2014 at 8:12 am

    Indigo 69

    “It made me think of people on the periphery of my life who seem to swirl in this kind of drama, and occasionally attempt to drag me in in some way. I can barely describe how awful it feels to see people hurting and being swept up in this kind of insecurity, chaos and intrigue – very exhausting too. I have had to construct quite firm boundaries around this to keep it at a distance.”

    This is SOOOOO true. It does feel awful, but it feels better when I avoid it 🙂

  89.  #89LoveAlways on March 11, 2014 at 8:15 am

    Emerson #71

    Have you also tried pictures on line? You can keep an online edition of your vision board using one of the social networks (pinterest/facebook) and just keep it private. I’m working on a new one currently on pinterest.

  90.  #90Femininewoman on March 11, 2014 at 9:08 am

    Just saw this in an email:-

    “Nick Bastion, author of Enchant Him: How To Reach His Heart Deeply has some shocking advice here.

    I have to admit that this took me by surprise. But it also grabbed me, and I like that. : )

    Nick says it’s time to get REAL about this one thing that may be doing more harm than you think.

    “Yep, we’re going there – this is the moment you’ve been dreading,” says Nick.

    “We’re going to talk about your past relationships. And we’re wading all the way into this swamp, so get ready.

    “First off, the single most important thing you need to come to terms with about your past relationships is that you’re over them. ALL of them.

    “From the boy in seventh grade who dissed you at the dance, to the most recent heartbreak.

    “No guy on earth wants to deal with that baggage.

    “As competitive as men are, they’re smart enough not to go up against the Ghost of Boyfriends Past. They’ll stay far, far away.

    “So get rid of the photos, delete those voice mails and texts, unfriend him on Facebook – do whatever it is you have to do to put the past behind you.

    “You don’t have to forget about former loves completely; after all, it’s part of who you are, and denying your past is just as bad as clinging to it.

    “But these relationships need to be firmly in the past.”

    Nick Bastion and co-author Carrie Engel talk about whether you should stay friends with an ex in their book, as well – but most of all, their book goes to the heart of how to *enchant* a man.

    “There are certain things that reach a man’s heart profoundly… and when you use them, you’ll ‘enchant’ him,” says Nick.”

    I decided to take it to heart so I just unfriend one ex who never communicates with me on FB and then a guy who suggested he was crazy about me but I have not heard from in months. Oddly enough, I feel so shaky and scared about the ex than I thought I would be. Amazing myself about how I hide tiny smidgens of hope away, even from myself. Could I be so afraid of losing something/someone that I don’t even have.

  91.  #91Daria on March 11, 2014 at 11:19 am

    (((((((((((((FeminineWoman))))))))))))))))))) that feels very moving to read

  92.  #92Indigo on March 11, 2014 at 11:49 am

    Feminine Woman 88,

    I agree with what Nick Bastion says about the way men feel about your past relationships/exes.

    That is why I like to be very authentic and honest about where I am emotionally as soon as things with a guy I’m just dating start to intensify and get more serious.

    I know that there is a certain amount of emotional unavailability in me with many guys and I feel it’s on me to own that, because a good man deserves a chance to get to know you and come close to your heart, and not to have to compete with the Ghosts of Boyfriends Past. And I know this is inhibiting me with things going further with most of the guys I date, and I am ok with that for now.

  93.  #93prplpsn28 on March 11, 2014 at 12:01 pm


  94.  #94Femininewoman on March 11, 2014 at 12:18 pm

    Thanks Daria.

    Indigo maybe that is where I feel confusion. I am not sure about how to totally let go of someone. It seems there is a little space in my heart for exes even when I have long moved on and not even thought of a particular one for a long time. If a conversation triggers a memory then feelings might pop up even though I am not consciously holding on to any.

  95.  #95Femininewoman on March 11, 2014 at 12:22 pm

    I have struggled with the unfriending on FB for a while. I have adjusted the settings but when someone is online their picture still shows up and I find I deliberately look for the person. Yet the thought of unfriending has felt like a hostile move so I have always avoided doing it. I have chosen not to look on their wall or take down my profile picture on and off. Really a difficult decision but now it is done because I really want to release myself and feels what it is like to take my energy back to me in as many areas as possible.

  96.  #96Indigo on March 11, 2014 at 12:24 pm

    Yes Feminine Woman, I know what you mean.

    I for one seem to reserve a huge space in my heart for exes, even after I have moved on and they have moved on, and I have wished them well. If I loved someone once, I will always love them in a way, and I have made peace with that. That is who I am.

  97.  #97Millie on March 11, 2014 at 1:14 pm

    I feel the same about unfriending feminewoman. It feels hostile and angrry to me. I’ve only done it a few times, to an ex that was so painful to look at his posts. Now you can put people on “acquaintance” so Facebook isn’t an open book anymore. But I also know that keeping an ex as a friend on fb is like keeping a little string. However fine, it’s there.

  98.  #98Turquoise on March 11, 2014 at 2:02 pm

    Millie, I was tempted to get that book too… but I like direct. Glad to get your opinion! Thanks for sharing!!

    Shared by a friend

    Make sure everyone in your “boat” is rowing and not drilling holes while you are not looking… Know your circle!!! FW, I LOVE THIS!!!

    Mr. Conversation is officially out of my life. I had to block him today because he was sending me all these awful texts and swearing at me, calling me names… because I’m not a good friend if I don’t want to hear about his relationship. They literally break up every 7-10 days. He says terrible things about her, yet I’m the dictator. Too much drama, I’m out.

    I’m scared to unfriend my ex’s too…. but maybe I should. I definitely keep that little string of hope with some of them.

  99.  #99T.Bradley on March 12, 2014 at 12:01 pm

    Its strange that we as people feel that way about someone we was once in love with. But for me it only last for a certain length of time. My kids dad was my first love and i thought I would never get over this guy! I felt so incomplete without him and finally I got over him and told him. At one time I was chatting with him daily but that came to an end. I dont ever think about him.

    The one that I’m trying to get over now will soon have the same story once Im just fed up! I think im having a hard time with him is because he asked me to marry him and no one has ever asked that before. Even tho things didnt work as planned he did at least ask.
    But I do understand what you mean in your post! So will you take any of them back?

  100.  #100Femininewoman on March 12, 2014 at 12:57 pm

    Millie I had it on acquaintance and some posts still pop up. Plus I can always tell when they are online. Ignornce feels like bliss right now, a day later.

  101.  #101Tereana on March 12, 2014 at 5:19 pm

    Emerson – Thank you, for hugs! It’s weird, but I’ve been feeling lately like I need/want *more* of an outlet for my boy energy. Because I know it’s there. I just want to be able to use it to be productive rather than let it creep into my relationships…lol. But I’ll find a way…

    LoveAlways, thank you for sharing about your blog! I look forward to checking it out : )

  102.  #102Indigo on March 12, 2014 at 9:49 pm

    T Bradley,

    I can usually be “over” them, in the sense that I’ve moved on with my life and realize the relationship ending was for the best, and no, with the exception of D, I would not take any of them back.

    But I continue to have a soft, loving place for them in my heart. I continue to honour what they once were to me, and what I once was to them. I don’t stop loving them in that sense, but it is a painless love with no ties attached to it.