Free Rori Raye Webinar Tomorrow – What’s Your Dream?

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rori greenWhat’s The Dream?

This is what the hero, Joe, asks the prostitute, Kitty, in my favorite play – William Saroyan’s “The Time Of Your Life.”

The play is set in “Nick’s,” a San Francisco waterfront honky-tonk.

It’s a place of great tolerance and freedom – bordering more on fantasy than reality – a place where the dreams of the characters begin to come true, where the starving find sustenance, the deprived get a break, and the lonely and disheartened find love and hope.

For me, the moment when Joe sits at the bar next to the great chracter Kitty Duval and asks her – probably for the thousandth time – “What’s the dream?” – and, among many visions and dreams she has and talks about – her answer is “I dream of home.”

So, the question I want to ask you is – what’s YOUR dream? And if your dream isn’t literally, “Home” – perhaps it’s your own meaning of a “home” inside you, where you feel yourself, where you feel surrounded by love, enveloped by peace, and with a way to express yourself that can be heard by everyone.

The totality of your dream may not be a bunch of material things or specific situations, or goals, even – and yet, they might!

To get some of your personal questions answered, and to see my “Make Your Dream Real” webinar slide show tomorrow, Saturday, May 7th! – just go here–>>

(…Once you grab your space on the Webinar, you’ll be able to instantly download my new free worksheet: “How to Fall In Love With Chaos….”)

Having money and the ability to travel and have a great physical “home” are nothing to “sniff” at.

Having work you love (because we ALL work…) accounts for a good feeling for 8-10 hours of our days -day after day.

We’re lucky we don’t have to trade our bodies and sexuality for money, like Kitty Duval (though many women still do, all over the world…), and yet, some of us DO trade ourselves for a hope of love, connection, and some for status and power in a man that attracts us.

  • We almost ALL trade some parts of ourselves each day to soothe the “survival” instincts that crop up inside each of us when we’re triggered by fear.

If you’re stressed out trying to get so much done, and there simply isn’t time in your day to “make things better with a big PLAN” – come to the Business siren Webinar – Make Your Dream Real.”

I’ll share with you my secrets for living like a girl, and still getting more done than anyone I know. (You’ll also get to hear me “pffumpff around” with the tech of my very first webinar with full slide show! – the slide pictures are my personal photos, they all mean something to me, and correspond with how I work and live my life.)

Join me on Saturday, May 7th, at 10am PDT, 1pm EDT, and 6pm Europe, to get new Tools, new ideas, get your questions answered, and find out how you can work with me personally.

Go here to let me know you’re coming, and to download a free Worksheet: “How to Fall In Love With Chaos” – it’ll instantly help you ease up on yourself and find MORE getting done around you!

Love,  Rori


  1.  #1April Rose on May 6, 2016 at 1:47 pm

    Ooh Rori, I can’t wait for the webinar… 🙂

  2.  #2Grace on May 6, 2016 at 6:54 pm

    I feel so excited and ready for this!!!!

  3.  #3Femininewoman on May 6, 2016 at 9:08 pm


  4.  #4Millie on May 6, 2016 at 10:19 pm

    I feel so mad right now. I have been talking to a new man online and on the phone. He sounds great and I was really excited to meet him. Unfortunately, every time he has made plans, he then disappears and then reappears with an excuse. This has happened twice, the first-ok I understand things come up, the second I felt like he stood me up so I communicated that. He apologized profusely and made up for it in talking to me and promised the next date would work. That was supposed to be tonight and all of a sudden he just dropped away again. I gave him three chances. This was the last one. I really enjoyed talking to him and I feel sad that he doesn’t seem to be following through with meeting. I deleted my online profile. I can’t do it anymore.

  5.  #5Millie on May 6, 2016 at 10:53 pm

    I wrote M a hi-bye letter as per Pat Allen. I wrote it a few weeks ago and I actually re-read it tonight and it sounds wonderful. It hasn’t been 8 weeks yet, I’m debating if I want to send to him. I have three more weeks of silence in accordance to her. I’m going to see how I feel then.

  6.  #6Zara on May 6, 2016 at 11:45 pm

    4 Millie *I deleted my online profile. I can’t do it anymore.*

    Really, Millie? Deleting your dating profile over a man you have never met and with whom you have talked merely a couple of times? Burning down bridges for a fly who did not even land on the border of your window?

    Can you afford to burn bridges each time a fly happens to buzz bye, considering there are millions of flies and their job is to buzz bye.
    Or would it save your life time to, instead, learn to build your fly screen and keep the bridge open to the world?


  7.  #7Millie on May 7, 2016 at 6:33 am

    Zara I see your point, but there is so much negativity that comes with online dating, I feel like I’m inviting it in by just being on there. It’s too much.

  8.  #8Rori Raye on May 7, 2016 at 9:02 am

    Millie, I’m with Zara 100% – If you don’t build the “muscle” – you will always feel “weak.”

    It’s your pictures and profile that needs to be overhauled – and your “system.” Shutting down is always the least helpful activity.

    I’m all for Tinder and Bumbl – the more men, the more you learn. Love, Rori

  9.  #9Millie on May 7, 2016 at 12:51 pm

    Rori I feel so honored to receive your comment! Yes perhaps my photos and profile are the problem, however there is nothing that stands out as “low value” to me. Yes, I shut down a lot… I’m not sure how to get over that. 🙁

  10.  #10Mandy on May 7, 2016 at 4:16 pm

    I am going out on a date with my CD TallNDark, even though I realize i’m not nuts about him. I figure why not let a guy take me out.

    I wonder about Dancing Wolf still, craving him being near, and all that great stuff that happens when I’m with him.

    I can’t tell if he likes me crush wise or if he is just thinking oh hey, decent looking femlale, why say no, but no crushing or romantic intentions if you will. I cannot tell.

    I guess it is not my job to tell. *Shrug*

    It will be what it will be? Whatever it will be, or whatever it is already, I like it.

    It’s hard saying it believing it and then being it, but….that’s the darn truth! 😛

    Then Valentine showing back up again…I am trying not to get sucked into paying too much attention to him. He plays some serious hard to get. I am just like eh…I don’t feel like initiating anything with him. He can come after me, lol!

    TallNDark anctually TOLD me to text him (initiating) more! He told me to “bug” him more! What’s up with that??? Can I do it if he asks me to????

  11.  #11Indigo on May 8, 2016 at 11:09 am

    Mandy 10,

    “TallNDark anctually TOLD me to text him (initiating) more! He told me to “bug” him more! What’s up with that??? Can I do it if he asks me to????”

    Mandy, in my experience, yes. Text him if you feel like texting him, if he’s asked you to. Initiate contact if you feel like initiating contact. From what I’ve experienced, some men crave this kind of contact with women, so as long as you’re not going too far, I think it’s perfectly fine.

  12.  #12Indigo on May 8, 2016 at 11:10 am

    I know I seem to come on the blog every week at about this time, at the end of the weekend, to say what an amazing time I had with J, and here I am again. I am SO SO ridiculously happy.


  13.  #13Indigo on May 8, 2016 at 11:15 am


    For example, J has said that I can drop by his house any time I want, that he would love that kind of surprise. I’ve never done it, because it feels a little bit weird to me, but it’s taken me a little while to realise that he really, really means it. That even though it would seem like initiating, he is totally genuine when he says he would love a surprise visit from me – he really adores seeing me, which is a good feeling. So maybe I will one of these days. haha

  14.  #14Zara on May 8, 2016 at 1:30 pm

    LoveToMe 51 *****And the second thing that starts to trigger me until I have to look away: safety.
    I feel jealous of all of you who can feel “safety.” I can imagine that I know what that feels like. But the truth is, I have no f*cking clue. I’ve never felt it before – not with another person. No matter how much I start to trust someone, there is an underlying feeling that I might not actually be safe.
    The only place where I know how to be safe is with myself, alone, in my room, with my cat. Once someone else enter the picture, or the room, all sense of safety disappears.*****

    I don’t feel safe, sweet heart.

    I don’t feel safe on a planet on which asteroids fall out of nowhere, volcanos erupt with no warnings, rivers drown cities, sea water is propelled into a tsunami, the sweet breeze turns into a hurricane, the vital rain turns into floods, the vital energy turns into a mortal lightning, the vital sun sets forests into fire, vital love turns into murderous hatred, the biggest animals eat the smaller ones, the fastest eat the slowest, the wisest eat the simplest minded, men kill, rape, torture, keep in slavery, use and abuse their brothers, sisters, children, parents, spouses, pets, eat their fellow animals (human included), they pollute the very same planet our lives depend on, jeopardising my chances of living as long as my cells can.

    And even if I had any control on the planet and on others, I don’t feel safe in a human body that can choose to stop hosting me any time, and that WILL stop hosting me some time. I don’t feel safe within the physical mortality.

    I don’t feel safe as in “thanks to everything I do, the death of my body will never happen”.

    I don’t feel safe either as in “thanks to my knowledge of human beings, the connection with this man will never end”.
    One of us will die before the other, so that’s that.
    One of us will reach a new layer of his own inner truth that will unhook him from the level of consciousness where our connection is at.
    There is no safety that a connection which feels safe now will feel safe until death do it apart. It can happen and it does happen. Yet there is no safety it will happen.

    Safety does not relate to another ever morphing human being or to the ever morphing planet or not even to my own ever morphing body.

    Comfortable in the moment is where I am at.

    Comfortable means I do my best to not “feel” scary things that are not happening in my reality, in my present moment. It means I do my best to not replay the past in my mind and I do my best to leave the future alone. I do my best to connect, through the present moment, to my ever expanding self/soul: Love. Truth. Clarity.

    When my connection to myself goes on and off, I am in a state of confusion. If I try to connect with a man while in a state of confusion, I might end up feeling angry against my unreliable inner connection to myself. The man will most likely feel this anger and send it back at me and run away from that unsafe feeling of unreliability. Unless he wants something from me, which is another story.

    When I am not clear with myself, when I fool myself about the real reason I want this man, or about what is it I really want from this man, or about why I even consider him, when my intention is anything but love, then I project my own inner game. The man will most likely hook up at the level of my inner game and he will drop off as soon as I experience connecting with my truth.

    It does not matter. Safety was not going to come from him anyway. Or from anybody. So, I keep working on the connection to the truth inside myself. The truth brings clarity. Clarity feels really comfortable. Clarity could be a synonym for safety.

    When I connect with a man while I am connected to my truth, chances are our connection is comfortable. We hear each other quite clearly. It brings peace. I can tell him I don’t like something, he will receive the information as simple data, in the context of the peace we are projecting from each other’s soul. I say “I don’t like” and the connection to each other stays comfortable.

    But, if it happens that, along the years, I upgrade my own connection to Truth at a higher frequency, well then, we end up disconnected from each other. We don’t hear each other any more. I say “I don’t like” and the man hears “You are not good enough” or whatever he hears that works against his comfort. He feels unsafe when I speak. I feel unsafe to speak. And so on.
    As I was saying, there is no safety that a connection with another human that feels “comfortable” today will feel “comfortable” tomorrow or will even still be at all.

    I can only do my best to keep my own connection to Soul as clear as possible so to feel comfortable with myself and from there, whenever I experience a comfortable connection with another human, I can receive it as a gift, a bonus. A rare bonus.


  15.  #15Zara on May 8, 2016 at 2:40 pm

    Ah, and I forgot to add the earth that splits opened with no warning, the earthquakes that shake human buildings until they fall into pieces and dust.

    Gosh, I feel giggly now. It reads as a joke. But no, it is the art of G*d. That’s how he thought Universe should work…. No comment, other than I doubt he meant for humans to feel safe in this life. He created everything handy so that we can find a way to make ourselves comfortable, but everything can be but temporary, as if to make sure the feeling comfortable in the moment does not turn into feeling safe.

    Hmmmm Would that mean that the feeling of safety blocks the expansion of soul? Oooooh.
    No evolution within safety. I see.
    Yes but Father, you know, you could have been a little less literal with the application of this principle. Just saying…

    Going to bed now. Thank you for my comfortable bed. Thank you for my dreams to come during the night. Thank you for my work day ahead tomorrow. Thank you for my comfortable home. Thank you for my family. Thank you for their love. May them feel comfortable.


  16.  #16Mandy on May 8, 2016 at 8:28 pm


    DancingWolf expects me to KNOW that I have his permission always to come by and relax and do whatever I want to at his place and he loves it. I can tell about how he smiles at me. He smiles at me a lot! Usually he keeps to himself around others but he lights up around me it is SO CUTE.

    I am having a personal problem with substance abuse, and so I told one person, and I’m not sure why, and that was Valentine. He has friends who’ve experienced the same thing. So we hung out and he and I ended up hooking up. It was exciting. I think he probably felt he needed to have me talk to his friends and take care of me, either that or he knew I was free and he wanted a girl there, lol, or all of it. Unfortunately I had to go home because I was falling asleep around four AM, but that was nice.

    Touch…with passion….always is better for me that just touch without it. Passion can be created of course but touch without passion….doesn’t do it like the other does for me.

    I need to lay down though, I’m really tired after all that…..partying….

  17.  #17Grace on May 8, 2016 at 10:31 pm

    Lilybelly – thank you again for asking the question. Really. My mind was fragmenting and I wanted to avoid answering, I even considered lying but when I realized how ashamed I felt I knew I needed to face it.

  18.  #18Grace on May 8, 2016 at 10:46 pm

    I feel so amazed at how wise my heart is. Once I leaned in and trusted it, everything conspired so quickly and perfectly to bring me to this place of healing from an old trauma, to bring me back to myself from where I split off from myself a long time ago, when the heartbreak I was feeling was too much to bear and more than I could handle.

  19.  #19Azure Blu on May 9, 2016 at 4:23 am

    Indigo #56 from last thread
    Ahhhh… this is so profound for me today…

    You wrote; “I don’t even bother with the blame game any more.
    I ask myself what works or what doesn’t.
    IF I WANT to be in a relationship with a man
    I need to learn how THEY ACTUALLY WORK,
    NOT how I’d like them to work.
    One of the biggest lessons I’ve learnt about relationships is
    that when you are in one,
    the relationship has to be the winner, not me and not him. And that often means
    holding my tongue.”

    Thank you darling for sharing so much of your Siren heart here on Siren Island!!

    Sooo happy to hear about another happy weekend with J!!! Happiness is contagious!

    Sunshine, lollipops and rainbows
    Everything that’s wonderful
    is what I feel when we’re together
    Brighter than a lucky penny
    When you’re near the rain just disappears, dear
    And I feel so fine
    Just to know that you are mine!”
    My life is sunshine, lollipops and rainbows

  20.  #20Azure Blu on May 9, 2016 at 5:01 am

    I too had a most amazing time with Spirit this past weekend.
    He brought me flowers on Thurs. night and took me out to a local restaurant and we watched our cities baseball game together – which we LOVE to do…

    I got terribly sick (with the stomach flu) cried our for help on friday morning and he stayed with me most of the day getting medicine for my stomach… getting me soup and juice and water all day…
    I was flat on my back… so sick i couldn’t talk…
    He took care of me.. NOT caring he might get it also…which – thank goodness- he hasnt!!

    Lovely Lovely BUT
    I have an inner worry – because i am SO good at taking CRUMBS from men-
    that his EXTREME frugality (both my mother and my daughter are involved with men like this and I have been also)
    and our political and religious beliefs are TOO different to be conducive for a partnership that *I* dream of…
    I have been watching (we have been happily exclusive for 4 months) to see how all of this feels to me…
    – little by little-
    I have started to talk about things that I am concerned about… like how controlling he is with ONLY watching sports and his FOX news on TV… and then makes BIG fun of MY shows..(which I mainly ONLY watch when he’s NOT in my house)
    Which of course is NOT a big deal when we are still living in separate homes BUT… I do want to live together someday…
    I feel proud of ME… I did really welll…
    Instead of getting angry and agitated I noticed how I was getting uncomfortable watching my drama/mystery Public Broadcasting Shows or my Classic Movies in front of him…
    (in the beginning he acted like he enjoyed them-that has changed)
    I noticed where I was feeling tense in mY body and then tried to relax… and stay watching my show…
    and then asked myself “what *DO* i like about these shows…”
    They are stories about warm, kind, sweet people who are trying to better the world .
    figure out solutions to grow more emotionally intimate with others
    and live more happily in their world…
    So I shared this with him… and he was able to appreciate Why I like them!
    He gave me the remote last night… after we got home from dinner… and said it’s all yours…

    Getting ready for bed…He still continued to raz me last night so i just said
    “I adore hearing your opinion, Spirit… I’ve shared why I LOVE these shows… You’ve shared your thoughts about them too… It feels overwhelming to talk about this more.”
    I LOVE that I could do this calmly about something I really care about… and feel concerned about in our future
    I am building MY EMOTIONAL MUSCLES!!!

    I feel I’m NOT talking about things that matter to me -quick enough… But really…
    as Indigo says…. for the sake of the relationship…
    APPRECIATION for what HE IS doing
    and observing ME and what I want
    IS working…

    I still worry- like Grace says-
    am I caught in my own destiny of NOT beign able
    to break this chain of being drawn to men and people who Are VERY self Centered
    This little voice in my gut “THE GIFT OF FEAR”
    keeps me safe in my own home… and I feel no
    urgency… UNTIL i know that Spirit is MY MR. Right!!!

  21.  #21Azure Blu on May 9, 2016 at 5:10 am

    ((((GRACE)))) #17
    Ohhhh… the BRAVERY and authentic, Vulnerable YOU!!!
    much love darling!!

    How debilitating to be told those offensive and gut wrenching, heart breaking things by your father…
    Ahhh… the trauma that would cause to a sweet, smart, beautiful girl child…
    You have been healing that and doing an AMAZING JOB!!!
    Sooo exciting to hear how you were loving YOU in the mirror as you cried and cried…
    discovering that deep trauma…
    I want to remember that as I am on my journey of healing…
    YOU deserve a man WHO ONLY wants YOU!!
    and sees ALL your wonderment and beauty…
    Shine on Darling!! :-))

  22.  #22Azure Blu on May 9, 2016 at 5:30 am

    Rori #8
    Yay!!! Sooo great to have you remind us ALL
    The MORE Men the MORE we learn!!
    Thank you

  23.  #23Mandy on May 9, 2016 at 11:56 am

    So yeah, Indigo and Sirens…

    ….when a man says to you…point blank…”DO THIS” such as Call me, stop by when you want, etc…

    We are supposed to do that, then, without him asking? Some men just like me to know…that I have that….permission.

    It’s very confusing because it FEELS like I’m going against the Siren guidelines! And it feels FREAKY SCARY when I feel like I’m just having a masculine energy storm!

    But it’s like okay, I guess I will just see if DW has time today, and he usually does…

    I am so apologetic about myself lol!!!!! I think all my guy friends are hot, and sometimes I end up spilling my guts and they start to blush and I’m like oops….

    That’s another thing I do that kinda gets me a little….anxious about expending masculine energy is kind of telling a guy he’s hot.

    When you’re in a relationship, I know Rori says that’s okay, like hey, nice bum, nice abs, look at you honey, I’m hot for you! To your HUSBAND.

    But some guys, I’ve noticed by them telling me POINT BLANK, in the dating phase, HATE compliments. They feel like it is…you kissing their ass, and kind of desperate. So I’m confused there too still even after all these years of Siren training.
    Anyone have anything to say about complimenting a man? I hear it’s a yes in some situations and a big NO in others.

    I know at least not to compliment TallNDark because he specifically told me not to! J also did as well! Even when he and I were as committed to each other as we would get…living together and monogamous!!!!

    Anyone…anyone? On complimenting a man? I must know….!!!

  24.  #24Liquid Light on May 9, 2016 at 4:36 pm

    Hello ladies,

    I just had someone ring my doorbell then I heard footsteps running down the hall. When I opened my door, no one was there.

    I’m feeling a bit freaked out. Its bringing up all sorts of scared feelings from a few years ago. First I had dated someone briefly back then, and got a weird feeling from him. When I looked him up (I called the county courthouse), I found out he had a criminal record including domestic violence. He kept coming around even after told him repeatedly to leave me alone. It was really scary.

    Then one year later after my boyfriend broke up with me, I was also a bit afraid of him. He had a threatening side and in the back of my mind, I was afraid he would track me down.

    Ugg, now all of those feelings of being afraid inside my very own home are starting to come back again.

    Perhaps it was just a random thing?

    I live in a large secure apartment building. It has over 100 apartments, the garage is locked and secure and the front door is locked and secure. I have always felt very safe living here (because I’m surrounded by neighbors and because my building is so secure) but now I’m feeling a bit afraid again. 🙁

  25.  #25Grace on May 9, 2016 at 7:23 pm

    Azure Blu – thank you for continuing to be my precious, sparkling, glittering North Star. <3

    I love and appreciate again and again how you find the golden nugget in every single one of our experiences and reflect that back to each of the sirens here. I feel I could cry sometimes, to see in you the proof that seeing the positive and being kind are GOOD THINGS and we don't need harsh judgment to learn and grow, positivity and kindness are so nourishing to the heart and soul.

    I listened and observed carefully with Lanky and learned a lot bout my inner boy energy. I also noticed all of the places where he feels insecure, that he doesn't like, that I just felt so much open-hearted love for, and reflected that back to all of my parts I felt were unlovable. If someone amazing like ME can love all of that in HIM, then of course someone amazing can love all of that in ME. I also got to see, how awful it feels on the other end of feeling loving feelings for someone who really wants to be punished, and how impossible it is to really have a great relationship with a person in that mindset.

    He had so many great things to say about me, too, and so many beautiful, insightful reflections and it felt really really nice to feel so close with someone where the liking each other felt so mutual. All those smiles on top of smiles on top of smiles were a sweet balm for all of the old images of all of the angry, disgusted, disapproving images in my mind and now I have those new memories to wash away the old and I still feel open and like "in love", that has stayed instead of me shutting down so there is a lot to feel grateful for and a lot of beauty to keep with me and appreciate.

  26.  #26Azure Blu on May 10, 2016 at 4:18 am

    Grace #25
    Ohhh… my… your words are like a warm, soothing, hydrating lotion healing my dry, thirsty soul!
    Thank you for those encouraging words! :-))

    I trully am impressed with how you are processing this connection (now ended) with Lanky
    and bringing it all back to YOU loving YOU!!!
    “If someone amazing like ME
    can love all of that in HIM,
    then OF COURSE someone amazing
    can love all of that in ME.”
    Yes, lovely Siren!!!
    and don’t you graduate this week?

  27.  #27LoveToMe on May 22, 2016 at 8:47 pm

    LL – it was probably just a kid? That’s what it soybean like to me. I mean, those are truly scary experiences that you mentioned. But that doesn’t mean it’s what was going on. I’m picturing some kid in your building getting bored and pranking people. Maybe you can find a way to catch them in the act… ; )

  28.  #28LoveToMe on May 22, 2016 at 8:47 pm

    *sounds like*