Get The Guy – Free Teleclass With Rori Raye Master Coaches

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Get The Guy!!

Two Rori Raye Master Coaches reveal their secrets to Happily-Ever-After!

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Valarie O’Ryan (Find Fairytale Love In A Modern World)

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Carrie Stanfield (The Secret Allure Of The Type B Woman)

Join us Monday October 27th, 2014 at 6 PM (Pacific)

In this powerful, magical FREE teleseminar, you’ll discover:

  • How to be completely irresistible to any man
  • How to communicate with a man in a way that will leave him wanting more
  • How to attract men just by loving yourself
  • How to “turn up your sexy” to make him crave you
  • What to do if he pulls away
  • What to do to inspire his commitment
  • How to “cheat-proof” your relationship
  • What inspires a man’s life long commitment
  • How to dissolve arguments quickly
  • How to Become a master flirt!
  • The Secrets To Never be in the “friend zone” again
  • How To Date in a different way – one that changes everything!
  • Tools to Feel confident, happy, secure & sexy

PLUS – get YOUR questions answered! Hit us with your toughest love questions. We have the answers.

We are so excited to be offering this very exclusive one-time event FREE!

We hope you will take advantage of this very special opportunity to get answers to all of your love questions.We will be sharing our secrets for how we both found the love of our lives and are now living our “happily ever after”!

To join us for this event, you can simply register on either of our websites…

http://www.coachvalarieoryan.com/

http://carriestanfieldcoaching.com/

Go to the scheduler and select the event from there. You will receive instructions on how to call in.

See you then!

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53 Comments

  1.  #1Tatia on October 22, 2014 at 8:31 am

    Yay!
    Carrie & Valerie!!
    Teleseminar!
    Can’t Wait!
    😀
    (I love teleseminars!)

    Tatia



  2.  #2Tatia on October 22, 2014 at 8:31 am

    *Valarie
    🙂



  3.  #3Valarie O'Ryan on October 22, 2014 at 8:45 am

    Thanks, Tatia, we’re so excited!! 🙂



  4.  #4Valarie O'Ryan on October 22, 2014 at 8:48 am

    There’s actually no registering required , you can just call in – go here to get all the info:

    http://www.coachvalarieoryan.com/#!get-the-guy/cp8i

    Love, ~Valarie



  5.  #5Leigha on October 22, 2014 at 9:02 am

    Yayyyyyy!!! This is going to be amazing and fun!!! I’ll be listening in!! 🙂

    Love, Leigha



  6.  #6Valarie O'Ryan on October 22, 2014 at 9:29 am

    Leigha – so glad you’ll be there!!! 🙂



  7.  #7Dominique on October 22, 2014 at 10:22 am

    YAY!!! xxoo



  8.  #8prplpsn28 on October 22, 2014 at 10:37 am

    🙂



  9.  #9Femininewoman on October 22, 2014 at 12:36 pm

    hhhmmm yummy



  10.  #10Andrea on October 22, 2014 at 2:50 pm

    This is so exciting. Finally a webinair that I can fit into my schedule. I can’t wait.



  11.  #11Valarie O'Ryan on October 22, 2014 at 3:54 pm

    Ooh, Andrea, I’m excited you’ll be there!! 🙂



  12.  #12Helena Hart on October 22, 2014 at 6:24 pm

    Yay!! Two amazing women and coaches, I’m looking forward to it! 🙂

    Love, Helena



  13.  #13Indigo on October 23, 2014 at 1:03 am

    Yesterday I had a day of focusing on me (pulling my energy back as Dominique would say). I went to the most wonderful art exhibition opening with my mom by a local graphic designer who gave the most fascinating presentation. I was absolutely enthralled as I felt mind expanding to encompass all these creative ideas.

    When I got home last night D messaged me to ask where I’d been all day (I had to giggle 🙂 ). Anyway, when I did see him last night he came over and snuggled close, and then commented how he seemed to be spoiling me with cuddles! I just laughed because it was just a sweet silly thing for him to say before he cuddled me some more.

    It was a lovely reminder of how things always work out best when we take our focus off a man and are in leaned back energy.



  14.  #14Victoria on October 23, 2014 at 3:16 am

    My favorite CD is away for a week, and I miss him so much…I have been spending time with another CD, but the experience is kind of blah. Not bad, but nothing exciting either, I am looking forward for the other man’s return. That is, I am not doing very well on the “do not think about him unless he is in front of you” part. Also, I have been looking around to get someone new in the rotation (after I “killed” one of my CDs a while ago, now there is an empty space). But my energy is so low, I find it like a chore to be trying to be smiling and inviting and flirty… I need to do something to bring my energy up!



  15.  #15sweet goddess on October 23, 2014 at 7:35 am

    # Victoria

    I feel excited for you!! I am sure you won´t, but still a reminder – don´t contact the exciting CD at all 😀 He will write you first himself and that will make you feel out of this world. Aah. I still remember these early dating situations / tensions with my husband – and the butterflies that used to arise in the tummy 🙂

    As for the lack of energy, I remember going on a date with boring guys and practising being low energy / bored with them… as in just being in the mood of the moment… there is nothing to lose :d and you learn to tolerate, express authentically your not so interesting , good feeling state to a man .. (less risk man). Does that sound fun? I remember one or two dates where the guys (boring ones) liked me so much and I felt so bored >I could sleep. So I just sat there and saw what they would do, or say. It felt so liberating,, this kind of practice..because I knew I had nothing to lose. And of course they always contacted me after such a “low energy” date from my side as well 🙂
    love
    SG



  16.  #16Victoria on October 23, 2014 at 7:55 am

    SG,
    yes, I almost never contact him first… He actually complains that I don’t (hehehe) and when I do, once in a while, he acts so pleased that I did, he almost does a Rori inspired “act pleased” on me…
    He is the type of guy that I need to outgirl… Very sweet, very laid back, and, even though he is very masculine looking, he is kind of shy and what I would call “beta”. And I am crazy in love with him… what can you do.
    He writes to me every day but has not called me… I wish he did, but I have not suggested or asked him to do it, I just respond to his emails… Grrrrr, I need to take my masculine energy somewhere else to spend it, so it seems a good tae-bo class will do the trick for me tonight.



  17.  #17Valarie O'Ryan on October 23, 2014 at 8:13 am

    Helena, thanks so much!! 🙂

    Xoxo



  18.  #18Femininewoman on October 23, 2014 at 8:58 am

    Victoria I would what he would do if you did not respond to the everyday email? To me, responding everyday is creating a predictable pattern for him to expect.



  19.  #19Femininewoman on October 23, 2014 at 8:58 am

    I “wonder” what he would do………..



  20.  #20Silver-Tongued Siren on October 23, 2014 at 9:54 am

    Don’t have a lot of time (or I would be here far more!), but just wanted to say great email this morning RORI!!



  21.  #21Victoria on October 23, 2014 at 10:09 am

    FW,
    I know what you mean. I wouldn’t do this though, i love writing/responding to him. I do not want to deny myself this pleasure 🙂



  22.  #22Emerson on October 23, 2014 at 2:41 pm

    Hi sirens, I’m enjoying my new embrace of just focusing on my career. I am no longer seeking a relationship. I’m planning my life like I will remain single. It feels sad and also it feels ok like a relief. Maybe it’s “giving up” and I don’t care. I feel much less pressure on myself. I have one online dating profile up and considering getting rid of it too.
    I am also thinking about trips I want to take by myself. I may become a full on Introvert and just enjoy my own company more. I don’t want to feel longing for someone to “care”….I care about me and so be it.



  23.  #23RileyTheOwl on October 23, 2014 at 5:11 pm

    Happy New moon sirens <3



  24.  #24Lucy on October 23, 2014 at 11:13 pm

    Indigo (#13)

    Regarding creative ideas, I have been really working on my jazz and have written a few pieces, even contacting a publisher who seemed interested.

    I have gotten so enthralled by this, that my one CD asked me out again this Friday, and we had a great talk. I felt so relaxed with him. I forget how much creativity is part of me, and how good I feel when being creative. No wonder the men come running!

    Lucy



  25.  #25Indigo on October 23, 2014 at 11:41 pm

    Lucy, so great!

    Indulging creativity in all its forms has so many benefits, primarily for us.

    I find myself channeled into a logical, straight line way of thinking so much of the time just to get through work and errands and everyday life stuff, and it’s not my preferred way of being. So when I have an opportunity to spend some time in the creative world, I just love to dive in.

    And it is hardly surprising that men come looking for us there because it adds sparkle and “joie de vivre” to us I think 🙂



  26.  #26Indigo on October 23, 2014 at 11:48 pm

    Emerson,

    I am kind of in that phase of my life at the moment too. It doesn’t feel like a decision I made, it feels like something the Universe shepherded me into. One by one relationships that felt like effort and not flowing were just shut down. So I’m just in a stage of “not trying” and just being open to whatever is, and whatever happens. I fought it initially, and decided to just give into it.

    And it’s actually opened up a beautiful new world to me – what my life looks like when I’m not leaning forward but just allowing.



  27.  #27Sophie on October 24, 2014 at 5:15 am

    The blog is very quiet and I don’t know whether to post on this one or the last one!

    Azure Blu – I feel so sorry for the disappointed feelings around Spirit but very pleased for you standing up for yourself and striving for something better feeling – I loved Veronica’s post when she mentioned not wanting to be put in a waiting room again. Yes, the waiting room sucks. I feel happy that you have this work project on, that sounds exciting.

    I’ve been feeling the soupy feelings – after my horrible hormones and my impulsive (and needy) leaning forward I have had no response from this CD and it feels ugh.I’ve been working through the feelings every day. I so want to go into my head and ‘work out’ what it was all about but there is no working out. I don’t know why he does the big pull back. And I don’t know why, when I know he has a history of doing the big pull back, I even go there again. Ugh. Still…there were good things about seeing him again and I have definitely ‘felt’ slightly different this time…I was keen to not to over invest or focus – though I did a bit. These are the things this situation has helped me practice (which I hadn’t practiced before):

    Not allowing myself to buy into any NV story that my NV wants me to buy into
    Lots and lots of self love and self worth ‘work’ and it does feel like work – deep breathing, comforting myself with films and books, soothing myself with nice creams,focusing on my goals, lots of positive affirmations,
    Leaning back as much as possible but ugh my energy leans forward more often than I would like
    Staying curious – why do I get so fixated on men who give me so very little or who actually withdraw and give me nothing at all?!
    Not having expectations (I lent into the energy of expectation and watched it back fire)
    Staying open-hearted when my mind wants me to become shut down and defended

    I have been caring a lot more for my body and supporting myself through that. I feel proud of myself for that. I was relentlessly chainsmoking through the B days and I have now not smoked for a month – yes! I shan’t go back but I’m on another stage of nicotine withdrawal right now as I reduced the aids and I feel so tense and rushy through my body. I am pacing and breathing and pacing and breathing! And reminding myself that it is just withdrawal and to go easy on myself and any fearful, panicked feelings I am having. I am trying to be gentle. I didn’t sleep well and it feels difficult to settle. I feel aching and I sometimes feel sad.

    I have also been on a super workout and am losing weight and toning up – those things feel like taking the focus away from men and investing in myself – yay!



  28.  #28Sophie on October 24, 2014 at 5:17 am

    ‘open to what is’ – ahhhhh yes the energy of that feels so light and airy



  29.  #29Indigo on October 24, 2014 at 5:31 am

    Sophie,

    You are doing so brilliantly! Well done!!



  30.  #30Femininewoman on October 24, 2014 at 6:15 am

    Sophie – but ugh my energy leans forward more often than I would like.

    Hi Sophie. This statement suggests to me that somewhere inside you, you are telling yourself “I can’t help it”. Remember you have choices. You are doing some great observation and awareness building here. You feel your energy leaning forward so you can gently pull it back. You have a choice here. For me I physically lean my body back to remind myself then I visualize myself as tree being blow back by strong winds.



  31.  #31Sophie on October 24, 2014 at 6:43 am

    Thanks Indigo

    Yes FW -I shall try the physical leaning back. I do (mostly) recognise it as a choice, I keep drifting my thoughts away, changing my focus, it can just feel like a full time job sometimes! I don’t have a lot of things taking up my time so I’m aware I’m thinking and focusing too much (as in AT ALL :)) on this CD.

    I recognise that one of my things around men is/was feeling powerless so I’ve been doing a lot of affirmation and visualisation around that. It’s also felt really beneficial to be mindful around the NVs. Immediately, after a pullback, my mind went to ‘what did I do wrong’ etc and I refused to let myself do that. I recognise I want to be ME and not bend myself to ‘please’ other people – especially when it’s impossible and irrational anyway. Also sort of feelings of shame, humiliation, not good enough – those stinging nasties so I’ve been loving on them. Strengthening the muscles (I hope!)



  32.  #32Veronica on October 24, 2014 at 7:33 am

    Azure – It feels really good to see you here on Siren Island xoxo I feel inspired by how you took care of your siren self, making sure your siren self had more chance to be in a space where she could shine. Clara is such a beautiful name xoxoxo



  33.  #33lovetodance on October 24, 2014 at 9:00 am

    sophie…
    thank you for describing your experience and process…

    very helpful for me this morning

    ‘the what did i do wrong’ affirmation, yes i said affirmation…because it is as powerful as an affirmation only in the wrong direction….this is one for me to work with deeply …

    for me i could say….’look at all i do right…look at all i do and did so fabulously naturally, beautifully because thats just who i am …just because i can’t help it…. just because i am the beautiful creature woman siren i am….’

    i feel thankful for you sophie and your contributions to our blog xoxoxoxo



  34.  #34Sophie on October 24, 2014 at 9:48 am

    🙂 lovetodance I feel pleased if any of my process is a help to anyone else here – yay! I feel thankful you are here too.

    I like your lovely riffing and flipping of those ‘what did I do wrong feelings’. I do tons of Louise Hay affirmations. I write out pages and pages of them in my journal sometimes 🙂 I use ‘I am perfect just the way I am’, ‘Everything I am and everything I do is more than enough’ and, and she uses this one and I like it, ‘I am beautiful and everybody loves me’. I spend a lot of time writing these lists but I figure it’s worth it – I have a lot of negative thought training to unlearn!



  35.  #35Douglas on October 24, 2014 at 10:21 am

    Can you help the man whose loosing a wife because of health issues, and personality changes attributed to medications.
    If I were a writer my book would be ” Pain Mismanagement ” .
    : > (

    Seriously I’m just a man fraid of losing his wife.



  36.  #36Azure Blu on October 24, 2014 at 1:30 pm

    Ahhhh… Sophie and Veronica,
    Thank you for your love and support!!!
    Yes… I did take up for me…
    Heartbroken that he isn’t my forever man..
    but SOOOO glad I figured it out now…

    and also am learning from my RR coach, Natalina,
    How to find my feelings WHILE i’m with a man…
    By practicing the different situations I found myself with Spirit and KS and feeling my feelings and expressing them at that time in feeling messages!!

    Cause I am noticing i have a tendency to observe the men i’m with… bottle up what is bothering me… and then when i do blurt out what I’m thinking they feel attacked and this is when they pull away…

    I almost contacted Spirit this morning… but I felt how I would be accepting crumbs… nothing good would come of it for me…. So, YAY… I didn’t do it…

    I am on POF and am talking to several men this weekend…
    I have a tendency to get overwhelmed with all the men messaging online… but I got out my notebook and am making it a doable system!! and FUN!! :-))



  37.  #37Indigo on October 24, 2014 at 1:40 pm

    Azure Blu,

    Yay you!!

    I have noticed the same thing, with bottling up my feelings and then blurting them all out when they reach critical mass. Men don’t like it. Much better to express your feelings when the energy is lighter, playfully even.



  38.  #38prplpsn28 on October 24, 2014 at 5:13 pm

    So…H texted me again a bit ago. Wanted to let me know that these Irish musicians were going to be at this bar that we saw them at last year. We both enjoyed them alot and he thought he’d let me know in case I was out and about tonight. Then he proceeded to tell me that playing hockey has, become his weekends and he’s playing tonight. If we were together I would never stop him from, playing hockey. He’s been playing since high school and he loves it and I have always been and would be supportive of it. I actually think it’s pretty cool. But I can’t help but feel as tho things are all about him. He can’t work on a relationship with me cuz it cuts into his time to focus on himself. Not that it’s a bad thing necessarily, but then why contact me at all?



  39.  #39Mistea1 on October 24, 2014 at 5:23 pm

    Hi sirens, I had a lovely coaching session with Mary Catherine the other night. She is so knowledgeable and really was good at pinpointing the exact things I have to work on. I even got a couple of scripts to work from.



  40.  #40Rori Raye on October 24, 2014 at 9:29 pm

    Douglas, I’m deleting your last name for your privacy.

    Here are some ideas: 1. Go find a NATUROPATHIC DR. in your town. They’re everywhere. Someone who understands “men’s health” in an “alternative” way.

    2. – get some free coaching (and perhaps continue once you’ve found someone) with some of my Coach Trainees. Several have expressed interest in working with men. The page is here: https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/free-coaching-with-my-new-rori-raye-coach-trainees/ – Go to the sites, see who you “vibe” with, write them and ask if they’d like to work with you…you cannot go wrong!

    They will help you relate to and talk to your wife in a completely new way, regardless of your health issues, that will turn things around while you get some physical help from a new doctor…

    Also – so sorry, but men aren’t allowed here. I wanted to answer you right now, and will not be able to allow any more comments to go through – if you need a referral or help, write my assistant Melanie@coachrori.com

    Love, Rori



  41.  #41lovetodance on October 24, 2014 at 10:03 pm

    well the sexy swarthy cd that manifested two weeks ago never manifested again….

    and i have been working with the NV’s that say you shoulda, you coulda, you woulda….it could have a been a nice sexual experience…but but but i feel i woulda felt worse if i had big time sex with him and have him not make contact with me again…as it was it was quite sizzling just with the kisssssiiinnnggg…..

    i gave him my card…and i have no info of his…..better because i would have been tempted to contact him and i know better than to do that….

    i have no idea his life…divorced yes, but girlfriend …who knows? he is not in front of me and most wisely i need to keep putting him in the dust behind me….

    yeeeeetttt…..i allowed myself to go to the pub/restaurant where i met him 2 weeks ago….watching the world series…..i went , scanned the crowd and thank goodness he wasn’t there….

    i moved on to the other pub/restaurant determined to be a beautiful woman taking herself out to watch the game at the bar…i have never done that! and i did it!

    doing all kinds of affirmations….i am loved …i am beautiful….i am at ease….men naturally are attracted to me…etc etc etc…..

    lo and behold a seat magically opened up at the incredibly crowded bar next to a man i knew from years ago and his buddy….i ended up having a fun cute time riffing with the buddy [who was married] and just feeling good about being out and being in that testesterone laden situation….i really do like men!

    i feel proud of myself that i did what i did…and survived..actually thrived!

    someone mentioned about fixating on non available or even non manifesting men….yes this is a big issue for me to work through…and to love myself as i do it…to really keep shaking off thoughts of them and to move forward with more love for myself and for who i am and for who may come forward to meet me….



  42.  #42Sophie on October 25, 2014 at 1:39 am

    Yay lovetodance! I feel so pleased for you that you got out and about and experimented with something new and it ended up feeling good – yay! I feel excited for you! I really like men too 🙂



  43.  #43Sophie on October 25, 2014 at 1:42 am

    Mistea 1 – I feel intrigued about your coaching and your scripts. I feel excited by the commitment everyone here is making to themselves! I would love to hear updates…



  44.  #44Sallythatgirl on October 25, 2014 at 3:45 pm

    Hello ladies, I rarely post but read and have several RR programs. I would really like some assistance! I dated an amazing man who did everything right… I actually can’t think of one flaw.. But he moved out of country today. He let me know it was a possibility from date 1 to take his dream job. We were together for 4 months. He also expressed from the beginning long distance is not in the cards as he has done that in the past. He also expressed he made a mistake leaving a dream job for a woman and he regretted it soon after. We are both in our 30s. He made me absolutely no promises but I feel secure he will keep contact and if the cards are right we will be together. I would be willing to move at some point and there’s the possibility he could return. I know I am going to date, and if it’s not him it will be someone better. I just feel so lost right now in how to stay open to the possibility of us as well as the reality that I should start to move on. Any help would feel wonderful. Any specific coach someone could recommend would be lovely as well. Thank you!



  45.  #45Labbit on October 25, 2014 at 7:21 pm

    Hi Sallythatgirl,

    This man reminds me of my brother…he followed a girl he loved across the country in his 20s, leaving a great job behind, but the relationship didn’t last. It took him a long time to get over it. If I were in your shoes I would celebrate everything you had with this man, and your own super attractiveness in nurturing what sounds like a wonderful relationship. I can remember my brother being so work-focused that women practically didn’t exist for years…so this man must have been quite smitten with you Siren!

    That said if this man is truly career-focused right now there’s not much you can do. Letting him go really is your best possibility of making him miss you. From what you’ve said here it sounds like you treated each other very well, but he didn’t mention anything about visits or contact or the future. He told you from the start that this was a temporary situation for him. If I were in your shoes I’d live as though the relationship is done, remember all the awesome things about it, and move on to the next man. They rarely stay overseas forever but it might be a year or two before he comes back, even thinks about reconnecting. Do you really want to wait that long? All you need to do is keep moving forward in your own life, treating yourself the best you can, meeting other men, and then all the cards are going to fall right into place. 🙂



  46.  #46Labbit on October 25, 2014 at 7:29 pm

    OK re-reading, that last sentence came off glib and did not mean it to. My apologies. I understand how hard it must feel to let a man go that you feel so connected to. For me, if I even entertain thoughts that a man I was with is going to come back, it’s hard for me to engage other men and be open to the possibility of meeting someone new. My life stops so to speak. So when a man leaves for any reason I tend to forget about them. And then if they come back it’s a wonderful surprise…and I have lots of fun adventures to talk about in the time we’ve been apart!



  47.  #47Sallythatgirl on October 25, 2014 at 8:45 pm

    Labbit, thank you. I feel heard. You are right… It is SO hard. It is only day one. I will lean back completely… Thank you!
    I will date again…soon:-)



  48.  #48Emerson on October 25, 2014 at 9:55 pm

    26 thanks Indigo….
    I almost feel like being on the online dating site is to leany forward/”trying” for me right now….but I hesitate to delete it completely because I have paid for the membership. :-/
    It has not produced very many matches for me anyway….

    In other news, someone I talked to from another dating site that I”m no longer on contacted me out of the blue after 6 months or so. We never met, just talked on the phone. He texted me out of the blue and it was very random. He’s very lazy in that he wanted me to come to his town, (one hour away) and then when I said no he said we can meet halfway. (yawn)…and for drinks, not even dinner. No thanks. Sounds like a lot of effort and that feels boring.
    And I really don’t care!
    Recycled CD texted me out of the blue a couple weeks ago, trying to get my attention with a cute topic. I never replied, and still have not responded. I don’t care!! Let him wonder “why” Emerson is not replying…?? She ALWAYS does….he’s probably wondering away. I do not care!
    oh yes, you are correct, I DO indeed feel free!



  49.  #49Helena Hart on October 26, 2014 at 3:53 pm

    Sallythatgirl – I feel for you, I’ve had some clients in that situation so I know how hard it can be, especially when a man has to move right when everything was going so well.

    I just wanted to say that I think your attitude around this is AMAZING – I love how you said, “I know I am going to date, and if not him it will be someone better.” You’re totally on the right track!! I’d love to hear how this goes for you.

    Love, Helena



  50.  #50Mistea1 on October 26, 2014 at 6:56 pm

    Hi Sophie and all sirens, More on my coaching from Mary Catherine. I’ll call this man Td. He’s the European music person. Mary gave specifics on this very tradional man. I need to allow him to talk first. He leads the conversation etc. I have never ever done some of the things she said yet I know with Td this is exactly what I must do. At first I had only 48 hours to get ready for our appointment. What really stunned me was when she said that I would “hand over my life into his hands.” (when we get into the relationship part.) I became scared down to my toes. Another was to “look into his eyes when he is talking and wait until he is through.” I noticed the the new rector’s wife does that. I thought that was incredibly elegant.
    I did my EFT technique on this and made a little headway. The day of the appointment came and we both arrived at the church meeting place within 5 minutes of each other though no time had been set. I went to my spot and set up my work for the afternoon. I waited for him to show up for about 12 minutes and he didn’t show so I thought I would go to his office because I wanted to get this done with and he was gone! I could see that he had left his computer on so it must mean he would return. After 2 hours he showed up and explained he had cut his finger and might not be able to play the next day and he would have to postpone our meeting for other various reasons. I was pleased he came back to tell me. I realised then that this was the perfect opportunity for me to do more work on my issues. I noticed it would be easy to get confused and think he did this and that. He has his problems but the pain and problems I am going through are totally mine. He seems to be moving incredibly slow but I also know if he went faster I would be heading for the hills at a fast pace. This is very frustrating for me but I am responsible for my own incredible slowness. the other thing Mary said was that men love competition and so my being friendly and showing that I appreciated his friend who lives in a European country and was here visiting will help. Mostly this is fun but I’m not sure whether the pain I’m experiencing is unrequited desire or the frustration at not being able to resolve my own issues in a timely manner. Blessings to you all.



  51.  #51Emerson on October 27, 2014 at 10:35 pm

    Hi Sirens,
    CuteCItyCD has been in contact with me and we always have fun conversations and he’s cute, smart and funny. We have chemistry and also feel like we are friends too…so many things about him that I would love to have in a partner….so I fantasize about him in that role sometimes…
    He’s a provider and smart with a good job!! And very very affectionate…
    I’ve written him off in the past….because he tends to build up and build up….and then….
    cancels plans at the last minute.
    Well lo and behold, he did it again. He cancelled our plans for tomorrow.
    In the larger scope of things, I really “don’t care”….
    I did get hyped up a bit looking forward to his affection (not sex but kissing, sharing time together and taking me to dinner etc…)…but at this point my attitude is WTFC!!! Who the F$#@ Cares!!!
    I don’t!!!
    Step aside brother, I have other options waiting. Buh bye and WTFC!!! LOLOL



  52.  #52Emerson on October 27, 2014 at 10:39 pm

    right now I’m ignoring his text, but I could really use some advice for a good comeback!!
    I’ve thought of:
    WTFC!!
    or
    I’m sorry, I don’t know who this is. I have a new phone and lost my contact numbers!
    or
    I forgot I have to pick my boyfriend up at the airport anyways
    or
    I’d feel happy if you don’t contact me any more buh bye



  53.  #53Victoria on October 28, 2014 at 2:22 am

    Oh, Emerson!
    I so much share in how you feel! I had the exact same experience with one of my CDs (Rich). He was a man who came on very strong and then blew me off last minute on several occasions. I liked him, because he was smart, and goodlooking, and a charmer, and has this very special appeal that very rich men have (the vibe that he can really provide all material things easilty for you, the luxuries, the comfy life-style – well I am only human so I have been tempted by that, among other things). He was blowing hot and cold at me for years. The times when we actually had meaningful contact (and great S*x) were the times when I really did not care whether he would call, or come to see me, or keep our arrangement, because I was focused on someone else, and he was demoted to the status as just another CD. But the moment I started to develop expectations (like he had a damn expectations radar!) he would bail.
    For a very long time I kept him in the rotation, thinking that it is good for me to have one more CD to practice on. The last time he did it, I kicked him out of my life real hard. I told him that he is neither a gentleman, not a friend for standing me up, and that he made me feel like a fool. I hung up, blocked his number, and unfriended him on facebook, and that’s it. He no longer exists for me. But I do not necessarily recommend this as the good approach – only your feelings can dictate what feels right.
    I have still been unable to find a new CD to replace him, so currently I have only two CDs, and I like it best when I have 3.