Get The Power To Love – Free Interview With Coach Tatia Dee

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Tatia Dee at http://www.PowerToLove.com is a phenomenal Rori Raye Certified Coach in New York, who gave me this brilliant interview for you – along with a whole page of great tips!

Just go here to listen to the interview and read through her wonderful tips:

http://www.coachrori.com/interview-with-tatia-dee/

Here’re some of Tatia’s words of  wisdom:

WHY ROMANCE IS SO IMPORTANT:

Romance enhances a relationship.

It’s an expression of your feelings for someone.

It’s an indication that you want and desire someone.

More importantly, romance reaffirms the feelings between two people as their feelings grow and mature.

THE FEELING OF ROMANCE IS PERSONAL

For a woman, romance resides inside of you.

It starts with what you feel.

It’s both an awareness and a response.

It’s  a willingness to be open to your true feelings.

To keep experiencing romance, you must stay in touch with your feelings.

Keep feeling your feelings,

Keep expressing your feelings and

Stay ready and willing to connected.

Being aware of, receiving, appreciating and responding to his romantic words/gestures is how you stay romantic while leaning back.

Respond with awareness.

Respond with receiving (accepting).

Respond with  accepting.

Respond with words honoring the romantic feelings inside of you.”

Enjoy Tatia’s interview!

If Tatia’s success inspires you to become a coach trained and mentored by me, if professional coaching feels like a career that would feed your dreams – let me know! Just write me here–>.

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Here’s what Tatia says about RRRCT:

“I absolutely love my coaching practice and the community of gorgeous RRRCT coaches that I belong to.

Our training with Rori was an awesome experience, and becoming a Certified Rori Raye coach proved to be a transformational point in my life. I blossomed – spiritually, professionally and personally. My lifestyle has become a feeling-filled journey of positivity, balance, self-power, sharing and feminine sensuality.

I have found my path working with Rori . . . it is a daily blend of happiness, continuous growth as business woman and satisfaction in the wonderful work I do helping women all over the world.” – Tatia Dee, http://www.PowerToLove.com

 

Love, Rori

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25 Comments

  1.  #1Tee on May 13, 2016 at 7:51 am

    If anyone ever has the chance to work with Tatia Dee, please DO IT!

    She’s so awesomely fun and helpful



  2.  #2Femininewoman on May 13, 2016 at 7:51 am

    Hi Tatia. I enjoyed listening to the recording. You have such a soothing voice.



  3.  #3Emerson on May 13, 2016 at 6:54 pm

    Intriguing, I will have to check into it.

    Thanks Tatia for sharing your knowledge and support.

    Sirens I feel annoyed and need some help with a situation. I know I should not let a cd get to me, and really it is pretty minor. My youngCD mentioned yesterday morning that he wanted to see me today and said he would drive to see me. He even mentioned that he would take the day off work.
    We didn’t sort out any details but then i never heard back from him yesterday.
    Thus, no plans.
    This morning he text hello beautiful etc and how am i doing, etc, but no mention of the tentative plans.

    I replied with feeling messages but then never heard back. Being the siren I am, I made other plans already but I feel like i want to say something about his flippant handling of plans conversation just being thrown around with no follow through.

    Part of me wants to just write him off and move on because he hasn’t made enough effort, but i’m trying to be more authentic in my communication.

    thanks sirens.



  4.  #4Helena Hart on May 13, 2016 at 8:35 pm

    Tatia is an amazing person and brilliant coach!!! <3

    I love this: "Being aware of, receiving, appreciating and responding to his romantic words/gestures is how you stay romantic while leaning back."

    Love, Helena



  5.  #5Leigha Lake on May 14, 2016 at 8:32 am

    Tatia has such a great way of breaking things down into easy steps!! She’s an awesome love coach!!! <3 <3



  6.  #6Millie on May 14, 2016 at 1:12 pm

    ooh can’t wait to listen to this!



  7.  #7Millie on May 14, 2016 at 1:42 pm

    I know that I shouldn’t be wondering what a man is thinking or how he feels about me, looking to his actions will tell you everything you need to know. Most of the time by his actions and words, I feel confident my guy friend T’s feelings for me do not go beyond friendship, meaning he doesn’t have romantic or chemical feelings for me. On the other hand, there are things he says and does that make me feel otherwise…I feel cherished, I feel wanted…I feel good beyond friendship. For example lately he has been asking me in advance about my weekend plans and instead of things being off the cuff as they were before, he has gone into plan mode and asks me to do specific outings with him outside of our classes/work that feel like dates to me, even though we split the bills, which tells me it is not a date. Usually I see him all wknd long due to the activity we share together. Lately it seems when I make plans with other people, he will ask if its a date, he will jokingly act jealous/possessive in a flirty way… If I express that I feel on the fence about going, he will suggest I cancel and go to dinner with him…or go somewhere with him. I rearranged my plans once to accommodate him and now I see a little pattern forming where he wants to be the priority in my life, he wants to be the person I choose to spend my free time with, and if I express uncertainty about my plans he will offer a counter suggestion that involves my ditching other people for him. All of this is very flirty and cute and not said in a serious, overbearing manner. I find myself turned on by recent behaviors, but also know that at this moment we are just friends and I cannot “give in” every time he asks me to. As much as I would love to be in a romantic situation with him where I could feel safe to let him dominate my schedule (If we were committed), I know that right now choosing what I want do with no regard for *his wants* is the right path. We pretty much spent the whole weekend together last weekend and he asked me about my five year plan…and he shared his plans with me.. we are in different places, but it feels good that he is asking and inquiring, choosing places he wants to *take me*, things he wants to do with me (non-sexual), initiating mostly all of our conversations, expressing his sincere appreciation for having me in his life. I want to surrender to all of this, just succumb… but the lines of friendship can only be crossed by his lead, as they should. I just love what is happening right now.

    I’m working on *not shutting down* which is harder said than done. Sometimes I don’t even know why I’m shutting down, but I can feel myself doing it. I feel scared that my shutting down is going to push the right man away. I mean, it pushes everyone away and I can see that when I shut down T gets frustrated with me and he shuts down too or walks away sometimes. Or he will ask me whats wrong. Sometimes I don’t know though…I just know I didn’t like what he said. Like if he lumps me together with a couple of his other close female friends…ooh I don’t like that. I want to be in my own special category (ego talking) How do I not shut down? Argh…easier said than done.



  8.  #8Liquid Light on May 14, 2016 at 2:28 pm

    Hi Millie

    I had something that happened yesterday that relates to your post.

    I had a coaching session yesterday and was kinda upset afterwards. She helped me redo my online profile and in the process, (its so much better now) said some harsh but true things about my profile/pics. Anyway, afterwards I was feeling a bit down about myself and all I really wanted to do was stay home and feel sorry for myself. But I had an art opening (my own) that I had to go to.

    I ended up talking myself into being in a better mood, and dragging myself to the opening. It turned out to be really fun (even though none of my friends or family made it, it turned out to be a blessing) I ended up meeting a bunch of new people many of whom were fans of my artwork. If hadn’t made myself go out and be open and friendly, I never would have had that awesome experience! Its a simple as that.

    I think the first step is to be aware when you are shutting down. I think you are very good at this. Then you have to figure out the tools that work for you to snap out of your negative mindset.

    The 4 steps of The Work are excellent tools to use. Simply asking myself “Is it true?” often snaps me out of it when I realize that “No, it – whatever negative thought I’m having – aren’t true!” Also for me, I sometimes just reason with myself and tell myself that the thoughts that I am having aren’t serving me and then make a conscious effort to replace them with more positive thoughts.

    Sometimes, recently, I simply say to myself: “Don’t worry, be happy!” and a lot of times it works! I know it sounds really simple, but the point I’m making is you have find what works for you. First and foremost is to question the negative thoughts, and replace them with more positive thoughts. Either way, you are creating your own reality every moment 🙂



  9.  #9Millie on May 14, 2016 at 9:25 pm

    Liquid Light–

    Would you feel comfortable sharing some of the revelations and changes you made while upgrading your profile and pictures?

    I agree that I have gotten really good at being aware of when I am shutting down. I like your suggestions of using Byron Katie’s tools and asking if its true. I will def try it!!

    I am pretty good at going out. I’m a really busy person who really values my alone time too. I often over-book myself and have to cancel in order to recharge my batteries. I find that men do notice me, and women, out in public, but it isn’t men I would consider dateable. I feel very comfortable out alone in public, especially outdoors, I feel very peaceful and it does surprise me that I don’t get approached more often and by better men. I tried smiling and making eye contact with men I am attracted to, but they don’t seem to notice me.

    I realized that my beliefs about myself are constructed from the results I see in my life. If I don’t feel noticed, then I am not noticeable. I also realize that usually I am making these sorts of statements around one person because the truth is people do notice me, just not the one or ones *I want.* I let the results dictate my beliefs, rather than letting my beliefs dictate the results. What if I let go of needing “proof” let go of the results… what if my beliefs could be true regardless of the results? A rose is still beautiful even if no one says it is, if not one person goes by and comments on it, the lack of conversation doesn’t change how beautiful the rose is. I’m thinking I need to give myself permission to not need proof. I also think I need to focus more on me and ramp up my care of me.

    I agree though that replace a negative thought with a positive one is where it starts!



  10.  #10April Rose on May 15, 2016 at 2:55 am

    Hi Sirens,

    I feel inspired to share again on this thread what I wrote to Lilybelly on the previous thread.
    Here are some notes from Rori’s webinar.
    Rori said the ‘Fall in Love with It’ tool was key to everything.

    In the webinar, Rori said

    “Feel anger and rage as just energy. And instead of shutting down, open up. We’re habitually forgetting to feel.”

    “Fall in love with the voices inside you that are screaming at you.”

    “Oh, I just judged myself. What a sweet voice inside me that’s trying to protect me.”

    “Fall in love with the thing you do, and with the voice that judges it as wrong or bad.”

    “Fall in love with the people around you who are not supporting you.”

    “Fall in love with the tight shoulders, with the tense belly, with the feelings.”

    “When we sink down into ourself, things are drawn to us.”

    “Honour and love your pain.”



  11.  #11April Rose on May 15, 2016 at 2:57 am

    Lilybelly,

    When I read in your post that you were feeling angry, it made me feel delighted.

    To me, your anger is a sign of your power returning.

    Rori doesn’t advise masking it, or ‘trying to love yourself out of it’.

    In the webinar, she said “Feel the energy, the anger, the feelings. You don’t need to do anything with them, just let them build.”

    I love your powerful plan to CD in Atlanta. Go girl!



  12.  #12Azure Blu on May 15, 2016 at 8:59 am

    Sirens,
    I too want to share on this thread what I posted on the last thread. This is from an email I received from Rori concerning Her “You CAN Have it All” classes!

    “4. When you turn up with a sensation that instantly throws you into fear and doubt and mental problem solving:
    Just do it all again, and again, and again… Say your feeling, sensation, thought…and turn it around – “Flip” it! – into a Want.
    So the above: “I feel sick to my stomach…”
    Flips to: “I want to feel perky and upbeat and hungry…”
    Then whatever feelings and sensations THAT brings up:
    “I feel sick that I don’t feel perky…”
    …and on and on…
     
    5. Next step: Fall In Love with those feelings and sensations – even (especially) the ones you don’t like. Write it out something like this:
    I love my fear, because it wants to protect me, because that’s how I was raised, and I love my self as a child, even though things were crummy, I got so strong from going through those things, and I love myself so much because I’m so brave to have got this far…
    …and I’m so smart for understanding what’s going on with me, and I’m so incredible for WANTING anything, and…
    Just “throw” love and acceptance, like soothing water, all over that feeling, sensation or thought, accept and love it all, focus on the good feeling part of whatever came up…
    … on and on, just like this – accepting, loving, embracing, jumping to the next loving thought and feeling…and…
    Keep on going….!
    What we’re doing here is basically retraining your mind and body.
    You’ll be reversing old ideas and patterns, and building new ones that are more thoughtful, gentle, less knee-jerk reactive and feel better. You’ll automatically start feeling more confident.
    The trick is to be able to “go into action” with your masculine energy without mulling ideas over so long that their spark fades inside you.
    And you’re able to DO this, because your inner “girl” energy is automatically, through this “WANT” practice, beginning to “trust” your instincts to ACT!
    This is in many ways very similar to what an actor does. She learns her lines, where the lights and camera are, where she’s supposed to stand – all masculine energy requirements – and then creates the space where her inner girl feels safe enough to feel, to organically, instinctively allow herself to allow her “boy” to DO on her behalf. She puts herself in the hands of her masculine energy…and let’s loose.
    The idea is for it to be FUN, free-form, and for you to be as AWARE as possible at how you work. How certain thoughts pop up first, how they lead your thought process, then others follow, how a pattern emerges…
    As you become aware of yourself, and keep focusing on the PRESENT with the noticing and writing of Sensations  – you’ll see – you’ll start to feel more powerful.
    If you’re wondering what this Tool has to do with “business” and “success” – the answer is EVERYTHING.
    Before we can commit, totally to supporting ourselves, getting ourselves out there, growing bigger than we are right now – we have to be “okay.” with it. We have to get ourselves “onboard” with success, and what that FEELS like.
    In our dreams – things look a certain way. In real life – they look differently.
    This happens with us in love and relationship just as it does in the world of work and career. 
    As you begin getting “insider” Have It All and Business Siren Tips – I want to make sure you have a Tool to help you WANT to DO the things I suggest.
    All the strategy in the world can only take us so far.
    As far as we’ll let ourselves get.
    The Trick to Having It All is creating a big enough space to hold it all.
    Have a look at The Business Siren’s Handbook, and all the great new, hands-on and personal Business Siren Mentoring programs – BIZ and the new Siren Mastermind – to see how you can make your dream REAL –>>
    http://businesssiren.com/be-a-business-siren-and-have-it-all/
    You CAN Have It All, and without stress.
    The secret is in the “How” of staying ALWAYS in your feminine energy and emotions – and in “How” your feminine energy and emotions then “become” the masculine “action.”



  13.  #13Lilybelly on May 15, 2016 at 11:14 am

    Thank you, Sirens. The posts and info you gave me is fabulous.

    April Rose, I especially like that you felt delighted with my anger because it meant I am gaining my power back. I am going to ponder on what that means exactly and how to maintain that.

    This may seem silly, but I am walking consciously. Shoulders back and head up. I noticed being “admired” many times yesterday. I’m practicing again today.



  14.  #14Azure Blu on May 15, 2016 at 12:35 pm

    LillyBell #12
    NOT silly AT ALL
    that is called the “Siren Sassy Sashé”!!!
    :*))



  15.  #15April Rose on May 15, 2016 at 1:20 pm

    Lilybelly,

    I took your anger to be an indication of your fierce passion for yourself and your life. And that you will not settle for anything less than what enhances you as a whole woman.

    I could sense a rawness, a deep emotional non-logical feminine power.



  16.  #16Indigo on May 16, 2016 at 1:47 am

    Millie 7,

    Not shutting down is a process, a journey. You didn’t learn to shut down overnight, so you won’t learn to not shut down overnight. Opening up is a lifelong dance that you can always do more of. Just focus on small attainable baby steps – making eye contact, keeping your body language open, not running away, feeling your heart open to the other person. Notice when you feel defensive and smile at yourself, notice your words and where they’re coming from. Just keep going, it’ll come in time.

    Not shutting down and opening up is still something I consciously expand on every day. It’s a scary feeling. With people who are safe and who love you though you can break down those barriers with time. J goes to great lengths with me to show me that I am safe and to encourage me to open up to him and he’s very emotionally open with me, so this helps. I feel myself expanding and opening all the time, but I’m not going to lie, it’s a scary feeling. Just have to keep breathing through it.



  17.  #17Grace on May 16, 2016 at 8:26 am

    Azure Blu, I can’t thank you enough for the reflection of coming home to my own heart.
    I’ve been practicing a lot of opening up to the feelings today and.. Whoa.

    Lanky called yesterday and I’ve been opening up to all the triggered feelings and it feels challenging. I didn’t pick up or call him back, just feeling all the feels.
    And what did I feel, deep in my heart, back and gut? I miss my baby. Tears streaming all over the place and after *decades* I never cease to feel surprised that I still feel this over my son’s death and placing my daughter for adoption. How the EFF it’s related and is triggered by Lanky I have no idea but there it is.

    And I just keep doi g it, coming home to my own heart and whole body, really. Over and over.



  18.  #18Liquid Light on May 16, 2016 at 11:44 am

    Millie

    My coach reduced the photos in my profile to just the ones that showed me in the best light. She said that you are only as pretty as the worst photo in your profile so she deleted about half of them! Ugh. I ended up with 5 photos.

    She also helped me craft a better profile by creating a story, a vision of love! She’s an excellent writer, and cut out the extra verbiage and replaced the words, especially the verbs, to be much more descriptive. Though she didn’t change the fundamental structure, she edited and improved on what I had to tell a much more compelling story. It has an intro, a body, and a closing that relate to my love of nature. She used a lot of puns and word play that reinforced the theme in a fun and playful way!

    Anyway, she’s awesome. My profile is so much more compelling and alluring now. And I’ve already seen a big jump in traffic and hits! And the quality of men seems to be better too! 🙂



  19.  #19LoveToMe on May 16, 2016 at 12:12 pm

    Ladies, there is a new post up! And it’s a good one!!

    Emerson #3 – that’s a tricky one. I read what I think is pretty good advice in a column about a woman who was having trouble where her husband was doing some unwanted behaviors, like griping about certain things, or maybe even not following through. Her solution (which she said she more or less borrowed from dog training. lol) was to basically ignore the bad behaviors, and only comment on the good behaviors that she liked. In the thing I read, she saw a complete turnaround in him, and he started doing more and more of what she liked and less and less of what she didn’t like.

    I believe this happens because of the law of attention (notice I didn’t say law of “attraction,” but kind of a similar idea). The same concept as “What you focus on grows.” If you focus on the bad stuff, that negative attention is still attention. So in a way, it reinforces the bad behavior, and the behavior “grows.” If you don’t like it, and you ignore it, and only talk about the things you like, then the things you like “grow.” I feel like this applies to lots of Rori’s teachings.

    And trust me, I am NOT an expert in this. I’m just reporting what I’ve read.

    In your case, Emerson, it’s tricky. Because you don’t live with this guy, you don’t see him every day, and you barely even know him. So you have a choice. You could simply move on, and not mention it. Perhaps he wanted to, but couldn’t do it for some reason, and just didn’t want to tell you. You could make up a “good” story about it, and forget he even mentioned it. Or…you could come up with a script that focuses on the positive, if you want to mention it at all. You could say something like, “Hey, so what happened with that thing you were talking about, coming to see me yesterday. That sounded like so much fun!” Therefore, if you put it in a context like that, you focus on the fun part (the part you like), while giving him a chance to tell you what happened (if you want to know), and then decide about him, based on his response.

    Remember, this is early stages. He should be trying to impress YOU. YOu should not be begging him for his time and attention. And if he DOESN’T impress you, then yeah, you can totally move on.

    He’s a young guy. Maybe he hasn’t learned the importance of keeping his word or following through. But you won’t teach him much by “lecturing” him about it – that will just feel like mothering, and it will kill the attraction. You might (if you are feeling brave), try ignoring his texts for a while. Sometimes saying nothing is the biggest teacher….

    #ishouldtakemyownadvice



  20.  #20LoveToMe on May 16, 2016 at 12:20 pm

    April Rose – #10: Thank you for sharing! That was lovely! (And so needed for me, right now)



  21.  #21Grace on May 16, 2016 at 2:59 pm

    Oh, Liquid Light, that sounds so intriguing…I can’t wait to hear how your upgraded profile works for you!



  22.  #22Emerson on May 16, 2016 at 7:31 pm

    19 wow thank you LoveToMe!
    I really enjoyed reading your reply and I find it very very helpful!!! Thank you!!
    Blah! I am better today but yesterday i wasted a lot of energy ruminating!
    i could see his posts on Facebook and i know we are not supposed to be fb friends but we were friends before, that’s how i met him in the first place through a friend on fb!
    Well I think I’m going to ignore the whole thing, and take a break from texting back for a while. although i have not heard from him for a few days so we shall see.

    i really don’t like the hot and cold, come to think of it. it usually means there is another girl. so be it. i will move on to other things unless he really impresses me somehow.



  23.  #23Indigo on May 17, 2016 at 1:13 am

    Love To Me 19,

    “Her solution (which she said she more or less borrowed from dog training. lol) was to basically ignore the bad behaviors, and only comment on the good behaviors that she liked. In the thing I read, she saw a complete turnaround in him, and he started doing more and more of what she liked and less and less of what she didn’t like.”

    Yes yes yes!! I learnt this from Dominique, actually. And it really really works very well with men. Men thrive on praise and on their accomplishments. They love to feel like they are succeeding and “doing good”. They cannot handle criticism, which is something you may as well know about them. So encouraging and paying attention to the good stuff not only makes you feel better – because quite honestly who wants to feel bad all the time? – but it also gives him a clear roadmap of what to do to make you happy. It’s great, I do this all the time with J. If he does or says something which feels a little off I ask myself if I can let it go completely. And because he’s such a wonderful guy I can pretty much all the time. Men say silly things sometimes and they say things that don’t mean anything, so it’s not worth holding onto them unless they’re really bad. I focus as much attention as I can on what a wonderful relationship we have and it makes me feel amazing.



  24.  #24Azure Blu on May 17, 2016 at 5:03 am

    (((((Grace))))) #17
    Huggs darling one… such deep, deep sorrow…
    Are you judging you?

    For me I have come to realize…grief is a life long companion… and so is self forgiving…

    I sit with her, and talk to her when the waves of missing, wondering why, hating that it happened… come over me.
    giving yourself LOTS OF COMPASSION… you so deserve it!!

    I believe when we are gentle with ourselves… the more we will attract a warm, compassionate, gentle man.
    oxoxo



  25.  #25Grace on May 17, 2016 at 11:36 am

    Azure Blu – I feel so warm and melty at the idea of attracting a warm, compassionate, gentle man!

    I had a lot of little epiphanies yesterday while feeling through the soup and feeling more forgiveness for myself.

    I’m feeling warm, gentle and compassionate with ME for sure! I’m forgiving myself even more for things not working out with others in the past, seeing where I took on the blame when in reality, nothing real was actually on offer. I’m seeing where I put myself in the position of chosen rather than chooser because chemistry, and when I flipped it, I realized I really did not like the way I was being treated. As usual, there were things I totally understood logically, but had to feel through in order to get it emotionally.

    I feel amused at how my thinking shifted. Lanky told me he met a woman who told him to call her after she got his life figured out, she’d be expecting his call. I beat myself up for not being that confident woman…and now, I feel happy I’m not because now I don’t feel like I would give any man in his situation the invitation to call when they got stuff figured out. I don’t even want a single date with another ‘gettingadivorce’ man. Not for practice, not for fun, not for “duty dating”, just NO.