How The Modern Siren Tools Work:

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The idea is this:

You use the Tools.

You learn to be self-aware and notice when you’re feeling co-dependent, and so step back.

This new “vibe” begins to attract new kinds of men, more thoughtful, more mature.

The “old guys” we once attracted and were attracted to now seem “boring” to us.

We, like we do with all boring men, let them go, gently.

We don’t have any interest or energy in talking about them or their problems, or the “why” of what they do – we treat them kindly and don’t spend time with them because we find them BORING!

Just because we’ve begun to “bring out the best” in a man still doesn’t mean he can do the job for you.

As you shift inside, things happen differently on the outside out there.

The landscape changes.

You ARE healing these men.

They’ve shown up in your life specifically FOR your healing!

AND – that has absolutely NOTHING to do with whether or not you want to be in a RELATIONSHIP with them!

Make sense?

Love, Rori

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  1.  #1Meagan on August 6, 2018 at 4:55 pm

    Hi Rori,

    I’m so glad to have come across your site! I’m loving it!

    A little background: I was in a toxic relationship for 10 years. Three kids later, we finally split for good about a year ago, I threw in the towel. I’ve been doing a lot of work on myself…learning about my codependent tendancies ..although it’s a slow process, I do see a difference in myself and my outlook on life.
    Ive recently started online dating, just chatting online so far, I have yet to meet anyone in person. I’m realizing I have no clue what I’m doing. I can bring them in sort of speak, but once we start having anything more than surface level conversation, they don’t seem to “come back for more”. I conduct myself in a self respecting manner, but I think I’m scaring them away honestly. Either I tell too much, talk too much (and dominate the conversation) or ask too many questions…or speak my mind and opinions a little too much. Or maybe I’m too abrupt and insecure. I have a career and I’m not looking to be supported financially or for a man to be a father to my kids. The last time I was single I was barely 21 years old, and things have changed so much. Maybe I’m not ready? Maybe I should learn the hows ind obs and outs of dating. Idk. I do know I tend to be an over thinker.

    Thank you,