How To Find A Good Man To Marry?

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I love my best friend Virginia Clark.

Not only is she awesome as a person – she’s one of the greatest coaches I know – and a totally brilliant writer who’s been able to put everything that you and I would consider a horrible love experience into one book – and turn every moment of humiliation, horror and bad luck into a way to help YOU not only avoid all that pain, but make it so that you skirt all of the learning curve and simply go straight to the love you want.

Her book, It’s Never Too Late To Marry, is here, and I can’t recommend it highly enough. It’s bold, awesome and like a bible of love–>

Here’s an article from Virginia to help you:

To find a good man to marry you need more than luck; it requires common sense. When you fall in love, your good judgment can fly out the window. I know, I was an expert at turning off my brain and going strictly by instinct when it came to men. As I explain in “It’s Never too Late to Marry,” it took me what seemed like forever to finally wise up and let my intelligence have a say in my romantic life.

I know you think using your common sense sounds unromantic; it is! Relationships are much more than romance.

Giving your common sense a say in your love life means saying good-by to some unhealthy tendencies you’ve developed — without realizing it. There are some bad habits that have snuck in under your radar and are now causing you a lot of pain.

To find a good man to marry you have to face facts.

For starters, you have to stop the over-the-top drama you may have allowed in your relationships. This comes from picking the kind of men that make you feel crazy and out of control; men who don’t live up to your expectations and yet you put up with their bad behavior.

When you use your common sense you’ll have to say “no” more often. You’ll be saying “no” to bad boys, men with unhealthy addictions and unavailable men.

It doesn’t sound like a lot of fun does it? It’s not; it’s hard. But it’s harder bringing common sense into your love life when you’re involved with a man who’s causing you big problems.

You may be tempted to deny what’s going on (like I did when I was living with an alcoholic). But if you don’t use your better judgment you’ll prolong your suffering until eventually it becomes just too painful for you.

To find a good man to marry, you need to use your head as well as your heart

If you’re not in a relationship now, prepare yourself to employ your common sense. Keep in mind the qualities you want in a man and stick with them. You want a man who lies, cheats and is cruel — just kidding! You want the exact opposite, a partner who is honest, loyal and kind.

To find a good man to marry you can’t just leave it to chance. You have to use your common sense; otherwise your instinct will tell you that a not-so-good guy will do.

From Rori: Let me know how Virginia’s personal stories resonate for you, and how her advice, tips and tools change your own love life…

Love, Rori

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10 Comments

  1.  #1Femininewoman on February 27, 2017 at 8:33 am

    Great advice Virginia



  2.  #2Emerson on February 28, 2017 at 12:48 am

    Hello Rori and FW and sirens
    I like reading this article it feels refreshing!

    Ugh I over functioned big time on a date the other night! Ive been off the blog for so long, I forgot myself. I realized as soon as I did it but it was too late. He asked me on a date, first of all he was late. Then he was not even dressed nice for a ”DATE”…..and then was “short on cash” when the bill came for dinner….so I took out my credit card. UGH why!!!
    He did give me the cash, but still.
    So annoyed with myself.
    It’s ok Emerson you’re learning.



  3.  #3Mercedes on February 28, 2017 at 1:15 pm

    Hey there! What happened out here? Where are all the comments? It’s been FOREVER since I’ve been able to join in but I wasn’t expecting this…it’s soooo quiet! And I can’t leave comments on the most recent post?? Did I miss some new rules?

    Anyway…I was just popping in to say Hi! and to see how everyone is! Hope you all are exceptionally well and blessed!

    Much Love,
    Mercedes



  4.  #4Rori Raye on February 28, 2017 at 8:47 pm

    Mercedes! Awesome to have you! The blog was recently uncoupled from the havetherelationshipyouwant.com website – and now we can say anything we want! Fixed the comments on the page…Love, Rori



  5.  #5Emerson on March 1, 2017 at 2:22 pm

    Hi Rori
    Hi FW
    Hi Mercedes!!

    I’ve been laying low, not dating much AT ALL so I was a little rusty with this one. But hey I’m trying to get out there now!



  6.  #6Aldonza on March 2, 2017 at 9:06 am

    Hiya,

    It’s been awhile. Lots to catch up. I recently recommended this site to a friend and decided to check out how things were going.

    As for me, I’m married. Things are going well. I did use the tools Rori taught me to navigate my way here.

    – Aldonza



  7.  #7Grace on March 2, 2017 at 1:34 pm

    OMG omg omg…EIGHT long years of being single, CDing, riffing, following my feelings…my Forever Man is absolutely blowing my mind every day in unimaginable ways.
    Sirens…hold out hold out HOLD OUT for someone special!
    What we have is beyond anything I could ever have imagined. I am 110% Number One in his world, and my comfort and happiness are his priorities.

    Don’t settle don’t settle don’t settle!



  8.  #8Grace on March 2, 2017 at 1:35 pm

    Hi Mercedes!



  9.  #9Joy T on March 5, 2017 at 8:56 am

    Hello Sirens!

    I love the freshness of the page!

    For me,being around a good,quality man all day long seems so much more difficult than being around a ‘wrong ‘ man.
    The good man seems like HUGE responsibility,and more stress.

    I am 26 and the idea of being around a man for so much time,still causes me nausea sensations..

    I have read Have The Relationship You Want,but I am a hopeless case maybe!

    Beautiful article though. Rori thank you for offering us your great work or other people’s great work!

    **I wish none will feel down by my comment.



  10.  #10Rori Raye on March 7, 2017 at 8:19 pm

    Joy, Welcome – this is Rori. I LOVE what you say! This is what I see: we all have a hard time around a quality man because we believe, in our hearts (we’ve been trained to believe this) that we have to “DO” something to “EARN” his attention, affection, devotion…and it’s really just the opposite. We don’t have to “earn” anything. We just have to “be.” Once we get that, even in a single moment – it changes you forever. Men don’t love from their brains (like we do). They’re much more heart-centered in many ways than we are. We always think we have to deserve love – when, actually, we ALL deserve love, just because we’re all made of love, and a man will just single you out and love you – for no reason at all. Once we get that trying to “control” the love around us, the love we get, just turns everything to a murky, stiff experience for us, and we stop “trying” for even a second – the whole world opens up. Nadia – I’ll be this applies to you, too. For us, success at work translates into “success” at love – and it just doesn’t work that way. Love, Rori