How To Make Him Propose At Last

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I found this while surfing around, it’s by Pamela Tames, at, and I thought it was great – she titled it “How To Make Him Propose. At Last”:

“You’re a woman. You’ve probably read, what, 8,702 relationship books about how to make men crazy with lust and glue them to you until death do you part. So it may come as a shock to you to learn that the real answer to making a man want you bad is no farther than your closet. Providing of course you have something red in there.

Yup, just when you thought it was shiny things men liked, The Today Show goes and shakes up the world of order of lust and sexiness by announcing it’s all about red. According to US researchers, college men rated a woman shown in photographs as more sexually attractive if she was wearing red clothing or if she was shown in an image framed by a red border rather than some other color.

Said researchers, from the University of Fashion and Lust (I kid, they’re from the University of Rochester in Rochester, NY), think this odd phenomenon may have something to do with the fact that red, culturally speaking, is the color of romance. Guys see red and everything blurs into one big Valentine heart, I guess.

Or, maybe the red-lust association has to do with evolutionary biology. Apparently certain male primates go crazy for female baboons and chimpanzees when a certain part of their body sports red (and we’re not talking red nail polish) signaling they’re near ovulation.

Here’s another fascinating tidbit perhaps not so based in a biological imperative. It seems that men are willing to spend more money on a date if – yes, you guessed it – she’s dressed in red. All I can say is, goodbye little black dress.

Sadly, men did not rate women in red as being more intelligent, likable or kind, just more attractive. So you probably don’t want to wear red to a job interview. No hint, however, at what color will make us appear smarter. Guess we’ll have to just rely on our ol’ gray matter for that. How boring.”

***My two cents – I have a whole Tool in Commitment Blueprint called “Put On Your Red Dress” – and here’s the science to prove me right!

I’m going to put on red right now!

Pamela’s whole website is about sex and the “older woman” – so she’s got great stuff on it about all the physical, emotional, spiritual issues around sex.

I’d love to hear how this works for you…Love, Rori

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  1.  #1Erika on November 2, 2008 at 8:29 pm

    Hahaha 🙂 That is hilarious. I can’t imagine that it’s true, and yet … red is one of my absolute favorite colors to wear going out. I have red cashmere, red leather, red crystal earrings, and a little red blouse that feels great on. I feel sexy wearing it, the color alone is so vibrant that it makes me feel alive. The curtains in my bedroom are red, so is the bedspread, and I’ve had guys say my bedroom is very sexy. So who knows maybe there’s something to it …

  2.  #2Daria on November 3, 2008 at 12:26 am

    AHA!!! I love wearing it too!! Time to add some to my bedroom, just for me! even though I don’t usually bring guys there in my parents house…

  3.  #3Carmela on November 3, 2008 at 1:29 pm

    I always get compliments when I wear red. Going to an election party tomorrow, will be wearing red. I have a red dress with a little pink on it, and that dress seems to drive men insane. I literally have been stopped on the street when I wear that dress. I need like 5 of them or some variation.

    Thanks, Rori

  4.  #4candace on November 3, 2008 at 6:14 pm

    I feel really amused reading this because, as a Chinese, I feel so used to the tradition that red is a lucky colour. Ancient wisdom, hey? Thank goodness we’ll never have to experiment with green lipstick ;P

  5.  #5Jennifer on November 3, 2008 at 7:07 pm

    Hi Rory,

    That is an absolutely hilarious piece – great find. I love red too but had no idea that was the key to getting a man to spend more $$ on me. LOL. Wait, I should say “boy” … the study focused on college-aged kids, not “men” as I would define them. Ah well.

    FYI, there’s a ton of gobledygook code at the end of your post — oops!

  6.  #6Rori Raye on November 3, 2008 at 8:51 pm

    Thank you, Jennifer – I fixed it. I always assume the college-aged boy is in every man instinctively…Love, rori

  7.  #7Lin on November 7, 2008 at 2:05 am

    I have found.. that wearing my red dress. I always have the most fun….This was many years ago… I would be asked to dance all night
    in my red dress…. remember” Lady in Red” song.
    I am in sales… and when I was ready to make the sale… I always would wear red.. as if
    somewhere I knew … it was magic color…
    I need to buy more red…!! how fun !!

  8.  #8Uschi on November 8, 2009 at 10:59 pm

    I was always told that red is also a color of power – one should wear red when wanting to dominate – however with this post and reading Rori’s tools could it be that this “power” reflects in the power of a woman when she wears red? So if we as women can be powerful as I am learning now, then if we wear red ——— oh oh watch out here I come a Godess in red and I have so much red I dont even have to go and get me anyting new

  9.  #9nelisiwe on March 2, 2012 at 3:17 am

    wow i use to think that black is the most charming but year i have learned………lol