If I Once Kissed Sam Elliot And Froze, And Learned To Stay Open Like Lady Gaga, You Can Too!

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Try this for a motivation:

Watch this video on Lady Gaga and Bradley Cooper from a few years ago, and read the post so you can see how the steps are broken out as you follow along:

Let’s break it down, moment by moment. (Follow along on a youtube clip – it might be helpful – link at bottom…)

First, the invitation.  Music begins, Lady Gaga and Bradley Cooper respond.

He takes her hand, leads her up the stairs to the stage.

He, like in a dance move, puts pressure on her hand and guides her to walk away from him, toward the piano.

She turns and faces him as he begins to sing to her – all the while LEANING BACK!!!!

She listens, with completely open energy and genuine emotions building.

When her emotions build so high she can’t contain them – she does NOT move toward HIM!!

Instead, she moves to her left, to the piano, sits down, and begins to fully express herself through the piano, and then through her voice.

She plays. She sings.

Everything she does – you can see and feel how it all comes from deep inside her and out through her body.

Her hands are pounding the keys, willing them to play. Her skills are not produced by “thought.” They are just coming alive and being used in service to the feelings she feels.

It’s her deep desire to EXPRESS herself that comes through her arms, her hands, her head, her mouth, her voice.

She leans into the piano as if it’s catching and supporting her – NOT like she’s PUSHING at it.

Then Bradley takes the microphone, turns, and walks around the piano to sit with her.

He sits.  She continues to play and sing her Siren song, and as he tilts his head toward her, she responds by tilting her head toward him.  They sing together.

They finish singing.

He turns his head and looks at her.

Then she responds. She turns her head, looks at him and smiles. Totally open.

This is you and any man. 

Just copy it!

Imagine it, feel it, and do the steps! Right there with him!

*He talks. You listen.

*You play your own Siren song, sing, dance, work, make art, cook, read, walk, feel, just stand there!…

*He is enticed and follows you.

*You respond to him.

*Love grows and chemistry builds.

That’s it.

As soon as we “try” – out of our entire life’s training, our needs, and a misunderstanding of what Feminism actually IS – to move toward a man, talk him into anything, show him anything, demonstrate, convince or teach anything to him: we lose. Man walks away.

The solution is this simple set of instructions, with video! Lady Gaga and Bradley Cooper demonstrating! (It doesn’t matter if it’s real or “acting” – it’s all the same. The instructions hold no matter what.)

It’s only hard to do because we’ve been raised to act like men in dresses. To not feel in front of anyone.

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Here’s the video, and my instructions:

Here’s what you copy from Lady Gaga:

Her stillness. She leans back, she does NOTHING. She sings.

When Bradley comes to her, she moves AWAY, giving him room on the bench – and she KEEPS ON SINGING AND PLAYING!

She doesn’t stop for him.

He does all the work between them, she responds.

Is there some way you can incorporate that, and you don’t have to call it “patience” ?

Instead, call it “being.”

Call it, being yourself, feeling fulfilled doing your “thing” – playing and singing and being a powerful Siren – and then, whenever a man enters your realm – catch yourself “judging.”

Judging about boredom, or excitement, or chemistry – or any label.

And instead, just go still lean back, and be here LISTEN to him, even if he’s not talking.

Keep your eyes on his eyes in a soft way turn away when you can’t handle the connection.

Be brave like Lady Gaga when she turned to look at Bradley at the end there, when he was literally smoldering and looking so deeply into her.

Yes, she’s a professional – and an actress has as hard a time opening up and staying open when a man is being emotionally intimate as anyone.

*When I was an actress, long ago, I actually had a love scene with Sam Elliot.

Yes, that Sam Elliot you’ve seen in films and TV – he’s awesome, and very tall and handsome, still – and when I filmed this many years ago, he was scary imposing and beautiful…

It was in the movie “Once An Eagle”, and I was the one playing the guitar and singing in front of a fireplace, all cozy in a Swiss cabin with…Sam Elliot.

When I finished the song, I had to get up, put my guitar down, walk two steps to Sam who was sitting in a chair – Sit ON HIS LAP, and kiss him!!!!!

I was literally terrified.

I moved like a stiff automaton.

I was sure I had bad breath from the singing and fear.

Somehow it got done, but I did NOT experience that moment. I can’t remember kissing him.

I remember being all bound up.

This is what I, over many years, have softened – being in the moment and really being there to experience it.

If you can simply focus on that…everything will shift for you!

Love, R

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