I got this letter from Emily:
“Hi Rori, How are you!?
Love your advice about how to not walk on eggshells….and I’m surprised you didn’t mention anything about that they’ve been engaged for 10 years and he “can’t afford a ring.”
That seems like big red flag and a huge cop out to me. Don’t you always say ‘don’t be someone’s girlfriend, they’re getting a free wife?’
just curious. Emily”
Emily, to answer your question – I don’t go in much for blanket statements when working with individuals, no matter what my general philosophy is.
In my experience, it doesn’t work, and creates in instantly icky relationship between me and a client or student.
The Rori Raye Method is known for this kind of custom work – and complete “non-judgement” – with every client.
I teach all my RRRCT coaching students this: Baby Steps.
1. If a woman loves someone, bringing in opinions about his flaws is only going to make her dig in deeper.
2. If she walks away from a man – without learning how to talk to ANY man, how to find her own self, without practicing with the man who is currently present to assist her in developing skills and awareness just by his presence and constant triggering of her – it’ll all just repeat itself with a new man, or loneliness will make her shut down even more, and increase her anxiety.
Attraction is a big deal in our inner worlds.
Learning about that, and Baby-Step changing that, is, for me, what great coaching is all about.