So much to share from my English countryside road trip!
First up: Trade-Offs.
I like lush greenery everywhere, and am willing to be rained on for it.
And, at the same time – I miss the sun.
Yet – when the sun comes out and it’s hot – I feel dull and tired.
So…What am I willing to give up for…what?
I haven’t placed my priorities for nature and weather, but I have for relationship. What are yours?
Trade-offs in relationship:
Number one, always – he loves me.
He loves me, he’s devoted to me and my welfare, he looks out for me, he thinks of me first (or at least right after he thinks about himself).
Are you giving “devoted to you” men a chance and trading off for other things you’ve always thought are important?
Map-reading takes boy energy. (No GPS.)
When the woman becomes the “navigator” (that’s me…), or worse – the “driver” (not me…and I hope not you) – it leaves you open to frustration, tension, arguments, desperation for bathrooms and food.
Navigating the navigation issue became one of our marriage triumphs.
It’s about being a team and STILL being in your “girl” energy.
We used “navigation stress” to deepen our relationship.
Learning to “go with the flow.”
To love “getting lost.”
To prepare for being lost.
To trust each other.
To have a sense of humor about everything, to lose all sense of urgency, to work as a team.
It’s so easy to blame a man or yourself for anything that goes wrong, and so magical when you stop having to do that, even in your head.
“Navigation Teamwork” Requires Switching Hats.
It’s about “Logistics” in my “Love Scripts” program.
You read the map as best you can, you’re fearless and decisive about saying “turn left” and you completely surrender to where you end up.
You learn to love mistakes.
You don’t defend yourself, and you don’t blame him.
You learn to apologize, forgive yourself and him, and love wherever you are right now.
Love to hear your situations…