If you’re anything like me, you’ve always had a “lid” on what you want.
Every time you reach further for something “more”: love, money, fun… – voices in your head that were placed there by someone else over the years of your life pop up with exceptions, rules, caveats, bargains, troubling feelings, doubt, anger, and outright disbelief…
I know what this feels like, and in all my years of becoming and being Rori Raye, while experiencing my ever growing, great marriage – I’ve felt, just like you, the jarring sensation of “moving up the ladder.”
…How weird and uncomfortable it can feel to be accepting the reality of having genuine love instead of always chasing love.
…How an overwhelming feeling of “inappropriateness” can automatically show up when something BIG in your life goes right, or something that you never figured on getting shows up.
…How an instinctive wet blanket, a grey feeling of “I told you so…” or “sure, didn’t you expect that…?” can flood you when something even tiny goes sideways….
…The automatic, constant scurrying around in your head that happens when you want to accomplish and have and do things – things that the world of masculine energy and the voices you’ve been taught since birth tell you are “not naturally yours.” (They ARE!!!)
…The frustration of instinctively “trying” – when you know you’re “supposed” to be just “receiving.”
…The need to go into action when something is already on its way to you, because you, as a woman, have had the same “you’re not enough” song drilled into you, forever, that ALL of us women have experienced.
We’ve all been twisted into pretzels for so long, most of us can’t even imagine what it’s like to feel free and easy.
Most of us have been told that going BIG in any direction automatically closes off all the OTHER great things we want!
That you can’t “have it all,” or even “some of it” – and that everything in life is a “trade-off.”
That you have to bargain love for self-expression.
That the old romantic ideas of “true love” cannot co-exist with “true partnership.”
And – you can slip-slide into a completely different place now!
A place where you can smile and laugh at all this old stuff running through the world and our heads.
Where you can wink at everything that’s holding you – and all of us – back, that’s keeping you from experiencing the deep, thrilling love you deserve and the exhilaration of power you already hold.
The Solution is a new program I’m so proud of, something I never imagined would come together, and I truly hope you write to me after you’ve watched it and read it.
Right now, at The Solution’s premiere, you can not only get the entire Solution program , you can get 6 days of incredible coaching, prizes, all kinds of bonuses from my Solution partner, Dr. Jeanine Staples.
Though there are more details on the page when you follow this Solution link-> here’s just some of what you’ll get when you purchase The Solution for only $33 right now:
*4+ hours of video, where Jeanine and I talk, walk you through problems and Solutions, drill everything down to 6 basic “problems” and then solve them with 6 Solutions – all with specifics, Tools, and a discussion between Dr. Jeanine Staples and I that has a depth and breadth you’ve likely never heard before. PLUS, a full-length, written “Solutions Manual,” PLUS Jeanine’s 6 day Change Your Life Challenge, beginning October 19th, with bonuses, prizes, all kinds of extras.
If you don’t know Jeanine, she has so many credentials and awesome things about her (you can just watch her TED talk and see how amazing she is) – and here are some startling things:
Jeanine graduated my RRCT coach training in the pilot program of 2013, while she was already a tenured, highly reknowned and regarded professor at a top-level University. She flew across the country to be with me (and so many now guru superstars you know by name) at my first RRCT live training.
Jeanine and I have been long-distance friends ever since, and just two months ago, we put together The Solution.
We’d been talking about how – even with our quite different “messages” and focuses for women – we could also fill in the gaps for each other and come up with something comprehensive, totally different, and mind-blowing – which we did.
We put a tiny price tag on it of $33, and Jeanine is including it with her great 6-day live, online Change Your Life event – so, just go get it, and get everything Jeanine is offering, along with The Solution->
Jeanine is more than the real deal – she’s a superstar “guru,” a genuine activist, a highly-regarded professor, a TED speaker, the founder of The Supreme Love Project, and the way we put this project together is pretty amazing!
We sat across the Zoom screens and talked into the cameras. Jeanine calls it a “Coveted Conversation” – yet, for me, it was the biggest opportunity I’ve ever had to say everything I want to say, to come up with my take on everything, my answers and solutions for everything – and then, having Jeanine do the exact same thing.
As Jeanine and I went back-and forth, going deeper and deeper, expanding wider and wider into the Solutions…I felt like I was in another dimension just sitting across from this brilliant woman.
Jeanine is so self-possessed, so bathed in self-love, and so incredibly smart, aware, conpassionate and able to actually change the world from where she sits as a professor, and gets heard on stages all over the world and online – and mostly because of who she is. Magnetic, powerful, gorgeous, an amazing speaker with amazing ideas….yes, I’m gushing because I can.
What you can have in your life is WAY bigger and better, actually dream-like: stupendously fun, powerful, profitable and romantic, and that is the purpose of The Solution.
I’ve never been so proud of anything. The Solution – plus everything Dr. Jeanine Staples offers – is over the top.
At only $33, it feels like a “legacy” program for me.
The Solution is an activist primer and tutorial for your own life.
And, it’s a tutorial on how, by solving the problems and upleveling the quality of your own life, you will automatically be helping create peace throughout the whole world!
I know it sounds like a lot, but, truly, by focusing on uplifting your own life – from the inside out and the outside in – no matter where you’re starting from, you also change the world. I know you’ll be blown away by the Solution.
I’ll be here for you during the Change Your Life Challenge, happy to read anything you want to write to me, and I will always here for you. You are what I care about.
If The Solution – and the 6 days with Jeanine, plus all the bonuses, prizes and The Solution written manual -inspire you to begin the process of breaking free of whatever’s holding you back from what you want, please let me know how Jeanine and I can be of further help to you.
Love is everything.
You are made of love, you radiate love, you inspire love, and you can have a brilliant, gorgeous life and save the world, too, with just the love that’s already inside of you.
The Solution will help you see that, feel that, believe in yourself, believe in love, and learn how to use the feminine power you already possess and embody to literally change your life.
What would you do if you were in an artificial situation like The Bachelorette, where you had to make decisions about a man FAST, and if you made the wrong one you could lose Mr. Right forever?
And what if, like this season’s Bachelorette DeAnna, you were falling for the one man who seemed to be the worst bet for a husband?
I mean, how do you go against your gut? Go against “Chemistry”?
How do you keep from second-guessing yourself and trying to analyze things and figure out what’s going on with a man when it’s just too soon to really know him, and you’ve always made such bad choices in men before?
Watching DeAnna agonize over her situation was totally amazing. You felt sure she was going to go down the road of following her “attraction” and “infatuation” and stick with Graham – the emotionally underdeveloped and unavailable man who she nevertheless felt the strongest “connection” with and the strongest attraction to.
And then – she changed her life.
In one moment, she made a decision that UNDID all her years of getting “led on” by men who were charming and attractive but couldn’t commit to her with their whole hearts.
What did she do?
She dumped Graham.
And during that minute when they required her to sit down and talk with him in front of the cameras, she was SO ANGRY!
She tried to tell him what had happened, that she was eliminating him NOT because SHE didn’t have feelings for him, but because she was getting that HE didn’t have the same feelings for HER!
It took her three tries to get that across, each time getting more and more frustrated trying to explain that she was falling in love with him and how hard this was for her, but that she simply did not want to take the chance of being humiliated again, and yet Graham still didn’t seem to understand.
He left a note for her – and hopefully we’ll find out what it said, that made DeAnna question her decision – but she stuck with it.
So – why was this so important, and what can we ALL learn from DeAnna? In the next posts, I’ll be talking about how what DeAnna did can work for YOU.
I haven’t seen the ending yet, and I don’t know which man DeAnna – this season’s “Bachelorette” – is going to choose and how it will work out for her, but I do know this – on last night’s show, DeAnna did the work of about 10 years of therapy, completely changed the way she relates to and chooses men, and basically changed her life forever.
That’s a lot to say – and my mouth just hung open watching her make an extremely painful decision.
If you haven’t seen the episode yet, here’s what happened:
DeAnna had the field narrowed down to 4 men – and it was totally obvious to EVERYONE that she was incredibly attracted to one particular man – Graham. She even told the camera that she was “falling in love with Graham.” She talked about how “hot” he was and how much “chemistry” there was, and what a “connection” they had.
And yet – Graham was demonstrating for all of us to see what an emotionally immature, emotionally unavailable, almost “narcissistic” man is like.
He was always in his own head, heart and body, was clearly not even THINKING about what DeAnna was dealing with, totally leaning back and away from her, obviously non-committal, and YET – totally charming, sexy, sweet and adorable.
He was EXACTLY the kind of man so many of us are attracted to – and for DeAnna – he was EXACTLY the kind of man SHE’S attracted to.
So, here she was, this season’s “Bachelorette,” with her very own chance to choose a husband from 25 great candidates. And here she was – hung up on the one man – Graham – who was behaving just like the man – Brad – who’d dumped her on TV in front of millions on last season’s “Bachelor.”
She’d felt devastated and humiliated after Brad had sent her home without the engagement ring she’d been expecting. Even months later she said she was still in love with him and would take him back – though we ALL knew he had no serious interest in her at all.
So, here she was, about to REPEAT the same humiliation of falling for the one man who was NOT chasing after her, not saying loving things, talking only about himself, and leaning AWAY from her instead of TOWARD her.
In their date together, it was painful to watch DeAnna leaning in, trying to keep the conversation going, when we could ALL feel the tension between them – with him leaning away from her, not looking her in the eye, and making NO ATTEMPT to keep HER interest.
As they said goodnight, DeAnna told us that even though it hadn’t “gone well,” she still had all these powerful “feelings” for him.
What would YOU do?