If you’re anything like me, you’ve always had a “lid” on what you want.
Every time you reach further for something “more”: love, money, fun… – voices in your head that were placed there by someone else over the years of your life pop up with exceptions, rules, caveats, bargains, troubling feelings, doubt, anger, and outright disbelief…
I know what this feels like, and in all my years of becoming and being Rori Raye, while experiencing my ever growing, great marriage – I’ve felt, just like you, the jarring sensation of “moving up the ladder.”
…How weird and uncomfortable it can feel to be accepting the reality of having genuine love instead of always chasing love.
…How an overwhelming feeling of “inappropriateness” can automatically show up when something BIG in your life goes right, or something that you never figured on getting shows up.
…How an instinctive wet blanket, a grey feeling of “I told you so…” or “sure, didn’t you expect that…?” can flood you when something even tiny goes sideways….
…The automatic, constant scurrying around in your head that happens when you want to accomplish and have and do things – things that the world of masculine energy and the voices you’ve been taught since birth tell you are “not naturally yours.” (They ARE!!!)
…The frustration of instinctively “trying” – when you know you’re “supposed” to be just “receiving.”
…The need to go into action when something is already on its way to you, because you, as a woman, have had the same “you’re not enough” song drilled into you, forever, that ALL of us women have experienced.
We’ve all been twisted into pretzels for so long, most of us can’t even imagine what it’s like to feel free and easy.
Most of us have been told that going BIG in any direction automatically closes off all the OTHER great things we want!
That you can’t “have it all,” or even “some of it” – and that everything in life is a “trade-off.”
That you have to bargain love for self-expression.
That the old romantic ideas of “true love” cannot co-exist with “true partnership.”
And – you can slip-slide into a completely different place now!
A place where you can smile and laugh at all this old stuff running through the world and our heads.
Where you can wink at everything that’s holding you – and all of us – back, that’s keeping you from experiencing the deep, thrilling love you deserve and the exhilaration of power you already hold.
The Solution is a new program I’m so proud of, something I never imagined would come together, and I truly hope you write to me after you’ve watched it and read it.
Right now, at The Solution’s premiere, you can not only get the entire Solution program , you can get 6 days of incredible coaching, prizes, all kinds of bonuses from my Solution partner, Dr. Jeanine Staples.
Though there are more details on the page when you follow this Solution link-> here’s just some of what you’ll get when you purchase The Solution for only $33 right now:
*4+ hours of video, where Jeanine and I talk, walk you through problems and Solutions, drill everything down to 6 basic “problems” and then solve them with 6 Solutions – all with specifics, Tools, and a discussion between Dr. Jeanine Staples and I that has a depth and breadth you’ve likely never heard before. PLUS, a full-length, written “Solutions Manual,” PLUS Jeanine’s 6 day Change Your Life Challenge, beginning October 19th, with bonuses, prizes, all kinds of extras.
If you don’t know Jeanine, she has so many credentials and awesome things about her (you can just watch her TED talk and see how amazing she is) – and here are some startling things:
Jeanine graduated my RRCT coach training in the pilot program of 2013, while she was already a tenured, highly reknowned and regarded professor at a top-level University. She flew across the country to be with me (and so many now guru superstars you know by name) at my first RRCT live training.
Jeanine and I have been long-distance friends ever since, and just two months ago, we put together The Solution.
We’d been talking about how – even with our quite different “messages” and focuses for women – we could also fill in the gaps for each other and come up with something comprehensive, totally different, and mind-blowing – which we did.
We put a tiny price tag on it of $33, and Jeanine is including it with her great 6-day live, online Change Your Life event – so, just go get it, and get everything Jeanine is offering, along with The Solution->
Jeanine is more than the real deal – she’s a superstar “guru,” a genuine activist, a highly-regarded professor, a TED speaker, the founder of The Supreme Love Project, and the way we put this project together is pretty amazing!
We sat across the Zoom screens and talked into the cameras. Jeanine calls it a “Coveted Conversation” – yet, for me, it was the biggest opportunity I’ve ever had to say everything I want to say, to come up with my take on everything, my answers and solutions for everything – and then, having Jeanine do the exact same thing.
As Jeanine and I went back-and forth, going deeper and deeper, expanding wider and wider into the Solutions…I felt like I was in another dimension just sitting across from this brilliant woman.
Jeanine is so self-possessed, so bathed in self-love, and so incredibly smart, aware, conpassionate and able to actually change the world from where she sits as a professor, and gets heard on stages all over the world and online – and mostly because of who she is. Magnetic, powerful, gorgeous, an amazing speaker with amazing ideas….yes, I’m gushing because I can.
What you can have in your life is WAY bigger and better, actually dream-like: stupendously fun, powerful, profitable and romantic, and that is the purpose of The Solution.
I’ve never been so proud of anything. The Solution – plus everything Dr. Jeanine Staples offers – is over the top.
At only $33, it feels like a “legacy” program for me.
The Solution is an activist primer and tutorial for your own life.
And, it’s a tutorial on how, by solving the problems and upleveling the quality of your own life, you will automatically be helping create peace throughout the whole world!
I know it sounds like a lot, but, truly, by focusing on uplifting your own life – from the inside out and the outside in – no matter where you’re starting from, you also change the world. I know you’ll be blown away by the Solution.
I’ll be here for you during the Change Your Life Challenge, happy to read anything you want to write to me, and I will always here for you. You are what I care about.
If The Solution – and the 6 days with Jeanine, plus all the bonuses, prizes and The Solution written manual -inspire you to begin the process of breaking free of whatever’s holding you back from what you want, please let me know how Jeanine and I can be of further help to you.
Love is everything.
You are made of love, you radiate love, you inspire love, and you can have a brilliant, gorgeous life and save the world, too, with just the love that’s already inside of you.
The Solution will help you see that, feel that, believe in yourself, believe in love, and learn how to use the feminine power you already possess and embody to literally change your life.
Rori, Will you please be more explicit with your examples.. about what’s the true feminine way & what’s passive aggression?
– I know this cannot possibly feel clear for every situation – because each situation might require a completely different “Script” for you to use!
This is because it’s all about your “vibe,” and what’s underneath your words, that counts! Sometimes, … Read more and leave a comment or question for Rori »
Note from Rori: Courtney Schand is an awesome coach – and this is one of the best, most helpful articles I’ve ever read…!
“I was speaking with a friend, who is also a coach, the other day.
She mentioned that the challenges in life are the sand in the oyster that create the pearl.
It made me realize, how often I’ve heard our life experiences are like revealing the layers of an onion.
I was the queen of the onions, wanting to cut through all of the layers of every onion.
It felt like that, a smelly job- layers and layers of dirty work.
Truthfully it felt so tiring and I was weary of looking for the core of this smelly onion.
If you find yourself in a similar situation, you may be able to relate.
I want to offer a flip that has been really powerful for me.
What if I were a pearl instead of an onion.
What if I saw each layer that was added as a beautiful, shimmery feature… increasing my value as it … Read more and leave a comment or question for Rori »
Hi Rori – bought Modern Siren program, and it is brilliant insight.
My situation is that my live-in boyfriend of 2 yrs, who was always so and more into me than him, barely argue, easy going – suddenly needed space with little indication why but he just “wasn’t into it and treating me how he normally would” so he took most of his belongings and went to stay with friends.
His issue is not communicating. So – how do I implement these Rori Raye guidelines with his not being around and distant – but physically distant (barely even texting) and also if HE is the non-communicator of the relationship?
I will implement these techniques into this relationship, but long term if he has trouble communicating, how does that work?
I genuinely believe we were brought together by divine intervention and are made for each other. We are known as “that” couple. How do I get him moved back home when we aren’t talking a lot and on this path to better communication? Shocked…”
Natalina Love’s Answer:
Hi, “Shocked,” this is Natalina, I’m so glad you found Rori and her amazing Modern Siren tools, and I’m so sorry you are experiencing such a disconnect with your man.
You say he just up and left without much to say about where he is coming from, or what he needs and communication has never been an especially strong point for him ….
…this communication patterning has likely not been helping your relationship…I’m sorry to hear that…
Poor communication skills, I hear you, are not ideal, yet skills are learnable and I would say this is fixable.
Regarding the modern siren tools that you are working with – GOOD!
I’m so glad you have already started practicing working with the tools and concepts in Rori’s programs, as you work with the tools and start seeing results for yourself, I know you’ll be amazed…
…one reason why Rori’s tools work so beautifully to restoring and elevating relationship bliss is that the tools focus on YOU and an awareness of the energy exchange that naturally occurs in all relationships.
From this perspective, it wouldn’t matter if your man were to be on the moon, Mars, or Jupiter…. The energy exchange that happens between a modern siren and her man is irresistibly magnetic, compelling and transformative.
While no one can guarantee this man is ready for a relationship, or any other life changes he may find himself being asked to make for the sake of relationship, Sticking with your practice of the tools will ensure that you get to experience the relationship you deeply desire with a great man who is ready.
This is by far the surest path to seeing if this man can and wants to meet you in this relationship in a deeper way, so please don’t get discouraged….
Seeing you say that you feel this relationship is a divine intervention itself – I have every faith in you.
When I’ve had impressions like this, and I’m more inclined now than ever before to believe that every relationship, and every person who walks into our life for a moment or any amount of time longer than that… is a divine gift.
For you, I hope it allows you to surrender to the love in the unknown, the tools certainly help though, and if you’d like additional support working with the tools – Check out The Siren Circle Private coaching Program.
here’s the link: https://www.coachrori.com/siren-school-siren-circle/
The first week dives into understanding the energy exchange and how the flow of energy has been moving to and through you.
You’ll have 3 full hour coaching sessions with Siren Coaches, Siren School Worksheets for each session, program manual, and additional Siren Coach Support Via voxer and email.
It sounds like your relationships are ready for an elevated sense of connection, verbally and emotionally and in every way… the communication skills are simple enough to learn…It takes practice and patience…but it’s more than doable, and I think you may like working on this with us in Siren Circle.
When it comes to being in our feminine energy most of the time, and yet sliding into our masculine some of the time – what I’ve experienced is this:
Some men are very sensitive.
They react with shame (Enneagrams 3-4, often) and take offense and feel corrected very easily and quickly.
With them, we walk a fine line, and that can feel exhausting.
Other men feel good enough about themselves, they’ve different personality traits, and they actually don’t feel sliced by a knife every time we enter masculine energy space.
They don’t react, don’t take offense – in fact – they think it’s “cute” and smile.
So – the question is, knowing that, if we’re choosing a man from scratch, do we want a man who reacts all… Read more and leave a comment or question for Rori »
From Carol Ann: “Rori, I discovered your work and approaches very recently and they really speak to me. I feel like your work and the work of coaches you have trained has shed light on many many blindspots I have had over the years.
An umpteenth bumble/tinder date, post confinement, led me to you and other energy coaches.
This time is was one of the rare ones with a good guy (at least that is the impression I had). I went to the meetup (notice, I don’t use the term’ date’..!) with zero expectations, I had the impression hisease establishing rapport on audio messages could be the sign that he was a player (…).
…with hindsight see that I was missing a certain lightness, sense of fun, and reacted with masculine energy when he was acting in his masculine energy.
I think that while he was very interested leading to meeting me and at the start of the date, he probably felt that the date did not make him feel good enough.
I debriefed with a male friend of mine and he asked me if I let this guy play his ‘male’ role. This stuck with me (it’s not the first time he tells me that). What sticks with me from Rori and other coaches’ work, is that I wasn’t sufficiently warm during the date.
I was rather neutral, thinking “this is a stranger and I am meeting him for the first time and can’t go on … Read more and leave a comment or question for Rori »
Are you chasing a man – not even by your own choosing – but because something in you feels compelled to “get him?
My dog Zeke is all about the chase – yet, he only chases one animal: squirrels.
He barely notices rabbits, considers cats thoughtfully, and watches dogs that cross his path.
Yet, at the mere movement of a squirrel from the corner of his eye – he becomes transfixed.
Almost as if he’s been “taken over” by a compulsion.
And terriers, like Zeke, never let go.
If you’ve ever found yourself chasing after a man, body and soul, for reasons you can’t describe or explain – except for how he feels to you, and what he sparks in you – you can work with a Rori Raye coach privately, over Zoom, to get to the bottom of it all.
You’ll be able to shift that feeling of “compulsion” just enough to let a TRUE prince into your life: one who’ll be a terrier for YOU!
Go here to learn more about the Siren Circle Private Coaching program: https://www.coachrori.com/siren-school-siren-circle/
Thank you for your comments about this video – about “feeling afraid of other people becoming mad at us, or thinking less of us….”and sharing how this particular “fear” is spreading out in your life…
…it’s amazing how – when the thing I fear doesn’t come “true” – I relax.
It’s as though a huge iron rock has been lifted from me.
The trick is, then, to allow that “rock” to just float up, without ANY changes in the outer world.
Regardless of what happens out there, what anyone says or thinks.
This is how very successful people – in any area – work.
They trust themselves, forgive themselves, believe in themselves – believe they are good and trustworthy…all we need to do is get a LITTLE, TINY bit of that going inside ourselves.
To get specific help, to have a Rori Raye coach beside you 24/7 and working with you privately over video Zoom – get a month of private coaching with the Siren School Private Coaching program, here->
I just painted my mother… oh my goodness…
I was in the middle of three other paintings, and I felt nothing for working on them…then, all of a sudden I saw a black-and-white photo of my mother I’ve been saving…
I quickly clipped it up on my sketchpad and within ten minutes I had a nearly erase-free drawing I could begin with…
I transferred it (very old-fashioned lightbox method), to a piece of watercolor paper, and just started painting. I just wanted to…just felt it. It was on my wall in a frame by the next day… in colors I’d made up.
Way more delicate than my usual style… –
So… How are you living your life?
I wish to live mine moment-by-moment like this every single day.
Not just about painting, but about everything!
I feel like walking my dog, I walk my dog. I feel like eating, I eat. I feel like going to a movie, I suggest we … Read more and leave a comment or question for Rori »
Here’s a great guest post by Coach Brenda Brewer:
It’s so easy to want all that love, attention, adoration, and ultimately for your man to take care of you…
Because, that’s what you as a woman want, deep down, right?
And when you’re not getting it…well, it’s all too obvious to you!
So…you do all kinds of things and hope that he will reciprocate…
~ Cook nice dinners
~ Compliment him
~ Send him flirty texts letting him know we are thinking about him
~ Offer to “help” him with something he’s dealing with
~ Give him advice (you’re just being helpful, right?!!)
So when this doesn’t work…and you know it’s not because of how you FEEL…
You feel resentful!
So, when you see these things that he is not doing that you want him to do so it seems intuitive ~
You have to tell him what he’s doing wrong and how he should be doing it or what should be happening… Read more and leave a comment or question for Rori »