Feeling and sensing whether you crave “control” because you WANT something – OR, because you’re afraid of something…can make all the difference in your life…
Because Control not only kills love...it stops cold the magnetic pull of everything you want in life toward you…and ends up pushing everything you want away.
In this new world – a world where we women still have only one model for success: the masculine model – it’s hard to even imagine how you might run a company, keep children alive, well and happy, and feel good most of the time without keeping everything in order.
Without controlling everything.
Yet, controlling everything just makes us feel squished, tight, and unhappy.
And, it doesn’t help to actually get anything done!
Here are the videos!:
(If you’d like to know when new videos get uploaded to my Siren TV youtube channel (I’m putting up a new one every week or so!) just hit the “Subscribe” button on any of the videos as you’re watching them…) This video is about being able to tune into the difference between experiencing the “need” to Control what’s going on because you feel afraid – OR, because you WANT something! Being a Modern Siren is all about Desire – so when you WANT something – that’s great!
All you need to know is the best way to GET what you want – and Control is the least ineffective, most alienating and love-wrecking option you have. In the video, you’ll learn how to tell the difference, and what to do in each case, and if you’d like personal help with this, Rori Raye coaches are here for you in Siren Circle Private Coaching program, here: https://www.coachrori.com/siren-school-siren-circle/ Love, Rori It’s so easy to slide into masculine energy “overseer” mode when things are going wrong. When things need to be fixed, to be smoothed over, to be all right again. Only – that only makes things worse. Men are confusing to us because they seem to “like” attention, caring, food handed to them, sex handed to them… Yet, they then seem to get “bored” and walk away. It’s true – they like and are happy to take what we give them – yet, are we just ‘”giving to them”? Or is it a subtle bit of “Puppetmaster Control” we’ve learned as girls since we were children – a kind of passive mastery that was once the only way we women could ever exert any power in this world? If you see things in your love life, relationship, marriage that you’d like to “make better” – you can quickly and privately learn new ways to change the trajectory of a romance – without ever Puppetmastering – with a great coach (or up to FOUR coaches!) in the Rori Raye Siren Circle Private coaching program. Go here to learn more: https://www.coachrori.com/siren-schoo… The process of healing your emotional pain is so often exactly the same process you’d use to heal a physical injury: step-by-step. I lay out some ideas and Tools in this video, and if you’d like to work with a coach who’s been through what you’ve been through, and can help you recover and heal quickly in new ways – try out my Siren Circle coaches privately. They are all amazing, and each has a specialty that might be the perfect match for your situation, personality and background. Anger is heavenly. Our rage as women is SO righteous, so powerful, so long overdue as most of us just constantly stuff it down – and it needs to be expressed! The thing is, we’re all like volcanoes, ready to erupt – ALL the time – and so we often don’t have even a moment to “feel into” and “mull over” how we WANT to express our rage. Instead, we usually burst, spew words, erupt…and then try to “clean up” later. This video can help you PREPARE for expressing your anger (since most of us are carrying it around just under the surface so much of the time) – and give you words to actually EXPRESS your feelings, instead of turn them on someone else – like Puppetmaster. Using our deep, incredible feelings to “control” a situation, or our men – like a Puppetmaster – won’t help us get what we REALLY want: Love! More Scripting! Most of the time, we don’t even notice when we’re trying to control a man or a situation – because we’re being so “nice”! We feel like we’re just “asking” for something – yet, if you’re feeling “push-back” from a man, chances are there’s something else entirely underlying your current words and ‘vibe” – and that’s a Desire to “Control” him. A man can SMELL “Control” from a mile away, and a lot of the time, he experiences completely “benign” things we might say or do as “controlling.” Some men are just more sensitive than others – so you’ll want to to watch for if you’re finding yourself “on eggshells” all the time, or if his “sensitivity” serves you in other ways that make it worthwhile to honor by being even more conscious of the words you use. If it’s eggshells – there might be something toxic and not serving you here. AND – learning how to talk to a man WITHOUT ANY even “hint” of “Control” is ALWAYS a fabulous skill! It feels so FREEING to YOU! (And to him!) We women have all been taught to be nice. We also all know what it’s like to HATE that “nice,” and HATE the “rules” that make it so much harder for women to be anything BUT “nice” – and yet, “nice” has been the ONLY “workaround” we’ve learned that even begins to address getting our wants expressed and our needs met. If you feel stuck in the “nice” – and frustrated that “nice” doesn’t even WORK! – here’s a new way to look at where Puppetmastering comes from and how to break the strings! You’re not alone if you’re attracted to (and attracting!) “edgy,” “complex,” “difficult” men who make having a relationship a slow, frustrating, often painful experience. It all has to do with “Puppetmaster Control” – and the simple reality that difficult men are harder to control – and that we CRAVE relief from our need to control! In this video, you’ll learn a whole new idea – instead of trying to “fix” your accomplished Puppetmastering, you can slowly learn how to give up the “control” and put down the “Control Bar” with an “easy” man! Love, Rori
If you’d like a new way of getting everything in your life moving toward you – without all the effort you’ve been taught to put out – and of actually experiencing everything you want finally happening for you: brilliant Rori Raye coaches are here for you, for private coaching plus 4 weeks of 24/7 coaching and support by voice messaging Voxer or What’s App – in the Siren Circle Private Coaching program-> The Siren Circle coaches will help you with your unique, even urgent situation – right now – while teaching you new Rori Raye Siren Tools you’ll be able to access and use forever. Love, Rori