glass-ballJustin/Fernando just left a great comment in which he said how men find “Warrior” women sexy. How men actually love being “called” on their “bs” because then they know that what a woman wants is who they really are and not who they might like to pretend to be.

So what exactly is a Warrior woman?

Does it mean that you are always on the warpath? Are you always looking for something to pounce on and correct? Are you out to change the world by changing every little thing you see around you? Are you out to improve everything you see — including your man?

Or are you a warrior for yourself?

And what would that look like?

Let’s say you’re with a man and in this very moment you feel totally torn and totally conflicted. Two sides of you are trying to gain control of your mind and your actions. Something is happening that does not feel good. It could be him asking you to do something or go somewhere that you just don’t feel like doing are going. Or it could be something he does — roll his eyes or dismiss you in words, or comment about another woman’s attractiveness right in front of you. Ick…

Part of you wants to smash him in the face. Wants to grab him by his jacket or his shirt and shake him and toss him until he behaves. Another part of you is terrified that if you even question for a moment what he’s done or asked for… you will be labeled as needy, complaining, insecure, a drama queen, and he will move away from you and maybe even leave you.

This is what I call walking on eggshells.

And you’d be surprised how many of us are caught in this loop. We either blurt out everything we want changed and stick to our guns and air our opinions and requests for change and then feel terrible and frightened and angrier afterward… or we sit on stuff, telling ourselves that we are poised, we are confident, we are together, we don’t have to get all upset about this “thing,” we have a sense of humor, we can talk about this reasonably.

And sometimes that voice is right! Sometimes what you’re all bent out of shape about is hardly worth even a moment of your brainpower.

Sometimes you’re just looking in the wrong place, hearing the wrong thing, focusing on the wrong part of what’s going on around you.

So what’s the Warrior in you to do? What exactly do you champion? How do you champion yourself here, when you don’t know which “yourself” to listen to?

So let’s go through some steps:

If you’re feeling unsettled, disturbed (I love that word and I love the state “disturbed” describes), and conflicted, just

1. Stop whatever you’re doing.

>> Stop
>> take a breath
>> go into the Rori Raye Dance Position
>> put your hand on an object and…
>> stomp on the floor.

You are caught between your emotions. And your emotions are caught between wanting to fight, wanting to flee, and wanting to freeze. And some of it is not under your control right now. Some of it is a reaction that’s coming from old patterns that are deeply ingrained in every cell of your body.

So…

2. Start picking through your emotions.

First, you have to

>> Feel each one.

Start with the one that comes up first. If it’s an urge to hit and strike out and “fight” — go into that feeling. Really experience it — in your arms, in your hands. Experience if you feel your hands clenching into a fist, if you feel like reaching out to push and hurt, to DO something destructive. Really let yourself get into that. If you have to leave the room for a minute to do it — do it. EXPLORE each feeling as it passes through you..

If the next feeling feels like fear, or guilt, feel that. You can tell what it is you’re feeling most easily by going straight to your body for clues.

Look at your hands. Do they feel like going out to push something? That would be anger and an urge to fight. Or do they feel like pulling something towards you? Does it feel like they want to protect you? Protect your heart, protect your breasts, protect your breath?

Do your hands and arms feel like they want to block something? Does the rest of your body feel like it’s moving backwards — like it wants to go away, wants to run?

Notice if your shoulders are all crunched up near your ears. Does that feel more to you like fear, or anger, or love, or shame, or guilt?

Let your shoulders go, let your arms go and see if you can find the feeling now in your belly. See if it’s jumping or if it feels hard.

Start getting familiar with what your feelings feel like. You’ll start to notice a pattern — a physical pattern — that will help you clue into what it is you’re feeling. And as you experiment with feeling these different feelings that have different physical components, you’ll start to get more COMFORTABLE feeling these feelings.

3. Now – put on your Warrior clothes.

Make it up. Are you an angel with wings? A Greek Goddess in gown, or pants and boots with bows and arrows, or a superwoman superhero with space-age weapons? How do you wish to aim — very subtly and accurately, or do you wish to have the power to blow away whole universes with the press of a button on your gear?

4. Now… and here is the hardest part… what are you fighting for? Who are you fighting for? And on behalf of which emotion that you felt are you fighting for?

The easiest way to do this is to —

>> Pick a Value that is dear to your heart. Pick the first one that comes to your mind (if you don’t already have a Values List sit down and make one now)

Let’s just pick one for now — how about Peace? Or Authenticity? How about Honor? You could honor your “little girl self” — you could honor your Vulnerability — you could simply honor your own ability to feel.

***Important note: you are not to use the word “defend.” This is not about protection or defense. This is not about being a warrior who “goes to war.” A warrior who writes wrongs. A warrior who sets the record straight. These images are all MASCULINE images. These are fine for many things in your life when you’re going “Out the Window” and want to be an action Warrior for the world. (We’re all really good at this, and I’ll talk about it more in another post…)

A WOMAN as Warrior simply says NO. Being a FEMININE Warrior is all about being about No.

5. Get a big perspective on the situation you’re in at this very moment. (There are more Tools for “Zooming Out” and “Flying Up” in my Toxic Men and Modern Siren programs…)

This could look like: There are people standing around in this room. My man, or that man who just came up to talk to me just said or did something and now I’m feeling uneasy and disturbed, and I have many wonderful emotions around all this.

6. Now… you’re going to follow the procedure for any Rori Raye “speech.” It goes basically — I feel, I don’t want. If you want to actually negotiate something, it can go — I feel, I don’t want, what do you think.

7. So let’s put it all together.

>> Imagine yourself in your warrior clothes, armed with your NO, standing up for a value like Vulnerability, seeing everything that’s around you and being present with it all.

>> Put together your first sentence of “I feel” with the feeling you’re feeling right now (that you’ve already felt and gotten comfortable with feeling) and speak it simply.

>> Now put together your NO in the form of “I don’t want….”

This could look like: I feel icky, I don’t like this.

8. If he doesn’t snap-to and ask you what’s going on, take the time to start from step one again. All the same feelings are going to start flooding in on you. The first few times you try this is going to feel just like the first time — and then you get so used to it that it will get easy, I know it will. Be sure to keep your warrior clothes on.

Being a warrior for yourself is not about attacking. It’s not about doing damage. It’s not about blowing people and things in the universe away with your power.

It’s about owning your power. It’s about owning your warrior clothes and your warrior heart and your warrior weapons and knowing you can use them, and trusting yourself to use them wisely.

Being a warrior for yourself is holding the line. It’s standing your ground. Its boundaries with a big capital B. It just means you won’t be pushed backwards from that line. It just means you won’t be pushed over. It just means you won’t lay down on the ground at his feet and do what ever it takes to keep him.

It doesn’t even mean fighting or attacking the other voices in your own head that are confusing you and disturbing you. It’s owning all the other voices no matter how nasty they sound. It’s about being a warrior of yourself that’s in CHARGE of all of these voices. It’s knowing that all of these voices and everything about you is ONE. That you are all-of-a-piece. That you are one whole person. That you have facets just like a magnificent crystal and that the crystal of you is whole.

So being a warrior for yourself has nothing to do with what emotion you’re feeling! It is not an action arising out of any particular emotion.

You don’t need to go to war! Being a warrior for love or a warrior for peace will help you know, deep down, that everything you do and say in service to yourself, following these steps, will make you feel more complete, more interesting, more multifaceted, more whole.  Stronger. I know that you are one gorgeous warrior woman. Rock on.

I’d love to see some drawings of what you as Warrior looks like — what you’re wearing and what you’re packing (these don’t have to be aggressive weapons — we can have fun and get creative here) — and I’ll try to figure out a way that you can post your pictures. For now though, would you describe yourself as Warrior to us?

Love, Rori

62 Comments

  1.  #1Mercedes on August 24, 2009 at 12:39 pm

    How do you wish to aim — very subtly and accurately

    This is me. I take very accurate aim and hit every time. I don’t have to do it often, but it’s rare for me to blow away the entire world when I go for it. I just blow away a very distinct section of what a man was thinking or how he was acting. 🙂 But in a good way…

    Much Love,
    Mercedes



  2.  #2Simply Shannon on August 24, 2009 at 1:55 pm

    Wow. Just what I needed today. When I first pictured my warrior woman, I was standing up high with a field of men all around protecting me. Literally like a greek goddess. I simply hold my hand out and they do my bidding. And oddly enough, I can see my nasty voice and other “weaknesses” inside my field but by just holding up my hand, I can calm them or make them stop. In my vision, *I* am doing that, not the men in my field. So maybe my warrior woman is just this soft flowing goddess who has an invisible shield to protect me. I can see all of the men in front of me protecting me and also the men outside that field who want in. What a powerful image. I love knowing the facets of me are within the field but can’t hurt me either. I may not be describing this well but I can see it in my head. Thank you.



  3.  #3Simply Shannon on August 24, 2009 at 1:56 pm

    I’ve been on vacation over the weekend and am just getting caught up. Lots of reading to do.



  4.  #4tinque on August 24, 2009 at 3:06 pm

    Hey everyone. I made it to Connecticut in one piece, only two minor accidents of the feline pee sort, not the car kind. That one is still too fresh in my consciousness.
    Wow, this post really hits me deeply to my core. Maybe I’m stressed from this move, the long drive, new things as exciting as they are are also scary making.
    I seem to have misplaced my goddess warrior. I feel very exposed, vulnerable, naked, unable to aim at anything at all. I feel like I’m melting. On the one hand in a great way as in my lover’s arms, as in a sigh, but on the other hand I feel as though I’ve dissolved into a pool of something about to be washed away, a meltdown.
    xo (only one hug and kiss today)



  5.  #5Daria on August 24, 2009 at 3:34 pm

    I feel drunk! Just a lil bit… ?I feel widl warrior woman, i feel racous after battle celebration abandon… i feel good… I love warirroring… I am Camilla, the greek warrior of the legend but i dont die, ?I am respected by men and yet loved loved loved… I feel a lil lost… there are many faces of my warriorness… my warrior is strong



  6.  #6Linda on August 24, 2009 at 3:50 pm

    My warrior woman looks just like me. She is dressed in everyday attire. She is 100% comfortable in her own skin and embraces her passions and smiles. She is authentic, genuine and uncommon. Her eyes are clear and focused. She has a spirit that is infused with intuition and wisdom. In confidence and quiet strength she is poised. My warrior woman is soft and gentle but sets boundries for herself that protect herself and her goals so that she is not lost. She is not rigid and un yeilding but stands on principle and will not be pushed about by circumstance or opinions that do not line up with her spirit. My warrior woman has a heart that is stong and resillient. Finally her speech is authoritative, honorable (her yes is yes and her no is no) and flows with grace. My warrior woman is tenatious she will not back down from who she is, what she “knows” approaches nothing out of fear.

    Nothing errodes the my warrior and her beauty or strength. The words, actions and attitudes of others that challange try to pick away at her only reveals their own insecurities and errodes their worthyness to be close to her.

    My warrior woman though soft and inviting is resillient and driven. She holds boundries of self-respect and peace with herself in how she feels. My warrior woman is authentic and the more I love her the more she serves me well. !

    Linda

    My warrior woman looks just like me. She is 100 % genuine and authentic



  7.  #7Rori Raye on August 24, 2009 at 5:06 pm

    How beautiful, Linda! Rori



  8.  #8Rori Raye on August 24, 2009 at 5:07 pm

    So cool, Daria. Love, Rori



  9.  #9Rori Raye on August 24, 2009 at 5:08 pm

    Tinque…sometimes it’s all about rest and recuperation…and reconnection. Love, Rori



  10.  #10Rori Raye on August 24, 2009 at 5:10 pm

    Shannon, Thank you. I love the part about the men protecting you…isn’t that lovely? Rori



  11.  #11Rori Raye on August 24, 2009 at 5:10 pm

    Mercedes – I can totally see that…very unique…Rori



  12.  #12No Bliss on August 24, 2009 at 5:18 pm

    My Warrior woman looks confident and strong.



  13.  #13tinque on August 24, 2009 at 6:31 pm

    Yes Rori, I know, and I have been, and I did, reconnect that is. It’s been wonderful, sex amazing, love flowing beautifully until I had to open my big silly mouth and have a “talk”. My insecurities spilled out. The “talk” went badly needless to say. Everything seems okay, but my annoyingly heightened sensitivity feels withdrawal, slight but there nonetheless. Plus I’m already chomping at the bit. I haven’t a clue what I’m going to do here. My online businesses are good, not much income but fun and potentially lucrative, yet I need to expand, get out of the house, be with others, meet new people. I can’t do what it is I’ve doing all these years, as I’m not licensed here plus my hand is still really bad, very limited usage. I fear it’s been permanently damaged or at the very least will take a long time to heal.
    xxoo



  14.  #14Angeline on August 24, 2009 at 6:44 pm

    I established boundaries with this guy who is kind of in a position of authority in my life. He was flirting with me by putting me on the spot in front of other people and it made me uncomfortable, so I told him to stop. His response was that he was “only joking.” So lame, because he seems to be attracted to me from the way he looks at me. I guess men will look though…

    I feel like he’s toying with me, because I have sort of indirectly let him know that I’m attracted to him. Right now I’m just trying to pull way back from him, but what do you do when someone says they were “just joking”? It seems like such an immature response, and I feel even more humiliated by him now.



  15.  #15cookie on August 24, 2009 at 9:12 pm

    my warrior is without corrective lenses, upright, and firm. her hair is loose soft and curly. she is in leather and lace, pumps and pearls. her waist in cinched, her long legs look lean. she is wearing makeup that highlights her best features. her gait is strong yet lightfooted. she moves as though she is windswept. her cryptonite is her smile and the sparkle in her almond eyes.

    my warrior does not need validation so sometimes she is misunderstood until she speaks her truth and hold her position. people just know. and yet she is fluid when she wants to be. and because she knows who she is she can experiment and be fun.

    in her pouch she carries her mac lipglass, her killer scent of choice, blotting papers, and multipurpose oil, that can used on hair skin and nails. everything else she needs she has inside her.

    my warrior is unfazed by the presence of other equally or lesser powerful women. she is so into her self in the present that she is unconcerned about what she was or what she will be. she just is.

    yeah.



  16.  #16Linmayu on August 24, 2009 at 11:41 pm

    My warrior doesn’t attack or defend–she stands completely still in the face of whatever has come against her–knowing that at any time she can call on a tremendous healing, loving power–a power that, like Mercedes’ laser-precise aim, selectively destroys the bad in the man or situation in question, while amplifying the good.

    (This power is real. It is Divine power and it is at anyone’s command who wants to use it. It is called upon, regardless of what one believes, by focusing on that which feels good and refusing to even grant reality to that which is destructive.)

    She wears no armor, just a long, glowing silk dress, and her skin and hair are as soft as a baby’s. But if you dropped an atom bomb on her, you would find her still standing there, unharmed, after the smoke has cleared.



  17.  #17Daria on August 24, 2009 at 11:55 pm

    yay cookie and linmayu showed up!!



  18.  #18Daria on August 24, 2009 at 11:56 pm

    I love you guys’ warriors!! We can go in Secondlife.com and build them, although that already feels kinda draining right now



  19.  #19Symantha on August 25, 2009 at 4:05 am

    Hi ladies,
    Lots of reading to do…. I don’t want to loose any insight that you are sharing as going through a broken engament, moing out of our place and finnaly break up. Uufff! I’m such a warrior that sometimes I regret it!
    XoXo
    Symantha



  20.  #20DocK on August 25, 2009 at 5:50 am

    My Warrior Woman isn’t all that creative but someone told me awhile back that I looked like “PowerGirl” and I was surprised I hadn’t heard of her because I used to read comics.

    When I looked her up I felt an immediate connection to her. She is strong and muscular but curvy too. Hair and face is similar.

    I told my brother about her and he got me comic #1 and # 2 that just came out (until recently – she was only featured in other comic books – funny that she suddently has her own) for my birthday.

    I have her picture on my phone. Here she is:

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Power_Girl

    I like the part where it says:

    “Throughout her early appearances in All Star Comics, Power Girl was frequently at odds with Wildcat, who had a penchant for talking to her as if she were an ordinary Earthling female (instead of a superpowered Kryptonian), which she found annoying.”

    I think that resonates with me. LOL



  21.  #21Daria on August 25, 2009 at 6:04 am

    Wow Dock! seeing that picture of Power Girl I would’ve really though she was you… (if you had said that). Amazing!!!



  22.  #22DocK on August 25, 2009 at 6:26 am

    Thank you Daria (as I’m feeling all puffed up, grinning from ear to ear) : )



  23.  #23DocK on August 25, 2009 at 6:31 am

    Linmayu!!!! Feel so happy to see your post sharing your Warrior with us – how beautiful!



  24.  #24DocK on August 25, 2009 at 6:33 am

    Cookie!!! Yayyy – love your post – what a HOT Warrior!



  25.  #25DocK on August 25, 2009 at 6:40 am

    Hi Tinque

    Glad you’re getting settled in and will have a chance to enjoy K and recuperate.

    Look forward to meeting you : )



  26.  #26Aldonza on August 25, 2009 at 6:48 am

    Eh, sometimes I wonder what’s the point of having the cool weapons if we never unholster them. Maybe I do need to find a feminine energy man so I can go save the world. LOL!



  27.  #27tinque on August 25, 2009 at 7:29 am

    Linmayu – It’s so nice having you back. I love your warrior woman. She sounds very much like my goddess about whom I wrote an erotic story a couple of years ago, beautiful.
    Cookie – I love your blend of power and true girlyness, so fun, a don’t mess with the “do” attitude…
    Linda – I’m so struck with your confidence and belief in yourself, that you imagine yourself just as you are, awesome.
    DocK – Okay, uncreative you are not. PowerGirl. Yay! I love the Kara Zor-L…DocKaraZor-L



  28.  #28DocK on August 25, 2009 at 7:53 am

    Tinque – I write erotica too!! Sometimes I feel like I should be creating 2 websites – one with the academic DocK and the other with the sexy pole dancing, erotica writing alter-ego “DocKaraZor-L” (thank you for that)!



  29.  #29tinque on August 25, 2009 at 8:05 am

    DocKaraZor-L- Go for it! Why not? And you are so welcome…I love words and playing with them.
    xxoo



  30.  #30Rori Raye on August 25, 2009 at 9:17 am

    Angeline, Welcome, and it seems to me you’ve handled yourself quite wonderfully. Nothing a man does means anything to you unless he straightforwardly pursues you, with a clear goal of marriage in mind. Everything else is just “stuff” — and is not worth you’re trying to figure out, analyze, or worry over. Fun and feeling good is the name of the game, here…just keep doing what you’re doing — stepping back. Love, Rori



  31.  #31Rori Raye on August 25, 2009 at 9:24 am

    Aldonza – you can save the world and still be primarily feminine energy with a man. Both. You can have both. Most men would be thrilled beyond words to be with a woman who is saving the world — and loves him for just exactly who he is. The problem comes when we want to save, or change HIM, too! Love, Rori



  32.  #32Tracy on August 25, 2009 at 11:10 pm

    Tinque,
    Glad you arrived safely and feels great to have you back…..

    Cookie,Linmayu….nice to have u guyz back….

    My warrior self feels more confident and is uncovering and healing a lot of my past….i feel like a different person….
    One of my EX Boyfriend connected with me after nearly 3 years and i was so surprised….I feel that this is an opportunity for me to heal my past and continue on my path to finding true happiness…i feel that he wants us to meet for a date maybe and catching up…i am still wondering if I’ll agree with it or not…
    I don’t feel anger or disappointment in myself anymore…i am more in touch with myself now though i feel curious about how he will react to this new me…
    Lets wait and see…



  33.  #33Mercedes on August 26, 2009 at 7:35 am

    Linmayu: YAY! I’ve missed you…I think I secretly knew you and I had a very similar warrior woman…anyway it didn’t surprise me at all!

    Much Love,
    Mercedes



  34.  #34Mercedes on August 26, 2009 at 7:48 am

    Tinque: You haven’t misplaced your warrior woman! She resting…she’s been working really hard for you over the last month or so. She’ll be back, but maybe you need to rest along with her for a bit. 😉

    You know I love you to pieces!!!

    Much Love,
    Mercedes



  35.  #35cookie on August 26, 2009 at 10:05 am

    Feels great to be missed and welcomed back thanks for the love ladies.



  36.  #36tinque on August 26, 2009 at 10:13 am

    Thank you Mercedes for the reminder. Sometimes we just need someone close to point out the obvious which may become cloudy within inner turmoil.
    xxoo



  37.  #37Mercedes on August 26, 2009 at 10:59 am

    Tinque: Do you thinks it’s wonderfully strange that you sent me an email telling me to relax a little and I post a message to you telling you to relax a little…both at the same time?? Hmm…guess we can either take each other’s advice or take our own and we’ll both be good! 🙂

    Much Love,
    Mercedes



  38.  #38tinque on August 26, 2009 at 11:25 am

    Thank you Mercedes for the reminder. Sometimes we just need someone close to point out the obvious which may become cloudy within all the inner turmoil.
    xxoo



  39.  #39Flipper on August 26, 2009 at 1:13 pm

    My Warrior Woman is still a little hard to make out through the soup. I feel she’s there, watching over my anger/identity, ready and willing, and just wishes I’d hurry up and find just where that is, then get down there with her so we can translate it to the world (‘this is who I am’ means ‘I will not pretend something else’, ‘NO’ does not mean ‘yes’ nor ‘I will put up with what makes me feel bad’). When I do approach her, I’ll find she’s just like the real me, with no extra kilos to give unnecessary critical mass, no hang-ups about imaginary faults or real signs of maturity. She’s wearing long, silky, colored garments, with a magic fiole at her waist – she feels so soft and vulnerable, yet there is diamond fire inside, protecting us, not afraid to shine out in powerful flashes that awe and captivate.



  40.  #40tinque on August 26, 2009 at 1:16 pm

    Nice Flipper, very nice…She’s there. You see her, so she’s there.
    xxoo



  41.  #41Flipper on August 26, 2009 at 1:26 pm

    Thanks, Tinque. I feel dazzled and comforted seeing all these warrior women showing themselves in their splendor, Just Being, being here still, as I knew they were all along.



  42.  #42K on August 26, 2009 at 2:19 pm

    I just attended the funeral of one of my ‘friend’s’ mother, and the priest talked about the value of HOPE!!!!

    My Warrior protects hope…she is large and strong (like the mother and teacher I am) but she has sensuous FEMALE flowing hair and robes and angel wings (like I HOPE to become)….she protects HOPE because we all can succeed in our goals/needs/dreams with HOPE…even if it is hope to do just a bit better than we did last time or yesterday or 5 minutes ago…..HOPE makes us continue…..

    I feel hope—HOPE that I will let these BARRIER WALLS come down and replace them with safe boundaries…HOPE that I will feel my feelings-good and bad, and OWN them…HOPE I will choose my words without intention or subconscious intention of harm, that I will choose with care for others and myself, and definitely HOPE that I will be surprised!!!



  43.  #43Rori Raye on August 26, 2009 at 3:34 pm

    Thank you, K – this image is totally beautiful. Love, Rori



  44.  #44Rori Raye on August 26, 2009 at 3:37 pm

    oooohhh…great, lovely image, Flipper, thank you…love, Rori



  45.  #45Flipper on August 27, 2009 at 5:22 am

    Some visuals of Hot Warrior Women I enjoyed:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V-zsyXzs8mU&feature=related

    Anyone have some a little more girly?



  46.  #46DocK on August 27, 2009 at 6:31 am

    Flipper – those are great – very hot!

    The picture I have of myself standing on the rocks is one that always seemed to me that I should have a sword in my hand. Maybe it is more girly without it. LOL



  47.  #47Daria on August 27, 2009 at 7:51 am

    I love the first image… the greeen beings… thats ME i love it!!! ?Ooh i love it…



  48.  #48Mercedes on August 27, 2009 at 8:54 am

    Speaking of warriors – Linmayu…I know your Gift Weekend starts tomorrow and I wanted to reach out to you and let you know my thoughts are with you. I really, really wish I could be there but I can’t and want you to know I am hoping it is all you want it to be. I think its amazing that you are involved in something like this! I hope it is as wonderful for you as it sounds like it will be.

    Much Love,
    Mercedes



  49.  #49heartbeat on August 27, 2009 at 4:27 pm

    Oh this feels so exciting!

    My warrior woman has a bow and arrow. Her aim is precise and humane. She wears a simple brown dress and her legs are strong and lithe. She is a creature of the forest and of the sea.

    My warrior woman has hair like mine – long and curly, wild and sun-bleached – and her skin is dewy and glows with warm blood. She can leap high into trees or from her ship onto Siren Island 🙂 Her arms are strong and she has secret knowledge of the elements.

    She values Truth and Honour, and is a champion of children.

    Sometimes my Warrior Woman likes to yell into the wind and whip up a storm, it’s her private release which the people of the sea and forest respect, as they know it’s the same power that leads them onward. Other times she laughs so loudly the clouds puff up in the sky.

    And she is dirty too, her face smeared with sweat and earth. She smells of salt, clay and musk.

    I love her sooo much!



  50.  #50Flipper on August 27, 2009 at 4:44 pm

    Wow, that is some tempting Warrior Woman, Heartbeat! She must feel irresistable to everyone around her.

    When I first saw the swords in my youtube link above, I felt a little bothered or annoyed. Then I remembered our WW’s are neither offensive nor defensive, so the sword is not necessarily a destructive arm. As human beings, we need tools to survive, so I now see the swords mainly as tools, and of course Rori’s tools particularly. And they can still serve as arms in other contexts of our lives.



  51.  #51Ann on August 27, 2009 at 5:16 pm

    My Warrior Princess(I like the word princess) helps me be real with me. She’s creative in her own way, she doesn’t follow the crowd, which sometimes comes across as rude or stuck up. She wears everyday clothes that feel good to her. She can be quick to be quite or say back off me. Her number one is honesty, she hold honesty in high esteem but she’s learning more gentle ways to state honesty. My warrior princess can be very vulnerable, which has always been hard for her to do. She knows how much she needs breaks from time to time. She is helping me to be comfortable being me.



  52.  #52Karen on August 28, 2009 at 1:46 am

    I can’t seem to associate myself with a human warrior woman. When I see myself as a strong female it’s usually as a female wolf, standing up to a bear or cougar or human (male) with a gun to protect myself and my cubs. Maybe I’m just weird.



  53.  #53Daria on August 28, 2009 at 4:51 am

    Karen that is awesome… not weird (except very powerful and imaginative)! I love the female wolf protecting her cubs warrior!!



  54.  #54Lisa on August 30, 2009 at 9:16 pm

    This is a very helpful site and a great community. I visited once before and didn’t understand, but I do now. Thanks for doing what you’re doing — I feel privileged to be able to read and learn here.



  55.  #55Uschi on September 6, 2009 at 10:57 pm

    As a warrior I look like a well dressed woman that carries a gun hidden under her clothes somewhere kind of like Emma Peel from the Avengers series from the 60’s or 70’s TV series



  56.  #56Morningstar on September 14, 2009 at 9:36 am

    I love that tool of identifying our inner Warrior; since I tested out in the KWML as Lover/Warrior. I always thought that the warrior in me was from being a teacher and wanting to protect and nurture all children. I really like the Goddess image of a person who is also being protected. Thanks!



  57.  #57Leslie on October 2, 2009 at 7:03 pm

    My warrior woman has long blond hair but chooses to clip it to the back of her head in times of “battle”, after all, she doesn’t want to get it all messed up! She wears a long white muslin skirt with a ruffly slip underneath and a plain white long-sleeved blouse. Her shoes are comfy white slippers and her only weapon is a wide brimmed white hat.
    The emotions and feelings look to her for approval and acknowledgement, which she gives freely. They all fear the hat because if they displease her, she puts the hat on her head and turns her back so that she can find the pleasing ones. She acknowledges their presence but turns away from them until they no longer threaten her.
    She is quick to forgive and offer her acceptance, but will not give approval for their continued shouting until they are expressing their desires in a way that is soft and feeling.She helps them do this by whispering her love for them .
    Every being that comes into contact with her know that their thoughts are valuable to her and their hearts are safe, because she would harm nobody or nothing. She is trustworthy and dependable, and always available and present.



  58.  #58Rori Raye on October 2, 2009 at 8:58 pm

    Leslie, Welcome, and what a lovely image. I love the “hat” image…Love, Rori



  59.  #59Sharon on December 30, 2009 at 11:08 pm

    As warrior I am wearing that classic little silk black dress that is sleeveless with scoop-neck. Think Michelle O’bama. I am wearing huge pearl studs and a strand of white pearl necklace. Hair is scooped up in the most tender and sexy style with soft make-up. My weapon is my breath that comes all the way from my tippy toes and out of my mouth to cast out every issue that wishes to set itself against me into the universe. If the issue is causing me great anxst, then I may need to blow 2 or 3 times as they try to float back down like a gas balloon that has lost steam. Each time I blow the issues are pushed out to the next layer of the universe- never to return. Like that last boyfriend that took up so much of your head space for the last however many months only to begin showing his rotten egg qualities, just blow him and all his issues that you were trying to mother out into the universe and leave him there.



  60.  #60Rori Raye on December 31, 2009 at 1:17 am

    Wow, Sharon, Welcome, and thank you for the gorgeous warrior woman image and Tool. Love, Rori



  61.  #61Jess on January 8, 2011 at 10:12 am

    This letter was powerful for me because of where I am presently in my love life. Things are going well, but sometimes I find myself acting in ways that make me feel sad because they are not a true reflection of the patterns I want to obtain for myself.

    My warrior has wings and a bow and arrow, but instead of metal tips arrows, each arrow is a word that I can direct at the person or situation that ‘triggered’ me. I can shoot understanding in hopes of being understood. I can shoot patience, or hope or trust or compassion or which ever trait I wish the situation actually held. I also have these wrist bands that contain the same words in case I am the one in need of hearing and feeling and experiencing these traits.



  62.  #62Heartfelt on January 4, 2012 at 3:30 am

    As a warrior, I am dressed similar to a native American but in a smaller more Zina typed outfit. Showing lots of soft skin, long black hair plaited to one side and a head band with 2 beautiful feathers pointing up toward the sky. I carry a little heart shaped bow with no arrows. Whenever I need, I point the bow up to the sky and draw it back as if to shoot an invisible arrow into the air. This makes a shower of light surround me like an invisible shield. Once my shield of light is active, my skin glows golden and I have a soft warmness that radiates right from my heart… From here I can speak my truth in the purest fashion, knowing that nothing can penetrate the shield and harm me.