Is “Pulling Flak” Your Way Of Getting Attention?

How are you trained to get attention? A woman I know complains, sees problems and fault everywhere, and cannot seem to appreciate people when they do caring things for her. The amazing thing is – this attitude actually gets her the attention she craves! BUT…what kind of attention IS it that shows up? I call…

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Dropping The Relationship Ball And Seeing If He Picks It Up

Here’s a letter from a great client who’s long-distance boyfriend put her at emotional arms-length because – he said – he didn’t like all the anger and fighting between them. So – she’s quite brilliantly working on many Tools and things she can shift. In this letter, she talks about : ***Dropping the Ball (she’s…

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Are You Wrecking Your Relationship By Giving Too Much?

Here’s a totally classic example of overfunctioning and the result it gets – which is YOU feeling resentful, angry and closed down and pushing a perfectly good man away. “Hi Rori, I asked my boyfriend what we are going to do this weekend, he tells me he wants to go skydiving (expensive)..and then he tells…

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Sex With Ex – and Hoping For Re-Commitment

Sex is such an important thing – not because it’s so crucial to be having sex for sex’s sake (though it makes us healtier in so many ways…) but because it’s such a serious barometer for the health and intimacy level of a relationship. It says so much about the physical and emotional status of…

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Intimacy — Afraid? How To Start Doing It Anyway –

It’s possible that most of us have never known true intimacy from the moment we came into the world. We’ve been labelled, taught, cajoled and prodded, been threatened by all forms of authority, told what’s true and what isn’t, and disrespected for everything from our feelings to our thoughts. Our relationships have been more about…

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Stuck With A Confused Man And Nowhere To Live

Have you ever been this close to total humiliation with a man? Where you just take your own commitment to him, and your own sense of being a good woman to the point where you’re almost embarrassed for yourself? Well, I know I have, and most of the women I know and have worked with…

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