How To Be Attracted To A Good Guy

The Question: “Rori, I am kind of dating the stereotypical nice guy, low testosterone, borderline feminine/passive, and it’s been a struggle so far. I do like him a lot as he is so sweet and nice, but he is waiting for me to move the relationship forward and make plans etc., he has even so…

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Is It So Bad To Want To Feel Good?

I’ve been reading all about Gwyneth – and all I can think is: How sad that thinking about this is how I’m spending my time and energy here on this beautiful planet. And then I think – wow – whatever she’s thinking or feeling or saying, Gwyneth is determined to say that she’s focused on…

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What You Don’t Love About Yourself Triggers You

Here’s a letter about one of my favorite topics – how working with what triggers us can change our lives almost overnight… I know everyone has their things to deal with. I know I am not alone. I know many people have dealt with many things 1000 times worse than me. My family is probably…

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Can You Scare A Man Off With Your Anger?

Can you scare a good man off with your anger? Here’s the beginning of my never-ending answer: If you’re expressing your anger, and NOT making him wrong or responsible for it, and NOT punishing yourself for it – you cannot scare any kind of man you’d want to be with. You can only make him…

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When He’s Mad At You – Is He Just Mad At Himself?

In my experience (not to say this is always the truth) a man will get mad at you when he feels bad about something. Sometimes he’s done something to hurt you, or he’s cheating, or he’s lying, and sometimes he just feels bad and guilty because he’s done something or is about to do something…

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I Thought It Was Him But it Was Me

I got this letter from Allana Pratt yesterday and loved it so much, I wanted you to see it. OK. I’m dating this new man. I was feeling very crunchy, pissed off by his lack of being impeccably present, grounded or thinking positively. Grrrrr…. I was going through my normal reasoning of why this one…

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Love and Blame

Who’s wrong? Is it me, or is it you? I’ve been trying to figure it out all day. If it’s neither of us, then who is it? I’m triggered. I triggered you. You triggered me. We’re both upset. Someone’s insensitive. Someone stepped wrong. Someone did something! Whose fault is it? No one? How can I…

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