Thank Yourself In Advance

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Happy Thanksgiving!

***If you get my free eLetters, you’ve already received this…and I’d like you to print it out from here (if you haven’t already) and put it up where you can see it and DO it, and make it one of your Thanksgiving presents for yourself…)

Ever wondered if things could really turn around “on-a-dime” for you?

Where all of a sudden the man you love wakes up and loves you even MORE than you love HIM?

Or where a new man suddenly shows up in an unexpected place and just steadily takes you to true love and lifelong commitment?

Or where the “dreaded” Holidays turn into the BEST time to make your dreams for your entire life come true?

Just like in the Holiday movies?

Well, what if the way you look at your situation, wherever you are right now, could make all the difference?

Let’s do it this way:

1. Make a list of all the things you wish would CHANGE during the next two months – so you could have a great new result by January 1st.

Really go into detail.

2. Now, look at your list and

3. Read it out loud – pretend you’re reading it to me, and tell me about each item on your list as though you’re talking to me (and I’ll open my ears and heart so I can hear you…)

4. Let me know by your saying the list out loud what your unique words are…for instance – do you say “I wish…” or do you say “I want…” or do you say “If only…” or do you have your own way of putting your REQUEST for change?

5. Now…I want you to imagine, for each item, what it would FEEL like if you GOT your wish, your want, your if only, your REQUEST.

6. Now – just like when you ask for something in real life (“please pass the sugar bowl, a Grande, please…”) say THANK YOU.

Yeah – I know it’s weird.

You don’t actually yet HAVE this thing you wish, want, regret, miss, long for, request…so it’s hard to imagine saying Thank You, but do it anyway.

7. Now – imagine who you’re saying Thank You to.

Ahhh – that made it even weirder, didn’t it?

Okay – Imagine you’re saying Thank You to YOU.

“And…,” you say, “Rori, why would I thank myself for something I don’t have, something I may have screwed up, something I’m upset about it not BEING here…”

And here’s the answer:

I want you to Thank Yourself for 2 things:

One,  Thank Yourself for even THINKING UP this item on your list.

Thank Yourself for just being AWARE enough – ALIVE ENOUGH – to WANT something!

If you want something, wish for something, request something – then you’re creating ROOM for yourself to have it.

Yes, you are.

And Two – Thank Yourself in Advance, just like you do in common courtesy and cover letters, for GETTING your wish, your want, your if only, your dream, your request – as though you EXPECT it to happen – because…

…YOU are the one who is going to make it happen!

Yes, YOU.

You are the only one who can set the stage, form the wish, speak the want, ask for the dream.

And you are the only one who can put yourself in the exact place and time for it to come on to your stage, show up in your life, be true and real for you.

And you are the only one who can SEE it when it shows up!

And you are the only one who knows what to DO with it when it shows up!

And – you are the only one who can APPRECIATE it when it shows up.

So – you are the one to THANK.

8. Do this now.  Thank Yourself in Advance.

Say – Thank you, [firstname] for…and then just go down your list and turn it around exactly the way you want it.

It’s okay if you cry.  It’s okay if you feel weird – just keep doing it.

9. Do this all day long, every day, until you do it automatically and never stop, and do it about EVERYTHING.

If you want a good parking space, Thank Yourself in Advance.

If you want a lovely man (not any PARTICULAR man, please – that’s not in the Rori Raye playbook, and it won’t work – just stick with how you want that lovely man and that lovely relationship to FEEL…)

10. Let me know what happens!

I can only imagine the chaos that would occur if every single thing on your list all of sudden came about the way you want it – so I want you to just look for the little things.

Look for the little, tiny things until you get used to teeny-tiny good things showing up – and then the bigger things will start to show up.

I Thank YOU for YOU.

You are MY dream come true, and I KNOW yours will show up for you…and way FASTER than you think.

Just do the Tools, and let me know how you’re doing.

Love, Rori


  1.  #1alias girl on November 27, 2008 at 2:58 pm

    you are great! thank you rori raye! you are my dream come true! i can’t wait to do this when i get home. right now i am in the midst of having fun and attracting men. 🙂 i will notice and appreciate the tinist glimmer of romance a man is offering me. the first one was a practice one. he asked me out. i said yes but i’m not that interested. he wanted me to drive far to see him.huh? anyway i left the date at a yes and the driving to see him at a no. five minutes after i walked away he texted me.

    i feel very happy about today. i am taking care of myself and experimenting and feeling VERY grateful. xoxoxoxoxo to all the beauties on here and the fantastico rori raye!

  2.  #2JP on November 27, 2008 at 5:46 pm

    I want to combine my response to this post plus Rori’s e-letter today about the ‘stories’ we have behind feelings.

    I am thanking myself for being insecure and disappointed. I thank myself for having the suspicion that I may be deceiving myself with a fake story about disappointment, and I thank my inner self for guiding me to the bookshelf to re-visit Byron Katie’s ‘I need your Love – is that True?’. And I thank my mind for making the connection with Rori’s e-letter, even in the throes of a thorough beating-up of the self.

    I thank my creativity for deciding for me to read the book from the back, instead of the front, so I was inspired by bite-sized accounts of success; and my curiosity for reading the chapter summaries, not forgetting my masculine self for choosing exactly the right section to read today (and for buying the book for me in the first place).

    I thank the unknown forces in my life that brought all these strands together for me today, and finally, I thank myself for disappointing myself so clearly that tomorrow I will not disappoint myself again and try to pass it off as someone else’s fault. Oh and one more thing – I thank myself for being loving and able to get to the truth.

    What a turnaround! 🙂

  3.  #3Reshi on November 28, 2008 at 2:07 am

    My list of changes:

    1. I would be doing exceedingly well in the copywriting course I just signed up for, and I would have gathered enough information to see myself in a new career using that skill.
    2. I would be getting along amazingly well with everyone in my family, even my dad and my soon to be ex.
    3. I would FEEL confident in myself and my own ability to bring in what I want in life.
    4. My room would be beautifully decorated in a way that really, absolutely reflects me.
    5. I would be socializing regularly–but not TOO regularly, I’ve got a career to turn around!
    6. I would feel confident talking to men who approach me–and men WOULD approach me all over the place–and they would be pretty, intelligent men, much higher quality than the low-IQ manwhores who’ve been showing interest in me.
    7. I would get back to healthy eating and exercise habits and start losing weight again.
    8. I would be back into exploring my sexuality (discreetly, as I’ve moved in with my uptight virgin sisters…tantric exercises and Paint Yourself will be a lifesaver).
    9. I would be somehow, some way, making more money than I have been.
    10. I would be actually ATTENDING my college’s networking events, I would be confident enough to do so with pride and business cards in hand 😀 (maybe this one will take more than a month…)

    So thank you Reshi for kicking ass and being able to want these things for yourself–and thank you in advance for CREATING all these wonderful things for yourself!

  4.  #4JP on November 28, 2008 at 9:48 am

    Oops I think my comment above would fit better in the previous Thanksgiving post.

    I thank myself for being so inspired and excited that I typed my words in the not-quite-right box 🙂

  5.  #5Reshi on November 28, 2008 at 11:07 am

    I feel like such a dork reading my comment and seeing that I typed in “thank you” to myself…

  6.  #6alias girl on November 28, 2008 at 2:01 pm

    i did this exercise last night ans i said things aloud to rori pretending she was listening. it was pretty powerful. thanks rori! i feel excited about the new direction my life is taking thanks to rori’s tools. i feel relieved i don’t have to live the rest of my life the way i have been. knowing now concretely and experientially that there is a better way and i can create happiness and choose to feel good. i feel extremely grateful. so yes, thank you alias girl for bringing me solutions and for having such fun dreams and visions of romance and success and prosperity and comfort and adventure. thank you for brining me the types of adventure i like and not something like skydiving which i would not like. thank you alais girl for being open and noticing your dreams coming toward you and receivng good yummy stuff in your life. thank you for your dreams and not giving up. xoxo.

  7.  #7Patrice on November 29, 2008 at 9:40 am

    What an honor to have received a comment on my blog from a woman who’s writing and wisdom I so admire. Thank you Rori. And thank you for teaching. I have introduced you (through your writing and cd’s) to 3 dear friends over the past few months. Powerful single women. Women with heart-wrenching histories with men. Sue is now in a Fabulous relationship with a man who loves her, and is over her OCD man who kept her on a string for 3 yrs. Jan is dating in abundance and currently has 4 men all interested. And Ellen is looking closely for the first time at what she truly wants, asking herself great questions and finding the answers have way more to do with Her heart than any man.
    I first signed up for your newsletter because I found the love of my life this past year and didn’t want to blow it. Your depth of understanding on how we can relate from a strong place of solid and feminine personal integrity is so spot-on. Thank you for the reminders. And thank you for helping my friends and so many others.
    May your life continue to be richly blessed as you share your gifts with us.

    My best always,

  8.  #8Rori Raye on December 1, 2008 at 1:56 pm

    Thank you, Patrice, and welcome to this blog. I look forward to hearing more about your success. Love, Rori

  9.  #9Carmela on December 17, 2010 at 8:52 am

    I am going to start doing this today! It reminds me of the Secret. I have the book and the DVD. Thank you is so powerful. I have actually thanked myself and the universe into several international trips. I had temporarily forgotten the power of Thank You. I must have needed to be reminded. Thank you, Rori, for reminding me.