Twilight and Transparency

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We’ve talked about Bella as heroine and hero and surrendered girl – and now I want to go into another HUGE part of the book and movie – and that’s the openness and transparency of the relationship.

One of the qualities that makes this such a yummy fantasy is that our hero, Edward, continually asks Bella to tell him what she’s thinking.  What she’s feeling. Everything about her.  Even the smallest detail.

He’s a man, a being, a hero who, among his many gifts, can hear people’s thoughts – everyone’s thoughts but Bella’s.

Yes, the woman he adores, he can’t read her mind.  So – he has to ask.

Not only is Bella being appreciated in detail, she can ask HIM anything she wants.  The moment she feels insecure about her worthiness and why he loves her, he answers.

He tells her over and over.  He describes the way he feels.  In detail.  He is every woman’s ultimate dream man in this regard.  He listens.  He cares.  He wants to KNOW.

From the very beginning, there are no games here.  Their relationship dives into intimacy from the first moment, where they tell each other EVERYTHING.

And we know, because the story in the book is told from Bella’s viewpoint, that she doesn’t WANT to tell him everything.  She feels compelled to, forced to – unable NOT to – because of his magical hold on her emotions.  Because of the clear depth of the connection they share. Because of his relentless insistence.

So – what happens to us women in real life?

WE tell EVERYTHING – in a bid to get a man to be like Edward, to want to open up to us, to love us.

Only, the everything we TELL isn’t the everything that creates intimacy.

We tell a man about the relationship, about what we did, what we think…and we’re afraid, from the first moment, that he doesn’t want to know any of this.  And so we chatter on about our lives, but leave out the one part that will drop us suddenly into intimacy – emotions.

We share everything but who we are.

Bella is forced by Edward’s curiosity to tell him her deepest thoughts and fears.

So -assuming that most men out there will not be magical – but may be curious if intrigued – what shall we do to inspire a man to WANT to KNOW about us?  And, in return, to share himself with us?

This is the role of the Feeling Message in the work we’re doing here.  And Speaking Truth.

So…

1. When you feel compelled to talk about facts, to deliver “descriptions” and “report” – stop yourself.

2. Ask yourself “How do I FEEL about these things I’m about to talk about.  How did I FEEL when I experienced this or that…”

3. Do the Rori Raye Dance Position, breathe, relax your shoulders, get grounded in your pelvis, imagine yourself going down to the core of the earth, feeling strong inside, melting on the outside – and start speaking:  “I feel…

4.  See if you can let the words come out, no matter how embarrassed you feel talking this way in front of whoever you’re talking with.

Just practice this all day long, as if the greatest romance in the universe is everywhere around you – in the air, in the trees, in every human and every inanimate object – and that YOU are the source of that romance just by feeling your very own feelings instead of hearing just what’s in your head.

Love, Rori

47 Comments

  1.  #1Daria on April 11, 2009 at 10:06 pm

    I want to reread this post. I think the part at the end is very important about communicating.

    Thank you universe for presenting me with both my exes in sucha short span. I feel blessed. I don’t feel lonely just as I asked and I feel so grateful my eyes are filling with tears of how sweet… like I just saw a pink bunny… awwwwww…. the tears actually came out my eyes… I feel so unused to this people! ahhh… I feel so good and like I’m vulnerable… and it feels good… I feel so happy i could cry that weird cry I used to hold back…

    I feel so happy I ask now that in the future I feel good around my exes and I feel so grateful I felt powerful today.



  2.  #2Daria on April 11, 2009 at 10:21 pm

    Maybe I should/can/could/ wwant to? or not maybe tell my ex:

    I feel so awkward? when he asks how i’ve been? even though its a curtesy thing maybe… even though I feel like all desperately weird around him ???? urrghh… I feel like im supposed to just ignore him and greet him and be all accepting of him and his relationship because that’s whats proper…

    but what I want to do is force a dicussion of me and his relationship by communicating in clear feeling messages?

    orrr….

    would taht be leaning forward?

    I mean I feel like a witch in a cave that he asks how Im doing and I stare out past his face and mumble something and retreat in my cave and it feels weird…

    whoa

    I love that by the way ok… even though I feel squeezed in differente places and weird now and like i want to cry partly I love myself and this weird CRINGING I feel… eww.. whoa.. I feel myself relaxin and now wanting to cringe again… ewwww. .. gross… I feel like someone is trying to puke on me… it feels disgusting… and I love meee… i love me I love me i love me i love me I love me

    sigh… ok I feel relaxed again hmm… am I processing ? this feels like intense processing

    whoa

    I feel cringing in the right part of my neck and I feel embarassed and disgusted to say I love my cringing… I feel like a weirdo liek a person that does not know how to communicate and doesnt deserve to be part of society or have other people interact with them because they are wild like a wolfman or something… I feel like that interesting…

    I want my ex to come to me as soon as he sees me, and ask me how Im feeling and tell me he missed me and tell me that he loves me and wants to be with me and that he’s sorry for the past and even though the situation is difficult he loves me and wants to be with me.

    I feel really pathetic writing that and very cool too. I feel very proud that I want that for some reason and it doesnt matter that its for SOME reason I can feel very proud of it if I want to. Yeah…. I feel all victorious right now… and I feel like putting myself down (don’t feel victorious he didnt say that to you.. rragh i feel outrage, I feel I will crush destroy eat anyone who dares intersceed (i know its intercede) between me and my dreams… I feel wrath… I feel like a weirdo… I was reading a fantasy book earlier and I feel like the dragon…

    I took notes on it in my notebook.. It actuallly had some very sireny stuff I wanted to talk about… I feel embarassed right now though and my eyes are watering… I feel so weird… I feel WEEEIREEEDDD… theres are some weird emotions Im feeling… whoaaaa… whoa.whoa whaoa… I feel like I have to blwo my nose… I always feel panicked when I have to blow my nose (interesting)…I feel like Im back in control and I feel disgusted… whoa… ok weird… I feel all annoyed because I WANT TO BLOW MY NOSE… this feeels so weeeirrddddddr giht nowwww… .omgggg…. werid… weird. weird… I feel so uncomfortable right now and it feels cool that Im not running out the room for the bathroom… I feel interested and I feel weird… now Im starting to imagine some other stuff… some guys dressed in nice clothes entering the room… well I feel apprehensive weird unsafe because I dont like them… but since Im awake maybe I should/can direct this vision? I feel weird… i feel tight in my jaw and all focused into this… I want to breathe and take a break…



  3.  #3Daria on April 11, 2009 at 10:27 pm

    1. When you feel compelled to talk about facts, to deliver “descriptions” and “report” – stop yourself.

    I love #1. This is so radical.

    That means when he asks me What am I doing… I don’t say I just ate, I just woke up, Im driving … I STOP… whoa… I usualy try to say one of those and a feeling message… maybe now something else?



  4.  #4Daria on April 11, 2009 at 10:29 pm

    I feel a little bit uncomfortable. I feel achy in my throat, jumpy in my chest , I feel like Im not good enough and have to keep doing to cover it up… I feel weird weird and weird and exhauseted of writing weird… I feel disappointed yuck eewww anger tearing things I feel exhausted sooo omad sooo mad sssoo mmaddddddddddd i feel gritting teeth I Feel so mad MAN I FEEL MAD… LIKE SO MAD I WANT TO FEEL ALL THIS ANGER I FEEL SOOO MAD SOO MUCH ANGER IM FREAKIN STEAMING FACE RED BULL WITHE STEAM OUT THE EARS OR WHATEVER MADDDDDI FFEEL MDA MAD MAD MAD MAD??>>> RRURURURRRTABAGA

    ok… I guess saying rutabaga ends that… IF eel mad still though… grr… IT kind of feels fun right now



  5.  #5Linmayu on April 11, 2009 at 11:08 pm

    I feel withdrawn. I was cleaning and I found an old album with proofs of my engagement pictures.

    I looked at them, of course. I recognized the man in those pictures as someone I loved very much–and someone who I hadn’t actually seen for SEVERAL years.

    I didn’t recognize the woman at all. Her eyes were not mine. She looked like someone else–actually in a couple of the pictures she looked like a Tamil movie star from the 1960’s (aside from being too dark-skinned to fit that job description).

    I came up here, to be alone in my room, and to mourn the death of the man I loved. Because really, he did die. He doesn’t exist anymore. All these years I looked for him, searched for him, tried to pull him out of my miserable, withdrawing husband, but in vain. He died a long time ago.

    I feel my heart beginning to stretch and break open. I will feel more, before this day is done.

    I want to somehow inspire that man to come back to life, as Hi’iaka did to Lohi’au in the epic hula myth. That is the man I’ve been dreaming about, whether he has showed up in the form of my ex or Makani or any of the handsome young boytoys I’ve seen in my dreams lately or any of the wonderful messenger men–friends, cousins, and coworkers as well as dates–who have started to treat me well in waking life.

    That would feel like stillness, a calm still ocean, and then an influx of Divine Light, and then myself as a shining, beautiful, radiant being floating above the waters…drawing in the life force from heaven and earth until it becomes powerful enough to raise the dead.

    Wow. I’m so weird. No man alive would ever “get” me.

    I FEEL weird and strange and not made for this world or this culture.

    I can’t possibly be the only one.

    It feels good to think I’m not the only one. It feels good to think–no, not to think, but to know with a quiet, absolute assurance, that I’m not the only one, that somewhere out there, a man matches me. When I see the word “man” I automatically assume “white anglo-saxon businessman,” which is the type I most frequently see on the online sites and around town (and the type who triggers me the most, or maybe second to unhandsome old Indian men with facial hair), but there’s a whole rainbow of men out there. I keep forgetting that there are multiracial men, countercultural men, really cute Indian men, dorky, open-minded white men, mature, sexy black men, and a whole lot of really weird, interesting men in the world. I keep thinking I have to either attract the dominant-culture type (which often makes me feel bad and unattractive because I’m not the dominant-culture type of woman), or just give up and surrender to the culture-I-was-raised-in type (which makes me feel dirty and gross and disrespected). As if there were only two kinds of men and not two million!

    Geez…I’ve gone too far off the deep end, yet again. I feel amused by myself.



  6.  #6Tracy on April 11, 2009 at 11:46 pm

    Lin mayu
    I feel happy you are discovering yourself and digging deeper and deeper into your feelings
    I feel that the more i try and understand my feelings the more i dig deeper into myself and discover more and more of myself that i didn’t know ever existed…I feel excited but fear all at the same time…
    Funny my first post on this blog was all about getting this guy back and now i feel i am switching more to getting to know me and taking care of my inside.I feel confused sometimes about the connection between this two.



  7.  #7gina on April 11, 2009 at 11:48 pm

    Linmayu,
    I can relate to the feeling of not fitting into this culture, or this world. I feel that disconnect often. I resist the stats quo, and am proud of my individuality, but sometimes ashamed that I don’t quite “fit in.” But then I see many people follow me, and I realize that they’re copying me to fit in, and it surprises me that there are no experts at living – everybody is working it out. And everyone has their own gifts to share. I think the fact that you venture out of the box is a gift: maybe there’s a good man out (of the box) there just waiting for a unique woman to compliment him.



  8.  #8Tracy on April 12, 2009 at 7:25 am

    Today i have been blogging and its interesting reading so much stuff that has triggered my past and i feel challanged about my past and how its has affected my present life…
    I feel i am learning so much stuff and it honestly feels overwhelming…
    I feel happy though that i am figuring myself out seiving all i am gaining and deciding what works for me…..



  9.  #9Daria on April 12, 2009 at 9:26 am

    Yesterday was such a plethora of people that I feel triggered by I spent my dreams thrashing and turning and feeling excited/overwhelmed. It seemed EVERYONE was trying to connect with me and that feels awesome.

    I feel afraid that by not giving the 100% right answers or greetings I may have lost my chance of seeing these people again and feeling excited and “cool” again.

    It felt something like a red carpet affair.

    I feel excited that I will see them again and participate and present myself Goddessy and HAVE FUN AND FEEL GOOD. I feel excited about this.



  10.  #10Daria on April 12, 2009 at 9:40 am

    I actually was ‘worshipped’ (acknowledged) by everyone but am having a hard time accepting and integrating it.

    I feel overly excited.



  11.  #11Daria on April 12, 2009 at 10:00 am

    I’d really like a tool to feel good in my exes presence even when I feel completely overtaken by intense emotions like desire/anger/uncomfortableness and he’s not leaning in to me.



  12.  #12Linda G on April 12, 2009 at 10:10 am

    I am loving reading everyones posts on this fascinating article. I feel very low and very overwhelmed, very stuck today. I have nothing to say just now, but want to read along.



  13.  #13ms on April 12, 2009 at 12:08 pm

    I treated for easter brunch, but there is a glare there that feels unfriendly. The harder I try to be nice and do the right thing. I asked my daughter what she may have told him because after they were alone away from brunch her behavior changed from very nice to very angry. Signed walking on eggshells.



  14.  #14Linmayu on April 12, 2009 at 12:09 pm

    Tracy, I feel so much the same as you. I initially came to this blog for advice on getting my husband to care for me again. But yeah. Now, it’s all about me. I feel like I’m in a state of flux, like I’m on my way to becoming something I want to be, but not there yet–and like any guy I meet while I’m not there yet really can’t be more than a messenger.

    Gina, I feel inspired (and jealous) that people are copying you, lol! People compliment me, but rarely copy me; most are quick to realize they aren’t like me and are happier being who they are.

    I feel super gross this morning. I woke up from a dream where, well, I was attempting to have acrobatic sex with a pillar (for practice, of course), then a man showed up and wanted to play with me, but then a 10-year-old girl showed up and was just standing there and the man’s attention shifted to her. It was a semi-lucid dream because I decided that now would be a good time to practice feeling messages, and I said, “Dude, this feels icky.” He came back to me with some arrogant, rude comment and I said, “I don’t want to be in a relationship like this.” He said “OK, then, let’s break it off,” and had really cold eyes and walked away, at which point I felt angry and yelled after him, “Good riddance, motherfucker!” He kept walking but someone told me that his face turned gray.

    That whole exchange felt gross and made me angry and I woke up feeling angry and disappointed, and I still feel icky. Talked to a girlfriend and still feel icky. Talked to my dad and continued to feel icky.

    Oh, and now my ex has emailed me back. I feel like throwing things. He just doesn’t get it, at all.

    But, it’s not his job to get it. It’s his job to give me the message, unpleasant as it is, of telling me who he really is. And he can’t help the fact that he is who he is, and not someone better, and specifically not THE someone better who I always thought he was. My dad said it, he spent quite some time expressing the idea that I’m not actually losing anything that I really wanted to keep. And to have things moving from cold hatred to friendliness…that is not so bad. My ex can join my army of MAN, on the same level that my cousins are. That’s fine by me.



  15.  #15Daria on April 12, 2009 at 1:10 pm

    Hey…

    I believe I was feeling something like overwhelm this morning. The thrills of yesterday kept playing over and over in my mind… and me thinking how else I coudl have reacted, said, feeling like I was really shy and to myself and trying to tell myself that I was displaying Best Qualities.

    I feel like everyone greeted me but my response was so muted (because I felt frozen/tranced) that it seemed cold and they didn’t feel comfortable approaching any more.

    By the way Im now referring of other people I greeted besides my ex.

    I feel like im REALLY sensitive to energy and running so many people that I care/admire/want to like me in one day felt mega overwhelming.

    I felt like I kept “trying to jump out my skin” all morning and was running on some empty battery at high speed. I kept pacing back and forth and my heart was beating fast fast fast.

    I meditated, and took a nap in the sun and feel much calmer after lots of calming tools and exercises I ddi on myself.

    Please help anyone:

    when I go out in town it feels like I’m at a very important show/meeting with many important people and I want to feel dazzling/confident/attractive.

    It feels like being around a bunch of celebrities CEOs etc and I really seem to want to make a great impression plus feel loved, adored. The good thing is it seems these people do aknowledge me and love me. I want more. I want to feel fun friendly comfortable and Pleasure filled.

    I feel nervous.

    What do you guys think.

    I feel really glad I didn’t overfunction this morning when I was jumpy and overwhelmed.



  16.  #16Daria on April 12, 2009 at 1:14 pm

    I feel like its totally high stakes for me to make a big impression on the spot because I may not run into these people again, miss the opportunity to impress etc…

    I feel silly writing this.

    I can sense really great opportunity to feel blissful here and I feel like being nervuos is blocking me.

    I feel kinda dissapointed.

    I could’ve gotten a motorcycle ride to the other side of town with a guy and I passed on it. I feel like I kinda let myself down…

    I feel proud of myself too though for the way I felt pretty comfortable with ex #1…

    But I also feel really compelled to smile big and move towards people and give them big hugs (because I am really happy to see them!) but I held myself back ! Because I was thinking moving towards them would not be Goddessy?

    What do you think?



  17.  #17Daria on April 12, 2009 at 1:15 pm

    I don’t want to feel that I will never have the opportunity.

    I want to feel safe that I will consistently get calls/invitations/aknowledgement/greetings and feel wanted. Thank you universe.

    BTW thank you universe for an amazing day.



  18.  #18Daria on April 12, 2009 at 1:18 pm

    Basically I was meeting so many men and feeling major triggers.

    So that is good.

    I felt triggered. Aha. I am barely now getting that.



  19.  #19Linda G on April 12, 2009 at 1:19 pm

    The trick here, Daria, is to turn the energy around. You are the head of the studio, the CEO, the beauty queen, the one they need to impress. If this is too triggering, pretend you are in Bizarro world, like the old superman comics, where everything is the reverse of reality. You just need to stay warm, open gracious, allow them to come to you. Convert the air, the sunlight that warmed and shone on you into energy that emanates from you.
    or, try this trick, wear heels, you’ll feel taller in stature as well as height/ bigger than your everyday self. just an idea…



  20.  #20Linda G on April 12, 2009 at 1:21 pm

    daria, i picture you living in this bustling village, like woodstock or something…



  21.  #21Daria on April 12, 2009 at 2:01 pm

    Haha Linda G it’s kind of like that. That is my fantasy life, a village.

    This feels very much like that and that’s why all my earlier pained crys about losing the place I love blah blah…

    Guess I haven’t lost it. Good.

    Thank you I do want energy to me…

    I would’ve wanted them all (even the ones who I didn’t have a past with) to say more than how have I been…

    to come over and HUG Me and ask me what Im doing and can they call me and do I want to join them to so and so….

    but I was feeling so triggered I feel TERRIFIED I probably came off weird and Standoffish.

    Im imaging them thinking

    “what’s wrong with Daria? does she not like me? she has a weird attitude… I better get a away…”



  22.  #22Daria on April 12, 2009 at 2:06 pm

    I really like the Bizarro… its like another take on the BEST QUALITY tool.

    So in my Bizarro world everything that happened was just THE BEST for me to get everything I want including what I mentioned above.

    Yay I feel happy!

    Thanks Linda… its working!! woo hoo!



  23.  #23Daria on April 12, 2009 at 2:10 pm

    Linda I feel so GRATEFUL… this BIZARRO tool really broke through the last of the resistance for me… I am now feeling excited/happy without the “oh no! what did I do wrong/ how can I impress them” drama.



  24.  #24Linda G on April 12, 2009 at 2:22 pm

    Daria;
    When you talked about the best quality tool, it reminded me of Bizaro world.
    I feel so happy you are pleased.Now, let’s see if I can make it work for me…



  25.  #25Daria on April 12, 2009 at 2:25 pm

    YAY Linda! I wish you JOY AND SUCCESS with it.

    I feel so ready to throw myself at it again!

    umm that feels a little weird… is that treating myself bad?

    I see it as getting off the pavement splat and getting back on the wire…

    except my wire feels like a diving board and my interactions feel like free falling…

    hmm…

    which I really enjoy the excitedness but I feel a little weakend by the scaryness…

    Im ready to open myself up again is what I mean…

    THANK THANK YOU

    together we will win this! I will open up and feel Goddess like even in these amazing triggers.

    Yes I CAN!

    Yes We CAN!



  26.  #26Daria on April 12, 2009 at 2:29 pm

    Although it’s exciting (and nervewracking) to dive while everyone is watching, I choose to walk the bridge while everyone is watching. What about the excitement?

    I can use it to envision the end of the bridge the happily ever after.. or even attempt to run the bridge full speed while cartwheeling… hey… I can always get up again…



  27.  #27Ann on April 12, 2009 at 7:02 pm

    I felt I really needed a break from the research I’m doing today. So I came to see what you ladies have been up to. I will have to re-read this post because it’s talking about “I feel”.



  28.  #28Daria on April 12, 2009 at 7:16 pm

    Hey Ann… HUGS!



  29.  #29Daria on April 12, 2009 at 9:47 pm

    I miss Alias Girl.



  30.  #30DocK on April 13, 2009 at 5:47 am

    Daria & Linmayu

    I feel so moved by your words in the opening of these postings. I feel very grateful to begin my day feeling this way. Thank you.

    Thank you also to all of the women responding and helping, so beautiful.



  31.  #31Linmayu on April 13, 2009 at 8:43 am

    I feel so amused. I get this image of Daria as this shiny little local celebrity, and I feel envious, I want tons of people to love and admire me!

    Ann, I am glad your husband is home, and I hope his tests come out well.

    I feel sick this morning, caught a cold over the weekend, and it’s going to be the first day of my new role at work. I feel annoyed that I caught a cold because I’ve been trying to be that perfect-health, perfect-immune-system person who never gets sick–but I’ve been slacking on supplementation so this is what I get. What a way to make an impression…



  32.  #32Daria on April 13, 2009 at 11:26 am

    Linmayu I feel amused and happy too reading your description. It feels accurate. I have the same image of myself as a shiny local celebrity.

    I believe I actually created this by first creating and holding this image myself. And made it come true. I feel very proud and curious about that.

    I am recovering from a stubborn cold too and I made an acupuncture appointment today that will really help me



  33.  #33Daria on April 13, 2009 at 11:30 am

    Last night I was yapping and laughing with a funny guy on the phone. And I told him Im practicing being authentic by expressing my feelings…

    i said… for example:

    I feel…(paused to get a reading of how I was feeling) comfortable and good right now

    I actually FELT the authenticity! I felt this warmness from sinking into my feelings. and he felt it too. he said wow…

    I said yeah it has that affect too on men.. he said what… I said never mind…

    he said no I mean that feels really good…

    I felt glad.



  34.  #34Linmayu on April 13, 2009 at 1:15 pm

    I feel so inspired by Daria’s authenticity. I won’t be a shiny local celebrity, I don’t think. I don’t want the image pressure. I can see myself, though, being a celebrity within a more intimate circle, while being a general go-to girl out in the world. I’m not quite sure how I became the clueless, helpless woman I was recently, who didn’t even know how to find fulfilling work to do. That’s never been my nature, in my youth I took pride in being smart and successful.

    So, yes. I want to feel like an all-around genius with a well-paying science-oriented career and artistic outlets/hobbies that get me admiration. Rori’s most recent post also speaks to me on this issue…



  35.  #35Ann on April 13, 2009 at 3:59 pm

    Hello ladies, my feeling friends I have great news this evening. I feel like a HUGE ball has been lifted off my shoulders even tho I know we have a ways to go. Last night I was reasearching different ways to help my hubby and us cope with this.

    Boy, I never realized how much humor, laughter, positive thoughts could help. Even tho, I’ve been telling him for days we have to stay positive, we have to laugh, we have to each take care of ourselves. We have to feel our feelings. Well below is todays update.

    As some of you know my hubby was released from the hospital Saturday. The dr. told us then that he had the prelimanary report was in and it appeared to be cancerous. The official report would be in Mon(today) he would call us then let us know when the appointment to see the specialist in Memphis was.

    He called this afternoon. The OFFICIAL report said the tumor was NOT cancerous. Thank God. The doctors in Memphis want my hubby’s dr to send them all his findings and scope pictures and reports they’d look at them and set up a appointment. Then we’d go from there.

    Now we have to figure out how to pay bills until he’s able to go back to work. Do you believe his workplace doesn’t offer short term disability? And his insurance will only pay for 12 weeks more. He has another 1 1/2 checks coming for this month so he doesn’t have to worry about this months bills.

    We been thanking people for their prayers and good thoughts this afternoon. Please continue to pray and send good thoughts it really helps.

    GREAT NEWS thanks for all the support.



  36.  #36Dorothea on April 13, 2009 at 4:57 pm

    Yay Ann that feels like wonderful news!



  37.  #37Daria on April 13, 2009 at 6:05 pm

    Oh Ann that feels great to hear.



  38.  #38Ann on April 13, 2009 at 6:17 pm

    Thanks ladies. It feels good to share great news.



  39.  #39Linda G on April 13, 2009 at 7:56 pm

    Hooray Ann! Thanks for letting us all be a part of your journey.



  40.  #40Tracy on April 13, 2009 at 9:39 pm

    Ann,
    I am really glad for you..yay



  41.  #41Linmayu on April 13, 2009 at 9:50 pm

    Yay Ann! I am glad to hear the good news. I will continue to send good thoughts to help with the ongoing financial situation.



  42.  #42Mercedes on April 14, 2009 at 8:38 am

    Ann: That’s AWESOME! I will pray all continues to move in your favor…

    Much Love,
    Mercedes



  43.  #43Ann on April 14, 2009 at 7:28 pm

    Thank you ladies. I feel so grateful for all your prayers and support for my family.

    His appointment is Monday April 20th at 1:30 p.m in Memphis. We’ll find out then what those dr want to do. It feels like I’m riding a emotional roller coaster. One minute I feel I can handle my part of this the next I feel oh no I can’t do this God help me.

    Like right now I’m fine. I feel calm, I feel we’ll be took care of. I feel like reading around the blog and seeing if I have any comments to make. Now in 30 minutes I’ve no clue if I’ll be this calm.

    Thanks for listening and all the support.



  44.  #44gollyitsme on April 17, 2009 at 9:56 am

    Rori,
    I’ve reconnected w/an ex I have a connection with. I don’t want to be his friend and have told him so. I’ve implemented stepping back and let him initiate all contact. It’s been 2 mos. and he has yet to make the move to make plans or build something w/me. I haven’t heard the words: let’s go see a movie or go for a walk. He has called 2 days in a row and I haven’t answered because of my soup of feelings. He left me a vm 3rd time he called which didn’t say anything about wanting to spend time with me. I don’t know how to communicate my disappointment at the lack of progress between us or what to say to take it to the next level. And yes I’m dating 2 other men and have a date with one of them saturday. I’ve other events lined up for Friday and Sunday.
    Thanks



  45.  #45princess on April 17, 2009 at 12:28 pm

    am in a relationship of about a year and few months not knowing where is heading to, secondary he has a date which he has been hiding from me which was declosed to me recently by him after a long preasure .Now am so confused i dont know what to do.HE refuse to made his intentions to me toward our relationship no committiment and always telling me time will tell pls advise me on what to do



  46.  #46Rori Raye on April 18, 2009 at 2:09 pm

    Princess, Welcome – and the answer is Circular Dating. You are dating this man. Do not become exclusively involved with him. That would be an investment way too soon. Date others men. Love, Rori



  47.  #47Rori Raye on April 18, 2009 at 2:13 pm

    gollyitsme, Welcome – and he’s using you. Not in a mean way. He just wants contact, companionship, someone who he KNOWS cares about him and for him. Just leaving a message gives him good feelings. Just drop him. He’s of no use to you now – he only wants to take. (He’s not doing this to hurt you – so there’s no reason for you to feel angry. If you’re feeling angry – it’s because you’re putting out too much EFFORT. Just thinking of him means you’re doing too much. That’s what’s making you angry.) Love, Rori