What Does It Mean To Be Older?

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The Question:

“Hi Rori, How do I get a better mind on men being attracted to younger women more than elder women cause there are so many rich old guys who marry so young woman. Are the younger more attractive and better?

I’m still young but I am scared to be scared of getting older and also of being rated by the way I look and if I look perfect. And if I look young.

It’s so unfair that there seem to be different ratings of value for men and women of it comes to age.

Thank you so much! Laura

My Answer:

Because we all get older every minute, because expansion and extension is the truth of life and the cosmos, deciding that growing older is “bad” does not serve you, or any of us.

AND – making that decision can only change your “vibe” in a way that’s not as attractive as this totally different perception of it all would:

There are many, many men out there.

Many lonely men.

Men who do not know how to date or how to approach women.

Men who are looking for the right emotional connection, and not a certain “look.”

These men will be attracted to you as a human being.

And, they will really like the way your outside looks, too!

Your job is to get in front of these men who will love you.

Love you, adore you, exactly as you are – and, yes: with hair, makeup, jewelry, good colors for you, and everything else on your outside that speaks to how you love yourself, honor yourself, and wish to express yourself from your inside.

Love, Rori

41 Comments

  1.  #1Millie on June 27, 2016 at 2:32 pm

    Hi ladies, first comment wow..
    So I had an interesting night last night. This man who I am interested in who I had previously gone out with a few times before took me out. Previously I felt like we had a missed connection. Last time I saw him was over six months ago. I had gotten physical with him way too quickly and now, have really changed my ways. Anyway, we had a great evening, I felt very relaxed and he noticed and said he felt better around me this time. Great!! After dinner he came in and we sat on the couch talking for awhile. He leaned in to kiss me and we cuddled and it was very sweet and wonderful. The kissing began to increase and he shifted so he was on top of me. I felt uncomfortable and asked to stop. I told him I was enjoying myself but wanted to take things slow as we had rushed last time and I wanted to take time and get to know him more. He seemed ok with it and we talked about what sex means to us and I felt like even though it did ruin the moment, it was worth it and I felt right.

    Today he texted and told me he was offended by what I said and that he was not in it for casual sex. He said he understood.. But felt uneasy like I have a “formula” and that I’m still figuring things Out. At the same time he said he was glad I stopped it, that it was right and I inspired him to go back to his foundation and beliefs. He said it was a good thing that really has nothing to do with me, but that he doesn’t know what he wants and that he knows what I want but may not be able to be that for me right now. I asked if he was saying goodbye and he said no.

    I felt really jarred by this conversation because I feel like what I did/said was right for me. I feel aligned with myself and yet I am still misunderstood… I don’t have a formula, I just don’t want to sleep with people that I’m not dating consistently. Maybe I should have worded it that way.



  2.  #2Millie on June 27, 2016 at 4:11 pm

    Wow Nevermind!!!! I did nothing wrong yay!!!! So, it turns out he wants a woman of “faith” to be in a long term relationship with. So it’s a dealbreaker that I’m not. To put it bluntly, I am someone he would allow himself to have fun with and would want that with but it would never become a wife to him. He is willing to play with me but not “go down that road” with. I am not willing to be casual, so there is no point in continuing. Ahhhh I see, how refreshing to understand and hear him explain that.



  3.  #3Liquid Light on June 27, 2016 at 6:26 pm

    Millie

    Just FYI – I don’t let anyone come home with me unless we have been dating a while. Nor do I go to his place. If you do this, the message to the man is that it is OK for you to have sex with him. This may not be communicated outright but that’s the message that they receive when you let them come home with you.. So I try not to put myself in that position unless I’m ready to have sex with the man, or at least get very physical with him.

    Its also possible that he was offended because you were giving him mixed messages (in his mind anyway.) Just my 2 cents but it doesn’t sound like you were a good match because of the religious differences. Better to learn this earlier rather than later! ๐Ÿ™‚



  4.  #4Millie on June 27, 2016 at 6:57 pm

    Liquid light– yes I see your point! I do like when a man offers to pick me up though! I didn’t want to control the situation too much. He could have been ok with my saying no and just continued with other things like kissing, perhaps another man would have acted differently.



  5.  #5Millie on June 27, 2016 at 10:03 pm

    Sorry to be a blog hog today…just sharing and processing.

    I think experiences like this take a toll on me because I do feel rejected. The voice I hear says, “I am not enough” “If you were better at building attraction, this situation would not be happening” “You did something wrong, said something wrong” “‘You aren’t handling this right.” And all those voices do have some shred of truth to them… but not completely. The granule in all of this isn’t overcoming those voices, it is acknowledging them, but also acknowledging all the things I did right!!! Acknowledging ME and how wonderful I am, and how one person’s opinion isn’t everything.

    Want to know what I did right here? I was open to him, I was honest with him, I let him lead, I spoke in feeling messages, I was 100% myself, I had boundaries, I wasn’t afraid to share them, he said he felt good around me, that I am a good person, that he is attracted to me, that he notices a difference in my vibe! Isn’t all of that wonderful!!! My vibe HAS changed, my body is more relaxed, I feel good in my skin around him… So many positives to the night. Even when we were going back and forth negotiating, him expressing himself and me mine, I stayed honest, I stayed grateful, I appreciated his masculinity, his own desires, his willingness to communicate and venture out to my part of town.

    This man had accused me in the past of being a brat and of having walls… perhaps that is why I wanted to see him again…so prove to myself that I can lower them, I can be gracious and embrace masculine energy coming towards me and I did that!!! In fact, in speaking with him, I am seeing that he has his own walls up, He said if his perfect woman were to show up right now, he wouldn’t feel ready for it. He has been taken advantage of in the past and is afraid of that happening again, so he protects himself. My expectations scare him. He wants a situation without responsibility right now…. I can see how yes, perhaps we are lacking in attraction, enough for him to WANT more than something casual, but I also see that I have grown, and I don’t have to use this “rejection” to beat myself up or use this situation as a negative reflection of me. If anything this is positive, because I weeded out someone who isn’t right for me and at the same time, did it by expressing boundaries, and thats what they are there for! Pat Allen says that sex is bondable and if we are to bond in such an intimate way, contracts should also be made. We do this to protect ourselves and also weed out those who cannot truly be in a relationship and make us happy. This man weeded himself out, and as much as I do feel attracted to him, and enjoy all his presence brings, all his rich mind brings, his energy… I also have to listen to what he wants and says very carefully. He can sit there all he wants and complain about how women have expectations, how there are steps in relationships, how the world has taught us things that don’t work in relationships and we have a skewed view of them…I see a man who is opting out, who has been really hurt, and battling his own pain…one I cannot take claim over or heal… it is his own and is not a reflection on me. He actually thanked me for my boundaries, because he knew it would not have been right to sleep together knowing what I wanted and knowing where he is at. He felt inspired to go back to himself. That is pretty amazing. Even if that means he is inspired NOT to be with me. That is why we date, that is why we express our wants and don’t wants, that is why we hold boundaries, to really SEE a man for who he is. I want to live a life that includes more thoughtfulness surrounding sex. Is that an expectation? Or is that being more connected with me, knowing me, honoring me? I felt so awful speaking with him today… the rush of anxiety, the one that indicates–not the right guy—and now my challenge is to keep flowing and moving through this– to keep talking with other men, to believe in all the great qualities I have. I do think I have great qualities, I actually do think I have a lot of what this man is looking for, but only he knows what is good for him right now and there is nothing more I can “show” him.

    Anways, I am talking to more guys online. There is one so far that stands out and I question if this is my old patterns speaking already…. but we shall see, stay open and vulnerable.



  6.  #6MissStix on June 27, 2016 at 10:21 pm

    (((Millie)))

    You have a beautiful outlook on your experience.



  7.  #7Indigo on June 28, 2016 at 12:10 am

    Millie,

    I don’t know, I’m with you about enjoying it when a man picks me up for a date. I also enjoy having a man in my home, as it is where I feel comfortable. Obviously you have to be sensitive to safety concerns but I don’t think it necessarily sends the message that you are willing to have sex with a man just because you invite him into your home. I have many times invited a man in and made it clear I wasn’t willing to have sex with him and he has respected that. I’ve also on many occasions gone over to a guy’s house and not had sex with him. It’s not about rules, it’s about knowing your boundaries and communicating them. If he respects them, he’s a good guy, if not, you have your answer.



  8.  #8Indigo on June 28, 2016 at 12:30 am

    Millie,

    Brava for noticing that this man also has certain walls up, and also has his own issues and pain to work through. No matter how much we progress in our own self-development, a relationship is still a co-creative partnership, where both people come together to heal and grow. And both people must be willing to heal and grow.

    If there is one thing I have learnt in my current relationship it is that we all have baggage and scars, and it is our willingness to embark on that journey with the other person, and let them in, and be open to intimacy, true intimacy and closeness and honesty with the other person, for them to really know us and us to really know them, which is the most important thing. Anyone can do the infatuated, honeymoon stage of a relationship which is all kisses and cuddles and attraction and butterflies in your tummy. But it’s when you start to discover that your partner is a human being with fears and flaws and walls up, and when you decide that you still love each other and still want to be on the same team, that is where the real substance of relationship happens.

    I am awed by how my boyfriend has opened up to me and allowed me into his inner world, and continues to do so. How vulnerable and real he has been with me, and how he has given me the safety to do the same. And how he still loves me so consistently and lets me look at all the parts of myself in such a remarkably gentle way. And I do that for him too. For me this is the real part of falling in love. Being able to hold that space for one another to be human, and still meet each other with such love.



  9.  #9Indigo on June 28, 2016 at 12:45 am

    By the way yes, I agree with Rori’s blog post here. So many men do not care about age or a certain kind of look… that is a lie we have been sold by society. They are looking for an emotional connection, someone they can fall in love with, someone they can treasure, someone who loves them, someone who makes them feel a certain way. I know of so many couples where the woman is older than the man (myself included) and the man is besotted with her.



  10.  #10MissStix on June 28, 2016 at 7:34 am

    I agree about the age thing. Sure, there are men out there who are ruled by their visual world. Growing older as they cycle through women of the same age range. There are all kinds of men out there.
    Just as many or maybe more men out there who see beyond the skin…More than that they don’t see the outside as something to “see beyond.” They will love your outside no matter how many flaws you see.

    I’ve encouraged myself to not see flaws in my body. To embrace and love the character of my envelope. And also the depths of my soul. Through this I am able to recieve unconditionally the love that is offered to me unconditionally.
    I’m still working through offering my love unconditionally. Yet I am here and I am aware and making efforts to learn what this feels like (awkward, uncomfortable, scary, and also amazing).



  11.  #11MissStix on June 28, 2016 at 7:39 am

    That’s my spin on “you have to love yourself for someone else to love you.”
    Not really. People can still love you even at your lowest self esteem. Yet recieving that love and believing it comes through self-love. Whenever you fully accept love from another person you are loving yourself.
    I know that when my mind opposes or argues with love given to me I am not loving myself, I am doubting myself.



  12.  #12MissStix on June 28, 2016 at 9:15 am

    What a fabulous weekend i’ve had ๐Ÿ™‚ so much time in nature and more to come.
    I feel energized and cleansed. I feel awakened.
    I felt sick in my tummy last night and the man just leaned over into my space and nuzzled me and I felt healing. I felt protected and loved and so… I don’t know a word for it. Warm, safe. The sensation was liquid and filled up my entire space.



  13.  #13Olivia on June 28, 2016 at 12:21 pm

    I needed this post today. Had a baby two months ago and have been lately lamenting my newly saggy (when they are not filled with milk) breast feeding boobs….I don’t need my former perky-ish young boobs to have love in my life.



  14.  #14Femininewoman on June 28, 2016 at 2:04 pm

    Millie in such situations I think it is important to understand what men are thinking. If they think coming to yours or their home means sex and that is not what you want your best option is to pay attention to what they are thinking. Otherwise you put yourself in harms way at times also give your power away. I have heard from too many men that a woman inviting them home or coming to their home means an invitation for sex to ignore it. I have had even my teenage daughter talk to guys about it and that is what they tell her also. At least the ones that are just friends with her. Pointless to ignore it if those are the man facts out there in the field.



  15.  #15Millie on June 28, 2016 at 2:17 pm

    Femininewoman– this feels like a double edged sword to me. I want a masculine man who enjoys picking me up from my home, but then I need to control that so he won’t get the wrong idea? In this case, since this man and I had been intimate before, I could see how he could have expected it… And of course he went for it.. He’s a man! However on the flip side, I hadn’t seen him in a long time and through the course of dinner, we talked about my changing attitudes towards dating and life and also how he sees things. He even said he saw my no coming. He tried anyway that’s fine, but I’d rather talk about it openly then bar someone out of my home. Talk about expectations. He is mad that women have them when clearly he had his own! I just find it upsetting, but I hear you and hear that I will have to have better boundaries sooner, in order to avoid miscommunication in the future. I’m glad it happened because it revealed a lot about him.



  16.  #16Millie on June 28, 2016 at 2:24 pm

    What do you ladies suggest doing differently going forward?



  17.  #17MissStix on June 28, 2016 at 3:09 pm

    Olivia

    I haven’t had a baby but I lost a total of 60 lbs over the years and I feel you on the boobs thing. It’s the only thing I disliked about getting in shape. I lost my DDs and to top it off they are not perky anymore.
    That said… My man seems to love them enthusiastically and other than that how they look means nothing to me so I have no need to create an insecurity around them.



  18.  #18MissStix on June 28, 2016 at 3:21 pm

    Millie

    I don’t personally see anything wrong with what you did in the first place. You chose to alspend some time at home with someone you’ve met before and made out or whatever and said no to sex.

    I suppose you could have a “how well I know this person” rule about spending time at home.
    To me it seems easy to approach it like… If I know this person well enough that he knows I don’t always automatically have sex with someone, dictated by circumstance- that is dictated by how I feel in any given moment- and I know he respects and understands that fluid boundary, I can spend time at home with him. If I want to.



  19.  #19MissStix on June 28, 2016 at 3:28 pm

    I see home time with someone you’re dating as an invitation to intimacy. Not necessarily sexual intimacy…Just privacy and closeness. Sex could happen or maybe it doesn’t.
    It’s important to me for a man to understand this concept well.
    “I don’t feel like it right now” has to be a good enough reason and I expect full acceptance and I won’t compromise on that.



  20.  #20Liquid Light on June 28, 2016 at 5:54 pm

    Re. having someone come home with you or vice-versa, its just a matter of wanting to avoid an uncomfortable and more importantly a potentially dangerous situation. Its a safety thing. Until I get to know someone do I really want to have someone who is essentially a stranger, be alone with me indoors? They could do whatever they want to me. Why would I want to put myself in a situation like that?

    I also don’t want to be put in a situation when I am fending someone off. Yuck. Why would I risk giving someone mixed messages and having them potentially get angry at me when I’m alone inside with someone and totally at their mercy?? Or just creating a situation where they are angry at me, or offended, as in Millie’s case. Is this the way I want to start off a relationship?

    Like it or not, most men do interpret you letting me into your home, or vice versa, as a green light to come onto you. I think its naive and potentially dangerous to ignore this reality. Safety is my #1 concern when I’m trying to get to know someone. Please, ladies, don’t put yourself in a potentially dangerous situation. Its NOT worth it! No man is worth compromising your safety!!!

    It’s really better to avoid being put in this situation in the first place. And just because a man picks you up, its not an invitation for him come inside your home! On that note, I ALWAYS meet someone out in public for the first 3 or 4 dates (my coach advised me to do this). I don’t let him pick me up, I meet him there.



  21.  #21Liquid Light on June 28, 2016 at 6:04 pm

    I meant:

    Like it or not, most men do interpret you letting *them* into your home…



  22.  #22Millie on June 28, 2016 at 6:28 pm

    I’m starting to feel a bit defensive of my decisions. I totally understand where everyone is coming from with safety and I completely agree, I would never invite a stranger into my home nor have an online date first meeting at either parties house. In this instance, I had been on three dates with this man prior to this one, however they were many months ago. I do not fear him, nor do I fear being honest with him. I agree, about avoiding uncomfortable situations, but isn’t that why we practice intimacy and using our emotional muscle? I agree I don’t want to start off a relarionship like that, but it happens.

    The idea that a man being inside your house = an invitation for sex is very much reminding me of that notion of women wearing slutty clothes=asking for it.



  23.  #23Millie on June 28, 2016 at 10:46 pm

    Well.. the guy texted me tonight being flirty and we chatted a bit. Just normal I guess.. I think the attraction is there, but it’s not enough. Obviously.

    I texted M tonight. Not sure why, I just wanted to, curiosity. He responded right away. We asked each other about each other’s lives. He has a new gf– one with children. He says she might be the one. I didn’t really feel anything other than wishing I had found the same. I had this desire to send him the hi-bye letter I had written months ago and never sent. It’s been longer than 8 weeks now. I’m not exactly sure why I wanted to send it. I just felt like it was right. The dust has really settled now and perhaps there is no risk now. I told him about it and asked if he would be open to reading it and he gave me his email. I reread it before I sent it and it is a beautiful letter. I don’t know what he’ll say, and that doesn’t matter actually. It feels so over now and I find no longing for him. Longing for my true love yes…. but that will come when it comes.

    The past few days have felt pretty weird.



  24.  #24Victoria on June 29, 2016 at 1:57 am

    Millie,
    I read your posts one after the other, and, if you do it now, you will see how he first said one thing, then another, then a third one.
    First he wanted to have s. with you (whether he took it as an invitation from you or on his initiative is irrelevant). Then, when you said no, he said he was fine with your no. Then, the next day he was no longer fine with your no because he felt manipulated (or at least this is how I read it). Then, on the third day (or whenerver) he rediscoverd his own inner calling to a woman of faith (!!!???!!!) and you got disqualified ex post from a position you never claimed that you wanted with him. This is what I call sour grapes, and it is something I have experienced many times with men whom I rejected.
    You did absolutely nothing wrong. You did what is in your best interest, stated your boundaries, listened to him, accepted him at his word. He was not meant to be,



  25.  #25Indigo on June 29, 2016 at 4:52 am

    Millie,

    There is no need to feel defensive of your decisions. I stopped doing that a long time ago on this blog. You do not need to justify yourself or convince anyone of anything. You have to do what you feel is right for you, just like we all do.

    Personally I’ve never seen the sense in being overly fearful when we have God-given intuition, which will tell you if you listen to it whether a situation is ok for you or not. I agree with MissStix and Victoria, you did nothing wrong here.



  26.  #26Lovergirl on June 29, 2016 at 6:55 am

    I’m going to be 40 soon and I still feel young. I just am not feeling the “old” part yet. I guess its because I still know I’m able to attract men and I get a ton of compliments on my looks. That part of working with the public is always a bonus!! Sure, I technically looked better when I was younger but I feel like as long as I take care of myself I will be fine for a long time.

    On another note, guess what?! I was offered a promotion at my job!! I felt reluctant to take it at first, because it was doing something a little different than what I do now, but I think I am going to. It will mean a huge pay raise- more than twice what I make now, full coverage, no-cost insurance, 401k, vehicle and phone allowances, and much more. :).

    Everyone I work with loves me and thinks I’ll be great at this. I’m nervous about balance between my job and caring for all my kids but I think I can manage. It will mean a lot better quality of life for us.

    It feels great to get all the recognition and appreciation. I’ve had lots of comments from my boss, his boss, even the corporate people, on what a great salesperson and leader I am and how they want me to train other people to be more like me. My co-workers think I would be great at it too. I’m thrilled, a little anxious, like can I really do all this? But thrilled. ๐Ÿ™‚

    I worry a little that being in a management position is going to make me more masculine over all and affect relationships with men. Maybe that’s silly though. Its not like I’m doing so hot in that area lately anyway, ha! I’m mostly just keeping a few men around for random rendezvous. I don’t really feel much like dating or being in a relationship right now.



  27.  #27Victoria on June 29, 2016 at 7:32 am

    Lovergirl,
    I am so proud with you! Brava!
    You absolutely deserve this promotion, and you should absolutely take it, and I promise you, will be meeting more and better quality men because of it and not vice versa!
    Brava!



  28.  #28Millie on June 29, 2016 at 8:07 am

    Victoria– haha, that whole conversation with him was in a span of less than 24 hours. Maybe it’s the way I posted it, but he sent a text soon after he left that did sound upset, but also said he was glad I did what I did. When I responded in the morning, we had a much more thorough conversation about it all. The truth comes out.

    I feel awful today. I just want this week to be over, to take a beak from my job, I want to escape my anxious feelings.



  29.  #29Femininewoman on June 29, 2016 at 9:20 am

    Lovergirl – I worry a little that being in a management position is going to make me more masculine over all

    It might and the thing is there really is no need to worry. Because now with awareness and a specific area to use the masculine energy you get to practice switching hats. That way you get to use the masculine energy where it is most needed and with awareness as you walk out of that place take a few minutes to switch hats and go do something feminine to feed your soul



  30.  #30MissStix on June 29, 2016 at 9:37 am

    I used the mantra “I am release” at yoga last night and wow was it effective! More effective than any other i’ve used. Maybe I really meant it or maybe the vibration, roundness and soothingness of the word “release” makde it work so well. I dunno but I feel fabulous today! I really feel an absence of tension and certain feelings and thoughts I know have been restraining me in certain aspects of my life.
    Feeling free ๐Ÿ™‚



  31.  #31MissStix on June 29, 2016 at 9:39 am

    Feminine woman to Lovergirl

    I agree. It can be seen as a fun opportunity to practice switching hats. Flipping energies. It can bring you closer to your energy and open you up to more awareness.



  32.  #32Rori Raye on June 29, 2016 at 9:51 am

    Millie – you’re fabulous! You handled this great for you – and to me, you were quick to honor yourself and able to speak! It doesn’t get any “better” than that – AND – you smoked him out!!!
    The text he sent was clear man-speak for “you’re not the one” – and I say “next!” –
    If you’re not the one for him – there’s no way ever that he could be right for you!

    The man you want will truly climb mountains to get to you – and a little hiccup like a “no” to sex won’t even be a blip on his radar…

    I love how, instead of establishing “rules” – you just went with your gut.

    Love, Rori



  33.  #33Lovergirl on June 29, 2016 at 10:16 am

    Thanks, everyone. I find it difficult to “switch hats”. I get in driven, focused, “work mode” and its hard for me to pull out of that. Any tips?



  34.  #34Liquid Light on June 29, 2016 at 11:10 am

    Congratulations Lovergirl! That is fantastic news!



  35.  #35Grace on June 29, 2016 at 11:17 am

    Millie – yes, you smoked him out super fast! Ha ๐Ÿ™‚
    Good for you, I feel happy reading about how you handled everything.



  36.  #36MissStix on June 29, 2016 at 11:33 am

    Lovergirl

    The best thing for me is just to stop for a minute, take some deep breaths in through the nose, out through the mouth (with a Haaaa sound on the exhale- this is a de-stressing sound) take in relaxation, and calm with the inhale and release the “go go, get it done” energy with the exhale. Set your intention (feminine energy) and just feel your vibe change.



  37.  #37Liquid Light on June 29, 2016 at 12:27 pm

    Re. my post #20

    My coach is Lauren Francis. She’s the one that advised me to not drive anywhere with a date until the 4th date because I’ve had some close calls.



  38.  #38Liquid Light on June 29, 2016 at 1:42 pm

    Millie

    Its not about being right or wrong. We are all here to learn from each other. I’m 51 and I am still learning a lot! And I’m getting much better and smarter about dating from this blog, and I’m getting better results i.e.. higher quality available men. My coach has really helped me too.

    I’m not sure how useful it is to be defensive. Its the opposite of being open. In fact, Bryon Katie says that defense if the first act of war. It doesn’t allow for growth and openness. And that’s really the only way to connection.

    We think that being defensive is just a natural state and that its a normal way to feel sometimes. But these are assumptions that just aren’t true and are worth questioning. I know because I feel defensive a lot. And it doesn’t feel good at all. But I’m getting much better. I first just notice it when it happens. Then I try to catch myself and counteract that reaction by replacing my thoughts with more positive ones. Its really hard though, and there are many times I’m not successful. ๐Ÿ™ But I ‘m doing my best and improving I think. ๐Ÿ™‚



  39.  #39Millie on June 29, 2016 at 10:10 pm

    Dear Rori,
    I feel so special to get s reply from you! Thank you so much, it feels so good to hear your words of support!



  40.  #40Indigo on June 29, 2016 at 11:48 pm

    Lovergirl,

    It’s so nice to hear from you!

    It feels so great to see how you’ve grown and blossomed by leaps and bounds in your working life. I remember when you were working part-time for S and now you sound like the confident, successful go-getter that you had in you all along!

    As for switching over to feminine energy, this is a daily practice I think. As long as I’ve done it and as aware as I am of it, I still have to consciously remind myself from time to time, sometimes regularly. I find it helps to just stop talking…. stay quiet for a few minutes and listen, bring your energy back to the core of your being, calm and centre yourself. The more intensely you practice this, the more you feel how everything becomes magnetised to you rather than you having to reach out for it.



  41.  #41Grace on July 1, 2016 at 5:22 pm

    Ooooh, sirens, I can’t even begin to describe the incredible magic and flow of my life these days.

    Last night really drove home the lesson to me that love is an action, not a feeling. I had unconsciously been chasing a feeling, believing it was love. I started praying to be able to see all of the love that is around me and the whole world started to sparkle even more, Doors of opportunity are opening up, and I’m having one experience after another where I almost want to pinch myself because it seems I must be dreaming. Friends have begun showing up who actually adore me and are putting in major effort to lift me up and who are showing unprecedented appreciation for my presence in their lives.

    I feel so happy and grateful for the wisdom in myself that chose to continue to focus on the the people who were showing care even when it felt dull, numb, boring and blah. As trust builds, these connections are becoming quite exciting and nourishing.

    As for the post about age – my two most adoring CD’s right now are both 15 years younger than me, and neither of them cares at all about the age difference. It never comes up unless I bring it up. I trust them to know what’s good for them so I don’t worry about it. ๐Ÿ™‚

    happythankyoumoreplease!