This is from Maria’s comment:
“My boyfriend and I for almost 2 years now are often more off than on. (On and Off) Of course I’ve done all the things should not do. However he told me he needed some space away from me. Has stopped calling me. I know we love each other, but how do I get him back. I want a committed relationship with him, he’s obviously not ready said he wants his freedom…”
Here’s my answer: Maria, First – thank you for joining this community and asking a great question…He’s asked for space. That means, to me, that you no longer are stuck in the “girlfriend trap” – and that you’re free to date.
That means you don’t need to tell him anything (in fact – I don’t want you contacting him for ANY REASON now, not after he’s expressly “asked you for space”)
And by “Date” – I mean, lunch, coffee, dinner, a movie, a concert, even making out. I do NOT suggest you have sex (not even more than kissing) with anyone until this “relationship” feels resolved. (We’ll keep talking…)
You are not dating to find a new man (although that might happen as a bonus!). You’re dating to get a stronger sense of yourself, to feel stronger inside, to get a fix on your own boundaries, and to have FUN.
You CANNOT help a relationship recover by being sad and miserable.
You can only help a relationship recover by recovering your own high spirits and sense of fun, your own devotion to YOU and to having a good life, good times, and good feelings.
This is not only the BEST way to attract a terrific man who can make you happy, it’s the best way to heal everyone and everything around you.
You feel good about YOU, you share that fun and good feeling with everyone just because it radiates out of you, and everyone feels better and feels COMPELLED to be around you.